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Healing Within Counselling Service

Locality: Lower Chittering, Western Australia

Phone: +61 430 227 101

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24.01.2022 A picture can say a thousand words

24.01.2022 Copied from holistic psychologist. Is Consciousness then emotional intelligence, becoming aware of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors That makes us feel the emotion we are feeling? The ego is the voice within our minds that creates stories about who we are, who other people are, + the world around us. The ego assigns meaning to everything we do based on our past conditioning.... If we are not conscious to the ego, it controls our behavior. A fragile ego is a response to fear based conditioning + lack of self trust/connection. A fragile (or wounded) ego believes the following: 1. Other opinions that different from my own is a threat to who I am 2. Another persons success means I am not worthy of my own 3. I must compare myself consistently to those around me in order to prove my own worth/identity 4. I must tell people what to believe, how to believe it, + how to behave/speakbecause I am afraid + this gives me an illusion of control 5. I am not good enough 6. I am always in competition, which means I am unable to collaborate + uplift important voices around me 7. Criticism is fact 8. I am responsible for the emotions of others 9. If I stay small, I stay safe Consciousness is the foundation of healing. Consciousness, which is simply awareness, allows us to observe our own ego stories + our habit reactions to these stories. With practice, we can witness our without judgement. We can see our egos as simply a part of us not who we are. Not truth. WE are consciousness. Able to think about what we think, how we speak, + how we respond to the world around us. For more on this, see my blog post how to do ego work (linked in bio) What have you learned about your ego? #selfhealers

22.01.2022 Something everyone should strive towards

20.01.2022 Copied from the holistic psychologist Some reflections: 1. Our emotional experience is always valid, even if it’s not shared with another person. 2. Disagreement is a normal + natural part of the human experience. It is not a threat to our own personal identity.... 3. At the core of emotional immaturity, is the ego-centric belief that people do things to us because of us. We all experience this stage of ego development as a children, and most of us haven’t developed beyond this. 4. Breathwork, meditation, + journaling all create space to become more aware of our own emotional processes. 5. We all will behave in emotionally immature ways, this is human. The kinder we are around this to ourselves, the more we develop emotionally #selfhealers See more

19.01.2022 I see this in a lot of family dynamics so thought I would share, but Copied from the holistic psychologist Growing up, there was always talk of us being a close family. We were always together + always in communication with each other. But, there was a part of be that felt disconnected like there was a surface connection, but a lack of true closeness. This can feel very confusing. Enmeshment is a pattern of family dynamics where there’s lack of boundaries. This means lack... of privacy, an over-involvement with each other’s relationships, + fear or guilt in not fulfilling your role within the family unit. As I began my healing journey, I needed more time alone. This is when my pattern of enmeshment became more clear. When I wanted to turn down a family dinner or skip a family event I’d have a ton of fear. I’d want to make up an excuse or dread the phone call where I said no. I knew I would disappoint. I knew there would be guilt. Once, I had a conversation about this with my sister. I started telling her about some of these dynamics + opening up about my lack of felt closeness with my mom since I was a child. The next day my mom called me. It was clear the conversation was shared. This is the pattern in enmeshment: oversharing, lack of privacy, + boundary crossing. Many people in enmeshed families mean well + are seeking to constantly fix, rescue, or enable each other because it’s been a modeled behavior. When you’re enmeshed, you believe that you’re responsible for the emotional state of others. When you believe you’re responsible for the emotional state of others, you’re constantly externally focused. Ignoring your own needs to unconsciously control the emotional states of those around you. Healing enmeshment is a part of the healing journey. It’s painful because you have to face so many family dynamics that you might not have noticed before. As you set boundaries, it’s scary sometimes terrifying. For those within enmeshment it’s overwhelming to even honor our own needs. Healing is the spiritual journey of returning home to your true self where so many live for approval + validation, it’s the freedom to life within our own purpose #selfhealers

17.01.2022 It's Ok To... <3

02.01.2022 It was not until the 1990s that the the US government did its first major study on the impact of trauma. We are still operating under the paradigm that trauma i...s big events while not understanding that it isn’t the event at all. It’s how the event is processed. As much as we’d love to have a scale of trauma a simple measure, it’s this belief that causes so much shame + suffering. Trauma is not just severe neglect + abuse. At its core trauma is just a word to describe any experience where the emotional response was too big to process. If these events happened chronically (usually they do) we develop coping mechanisms + behaviors to survive. As mental illness continues to rise, so will our awareness that maybe we aren’t mentally ill after all. Maybe we have having normal reactions to trauma. Trauma is the experience of not been seen, heard, and authentically expressed. It’s the disconnect from self that inevitably becomes disconnect from everyone around us. We then operate in survival mode, desperately seeking the next thing to distract us from our pain. Just as trauma creates a disconnect from our core self, it also can be the path to finding our way home. Trauma can lead us to awakening, to reclaiming ourselves, + to finding purpose. It’s what unites us in our human experience, + can gently push us to access our healing #selfhealers