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23.01.2022 Sitting in a hospital room waiting on some test results for my mum (she is fine just getting old) and reflecting on many things. One particularly valuable train of thought is about being a parent more so a mum. Here are some of my discoveries: 1. There is no one size fits all parenting style. Each child/family system is different and being wise, practical and discerning in parenting them is key. 2. Children do grow up one day and live there own lives - let’s embrace parenti...ng with all its challenges and thank the Lord for the gift they are and that we had the honour of carrying a life in our wombs. 3. There will be moments when you would like to bury them alive but please refrain - you will be locked up, you absolutely will!!! 14 years especially 14 years. 4. Give yourself permission to break the rules, live boldly and make decisions that benefits you and your family even if that is not the norm. It’s okay!!! Be kind to self. You have the best intent at heart!! 5. ‘Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it’ my Bible teaches me. I love this. 6. Pray. 7. Love more, money is important but should not become a stumbling block, spend wisely, save for a rainy day and kick back and enjoy it if you want too. 8. Live in the moment - tomorrow has not yet come, yesterday is gone. We have today - Now!!! 9. My children have thought me some of my most valuable lessons in life - they have kept me grounded, called me out when I needed to be, tried my patience but they still know I am the parent and they are my children. I love them and always will. I am by no means perfect and never will be but am willing to learn, grow and listen - but I am still the parent. No that’s not arrogance that just our God given responsibility to be a parent and to be okay with that! 10. Children are a gift yet need to know the world does not revolve around them, boundaries are important and I will set them within reason and age dependent. I will attend and listen to them, negotiate if necessary and they may not agree with my ‘style’ of parenting - that’s okay, I can live with that. 11. They may think they are mature and they maybe in many ways but at times still needing gentle correction, direct challenging and healthy boundaries. 12. As parents we don’t have all the answers but let’s be open to listen, learn and grow in this space. 13. Let’s not beat ourselves up over past parenting that has been ‘faulty’ perhaps in our minds but let’s see how we can be more self aware to become better parents. 14. Kids know who the parent is and know when the parent is not being a parent!!! They are clever. Now, that’s not a get-away card to be obnoxious, controlling and rude in parenting but what it simply means is that sometimes we have to step up and step into their world and understand. 15. We are modelling ‘something’ to our kids - I wonder what that is?

23.01.2022 #Connection vs #Protection

17.01.2022 Forgiveness is not easy and can be quite painful but always freeing when we are able to notice that we have been forgiven much.

14.01.2022 Trust & Love established

13.01.2022 I love my work!!

11.01.2022 Offering a heart healed rather than building protective walls brings a ray of hope.

10.01.2022 #breakthestigma #mentalhealthawareness

09.01.2022 Forgiveness is not easy and can be quite painful but always freeing when we are able to notice that we have been forgiven much.

07.01.2022 #breakthestigma #mentalhealthawareness

06.01.2022 Everyone needs Compassion

06.01.2022 Sitting in a hospital room waiting on some test results for my mum (she is fine just getting old) and reflecting on many things. One particularly valuable train of thought is about being a parent more so a mum. Here are some of my discoveries: 1. There is no one size fits all parenting style. Each child/family system is different and being wise, practical and discerning in parenting them is key. 2. Children do grow up one day and live there own lives - let’s embrace parenti...ng with all its challenges and thank the Lord for the gift they are and that we had the honour of carrying a life in our wombs. 3. There will be moments when you would like to bury them alive but please refrain - you will be locked up, you absolutely will!!! 14 years especially 14 years. 4. Give yourself permission to break the rules, live boldly and make decisions that benefits you and your family even if that is not the norm. It’s okay!!! Be kind to self. You have the best intent at heart!! 5. ‘Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it’ my Bible teaches me. I love this. 6. Pray. 7. Love more, money is important but should not become a stumbling block, spend wisely, save for a rainy day and kick back and enjoy it if you want too. 8. Live in the moment - tomorrow has not yet come, yesterday is gone. We have today - Now!!! 9. My children have thought me some of my most valuable lessons in life - they have kept me grounded, called me out when I needed to be, tried my patience but they still know I am the parent and they are my children. I love them and always will. I am by no means perfect and never will be but am willing to learn, grow and listen - but I am still the parent. No that’s not arrogance that just our God given responsibility to be a parent and to be okay with that! 10. Children are a gift yet need to know the world does not revolve around them, boundaries are important and I will set them within reason and age dependent. I will attend and listen to them, negotiate if necessary and they may not agree with my ‘style’ of parenting - that’s okay, I can live with that. 11. They may think they are mature and they maybe in many ways but at times still needing gentle correction, direct challenging and healthy boundaries. 12. As parents we don’t have all the answers but let’s be open to listen, learn and grow in this space. 13. Let’s not beat ourselves up over past parenting that has been ‘faulty’ perhaps in our minds but let’s see how we can be more self aware to become better parents. 14. Kids know who the parent is and know when the parent is not being a parent!!! They are clever. Now, that’s not a get-away card to be obnoxious, controlling and rude in parenting but what it simply means is that sometimes we have to step up and step into their world and understand. 15. We are modelling ‘something’ to our kids - I wonder what that is?

01.01.2022 Trust & Love established

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