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Bellingen Funeral Celebrant

Locality: Bellingen, New South Wales

Phone: +61 488 559 595

Address: 6 briner street 2454 Bellingen, NSW, Australia

Website: http://barefootfunerals.com

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24.01.2022 Beautiful....let is live

20.01.2022 Is it time for the conversation?

18.01.2022 #truth #thisisgrief Original artist : Albert György Bronze Statue located at Lake Geneva, Switzerland

18.01.2022 Advanced care plan

13.01.2022 Its important to say goodbye in your own way

12.01.2022 A beautiful meditation:

11.01.2022 "Fighting implies there is a battle you are able to win. And that if you don’t win, you are somehow a failure. News flashDeath always wins. It is how you allow death to take place that is under your control, and you should take it while you still are able..." #TalkingMatters

11.01.2022 In case you love symbolism

09.01.2022 https://www.newcastlestar.com.au//re-imagining-the-way-w/

07.01.2022 Speaking on the death urge...speaking from the core of many

05.01.2022 And now on the lighter side...

04.01.2022 That's what I want to say ...

02.01.2022 My grief is harder than your grief Throughout my life, when asked something about my dad, I would always hesitate to answer. Do I change the subject? Do I say... he’s dead? And if I do, do I then change the subject so the other person doesn’t have to feel guilty for asking? That answer changed throughout the years, depending on my age, who was asking, and how I was feeling at the moment. I never wanted anyone to feel they had to compare their grief to mine. And, I don’t like comparing mine to anyone else. Except, many of us do this. We collectively decide which death has more importance and often inadvertently address grievers based on these decisions. Without realizing it or meaning to, our words can be hurtful. It’s easy to assume that the adult whose parent dies at 92 is much luckier than the 8-year-old child whose parent has died. But, imagine for a moment, the adult who knows no other life than having their parent a part of it. The brain can make sense of it, sure, but the grieving heart doesn’t understand. The grieving heart only knows that it is yearning, and lonely, and sad, and angry, and scared. Most of us agree that the death of a child is heart-wrenching. It’s backward and makes absolutely no sense. However, I’ve worked with parents who have grieved for their child and then a spouse and found that the death of their spouse was harder. They expressed a longing for their daily person that they hadn’t when their child died. It can feel surprising to hear that. It’s for that reason that one of the greatest things we can do for a griever is to listen. Really listen. Open your heart to truly hear what someone is feeling about the death they have experienced. Rather than, Well at least they lived a long life instead try, I would love to hear what you will miss most about your dad. Rather than, Your child is out of pain now and in a better place (that is a decision for the griever to make) instead try, Tell me about your daughter. Rather than, You are only given what you are strong enough to handle, instead try, What are you feeling as you move through your grief? Rather than, You’re young and can marry again. Instead try, What were your hopes and dreams with Joe? These are just a few ideas for the ways to hold a griever’s heart, rather than make comparisons that simply may not be true for that person. No one’s grief is harder than another’s. Our own experience with grief, however, can provide us with the understanding and ability to open our heart to listening and gently supporting another.