Becoming Men in Gladstone, Queensland | Personal coach
Becoming Men
Locality: Gladstone, Queensland
Phone: +61 418 621 083
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25.01.2022 Sometimes we need to take a look at what we do over and over! There are definitely clues there on how we can improve.
23.01.2022 A sobering thought for parents
20.01.2022 Life's Pressure Cooker Moments! Have you ever seen someone blow their stack.... I mean really unload on something or someone? As someone watching on, a person might think that the person doing the unloading must be uncaring, controlling or self-centered. And maybe they would be right. But what I have noticed is that we all have the same potential in these Pressure Cooker moments.... When these moments happen, sometimes irreversible damage to relationships can be done in just a few short seconds. Do you notice how different people can be faced with the same/similar situations, and they will all handle it totally differently? Just how do some people keep their calm & remain grounded in those situations? As the diagram suggests, we all have different fears, guilts, resentments & anger triggers & when life’s pressures exert enough force on those things that are buried deep within us, then it usually comes out as pain. Pain that is passed on to anything or anyone around us. Is this a resourceful way to live? What would happen then when those triggers are not there anymore? Life will still put its pressures onto us, but when there is nothing there to trigger, we can act (rather than react) in a calm and rational way which usually means achieving a better result all round. An epic way to live you would have to agree? Time & time again I see the results that follow from making the commitment & effort to let go of the things that are causing Fear, Guilt or Anger, are nothing short of astounding. There is a universal law in nature where a void (like a vacuum) can’t exist without something trying to fill it. With guidance, as soon as a negative state is let go of, it allows room for the positive things to fill the void..usually the very things that we have previously identified as lacking in our lives. Is this something you want more of in your life?
20.01.2022 Most people do not listen with the intent to understand but rather they listen for the sake of what they will say next..... if they are listening at all.
19.01.2022 Have you ever come across men who have mastered ‘The Art of Letting Go’? Have you noticed that they usually seem calm & grounded while not plugged into being a ‘Victim’? When you let go of events that seem to control your life & thoughts, life becomes easier and not bogged down in negativity & drama they in fact are usually ‘Victors’. However, the results of hanging on to ‘Stuff’ is often highly underestimated & seen as the easy option which means nothing changes & a li...fe of more joy, fulfilment & peace in their lives is little more than a dream. I wonder if you know what I mean..............
17.01.2022 What a great example of determination. So many things can be achieved when you are focused and determined!!!
15.01.2022 Everyone has an emotional bank account. And we have different accounts for different areas of our lives - in our relationships with our partners, social life & even at work. It is an invisible account that has a balance that is constantly varying depending the emotional deposits that are being entered & withdrawals being taken out. We are making withdrawals from this account every time we are experiencing stressful times, or enduring criticism & attack by someone. Ou...r account goes back up when we are experiencing positive things in life by the way of thoughtful actions by someone, encouraging comments, or discovering that yes you really are good enough, or that feeling that you belong, or those moments that you just feel that unmistakable feeling of being loved. And it is every bit as important to make sure we are identifying & receiving positive feedback opportunities to top up & keep our own account in the healthy zone. How do we top up? By noticing & accepting the positive feedback? Firstly by noticing the positive comments and simply saying ‘Thank You’ to the person offering themAnd for the positive events that come our way, to take the time to notice them for a few moments and feel gratitude (an internal thank you). For this to work even more it also takes the spirit of giving, and receiving. Because the art of giving is also a way to top up your account. When we do something that another person truly appreciates at the core of their being does so much good at a deep level. So how is your account going? Are you running on empty? Are you receiving enough to keep your account in the range that you really desire ..and deserve? Isn’t Christmas a wonderful time to practice the art of giving and receiving and top up our accounts (regardless of what our religious beliefs are)? Isn’t it a time when we can truly honor ourselves (& those around us) by our giving and receiving? And even more than that.... to enjoy the gift of being you!!!! MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
12.01.2022 This is one of the hardest things for a guy to come to terms with, & yet the positive impact on himself (and those around him) are profound.
11.01.2022 The world is always going to have big problems to solve, whether at a global, community, family or individual level. Men are often elevated to the head of the family (either claimed or given, right or wrong depending on your view & sometimes it needs to be that way due to circumstances), but how can they even contemplate solving the problems that affect those close to them if they are so focused on seeing all of the things that are negative, wrong or not good enough aroun...d them? Do you notice how people who are focused on the negatives in life don’t seem to attract the great things that life has to offer? And yet the people who choose to focus on what’s great in life, tend to be innovators & also attract an abundance of the great things that are dished out. There is a universal rule that says What we continually focus on is what we attract to the exclusion of everything else. A positive outlook also frees up the mind to dream of new possibilities & new forms of great. In the words of John F. Kennedy: The problems of the world cannot possibly be solved by sceptics or cynics whose horizons are limited by the obvious realities. We need men who can dream of things that never were. So now that you are armed with this knowledge, at any point you can decide if you are, or want to be, part of the solution or part of the problem. There are enough great things in the world for everyone (depending on your definition of ‘Great’ or how big ‘Great’ has to be) I wonder what you choose now? Sometimes we just need someone to help us find our ‘Great’! Message me when you are ready for your share of ‘Great’!
10.01.2022 Loving the anticipation of waiting for the people taking their seats last night for the ' Men's Wellbeing Seminar ' in Blackwater.
09.01.2022 What is it in life that lights you up? When you know what it is & that it is great for your soul... Then do more of that!!What is it in life that lights you up? When you know what it is & that it is great for your soul... Then do more of that!!
09.01.2022 MOBILITY (the ability to move with freedom) While everyone thinks of mobility in the sense of our physical health, but how many people really have mobility with their emotions. There is a misconception everywhere that we should be forever happy & people become upset when they aren’t that way, from which they come to the mistaken conclusion that there must be something wrong with them. The fact is that there are so many emotions that we feel at different times & for differe...nt reasons don’t we. I have seen many men, strong men, crumble into a heap when it comes to expressing their emotions. How many men do you know that struggle to say I love you to their partners? their mothers.? & what about saying I love you to their fathers (shock horror)? It seems that so many men get stuck when it comes to expressing any more than ‘Mad, Sad or Glad’. Because why?......... because men have this false & unresourceful belief that they must be strong, rough & tough to be a man, and for that there is no room for emotions. Instead men bottle things up until the pain is too much to bear and they find ways to check out. Be it through self-sabotage, alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, overeating or any other of the myriad of addictions that are out there. So many people, men & women alike, are scared of being angry and so they bottle it up until one day it comes out in a much more destructive force. It all comes out at once as rage. Because they don’t have mobility (freedom) in this area do they. Imagine what your world looks like when everyone feels free to express all of their emotions even the negative ones. Because there are so many people who already live this way suggests that it is achievable for everyone, & if they can learn how then you can to. As you consider the benefits of living this way, you might like to think about how you will experience life differently. What is it that you really want more of in your life? Because you have read all of this article suggests that you are a keen ‘Life Learner’ & that you want to learn more to achieve what is really important to you at your core level. As you feel moved to learn more about Emotional Freedom, you will read articles about it & come to understand that this way of living takes skillful guidance to experience it in a truly sustainable way. So contact me for a chat when you are ready to have more ‘Freedom’ in your life.
08.01.2022 Everyone has an emotional bank account. And we have different accounts for different areas of our lives - in our relationships with our partners, social life & even at work. It is an invisible account that has a balance that is constantly varying depending the emotional deposits that are being entered & withdrawals being taken out. We are making withdrawals from this account every time we are experiencing stressful times, or enduring criticism & attack by someone. Ou...r account goes back up when we are experiencing positive things in life by the way of thoughtful actions by someone, encouraging comments, or discovering that yes you really are good enough, or that feeling that you belong, or those moments that you just feel that unmistakable feeling of being loved. And it is every bit as important to make sure we are identifying & receiving positive feedback opportunities to top up & keep our own account in the healthy zone. How do we top up? By noticing & accepting the positive feedback? Firstly by noticing the positive comments and simply saying ‘Thank You’ to the person offering themAnd for the positive events that come our way, to take the time to notice them for a few moments and feel gratitude (an internal thank you). For this to work even more it also takes the spirit of giving, and receiving. Because the art of giving is also a way to top up your account. When we do something that another person truly appreciates at the core of their being does so much good at a deep level. So how is your account going? Are you running on empty? Are you receiving enough to keep your account in the range that you really desire ..and deserve? Isn’t Christmas a wonderful time to practice the art of giving and receiving and top up our accounts (regardless of what our religious beliefs are)? Isn’t it a time when we can truly honor ourselves (& those around us) by our giving and receiving? And even more than that.... to enjoy the gift of being you!!!! MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
06.01.2022 MOBILITY (the ability to move with freedom) While everyone thinks of mobility in the sense of our physical health, but how many people really have mobility with their emotions. There is a misconception everywhere that we should be forever happy & people become upset when they aren’t that way, from which they come to the mistaken conclusion that there must be something wrong with them. The fact is that there are so many emotions that we feel at different times & for differe...nt reasons don’t we. I have seen many men, strong men, crumble into a heap when it comes to expressing their emotions. How many men do you know that struggle to say I love you to their partners? their mothers.? & what about saying I love you to their fathers (shock horror)? It seems that so many men get stuck when it comes to expressing any more than ‘Mad, Sad or Glad’. Because why?......... because men have this false & unresourceful belief that they must be strong, rough & tough to be a man, and for that there is no room for emotions. Instead men bottle things up until the pain is too much to bear and they find ways to check out. Be it through self-sabotage, alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, overeating or any other of the myriad of addictions that are out there. So many people, men & women alike, are scared of being angry and so they bottle it up until one day it comes out in a much more destructive force. It all comes out at once as rage. Because they don’t have mobility (freedom) in this area do they. Imagine what your world looks like when everyone feels free to express all of their emotions even the negative ones. Because there are so many people who already live this way suggests that it is achievable for everyone, & if they can learn how then you can to. As you consider the benefits of living this way, you might like to think about how you will experience life differently. What is it that you really want more of in your life? Because you have read all of this article suggests that you are a keen ‘Life Learner’ & that you want to learn more to achieve what is really important to you at your core level. As you feel moved to learn more about Emotional Freedom, you will read articles about it & come to understand that this way of living takes skillful guidance to experience it in a truly sustainable way. So contact me for a chat when you are ready to have more ‘Freedom’ in your life.
06.01.2022 Someone said, Life begins when you step outside your comfort Zone? Have you ever noticed how some people seem to be able to move up to new levels of success? But why are they able to when others don’t even when the ‘Others’ appear to work so hard for their accomplishments? They will often get tagged with just being lucky, gifted or have the right connections. And maybe they are right! ... But how many people step outside of their Comfort Zone to reach those new heights of success? And does that mean that they don’t experience any fear when stepping into their ‘Uncomfortable’ Zone? Hell no! I mean think about it to step outside of your comfort zone means having the courage to face your fear/s, because fear is never far away when doing something new. And guess what. Courage only turns up when there is fear to be faced because it is never needed in the absence of fear. Simply put.to achieve our goals we must find the courage to move through and passed our fears. So in the pursuit of that dream of better in your life, we can sit on the fence in procrastination mode for however long it takes for something to show up which means nothing will change, or we can be proactive and do something different.. and yes, that often means finding a bit of courage. I wonder what it means to you to reach that dream now Knowing that it is possible? What if there is a way for you to get there quicker by moving passed those fears? Would you take it? Because that will mean you have to get some help along the way. And the result? You feeling great about the new you and your new reality. Would you be the shining example for your next generation and not hold back on making your dreams a reality? Contact me when you are ready to take that journey.
04.01.2022 Life's Pressure Cooker Moments! Have you ever seen someone blow their stack.... I mean really unload on something or someone? As someone watching on, a person might think that the person doing the unloading must be uncaring, controlling or self-centered. And maybe they would be right. But what I have noticed is that we all have the same potential in these Pressure Cooker moments.... When these moments happen, sometimes irreversible damage to relationships can be done in just a few short seconds. Do you notice how different people can be faced with the same/similar situations, and they will all handle it totally differently? Just how do some people keep their calm & remain grounded in those situations? As the diagram suggests, we all have different fears, guilts, resentments & anger triggers & when life’s pressures exert enough force on those things that are buried deep within us, then it usually comes out as pain. Pain that is passed on to anything or anyone around us. Is this a resourceful way to live? What would happen then when those triggers are not there anymore? Life will still put its pressures onto us, but when there is nothing there to trigger, we can act (rather than react) in a calm and rational way which usually means achieving a better result all round. An epic way to live you would have to agree? Time & time again I see the results that follow from making the commitment & effort to let go of the things that are causing Fear, Guilt or Anger, are nothing short of astounding. There is a universal law in nature where a void (like a vacuum) can’t exist without something trying to fill it. With guidance, as soon as a negative state is let go of, it allows room for the positive things to fill the void..usually the very things that we have previously identified as lacking in our lives. Is this something you want more of in your life?
02.01.2022 We all have things to deal with at times in our lives. It's how we show up in the difficult moments that matters, which directly impacts our future.
01.01.2022 GOALS: How many people have fantastic goals that they want to achieve? And how many of these fantastic goals will benefit not only themselves, but their families and even their communities? And yet I see so many people keep their goals to themselves.... just laying dormant. One of the best ways to propel your self forward to achieve your goals, is to declare what you want to do publicly. ... There is so much power in this one little act and cannot be underestimated. When this is done as an act of determination, rather than coming from a place that strokes our ego, it becomes the reason why we get out of bed each day. It also gives added power by the fact that when so many people get to hear what we are going to do, we also take on accountability for that action along with owning the outcomes... whether good or bad. When people hear about your goals the amount of contribution that comes as a result can be truly phenomenal. People say, 'when the time's right it will happen', but I say "When you 'Decide' to make it happen is when the time's right", otherwise it's just a dream. And how often do you see people on their quest for their dream that they find something else instead... usually something even more than they could have imagined.... even more than they ever expected they could achieve! And even more than that, what is the real purpose for achieving that special goal and for what purpose? Is for the money? The recognition? The freedom? I wonder if what you are really looking for is anything to do with being loved, feeling like you belong or knowing that you are good enough? Food for thought!
