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Beside Still Waters Counselling and Psychotherapy

Locality: Ballarat, Victoria

Phone: +61 403 697 846

Address: Wilson House. 32 Camp Street 3350 Ballarat, VIC, Australia

Website: https://www.besidestillwaters.com.au/

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25.01.2022 Lets all care about each other, be kind

24.01.2022 Do you know a plumber in the Ballarat area. Please share this so it may reach any plumbers out there.

24.01.2022 Its never too late for a new beginning in your life. Joyce Meyer

24.01.2022 BNI this morning for our regular meeting passing referrals to grow our businesses. We have passed over $2,000,000.00 in business since May 2017. If you want to grow and develop your business, pm me so we can discuss how we can help you.

23.01.2022 Some interesting reading, worth taking the time to read. https://www.psychologytoday.com///practicing-acts-kindness

22.01.2022 This a great idea for adults and children alike to get some exercise and have fun doing it. Get some chalk and copy this on the footpath or your driveway and paths and get outside with your kids to have some fun together, or create your own fitness trail around your home if its too wet to go out. Chalk on tiles or floorboards washes off, so a course around the living areas, up and down and around the halls is worth the time and fun that can be had by all! Id love to hear from any of you who try this. Please let me know the benefits you notice for you and your family. Take care and be kind to one another.

21.01.2022 BNI this morning for our regular meeting passing referrals to grow our businesses. We have passed over $2,000,000.00 in business since May 2017. If you want to grow and develop your business, pm me so we can discuss how we can help you.

19.01.2022 The effects of gratitude last longer than you think! Feeling and expressing gratitude can make you happy in the moment, and a growing mound of evidence shows that giving thanks can also have a lasting effect on your mood. One study found that people who wrote and delivered a heartfelt thank you letter actually felt happier for a full month afterwards, and the same researchers discovered that writing down three positive events each day for a week kept happiness levels high for up to six months. In my practice I encourage clients to express and journal gratitude each day. Anecdotal evidence that I am compiling indicates that it actually improves and strengthens relationships and helps to bring us closer to them. https://www.psychologytoday.com//the-benefits-cultivating-

18.01.2022 Our journey into the 5 Love Languages this week is going to take us to the Love Language of Gifts. As has been explained before, feeling loved is a very different experience than knowing you are loved. When we feel loved in relationships we are more likely to consider our significant others and reach out to them with actions of love. The question is - are we demonstrating our Love Language, because that is what we are familiar withOr, have we taken the time to show love to o...ur partners in their Love Language? Are we acting on their Love Language and meeting their need? One of the challenges I give my clients who have a partner whose Love Language is Gifts is to think of and write down how many different ways they can demonstrate their love and bestow gifts. They usually come up with items like flowers, chocolates, gift cards, a weekend away. These sorts of ideas are always on the list. The challenge is.how creative can you be to meet this Love Language? What kinds of thoughtful gifts can you come up with? http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/03/better-to-give/

17.01.2022 Almost every couple who comes to see me cites communication as the number one reason for seeking counseling. Invariably, the conversation turns to how partners show and feel love for one another. Feeling loved is very different to knowing you are loved. Communication of love includes demonstrating that you understand your partners love language and are able to meet their needs. Gary Chapman, author of 5 Love Languages says "If we are to communicate effectively.we must lea...rn the language of those with whom we wish to communicate" The 5 Love Languages are Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Gifts. Over the next five weeks we will focus on one of the Love Languages each week. This week it is Words of Affirmation. Follow the link for a short read on this weeks topic http://www.5lovelanguages.com//the-power-of-affirming-wor/

17.01.2022 Let’s all care about each other, be kind

16.01.2022 This is worth sharing. A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back. He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.... I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not help my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a help to do household chores. I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too. I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too. I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes. I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father. I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children. I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!! Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory why? You never thought about that, my friend? Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job. Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs Feel at home. In his house. The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! ---Hawk---

12.01.2022 For the month of October I will be sharing about how to make relatioships stronger by looking at the work of John Gottman. Dr. John Gottman is an American psychological researcher and clinician who has done extensive work over four decades on divorce prediction and marital stability. He is also an award-winning speaker, author, and a professor emeritus in psychology. Dr. John Gottman predicts whether a couple will divorce with an average of over 90% accuracy, across studies u...sing the ratio of positive to negative SPAFF codes, the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling), In my practice I discuss with couples the presence and effect of the The Four Horsemen within their relationship. We discuss strategies to address and change such behaviours which then allows the couples interactions to become more positive. To find out more about Gottmans research check out the link below. See more

10.01.2022 Let’s all care about each other, be kind

10.01.2022 Describing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) We all have an occasional anxious thought that can influence our behaviour from time to time. But for someone who has recurring compulsions this can lead to obsessive thinking and actions. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD is an anxiety disorder and for the person living with it, there can be a lot of shame as they feel powerless against these compulsions and irrational obsessions which they carry out. For example; some peopl...e with OCD this may lead to washing their hands to get germs off them every 20 minutes. This can cause great difficulties in every aspect of daily. Obsessive-compulsive and related disorders include; Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) (recurrent obsessions and compulsions) Body Dysmorphic Disorder It affects between one and two per cent of the population in the USA. About seven to 15 per cent of cosmetic surgery patients suffer from body dysmorphic disorder, and cosmetic surgery does not solve the deep-seated problem. This is the preoccupation with one or more perceived defects or flaws in physical appearance that are not observable by others, and by repetitive behaviours such a mirror checking, excessive grooming, excessive time at the gym and comparing oneself with others. Childhood sexual abuse can be a causative factor.7 Trichotillomania (hair-pulling disorder) This is characterised by recurrent pulling out of ones hair for pleasure, gratification or relief of tension. It results in noticeable hair loss. Excoriation (skin-picking) disorder Hoarding Disorder (persistent difficulty discarding of possessions regardless of value) Substance/medication-related obsessive-compulsive disorder Obsessive-compulsive disorder due to another medical condition. Treatment Treatment can empower those with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), to live happier lives by helping them manage their anxiety levels and the intrusive compulsions and obsessions. Even though, OCD can last a lifetime, the help to control the symptoms can equip a person with OCD regain their quality of life. A combination of treatments are also possible. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) A person can learn positive ways to cope with their symptoms when working with a mental health professional using CBT. Medication Antidepressants are often used in Australia to treat OCD and to help restore the brains normal chemical balance. Community Support and Recovery program/groups OCD can cause people to become isolated. Developing a support network of family members can be beneficial providing coping strategies and a connection with others. See more

09.01.2022 "When we can talk about our feelings they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary." John M. Gottman

08.01.2022 Last week we touched on the power of Words of Affirmation. This week we will look into the love language of Quality Time. When I start the journey working with couples, the focus is generally on improving communication and talking about unmet expectations. Over time, one partner may express the thought they do not feel loved or supported when their partner doesnt make time for them. It is an interesting journey to discover the difference between knowing and feeling loved, an...d how quality time may be your partners love language. Couples who demonstrate that they understand the love languages are then able to start meeting the needs of their partner. This leads to communication that becomes easier and more constructive, resulting in a more fulfilling dynamic and relationship. Follow the link to discover more about Quality Time may help your relationships http://www.5lovelanguages.com//speaking-the-love-language/

08.01.2022 For our third week of exploring the 5 Love languages we are going to look at Physical Touch. Assisting couples to discover how many ways they can demonstrate examples of touching their partner in an expression of love can be challenging. When we discuss the various ways one partner can show the other that they understand their love language of Physical Touch it can be inspiring to discover how inventive and enthusiastic people can be. We often end up with a productive time of... brainstorming and producing quite a list of situations and behaviors, where expressions of love can be shared. This exercise in itself is a great example of bringing a couple closer together, fostering and nurturing shared intimacy as they collaborate on this task. Follow the link to discover more about how Physical Touch may help your relationship too. http://www.5lovelanguages.com//speaking-love-through-phys/

07.01.2022 Our regular BNI meeting via zoom, if you are interested in growing and developing your businesses during these challenging times then PM me to discuss how we can help you.

07.01.2022 For the month of September we are going to explore how expressing gratitude can be beneficial to our well-being, for example practicing gratitude for the beauty of the sunrise below! Expressing gratitude increases oxytocins in the brain and creates stronger connections and bonds with other people in our lives. Oxytocin is a powerful hormone and one of its functions is to regulate social interaction. It may also reduce anxiety, is an antidote to depressive feelings. Some rese...arch shows that the hormone may affect addiction and stress as well. How can gratitude benefit you? check out the following link: https://www.psychologytoday.com//7-scientifically-proven-b

06.01.2022 Do you know a plumber in the Ballarat area. Please share this so it may reach any plumbers out there.

03.01.2022 For our last week looking at the 5 love languages, were going explore the benefits of Acts of Service. If this is your love language, you are really going to appreciate those little things that so many of us either take for granted, or dont notice. For example, having someone make you a cup of coffee, hang out your washing or cook you a meal take on a new significance. Acts of service are probably the most time-intensive of the love languages, you cant just say a kind wor...d or give a quick kiss. Showing love through Acts of Service requires effort, and vigilance to ensure your efforts continue over time. Finding opportunities to serve your partner can be hard when you are living a busy life - arent we all! If you suspect this may be your partners love language, let them know that it makes you happy to be able to assist them in any way you can. What are some of the ways you can serve your partner? http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/02/acts-of-service/

01.01.2022 Our regular BNI meeting via zoom, if you are interested in growing and developing your businesses during these challenging times then PM me to discuss how we can help you.