Brilliance Counselling & Consultancy in Redcliffe, Queensland | Mental health service

Brilliance Counselling & Consultancy

Locality: Redcliffe, Queensland

Phone: +61 424 855 581

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25.01.2022 How to build trust is so important if you have broken it. It's so important not to break trust but if you have the road back can be slow. Be patient and work really hard at restoring the relationship.

24.01.2022 When your partner can't trust you it is like an emotional tidal wave of pain for them. It's really important not to risk your relationship for something that might make you feel good temporarily but can bring a much longer world or distress. Do you really want to hurt the person who loves you with commitment?

24.01.2022 It most certainly does! We love the times that we are able to spend quality time together. We encourage date nights and romantic holidays. We get that it might be quite challenging to get away. But we are convinced that a little break can do wonders. It won't fix problems and it can't resolve gridlocked positions. But it can provide a chance to take the pressure away. Whenever you can take a little time to be one another's closest friend and reconnect.

24.01.2022 It doesn't matter where you date. Just make sure you make time for this romantic and connecting occasion. Dates provide you with the chance to rekindle the connection that you had when you first met. Work on being as romantic as you can possibly be. Romance that's alive and well and living in your couple time reaps great rewards! Simple or elaborate, you decide. #couplecounsellingscarboroughqld #weknowrelationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #janianddoncare #datenightsaregreatnights #datelikeyoumeanit #datingyourpartner #datescanmakethingsromantic #romancetheoneyoulove #datedays #surprisesareromantic #beyourpartnersdate #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #coupleskillsbuilding #daydatesarefuntoo #datelikeatthestart #talkdr #counsellingscarboroughqld #pdcoachbayliss #bishschool #bishschoolgang

24.01.2022 You may not be able to travel as easily at this time but you can go on the journey of reconnection and reigniting the spark that you first knew.

24.01.2022 Be good to your partner and expect to be treated kindly too. Your goodness to your partner is an investment in the relationship. Your healthy boundaries are an investment in yourself.

23.01.2022 2020 will not easily be forgotten for all the worst reasons. It brought massive changes and living with uncertainty. Fear, loss of livelihood, isolation and grief became more usual for many people. Whatever this New Year holds we hope you it will allow you to be healthy, hopeful, calm and more accepting. Hope, health and love are our sincere wishes for you. We'd love you to feel more secure and safe too. Kindest Thoughts Jani & Don

23.01.2022 The reason for this particular image is the resonance of the tropics. We have taken some days to fulfil our dreams of a visit to relax in a typically tropical environment. We needed a rest and we have done a lot of sharing dreams since we arrived. How do you and your partner keep dreams alive?

21.01.2022 Your heart's epic adventure may have taken you totally by surprise or they could be someone you have known all of your life. Have you met your soul mate? What was it that made it clear that this is the love of your life? We are two soul mates who want to skill or re skill others who want a wonderful and happy union.

21.01.2022 We are huge fans of marrying your best friend because we did. We've learned a lot from one another and connect on so many levels. Are you married to your bestie? What's the main reason you'd recommend it?

21.01.2022 Blame and fault have no place in a long term relationship. When we discard blame and fault we relinquish the tendency to blame our partner. But we also have to let go of any habit of blaming ourselves. This can be a hard behaviour to change. Lots of times blame is our "go to". Once we abandon this destructive pattern we can feel totally liberated. And our intimate relationships improve incredibly. Challenge yourself to try this for 21 days and watch the difference. #weknowre...lationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #counsellingscarboroughqld #couplescounsellingscarboroughqld #antidotestothehorsemen #conflictwithrespect #noblamenofault #bekindtoyourselfandothers #beabestfriend #lovingkindnessandcompassion #blamefree #nofault #unconditionalloving #loveisloveislove #janianddon #janianddoncare #talkdrs #changeyourpatternsandchangeyourlife #brilliancecounsellingscarboroughqld #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #brilliancecounsellingskillsforyou #bishschool #bishschoolgang #pdcoachbayliss See more

21.01.2022 This is a New Year with hope for an even better future for you and your partner. Start by giving the gift of time and making your partner see that they are a major priority. The more time, energy and effort you put into your union, the more it will grow stronger and more sustainable.

20.01.2022 Laughter truly is the best medicine! Find time to do something fun together and let yourself go. Laughter is a healthy and relaxing activity that creates physiological and psychological changes that benefit stress reduction, reduce anxiety and improve mood. Laugh with your partner as a resilience builder!

20.01.2022 Be emotionally available to your partner. Listen carefully and ask questions that show you care and are interested. You have to let your partner in as often as possible. Respond to bids in encouraging, loving and kind ways.

20.01.2022 Laughter is excellent for your health! Laughing with your partner is one of many activities that can bring closeness and connection. Watch a silly movie, or a comedy channel or just tell each other lame jokes. It doesn't matter how you get a real belly laugh, just do it. It will help you relax you both and improve intimacy.

20.01.2022 Respect is an absolutely crucial part of any healthy relationship. If you are not feeling respected then it might be time to work out what steps could be best to take. Can you gain or regain that respect from your partner? Or is it time to get help to figure out if the relationship can be healthy? We all deserve to be treated with love and respect by our partners. We help couples to improve their futures. #weknowrelationships

18.01.2022 Attachment Styles truly do influence adult relationships. Sometimes we see clients who have little understanding of these important aspects of their emotional development. Understanding what you both need makes a huge difference to resolving challenges in your union. https://www.gottman.com//how-early-attachment-styles-can-/

16.01.2022 Working to help clients gain a better sleep is often an important part of the work that we do at #brilliancecounselling Brilliance. https://www.gottman.com/blog/sleepless-in-seattle/

16.01.2022 Don and I have both been married before and have both had to learn a lot about what makes a happy and healthy union. The sustainability has a lot to do with helping to each fulfil one another's emotional needs in ways that are empowering and supportive. Today I was talking to a friend and we were saying that there were things that would be deal breakers for us in a relationship. We both thought we could not stay with someone who did things that made us feel really uncomforta...ble, embarrassed us or humiliated us in public or failed to be emotionally receptive. We both spoke about how our partners could tell us we had done something wrong and we could admit it and apologise and not do it again. We also know with absolute confidence that our partners treat us with that same respect. We are two women who have worked hard to build healthy, happy, sustainable relationships and value our partners as our dearest friends. Don and I have worked hard to have this bond. See more

16.01.2022 YES! The Govt. has now announced that funding will continue after 30 September. This new addition may help you too. Feel welcome to share this link with your GP for additional sessions if these apply to you. We offer face to face and Telehealth and always offer Zoom appointments for those who need online supports. http://www.mbsonline.gov.au//COVID-19-Mental-Health-14Aug2

16.01.2022 When we meet someone significant we are often reminded of other nurturing and love that we have had in our early lives. This can be quite subconscious and energetic. This allows us to attach to our partner. When someone hasn't had secure attachment they need a lot of love, kindness and nurture to make them feel safe. Healthy couples cultivate emotional safety in one another.

15.01.2022 When we make a terrible mistake we can choose to beat ourselves up for a long time. But that's taking up energy that is better spent helping anyone hurt by our actions. We do need to focus on the hurt we have caused. It's essential to make amends and take focus away from ourselves. We also have to forgive ourselves. Our heart must be open to reconnecting lovingly with others and for this we must be sorry but let go of how bad we feel about ourselves. We have to have loving forgiveness so we can feel connected again.

15.01.2022 Sometimes it can take even longer. When you are hurt what do you do to help yourself to feel a bit better and let go?

15.01.2022 There's fighting that could also be called arguing and there's fighting that's really over the top! How do you know when fights are out of hand? When either of you feels unsafe or either of you is out of control and acting abusively. Never stay in a situation that isn't safe. Abusive behaviour is never ok.

15.01.2022 Bids are the term we use for attempts to gain interest and connect with one's partner. An example could be your partner asking if you had heard a particular news item or telling you a funny story about their day. Ignoring a bid means you have lost a chance to show you care and want to connect in return. We encourage you to listen for bids and respond with enthusiasm.

14.01.2022 Harmonious relationships include respect and appreciation. To build a quality, healthy relationship both halves of a couple often need to improve interpersonal understandings, conflict resolution skills and increase emotional intelligence and becoming emotionally available. It could be time to get some support with that skills development. #weknowrelationships

14.01.2022 Right now we are practicing what we preach. We are using our very best self care techniques to ensure that we are connected, relaxed and laughing. Holidays are an amazing way to focus time on your partner and yourself.

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13.01.2022 Forgiveness is really for the forgiver not the forgiven. What helps you to be able to let go strong emotions and forgive?

10.01.2022 How easy is it for you to get a good night's sleep?How easy is it for you to get a good night's sleep?

10.01.2022 Harsh Start Ups are a characteristic of Criticism. Criticism creates disrespectful and destructive conflict. Your partner is very likely to become defensive and in no time at all there can be a conflict tennis match. Nothing like the fun of a real one. The Four Horsemen have excellent Antidotes. The Antidote for Criticism is Soft or Gentle Start Up. Gentle Start Ups are about problem solving, working cooperatively to resolve concerns, not attributing fault or blame and most o...f all changing the climate to one of conciliation. Do try this at home. #weknowrelationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #gottman #gottmanmethod #brilliancecounsellingscarboroughqld #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #couplescounsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingredcliffe #changethefourhorsemen #adopttheantidotes #kindnessinrelationships #loveisloveisloveislove #couplesspecialist #couplecounselling #couplescounsellingcouples #marriagecounsellingscarboroughqld #marriagecounsellingredcliffe #marriagescanbeamazing #weteachrelationshipskills ##researchbasedcounsellingforcouples #bishschool #bishschoolgang #pdcoachbayliss See more

09.01.2022 Couples who play together and laugh together stay together. The reason having a great time together improves the relationship is not just because it makes the relationship fun, but because it reduces stress and increases intimate connection!

09.01.2022 Be a better person. If conflict is destroying your relationship get some skills to manage conflict respectfully. Out of control fighting and domestic abuse are not normal. Disagreements can be part of a healthy relationship. Fighting that escalates to abusive behaviour is never ok.... No one should force their beliefs on other people. Please be your best and only accept the best. See more

09.01.2022 We are massive fans of remembering to show gratitude every day! Even if just waking up means we have something to be grateful for we need to focus on what is good about that. Sometimes it doesn't seem that easy to be grateful but resiliency includes just working towards appreciating every chance to feel better.

09.01.2022 Even in a disagreement you can show your partner respect by keeping conflict clean. Learn to speak with one another about negative feelings and fears without losing sight of the relationship. Hurtful words can't be unsaid. You can both have more of what you need if you learn to talk through differences rather than fight about them. When you find yourself overwhelmed or saying things you know you shouldn't say then you are "flooding". Once there are physiological responses to ...something that's a trigger it takes sometime to self soothe and calm down. It's therefore best to take a break and stop thinking about the argument. Sit quietly, breathe slowly, mindfully concentrate on imagining your heart rate going down and think about something relaxing. If you have to interact with your partner don't return to the triggering conversation preferably until the next day. Only then determine to discuss it with rational thinking not intense emotion. This takes practise. #weknowrelationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #gottman #gottmanmethod #brilliancecounsellingscarboroughqld #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #couplescounsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingredcliffe #changethefourhorsemen #adopttheantidotes #kindnessinrelationships #loveisloveisloveislove #couplesspecialist #couplecounselling #showrespecttoeveryone #hurtshurtsomuch #couplescounsellingcouples #marriagecounsellingscarboroughqld #marriagecounsellingredcliffe #marriagescanbeamazing #weteachrelationshipskills ##researchbasedcounsellingforcouples #bishschool #bishschoolgang #pdcoachbayliss See more

08.01.2022 I'd also add that my partnership makes me a better person too. My lovely husband has taught me to laugh at myself and not only so he won't laugh alone. He's taught me to chill as I am a speedier person. He's taught me to share my practice learning and accept huge compliments. He's also taught me that a long term romantic commitment is worth effort because it brings great rewards. What has your partner taught you?

05.01.2022 Even if you have met your soul mate there's always more to it than some romantic magic. In our relationship we work on being one another's dearest friend. We talk, laugh and play often so that we are connected. What do you do to work on your relationship?

05.01.2022 Sometimes it's hard to believe that your partner has said something outrageous. But if it happens it's important not to knee jerk. If you can stay calm then ask for more information if you think you can accept your partner's ideas. If you already feel triggered then it's better to ask your partner to postpone the conversation till you are not flooded. If you can't find any time or any way to talk openly with your partner then you probably need to increase skills. We teach couples how to talk openly, honestly and productively! #weknowrelationships

05.01.2022 This year has been a huge year for so many of us. We hope it has brought you something that you can see as an advantage or an opportunity or a change that you can see as in some way positive. For us it has been a busy year full of adaptation and flexibility. 2021 heralds massive changes for us and we are looking forward and sending so much hope to all of those who have worked with us, been our colleagues, shown us support and care and allowed us to improve our work. Thank ...you to everyone who has touched our lives and been involved with our work in 2020. We send our sincere hope and best wishes for a new beginning tomorrow. See more

04.01.2022 Making your relationship last starts with working our if you both share the same vision for the future. Are there differences that need to be explored and resolved? Do you need the same things from your union? Working these things out right at the start helps build sustainability.

03.01.2022 Long term romantic relationships are all about emotion. Showing up emotionally helps to keep your love alive. Be the loving and supportive person that your partner found desirable early in your union.

03.01.2022 Date nights or date days can be romantic opportunities for rekindling the fire. When things were new how did you make your partner feel special and valued? The way date nights are arranged doesn't have to be complicated. Watching a sunset and having a simple picnic might really light up your partner. The secret is to know what will have real meaning for your loved one. You may only find out those answers if you ask, so be brave... and check out their dreams and longings. Take turns and use the element of surprise if your partner likes surprises. The main thing is to develop closeness and make your partner know how much you care. #couplecounsellingscarboroughqld #weknowrelationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #janianddoncare #datenightsaregreatnights #datelikeyoumeanit #datingyourpartner #datescanmakethingsromantic #romancetheoneyoulove #datedays #surprisesareromantic #beyourpartnersdate #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #coupleskillsbuilding #daydatesarefuntoo #datelikeatthestart #talkdr #counsellingscarboroughqld #pdcoachbayliss #bishschool #bishschoolgang See more

03.01.2022 Just remember how important it is to be present. In your ten minutes catch up daily or when you're have time to talk over issues. And especially when you're on date nights or date days. Prioritising your partner above your phone, your work, your friends and anything else that seems pressing is essential. When your partner feels important and valued then intimacy and connection can build. #weknowrelationships #coupleforcoupling #brilliancerelationshipskills #gottman #gottmanm...ethod #brilliancecounsellingscarboroughqld #brilliancecounsellingaustralia #couplescounsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingscarboroughqld #counsellingredcliffe #kindnessinrelationships #loveisloveisloveislove #couplesspecialist #couplecounselling #couplescounsellingcouples #prioritisetheoneyoulove #marriagecounsellingscarboroughqld #marriagecounsellingredcliffe #marriagescanbeamazing #weteachrelationshipskills #datesaregreatopportunities #datenightgreatnight #datesdaysarefullofsunshine #researchbasedcounsellingforcouples #bishschool #bishschoolgang #pdcoachbayliss See more

03.01.2022 Being kind and good to your partner, friends and family is a blessing we rally give to ourselves.

02.01.2022 Do you feel that your partner is there for you? Or are you not sure that they will always support you? Trust is a massive deal in relationships. Breaking it is pretty easy for some people but rebuilding it is very challenging.

02.01.2022 Five tips for a great connection: Spend quality time together Be emotionally available in good times and hard times Sharing some interests or indulge your partner by developing an interest in what matters to them Create dreams for your futures ... Make time for romance Your partner can be your closest friend! See more

02.01.2022 There's been lots of research about sleep quality of people who sleep under varying circumstances. We sleep better with one another than when we aren't together. Sleeping with a partner helps sleep onset and can decrease insomnia. Sleeping with a loved one increases REM sleep. Immunity can be increased and stress decreased by sleeping with someone significant. ... Do you sleep better with your partner than when you sleep alone? See more

01.01.2022 Amazing connections can be made when you are intentional about the future. Whether you are single or in a relationship your life can be even better. The New Year is a chance to start to intentionally connect with others. We hope that 2021 will allow more freedom of safe face to face connection. None of us were designed to be islands. What changes do you hope to make in this next twelve months?

01.01.2022 Over the years we have seen that drug and alcohol abuse add a damaging dimension to relationships. We found this article very helpful. Hope you like it too. Please tell us what you think. We thought that we would post this on Sunday because of Hello Sunday Morning We're fans of Chris' too. https://www.gottman.com//substance-abuse-the-univited-inv/

01.01.2022 Hope to make you laugh on this wonderful Sunday! (Or Saturday for those in earlier time zones.)