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24.01.2022 There are so many little ways a partner can support a breastfeeding mum. Lovely photo of The Rock demonstrating just one!
24.01.2022 Not only do these photos reflect the changing role of fatherhood and paternity leave. But I also like how the photographer talks about being able to understand your partner more when you're both home and able to communicate about your shifting relationship. When there is a newborn in the house everyone works hard, no one gets much sleep - but it's worth it!
23.01.2022 It is how we live not how we demand they live that has the most impact on who they will become. It is that simple and that hard.
23.01.2022 "Fathers are a key player in families for positive and negative." There is more and more evidence about the role fathers play, and how important it is. I loved some of the simple ways this article outlined how dad can get involved with baby from the start - even when mum is exclusively breastfeeding!
22.01.2022 We're raising kids in the way they should go, Through our example and actions, Through the way we teach our kids and set boundaries, That also means we need to know what we want to teach our kids, what our long term goals are Not just what we dont want our kids to do!
22.01.2022 we are responsible for our own happiness (and all our own feeling + what we do with those feelings )... 'What would happen if we chose to look at parenthood and parenting as intense personal growth opportunities instead of sources of happiness? What if we took responsibility for our own happiness? Imagine that.'
17.01.2022 We started telling girls that 'Girls can do Everything' Which somehow turned into 'Girls should do everything, always, all at once' Fueled by social media feeds of highlight reels of women succeeding at everything - but it's not just one person succeeding at everything... its many people celibrating their many different and varied successes. It just doesnt feel that way when your being fed a message that you should have it all together. When your overtired with a new baby. Wh...en the common question is 'How do you do Everything?' It's no wonder so many people are feeling the anxiety of the mental load of motherhood, organising a household, work and kids schedules, and partners who somehow feel it is ok to make mum the solo manager of household affairs because they work. How do you do everything? I don't. Most people dont. I prioritise. I minimise. And I cut out the noise from the stuff that isn't important and I come back to our family values. I reassess. I start again... and so often I question if this mindset of overwhelm is just because sometimes parenthood is tiring and I am tired. I show myself self compassion because this job is so much larger than me. Raising small kids takes a village and some days the village doesnt seem large enough. But I am enough. And when I feel I am not, I have the ability to show up the next day and start again. You dont have to feel overwhelmed and lost in this parenthood thing. You should be able to enjoy it and laugh when you find your three year old somehow stuck under a pile of books and blaming the baby you were just breastfeeding. You have got this. As long as you stop expecting that 'this' means everything, always, all at once. Blessings
15.01.2022 I am such a massive believer in life long learning, and seeking help as a strength! Todays professional development workshop with @mothersmilkandmentalhealth around Mental Health was fantastic. It even included a few Dan Siegel references ! Lots of brain science combined with the real clear compassion for Mothers that is evident in Amanda. I loved the point that we need to allow ourselves the grace to walk away (flight) rather than fight (lose it at our partner or kids!)...... putting the baby down for 5 minutes to take a breath and recentre can absolutely be a fantastic option if your feeling like your losing it - especially in the postnatal period! There was a lot of other stuff all packed into one day! So much I can use with my clients
12.01.2022 Postpartum Depression can present in so many different ways including Anger. While mothers often feel shame because of these emotions they are something that can be worked through with a safe trusted provider who understands mental health and mothers. More and more we are seeing the conversation around mothers and mental health grow. We also know that when mum has a mental health challenge so too can dad as they are a triad in the first few months (mum, dad and baby) and Visa versa (if dad has a mental health challenge so can mum). If this feels like you please do reach out- there are so many skilled professionals in this field who can help!
11.01.2022 Self care is not a test and it looks different to different people. Sometimes its having a shower, sometimes it is asking for help!
10.01.2022 "The truth is that there are many things that are more important in shaping our children than the methods and techniques we use to modify their behavior." Parenting is holistic - hyper focusing on punishment and discipline will inevitably see you miss over some crucial components like relationship and connection... from which we have the ability to speak into our children's lives (to teach them ) These 10 habits are spot on
09.01.2022 One on one dates, one on one connection time - reconnection time, time in which we can actively focus and tune in to what the other person is saying. Really listen. It is so key to relationships. Actively listening with the intent to hear where the other person is at, without trying to fix it, is such a skill. Especially when we are seeing less face to face connection and more electronic connections. But parenting and disciplining (to teach) comes best from connection. Can ...you even have a relationship without connection? We had a few crazy weeks, so set up some one on one time for each of my kids so they could relax a little and be heard. It might take a bit to strategize, it might look different like takeaways at home with a newborn - but it is worth the effort to connect and listen every time!
05.01.2022 We have spent the holidays visiting farms and picking carrots and oranges. Not only does this teach kids where food comes from and get them outdoors but it also enables us to spend time together as a family. Saying family time is one of our family goals and actually making it a priority can be two different things. This is about making it a priority. However, as is with any relationship choosing small acts of connection often (daily) is much more important that big acts occ...asionally! Though you can always do both We had fun, learnt new things, we made memories and spent time together as a family. I hope your also having time together as a family over the holidays connecting and recharging, Blessings
02.01.2022 So much of what we do and the way we parent is from the overflow of what is in our hearts and what we fill ourselves with. So often it is easy to fall into a cycle of complaint or frustration or exhaustion and forget to ask if maybe we are running on empty or feeling overwhelmed. I am a big advocate of doing things you love while parenting so that you dont fall into these traps. ... Sometimes that might be as small as a few stretches in the morning or as big as attending a class. It depends on your situation and what your able to do. Sometimes self care is hard stuff like meal prep and saying no to things that are not part of your families vision. Sometimes it's easy (like the sewing class I attended on the weekend and made a wallet because I love sewing!) But it's about putting in things of value so that when you at your wits end- the things that come out are still of value. It's also sometimes about knowing when it's time to cut off the memes about how kids suck or anything that diminishes your kids or your partners undeniable divinity, creativity and loveability. If your filling yourself with those things dont be surprised when your talking about how bad your child is or how your partner never does anything right! What is something you do to recharge yourself so your not running on empty? Blessings
