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25.01.2022 Have you ever wondered what a breastfeed looks like? Our Breastfeeding Peer Supporter Nicky has kindly made this video to help explain what a breastfeed looks l...ike. Lots of mums tell us they worry about breastfeeding because they cant see what their baby is getting. It is very rare that a mum wont make enough milk for her baby. So although you cant see what is going in there are others ways to can tell if your baby is feeding well. Take a look at their nappy!! We have attached a simple check list, but if you have any worries please contact the Health Visitor Service desk on 03003045076 Monday-Friday Peer supporter helpline over the weekend 07920466660 Your body is amazing it has the ability to make milk for your baby that is unique to them. Your breast milk is packed with antibodies that will help your baby fight infection. Mothers assessment tool how can I tell breastfeeding is going well - https://www.unicef.org.uk//mothers_breastfeeding_checklist

24.01.2022 In one room, I use my doppler to help a first time mother hear her #babys heart beat for the first time and she and her partner cry tears of #joy. I walk dire...ctly into the next room to cry tears of #grief with another woman having a #miscarriage. Then I stay up all night to sweat with a third woman screaming to push her child triumphantly out of her body, and leave the room covered with her bodily fluids to take a phone call from yet another woman who is struggling to #breastfeed and having #postpartum #depression. Its quite a fire. It warms me, fuels me and gives me unspeakable joy and great satisfaction to serve in this way, but also uses me up and some days leaves me charred and brittle. Helping to maintain this fire is an extremely important job. However many people dont realise there is a lesser known dark side to #oxytocin. While it makes us feel more loving and cuddly (the reason #midwives and #doulas sometimes want to come home from births and make babies), if a person experiencing higher levels of oxytocin simultaneously has a negative or stressful experience, this hormone activates a part of the brain that intensifies the memory. This means that midwives and those in similar roles may have a greater susceptibility to internalising the #traumas they manage - a potential "side effect" of their all-consuming work. Its no wonder that midwives who live on this hormonal cocktail while dealing with many extremely stressful events on a daily basis have a high statistical likelihood of anxiety, depression and burn out. Studies have shown that primary factors that make a midwife more likely to burn out are lack of personal support and lack of professional recognition. With that in mind, midwives and doulas may have a few important love languages. These include: lack of judgment for being gone for long hours and missing events; nourishing food; a made bed; listening to birth stories; awareness that they feel some degree of conscious or subconscious guilt every time they leave their own family to care for someone elses; water to help hydrate; and understanding that they pour gallons of their souls out into the well of their profession, and come home mostly empty, fragile, and without much to give for a bit. So have a think is there anything you can do to support someone special in your life? someone who plays out a sacred duty every day, nursing life, joy and trauma for the families and communities that connect us all? Remember, when you support a midwife or doula, you are also supporting every birthing family and baby she cares for. And we all thank you for it. https://ganm.nursing.jhu.edu/the-world-needs-more-midwives/ https://roxanneswildworld.blogspot.com//if-you-love-midwif #neurochild #selfcare #familygoals

22.01.2022 https://www.kidspot.com.au//6d4607c77a7a85a4980da4081474d2

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21.01.2022 Up to 1 in 3 women experience birth trauma. Psychological symptoms may include: Feelings of intense fear, helplessness or horror in reaction to reminders of the experience, for example words, smells, rooms, clinicians... Fear and anxiety about going outside Poor self-image Memories (flashbacks) of the traumatic vaginal delivery during sexual relations Trying to push feelings away and getting on with looking after your baby Difficulty sleeping due to bad memories or reminders of the birth Nightmares regarding the birth Feelings of isolation Irritability and guilt Anxiety or panic attacks Avoiding reminders of the traumatic birth such as the location where it occurred (avoidance reactions) Feeling emotionally numb or detached from others, activities, or your surroundings Alcohol and drug misuse Struggling to bond with your baby. Did you know that you can do something about it? You dont have to keep on suffering. Aroma Freedom Technique gently but quickly resolves trauma so that you can return to a state of calm, peace, connection and happiness and no longer be triggered. https://www.byyoursidedoulaservices.com.au/aroma-freedom-co Rebecca is a double who specialises in birth trauma as an AFT Practitioner. End your suffering and reach out

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20.01.2022 Looking for the perfect starter bundle for you and your little one? Then look no further. Includes: Owl Diffuser - white noise and lullaby music Lavender 5ml - great for sleep Tummygize - for upset tummies Sleepyize - sleep support... Refresh - sniffles Kidcare - owies - cuts and sores Genyus - focus and grounding Reach out to find out more See more

20.01.2022 #promo Have you experienced trauma as a birth worker? Are you finding yourself triggered whilst with your clients? What about your clients? Does their inner voice hold them back from believing that they can have a calm and empowering birth? ... If so why not release those negative thoughts and feelings with AFT. AFT is one of the quickest but gentest ways to release trauma with essential oils. 10% all first time clients when you mention this post. https://www.byyoursidedoulaservices.com.au/aroma-freedom-co

20.01.2022 How AFT can help resolve birth trauma and PTSD gently and quickly.

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16.01.2022 There is no bigger privilege than to hold the space and welcome a new mother, father and baby into the world.

16.01.2022 Go gently with you.

16.01.2022 New mothers need all of this...Meals, a nap and shower while someone holds the baby, a whole village to support her. (By Molly McIntyre and Karen Kleiman).

15.01.2022 There is help. You dont have to go on suffering. Reach out

14.01.2022 We need to start being clearer about the actual risks when it comes to the screening and preventative measures that are offered to pregnant and labouring women. New data show that the actual chance of mortality from early-onset GBS disease in the baby of a woman who is healthy and has reached full-term (37 weeks or beyond) is 1 in 39,682. The risks of antibiotics include antibiotic resistance, interference with the babys microbiome, gut problems and allergic reactions. Accor...ding to NHS Choices, severe allergic reactions are estimated to occur in between 1 in 2000 and 1 in 10000 cases. The key is to get better information out there, and to help everyone understand the issues and the evidence relating to the screening and prophylactic measures that are offered to pregnant and labouring women in the hope of preventing early-onset group B strep (EOGBS) disease. For more information, see http://www.sarawickham.com/books/gbs/ #midwife #midwifery #doula #childbirth #childbirtheducation #childbirtheducator #hypnobirthing #pregnancyyoga #pregnancy #groupbstrep #gbs #birthinformation #drsarawickham #groupbstrepexplained

14.01.2022 Every girl when someone touches their hair... #10daysold Insta : hijosh

14.01.2022 I get by with a little help from my... Valor. Do you need some liquid courage to help with the big emotions? The ones where you want to crawl in a hole, cry, scream and question everything. Or maybe some rescue remedy you can wear as an awesome perfume? This is by far the best smelling perfume I have ever worn and its all natural. Can you believe it???... No nasty phthalates that mess with your hormones or carcinogens (google these if you dont know what they are). I have been mixing this wonder oil with another awesome blend called Peace and Calming to help my daughter who has been feeling a little anxious. I diffuse them before bed to help me relax or in the mornings to make sure our day starts of cruises and not super stressed. I mix them in with some grapeseed oil in a roller bottle and roll in on behind my ears and on my wrists. I even have valor body butter and my legs and arms are smelling pretty fine right now. You should definitely get some Valor. Youll thank me. xxx https://www.youngliving.com/e/products/valor-essential-oil

13.01.2022 I know there are a lot of questions regarding coronavirus and its impact on pregnancy and caring for newborns so I thought I would provide an update. ... What we know about the virus is that it is a new strain of Coronavirus labelled Covid-19. It was identified originally in China in December 2019. Pregnant women are not at increased risk of getting the virus. If a pregnant woman does get the virus, the disease appears to be mild. In the small number of women who are pregnant who are known to have been infected with the virus, vertical transmission to the foetus does not appear to be an issue with the information currently at hand. At present, there is no evidence the virus is carried in breastmilk and so breastfeeding continues to be recommended. To protect you and your family the following is recommended: - Wash your hands frequently with soap and water - Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze with a tissue and dispose of the tissue or use the inner aspect of your elbow. - Avoid contact with others if you are feeling unwell - Do not attend large social gatherings - Stay at home as much as possible with your new baby and limit your visitors. If they are unwell or their children are unwell, they should not visit at all. In terms of attending for appointments to my rooms or visits to hospital: - please call ahead if you have fever, cough, sore throat or shortness of breath - please call ahead if you have been overseas in the last fourteen days - please limit the people you bring with you to appointments. For further information or advice please go to the https://www.dhhs.vic.gov.au/coronavirus or contact the Coronavirus Information line on 1800 020 080. See more

13.01.2022 You get pregnant. Happiest time of your life! Growing life is next-level amazing. Months tick by, and then baby makes their arrival Earthside. For a short time, loved ones flood over with gifts and kind words. You show off your chubby little human, amazed at your strength and ability to love harder than you ever have. But soon, you notice motherhood doesnt feel quite right. Baby cries so much. Your breasts dont produce the milk you know they are supposed to. Your breas...ts produce too much milk. Baby cries so much. Husband works. No family close by. You have scary dreams of scary things happening to baby. Sleep is a rare commodity. Baby wont settle. Baby cries so much. You are SO tired. You wish you never had baby. You want your old life back. You know you are a bad mom already. You know baby deserves a better mom than you. You know your toddler and gradeschooler deserve a mom who can "handle it". You know your husband deserves a wife who can "handle it". Your legs are not broken. You do not have cancer. You werent in a car accident. But the illness inside your brain screams for the help and support and care others would offer if you were. There is no shame in asking for help - in saying "motherhood doesnt feel quite right". In saying "I dont feel okay today". In saying "I need help - a nap or a lasagna or a shower or just help with the kids". I have a favour to ask of you - instead of buying a new mama (first time mama or 5th time mama) an expensive onesie, diaper bag, or nursing cover - offer to make her dinner instead (or order in). Offer to clean her home. Laundry or dishes or toilets - please. Offer to get the mail or run to Costco or renew the car registrations. Ask her if she needs a nap or a shower. Creating a life comes with so many emotions, and sometimes the first instinct is to reject help because we should be able to "handle it" - but so many times, we cant. #BellLetsTalk #PostPartumAnxiety #PostPartumDepression #PostPartumOCD #breakthestigma #mentalhealth #postpartumjourney #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #postpartumhealth See more

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12.01.2022 Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. For support reach out to https://www.sands.org.au/

10.01.2022 Did you know that you can get help to squash flash backs, relieve the weight of feeling like a burden and feel like yourself again with Aroma Freedom Technique. Heres what others are saying https://www.byyoursidedoulaservices.com.au/afttestimonials

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07.01.2022 Facts about nuchal cords (umbilical cord wrapped around the neck at birth): . #1. About 1 in 3 babies has one! YES, REALLY! Theres nothing to be scared of, com...plications are rare (we will look at facts and peer reviewed information below). Theyre usually perfectly normal and fine, the OB, midwife or birthing person will simply unwrap it! The baby is not being harmed, since they dont breathe air yet, and the vessels in the cord are surrounded by a thick and strong substance to protect them from danger and compression. . #2. The cord does not get tighter as the baby moves down and out, because the uterus and placenta move down with it!!! . #3. Although cord accidents are possible, the risk is very, very low. Even if the cord is looped multiple times! The cord being compressed can be an issue but in a normal physiological birth, where the birthing person can listen to their body and follow what it needs along with moving around, this is also low risk of happening. Avoiding artificial management of labor and induction greatly reduces the possibility of issues. . #4. Some professionals speculate that nuchal cords are actually protective, especially if the baby has a long cord! The wrapping of the cord prohibits it from slipping through the cervix after your water is broken, which is a rare, but serious complication of labor. This is just a theory. . #5. It all usually happens so fast that you may not even know if your baby had a nuchal cord! All but 2 babies have had a nuchal cord, out of all the births Ive been to. None of them knew until we told them and showed the picture I snapped. The provider simply unwrapped the cord. And placed baby on the mothers chest. Fun fact: Ive also been at a birth where a baby also had a nuchal hand, which means he was born with his hand right beside his face and his head, hand, and wrapped cord came out all at once! Fun fact 2: An umbilical cord can also have a knot and it be a non issue (there is difference in true knot). How we are created and what our bodies do are simply amazing. The whartons jelly that is actually a tissue like substance within the cord, protects it when its knotted and or compressed some. So What do we know about nuchal cords in utero? Research has found that a nuchal cord is not associated with morbidity or mortality for the baby during pregnancy (Carey & Rayburn 2000; Aksoy 2003; Clapp III et al. 2003; Gonzalez-Quintero et al. 2004). Unfortunately some infants pass before labor ever begins, and there is often no known reason, which can add to the devastation for the parents and family. When these infants are born they are often found to have the cord around their neck (same as a 3rd of all babies). We know and understand the need to find a reason, it seems as though providers choose to pick the obvious. However, this doesnt seem helpful in the long term, perpetuating this fear. Parents need honest answers about the loss of their baby, even if the answer unfortunately, is we dont have answers. Loose nuchal cord- This is the most common type of nuchal cord and is not associated with any complications for the baby. Birth through the cord loop, or the cord can be unwrapped by his mother (or someone else) after birth. However, it is common practice for midwives to loop a loose cord over the babys head before the birth of his body (although some evidence shows this may not be beneficial). This practice may cause the umbilical blood vessels to vasoconstrict, reducing blood flow (Coad J, Dunstall D. Anatomy and physiology for midwives. 3rd edition London: Churchill Livingstone; 2011.) In extreme cases traction on the cord could cause it to tear, interrupting oxygen flow to the baby and resulting in blood loss from the torn cord. This tells us leaving it alone is probably best Tight nuchal cord- According to nct.org.uk- Very rarely, a nuchal cord can be tight and very short (Reed R, Barnes M, Allan J. Nuchal cords: sharing the evidence with parents. Br J Midwifery 2009;17(2):106-9.) This will become evident because the babys body will not birth after the head despite contractions. The cord becomes tighter, and if left may snap because the uterus is stronger than the cord. However, a technique called the somersault maneuver can assist a baby to birth without further descent of the head and cutting of the cord. If the umbilical cord becomes overstretched or compressed during labour, it usually leads to fetal bradycardia temporarily. These brief variable heart rate decelerations are not harmful. If the babys heart rate slows to below 100 beats per minute and does not return to normal (120 to 160 for most babies) within a few minutes, measures will be taken to relieve the presumed cord compression. This includes giving oxygen and fluid to the mother or having her change position. Tocolytics may be given to slow down the contractions. If it is still not relieved, a caesarean delivery may be done- according to the pubmed study linked below. Although the nuchal cord group had a larger percentage of infants born with Apgar score of less than 7, nuchal cords are not a major cause of fetal asphyxia [4, 7]. Similarly in this study, fetal bradycardia and variable/ late decelerations were found more often in the group with tight nuchal cords (23.53% as compared with 8.77%) and it was statistically significant (p0.05). Apgar scores at one minute were significantly lower in tight nuchal cord subgroup (p0.01). But nuchal cords did not increase fetal mortality nor had significant effect at Apgar scores at five minutes as shown in many other studies [4, 6, 7, 9] pubmed study below. Unfortunately, until evidence-based practice is implemented widely, the issue of nuchal cords need to be discussed with parents before birth and their wishes communicated to their caregivers. We need providers to stop using the nuchal cord as a scapegoat and start following up to date, evidence based information and practices. What do birthing families need to know? In antenatal/prenatal sessions, let parents know that a third of all babies have the cord around their neck. This is almost always fine and nothing needs to be done. The cord is stretchy and rubbery and protects the blood vessels taking oxygen to the baby. Once the baby is born, the mother or the midwife can unwrap the cord. Rarely will a nuchal cord prevent the baby descending once the head is born, in which case the midwife can use a somersault manoeuvre to free the baby so that the cord can remain intact. If this manoeuvre is unsuccessful, the worst case scenario is that the cord snaps as the baby descends, and requires clamping and or the provider has to clamp and cut. If the baby is slow to breathe at birth, an intact cord continues to provide oxygen and enables normal blood volume to be resumed. It may be helpful for the mother to stimulate her baby by talking to him, rubbing his back etc. Some hospitals/homebirth pro diets will provide resuscitation, should it be necessary, next to the mother so that the cord can remain intact for longer. Women can discuss this with their midwife/provider antenatally/prenatally. Women can/may want to discuss management of nuchal cord with their midwife/provider during pregnancy. Some may want to state clearly the umbilical cord is not to be cut without their explicit verbal consent. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4921575/ https://midwifethinking.com/2015/05/13/nuchal-cords/ Post words, information and credit Cari Samuelson, Sacred Sage Births Creator of image Thrive Birth Services of Delmarva with words on #1-5 Information from PubMed, Midwife Thinking, Holistic Midwifery, Varneys Midwifery and various other studies

07.01.2022 NHS Guidance for Diastasis Recti Its common for the two muscles that run down the middle of your stomach to separate during pregnancy. This is sometimes c...alled diastasis recti, or divarication. The amount of separation varies from one woman to another. It happens because your growing womb (uterus) pushes the muscles apart, making them longer and weaker. Most women dont notice any problems as their stomach muscles separate in pregnancy. But you might notice a bulge developing down the front of your bump, above and below your belly button. After you have had your baby, you can check the size of the separation with this simple technique: Lie on your back with your legs bent and your feet flat on the floor. Raise your shoulders off the floor slightly and look down at your tummy. Using the tips of your fingers, feel between the edges of the muscles, above and below your belly button. See how many fingers you can fit into the gap between your muscles. Do this regularly to check that the gap is gradually decreasing. The separation between your stomach muscles will usually go back to normal by the time your baby is eight weeks old. If the gap is still obvious at eight weeks, the muscles may still be long and weak. This can put you at risk of back problems. Have a word with your health visitor or GP. Your GP can refer you to a physiotherapist, who will give you some specific exercises to do. Regular pelvic floor and deep stomach muscle exercises can help to reduce the size of the separation between your stomach muscles. Its also important to stand up tall and be aware of your posture now youre no longer pregnant. #nhs #advice #guidance #healthcare #health #postnatal #pregnancy #mummy #childbirth #birth #diastasisrecti #abdominal #abdomen

05.01.2022 Its only #natural for kids to release their emotional, mental and physical energy as soon as they get home from school. After all, they had to show a lot of se...lf-control during the school day. After-school restraint collapse is extremely common in kids under 12, says Psychotherapist Nancy Brooks, and it lessens as children develop more emotional resilience. Until then, the symptoms of after-school restraint collapse are likely familiar to parents of young children: When they come home from school they will regress emotionally," says Brooks. They will act younger than their age and whine, cry, throw tantrums, act needy, moody and generally have a meltdown. They will look and behave as if they are exhausted. Because self-control is exhausting. Here are some tips on handling after-school restraint collapse: Give children time to get a snack and relax their minds. Offer your child a physical activity directly after school, such as sports, yoga or walking, to act as a release that helps to balance the mind and body. Homework can also wait and will probably be done better as a result of a #brain break. Stay aware of how ourselves as parents act when we get home, as kids are likely to model our behaviour. Use your car ride home to decompress from the day, to allow yourself (or your family) to be fresh when you walk through the door. As the school year goes on, you can expect after-school restraint collapse to ease up a bitboth because of a childs increasing maturity and their adjustment to the new schedule. Be patient. It gets better! https://www.mother.ly//if-your-child-falls-apart-after-sch #neurochild #familygoals #bekind

03.01.2022 Research has been exemplifying the importance of a #fathers skin-to-skin contact with a new baby, which can rewire a fathers #brain to prepare it for fatherho...od. The hormonal boost that dads receive from these cuddles could make them better caregivers. Feelings of protectiveness and connection which begin to develop during a babys gestation help form new #neural pathways when a baby is held close. Both dad and baby will have high levels of the hormone oxytocin during skin-to-skin contact which relaxes them both and reduces stress levels. A dads skin-to-skin cuddles with a new baby have huge benefits for a babys development and wellbeing. Kangaroo care, or skin-to-skin cuddles, has been found to: Accelerate babys brain development; Calm, smooth and reduce babys stress; Improve babys quality of sleep; Enhance babys immune system; Stimulate babys digestion and weight gain; and Synchronise babys heart rate and breathing. So when is the right time for dad to get in this first important contact? Neurobaby suggests it is once a new baby has had their first feed, when a mother may wish to rest and the baby is sleepy, or immediately after baby is born if a mother is unwell or has had an anaesthetic. Dads can provide warmth and comfort during skin-to-skin contact which helps soothe the baby and regulate their temperature, heart rate and breathing. One key difference to be mindful of is that a mothers breast tissue automatically adjusts to cool a baby down or warm them up in response to what baby needs. However, a mans breast tissue only heats baby, so to avoid overheating, it is suggested that new baby and dad skin-to-skin cuddles go for around 60 minutes at a time. What a father does in the days surrounding his babys birth has also been linked to what fathers are doing months later. This relates to how men establish bonds with their newborns as well as with their partners and how they will co-parent. A team of researchers from the University of Notre Dame looked at how much testosterone and cortisol 298 men were producing by collecting saliva samples on the first two days of their newborns lives. The study, published in the journal Hormones and Behavior, found that dads with elevated cortisol levels while holding their infants, such as during skin-to-skin, were more likely to be involved with caring for and playing with their infants during the first months of their lives. This supports similar research by Dr. Nils Bergman that showed how skin-to-skin contact rewires dads brains, with just 30 minutes contact causing a rise in the important hormones dopamine and oxytocin. These hormonal changes create a positive association with close interaction with their babies in fathers brains, helping fathers to kickstart their parenting instincts. Its been found that as a father sits with baby skin-to-skin on his chest, feel good hormones like oxytocin in his body increases. With increased oxytocin levels, his testosterone levels decrease. This shift in hormones creates a relaxation and well-being response, which in turn aids in responding with nurturing and affectionate behaviours toward baby and allowing the two to better bond. As dad is more sensitive and aware of his babys needs, he feels more tuned-in to baby, and more confident about his parenting skills. This results in fathers tending to be more interactive with their infants and reporting a stronger bond long term if theyve held their baby skin-to-skin. So get in there and get your cuddles in, dads! You will be helping create a happier, healthier baby and the whole family will thank you for it. https://nuroobaby.com//the-benefits-of-skin-to-skin-conta/ https://www.romper.com/p/this-study-shows-just-how-importan http://www.fromdadstodads.org.uk//what-happe/skin-to-skin/ #neurochild #brainscience #dontforgetdads