Debora Spencer's Consulting to create the life you love. in Adelaide, South Australia | Counsellor

Debora Spencer's Consulting to create the life you love.

Locality: Adelaide, South Australia

Phone: +61 417 793 310

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17.01.2022 Take the first step.... GO on I dare you. x

17.01.2022 Life is too short!! I wonder when we remove all the have to's, need to's and should do's what would be left? If you could do the things you really wanted withou...t feeling like you are letting others down what would it be? As I have gotten older I have realised life is full of responsibility and we wrap ourselves up in in soo much crap, we chain ourselves to people, places and possessions hoping that something will make us happy. If we just let go stood back and breathed would it all really come crashing down, do we really have to hold everything up all by ourselves or could we just drop it and see how it is whilst we take a breather. We get older by trying to keep so much around us going, would we feel younger by letting it go? We feel guilt of not doing the things that are expected, we feel shame for doing what we do and feel greedy by wanting more for ourselves. Why do we let so many others decide what is right for us? If we looked deep enough for long enough we already know what we would love to be, who we already are. Give yourself permission to be you. Stop trying to be everything for everyone else and be you!!! No one will ever give you enough money or praise for doing so much for others but you will thank yourself and be grateful everyday whilst on you own mission doing what you would love to do. Life is too short to shadow others and play small, life is too short to let it pass you by waiting for the next thing. The world is funny exchanging time for money but I know that there have been times in my life that I would not have sold for all the money in the world. Your time is one of your most precise possessions use it wisely. Life is a series of moments that pass by so quickly.... It's time to stand up and be control of your moments. I am always happiest when I am on my own mission. Happiest when I choose. What would you do if you knew you couldn't lose? The many play the game and get the small gifts and the few make the rules and get more. There is no rules when you play your own game. Xxx See more

17.01.2022 If this was it.... your last day to play what would you do? x

16.01.2022 Be good to yourself... you will find people that support and challenge you. x

11.01.2022 love who you are right now as it has gotten you this far

10.01.2022 Sink or swim When you first walk out into the water you feel the coolness against your skin, the cooling sensation that swirls around you and you feel invigorat...ed. The water warms with your heat and you feel comfortable. Feel like this is where you belong, you stretch your muscles and swim. You could stay in this water forever it is so comfortable here. You spend hours paddling around taking it all in. Then slowly you begin to tire, all this swimming is taking it out of you and your body needs a rest. You look around and realise you have gone too far; people look like tiny specks on the sand. You realise in all your fun you lost track of where you were, you let the current sweep you away. You begin to panic, why wasn’t I paying attention? You begin to blame yourself as the cramps set in and your body gets more tired. While you are assessing the damage, arguing with yourself and blaming. Someone paddles past in a canoe; they call out to you are you ok? NO you shout. You start to tell them how you were having fun, how it was relaxing, comfortable but you got distracted and lost track of where you were. You start to blame yourself, others for not having a sign and your friend’s for not keeping track of you. The person in the boat listens and sympathises, after they listen to you they try to get you into their canoe. But there is no room, nowhere for you to sit. The canoe person decides to stay there with you till help comes. You talk, complain and blame for being there. On and on you go with the same story, the canoe person sits, listen and sympathises with you. Time passes and you realises that there are vines in the water they keep getting tangled in your legs, they pull you in all different directions. At this point the person in the canoe starts to give you advice on how to deal with the vines, they tell you not to give up and motivate you to keep going. Someone will come they say, someone can help you just give it time. It will work out and this will be just a memory. You grow tired and start to sink, the person in the canoe starts to get more active, yelling and pushing you to hold on, just wait. They continue to push you, you keep complaining and they push you to keep going. At that moment a boat passes and they yell out do you need help? YES you yell, you start to tell the same story as you told the canoe person. You try to tell them how you got there, what happened and how it was everyone else’s fault. The person on the boat says, That’s enough, just concentrate on getting out you shut up. The canoe person then starts telling the boat person how it all happened. The boat person then quietens them. They then say it does not matter how you got here, getting you out now is important They throw in a ring on a rope and tell you to swim to it. You tell them you are tired and you can’t, you have vines around you and won’t make it. The canoe person agrees and tries to tell the person in the boat all you have dealt with. The person in the boat stops them and says you only have the ring that can get you out; you have to overcome everything else and get to it. The tiredness will fade, the pain will stop and you will be safe. I can’t you yell, still you go on how it wasn’t your fault, how much pain you’re in, how tired you are. The person in the boat stops you once more and says I am helping you get out, just get to that ring. I don’t care how you get there, how much pain you feel or tired you are. Get to that ring You dig deep and pull away from those vines; you push through the pain and tiredness and get to the ring. The person on the boat pulls you up and you are safe. Lessons learnt What was once comfortable can become just as uncomfortable. Never lose track of you, keep yourself in check. Know who you are and keep making sure you are ok. It is never anyone else fault; you make your own choices. They do not have to keep an eye on you or put up signs. If you keep blaming others you will give your power away and not have enough to pull yourself out. Some people are there for you even when they can’t always help, just don’t try to pull them down with you. The people who are there for you will try to back you up, but they can only listen to the same story so many times. The people there for you get tired and will try to push you out of your mess when they feel you have had enough. Don’t let the vines of the world pull you in different directions, know yourself enough to choose your own Sometimes you will have to dig deep and find the strength to pull yourself out. Pain is temporary, tiredness will pass but defeat is forever. The person that throws you the rope may not be interested in your story; they just want to see you survive. Don’t take this as if they don’t care. They are trying to save you remember.

09.01.2022 What do you want for Christmas? As the years have gone on I have less and less that I want for Christmas as I have discovered that the most important things are the ones we do for ourselves. I have found that I can create my own dreams as if I work hard enough for them. Sometimes I get taken off track and wonder off to watch the butterflies, but usually I find my way back. I find this time of year I get the best rewards from giving instead of receiving. The fun of Christmas i...s now in the company I keep, the food I eat and the merry drinks I have. The gifts I get is the friends I have, the family I love and the goals I achieve. Life is too short to count the presents it is better spent by counting your blessings. merry Christmas everyone

08.01.2022 Be yourself as everyone else is already taken. x

07.01.2022 There is no time like the present. x

05.01.2022 What do you want to b when you grow up? x

02.01.2022 Lost in a puzzle I have decided to look at a relationship as a puzzle; you both sit at a table and spread all your pieces out. You talk about the big picture, t...he future and what that looks like and then you put your pieces together to create it. This piece fits with this one and that one and so on and so on. This puzzle takes time and throughout the procedure things happen. The pieces of the puzzle change as the relationship grows. Regrets, arguments, love and growth change them in time. What used to fit, no longer does. Then one or the other will bend their piece, break it or cut it to the shape to make it fit. Hoping the other person will be grateful that they did this, but inside will always feel like a little part of them are missing and they will regret what they did and resent the other person for letting them do it. Time moves on and they are still working on their puzzle and it is growing bigger and becoming more clear, hmmm but then what one person will think should be yellow the other thinks should be blue. It becomes a disagreement and then becomes a fight why can’t they pick the same colour. One will pick up a crayon and colours theirs yellow but because it was once blue it becomes a greener yellow then the other pieces. It is close enough so it will fit, but you can always see it more green then blue. It always seems a little different and when they look at it that green/yellow piece is a reminder. Time moves on and the puzzle is getting clearer, then one decides to change it half way through, they want it different. It becomes a disagreement then an argument and then a fight. They thought they were on the same page, had the same picture. Why change it now? So the changer swallows and admits defeat and helps the other on with the original picture. Time moves on and the puzzle is nearly done just a few more pieces to cut and colour and it is complete. They have completed the puzzle it fits and looks great. This clear picture of the future and see every step. They both look at it and one sees how they had to colour in their pieces, the other sees how much they have cut theirs up. They see the broken pieces, the mismatched colour and those few left on the table that just don’t fit. They disagree, argue and then fight. The puzzle lands on the floor, all the pieces separated and some lost. They both pick their own pieces up and try to put them back together. But pieces are cut and they won’t stick back together, the crayon won’t come off and their piece is a different colour. They put them back as best they can in their own little puzzle, pieces missing and coloured, they look at them. They look so different, what happened to my perfect puzzle? They look at the opposite person, you did this they say. My puzzle is missing pieces and it’s not the right colour. What happened? While we tried to make a future together we managed to mutilate our own puzzles. While we tried to make it all fit, we sacrificed our own pieces. They point fingers and fight that it is the other person; it could not be their own fault. Lessons learnt Do not sacrifice your own pieces for the bigger picture as it is the small pieces that create the big picture. Do not cut your pieces to fit as you will resent them for not being grateful enough that you did. Do not colour your pieces to fit as they will always be an off colour and that stands out when you look at the big picture, it will be the things you most fight about most. Do not leave pieces out as your puzzle will never be complete. Your puzzle is ever changing and both must agree to decide when this happens, if one wants the picture to change and the other doesn’t. One will feel like they could of done more with the new picture and the other will wonder why you don’t like the picture you made. See more