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23.01.2022 A must read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey #selfdevelopment #healthymarriage #mindfulness #empowerment #discipline

22.01.2022 When we dont know how or lack the courage to face the issue within us, we will often see it and judge it harshly in our partner/spouse #mindfulness #selfdevelopment #empowerment #healthymarriage

22.01.2022 When we resist facing our own internal world, we will continue to focus on the faults of others. However, these faults are often reflecting back to us our own inner struggles. Question: How often do you note the faults of your partner/husband? #healthymarriage #communication #selfdevelopment #mindfulness #empowerment

21.01.2022 I was intrigued recently about a post on giving and receiving. The act of giving is often elevated to a greater status. But just how well are we at receiving in a culture that promotes autonomy - I can make it on my own, thank you very much attitude. Receiving can certainly bring its own challenges as it is not only about the beautiful gifts . At times receiving can emphasise our inability to help ourselves. It can highlight our vulnerability and driv...e home the truth that we can not do life on our own. These can be humbling times. Are we able to receive the offered help even when you are pretty sure that you could do it better and faster? Are we able to receive a compliment or praise with a simple thank you or do we need to quickly deflect or return the praise or belittle ourselves? This merely robs the giver of joy. What about the young man holding an open door? Do we receive the kindness or feel the need to educate him on equality of women? How good are we at receiving that interesting gift from our spouse/partner? Do we graciously thank them or do our faces say What the hell! How about that strange meal delivered to your door by the neighbor or fellow parishioner who heard you were unwell? When we are able to receive with gratitude and appreciation, we are in turn giving the giver the gift of joy. Art credit The Kitcheners. #gratitude#mindfulness #healthymarriage See more

18.01.2022 It is pointless imagining a happier relationship, a healthier body, a more fulfilling job... if we are unwilling to make the decision for change right now. Delay, results in your tomorrow looking just like your yesterday #selfdevelopment #empowerment #healthymarriage

17.01.2022 So what is the 10% 90% rule? Glad you asked . The rule is simply this. When facing a problem, put 10% of your focus on the problem and 90% on finding a solution. But what about problems in a relationship? Can it apply there? It sure can! In fact, it is crucial that you use this ratio. You see, if you are focusing 90% on the problems in your relationship, the larger they will seem to become. You will find it increasingly diffi...cult to notice the right things that your spouse/partner is doing. Instead you will continually look for evidence of how they are neglecting you and destroying your relationship. And the longer you play at this ratio, the more you will become convinced that there is no solution to healing your relationship. Choosing instead to focus 10% on the problem is not denying the existence of the problem or its intensity. Rather it is you deciding to find help for your relationship. And it is focusing 90% of your attention on finding the solutions . #healthymarriage #selfdevelopment #empowerment See more

17.01.2022 Taking time out to nurture yourself is important for the wellbeing of your intimate relationship #healthymarriage #selfdevelopment #empowerment

16.01.2022 For some reason this photo, like Easter, speaks to me of new beginnings, death and resurrection or the old passing away to make room for the new. I personally love symbolical moments. For me the week leading up to Easter has been just that. Lots of self reflection and assessment. Renewed commitments to plans and goals. The resolute decision to continue and push through even though there is only small evidence of external success. The decision to surround myself with those who will spur me on to be my best. I know that internally I am not the same person that began 2019. Yesterday I took a moment to celebrate and thank God for the changes and growth within. I cant help smiling and wondering what the new me will be like at Easter 2020. As you reflect on the past four months, what are your old giving way to new experiences?

16.01.2022 This extends to our relationships. Be intentional. #healthymarriage #mindfulness #empowerment #mindset #empowerment

16.01.2022 The quality of our thoughts determine the quality of our relationships #mindfulness #empowerment #selfdevelopment #law of attraction #healthymarriage

13.01.2022 A day of commitment and empowerment- Elevate conference #mindset #empowerment

13.01.2022 It takes courage to seek a different way. #selfdevelopment #empowerment #healthymarriage #mindfulness

13.01.2022 #mindfulness #communication #selfdevelopment #healthymarriage

12.01.2022 Enjoying a late lunch whilst planning for the week ahead Ive reflected on the quote If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail Benjamin Franklin I believe. So often the weekend rolls in only to disappear in a flurry of catch up activities. Catch on laundry, catch up on housework, catch up with friends and family, catch up on sleep... All too soon, Monday reappears.... What will this week be like? My question to you is, what will you make of this week? To answer that with some clarity, you need to know what you are ultimately aiming at. Tied to that answer is your lifes mission and purpose...your dreams and aspirations. This week well explore some simple principles of how to live an extraordinary life. Till then, enjoy your weekend

12.01.2022 Time for a bit of self reflection in your intimate relationship Do you often find yourself correcting your partner? Or perhaps feel the need to constantly remind him, forewarn him, provide extra important information, tell him what to do, how to do it, what to wear.... Hmmm.... could this be an attempt to control? When we become so focused on controlling our partners/external environ...ment, it is most likely that we are avoiding having to deal with our own inner world. The need to control the outward is a distraction from dealing with perceived scary, difficult or fearful issues in our own lives. Truth #1 We have no control over our external environment/partner/other people. Truth#2 We have complete control over our own inner world-thoughts, feelings,actions If this resonates with you, then firstly, know that you are not alone. Seeking to control our world by controlling our partner is an all too common strategy. However it is also a killer of intimacy in a relationship. And equally as important, it is also a strategy that keeps us from correctly focusing and addressing the matters in our own lives. Hence we are unable to become all that we were created to be Photo by Catherine Ledner/Getty images #mindfulness #healthymarriage #communication #selfdevelopment See more

11.01.2022 My partner is 75% responsible for our miserable relationship!There is still hope of building a loving, intimate and thriving relationship if you will take 100% responsibility for your 25%

10.01.2022 Do you still watch sunsets together , or do you feel like the sun is setting on your relationship? Youre tired of feeling alone and unnoticed, angry at your unheard requests, tired of the vacant uh huh when youre trying to share, tired of the unspoken tension... When relationships breakdown, life hurts. We do however, have three options. 1. Leave the relationship... 2. Stay and hope for the best and try to function as normal as possible 3. Reach out and get help. It is surprising how many couples would rather opt for 1 or 2. Yet reaching out for help could be the best decision you make this year. What if you could fall in love with your spouse/partner again? Enjoy talking and sharing the days events, feel heard, valued, respected, admired... But you wont know unless you reach out for help If you would like to explore the new possibilities, pm me for the offer of a free relationship coaching session

08.01.2022 You can build your life on rock or you can build on sand. This was part of a story that equated hearing and acting to building on rock and hearing only to building on sand. It intrigued me as my theme for this quarter is Just do it now. I have also been doing studies on learning strategies. Heres my tidbit . We can take in information. I love to write notes, copious amounts of notes. We take it all into our minds which is like a big bucket. This is th...e first part of learning. The problem is that this is usually where we stop. Now we have info but we dont have the ability to articulate it because we havent broken it down, categorised it, meditated on it and made it our own. Until we do this, it is not really a part of our new thinking (new=expanded thinking/brand new, lay aside old thinking). We know that we will always act in line with our thinking. So guess what... if this new learning is not a part of us, then we wont act or we wont be able to sustain the new actions. There are other reasons why we dont act, but this is a big one. What does this have to do with relationships? Simply this. If you want to change your relationship, you must be prepared to change your THINKING through new insights and then take ACTION! In short, CHANGE HAPPENS WHEN WE CHANGE. The story of the men and their houses is a biblical story found in Luke 6:46-49 #healthy marriages #mindmatters See more

08.01.2022 I am so blessed! Yesterday We celebrated Mothers Day. As I reflect over the last 30 years, ... the highs, the lows, the laughter, the tears, the hugs, the slammed doors, the anxious moments, the many celebration moments, the dreams, the broken pieces of a dream on the floor, the many phone calls, late night conversations and the now irreverent family group messenger chat ... they have all played a role in the beautiful and close relationships I share with each of my children. As I said already, I am truly blessed The QUALITY of your life is the QUALITY of your RELATIONSHIPS T. Robbins

05.01.2022 Sacred Honour Pain Sacrifice Anguish Respect Memories Loved ones Our history

03.01.2022 You voluntarily create through habits -N.Hill What are your habits revealing?

03.01.2022 A quiet dinner after a day of cleaning and forward planning for the new week

03.01.2022 It is stated that the quality of our lives are connected to the quality of our relationships. That means that we are actively involved in the choosing and forming of our relationships. So how do we ensure that we are choosing well? It begins with the relationship that we have with ourselves. In our busy world, not many people stop to reflect on what is happening in their inner private world. It is far easier to live life on repeat and maintain the status quo.... This is not about navel gazing or chanting positive affirmations about ourselves. This is about taking deliberate time to ask some potentially life transforming questions of ourselves. It is about getting to know, love and respect who we truly are. We can only give to others that which we already possess. If you would like to explore this further or are unsure of where to begin, please take the opportunity to contact me

02.01.2022 GRATITUDE Gratitude opens our eyes and minds to what we already possess in perceived negative situations. Too often we are focused on the 'lack of' in our relationships, careers, health, finances and even in self. The more we contemplate the lack, the greater it seems to grow. The more it grows, the more negative, cynical and miserable we become.... Gratitude demands a complete change of focus. It is a focusing of our entire being (and this includes our feelings) on what we already possess. From this new state of thankfulness, our hands can now open to be able to receive more. More insight, more understanding, more opportunity, more optimism, more hope, more joy, more of what is required to face the challenges of life... As Michael Bernard states, 'Nothing new can come into your life unless you are grateful for what you already have'

02.01.2022 Part of living an extraordinary life, is living in alignment with our individual uniqueness. There are a number of facets to this uniqueness which include our particular gifts and abilities and our dreams and aspiration. With this in mind, take time to examine your life. Make sure you have a compelling vision and purpose for it. Your life is a precious gift that should not be squandered or meandered through. Know what you want it to look like. Be specific with the details. ...This is not about endless holidays and self absorption. This is about creating a life, one day at a time, filled with meaning and purpose. Finally, an extraordinary life is marked by gratitude, personal growth and contribution. Make gratitude a daily habit. Make your personal growth a regular priority. Contribute consciously and generously. Trust these brief points are helpful Heres to planning your best years yet

02.01.2022 Turning the page will take courage. A willingness to admit that your relationship is mediocre or plain miserable, and a decision to discover how to restore the fun, love, respect, and intimacy @ElanVital.Baker #healthymarriage #mindset #mindfulness #selfdevelopment

02.01.2022 There are days I want to hide from life. But today Im gonna stick my head out the window and yell, Hello world! You smell good! Funny how our Pets can be a reflection of us. When we struggle with life around us, it most often is a reflection of the struggle within us. This also holds true for our intimate relationships. The point of healing and transformation begins with a good and long look in the mirror. This is not a looking t...o tear down or berate ourselves. This is about coming to know, love and respect who we are. It is the space to deal with fears, shame and limiting beliefs. It is the space where we can heal and grow and become all that God created us to be. Always remember, we can only give that which we already possess. And if we cant give it, how can you expect it to be reciprocated?#relationshipcoach#selfdevelopment See more

02.01.2022 Date night Dinner and a movie.

01.01.2022 I went into the bank today to deposit some cash. An assistant greeted me at the door and explained that I could make the deposit at the atm outside. I explained that I needed to transfer the money to an on line bank immediately so needed to do it inside. She tried to tell me that I could still do it outside as it would still be available immediately. In the end I joined a long line inside the bank to make sure that I could have immediate access for transferring online. The...n after another similar conversation I realised that the assistant was right and I was wrong. You see I had worked in a bank many moons ago and when you deposit through the atm, you did not have access until the bank confirmed your deposit. Soooo different these days. However no matter how the assistant was trying to reassure me, my old understanding/ mindset couldnt understand her. I was still locked into the old method of banking. Why am I sharing this? I think it is a great illustration of how you can think you know but your mindset needs updating . Seek first to understand, then to be understood Covey See more