Evonne Englezos | Public figure
Evonne Englezos
Phone: +61 409 784 426
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21.01.2022 Your Love Work Your specific love work Will be different to my love work But our love work is about ... Helping us all to trust again. Whilst we are hard wired for connection (Brené Brown) Trauma, our unresolved wounds and our unmet developmental needs Means That we seek protection and safety rather than connection We all desperately want connection, But shame and our lack of understanding our own internal world means that most of us walk around in adult bodies, but our inner child is leading our lives. In this shallow and materialistic world We have been encouraged to seek Success, Wealth, Aesthetic Perfection, to tick the boxes of what life should look like, regardless of what our heart and soul need. Believing that attaining these things will bring us love, security and safety. We need more depth in connection to ourself And connection to one another. We misguidedly seek freedom in wealth, success, the ideal home, body, wedding, perceived family When freedom comes through intimacy with ALL that we are Liberation comes through relational depth, through eliminating the desire to sedate ourselves, through turning towards your pain and your past with compassion and patience. We go to war in the outside world because we are unwilling to face the war going on inside of us. We fight other countries Our fellow citizens We fight based on gender, race, sexuality, socio-economic status Until we heal the splitting inside of us (seeing everything as good or bad), we will never heal the splitting/dividing amongst us Your Love Work, means slowing down and facing the parts of you, you may not otherwise want to own. See things you may wish were not true or real. If we are ever going to experience a more loving and peaceful world, we need to feel more peace inside of us. To truly feel loved. For some individuals Your Love Work, means -no longer being passive or needless, -Learning to speak Up - Learning to say no - realising life is not always positive For others, Your Love Work means - learning to soften, - knowing when your inner bully appears that you need more connection than the distance you will create - stop intellectualising as a way to reassure yourself that you are okay and safe The world needs each of us not to achieve and succeed, but rather to connect and feel loved and supported. Ironically we will all achieve and succeed in a new quality of life, if Connection becomes the Holy Grail that we seek rather than who will be on the Fortune 500 list, or Sexiest Man/Woman list. Can you commit to Your Love Work, so that we can all start to feel differently in this world? #yourlovework
20.01.2022 How to remain resilient in a crisis
19.01.2022 Just a reminder. Because we so often forget. Stop, read it, take it in. Then repeat. #yourlovework #womeninbusiness #womeninleadership
17.01.2022 Our inner thermostat setting usually gets programmed in early childhood, before we can think for ourselves. Once programmed, this Upper Limit thermostat setting... holds us back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance, and creativity that’s rightfully ours. It shows up when we’re feeling good (or making extra money or feeling a deeper loving connection in a relationship). When we’re feeling good, we may come up against the hidden barrier of an old belief. Maybe you don't think you're good enough. Maybe you feel guilty when things go well for you. When these old beliefs clash with the positive feelings you're enjoying, the volume must be turned down on one, or the other. When the volume is turned down on your positive feelings, the old belief wins. What old beliefs are you letting win at the moment? Adapted from The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks
15.01.2022 Let's be real. We do not all have the luxury of getting to have time away, to attend silent retreats, or the freedom to sit on a mountain top to contemplate our life, to practise meditation, to master our minds. ...Continue reading
15.01.2022 A CALL TO ALL THE SISTAS We are born into an agreement... It is an unconscious agreement ... Where Women can be brilliant enough for others to notice and praise us, but not too brilliant to create discomfort in our mothers for the resentment of their own unrealised potential, and our fathers are not confronted by how amazing we are, when we stop idolising him as the all knowing man. I was deeply impacted by the passing of #RBG So sad for the loss of her So grateful for the work she did And then I was fuelled by the dread of what her passing could mean for my fellow brothers and sisters of America- which means, for all of us. Please don't reach out to me if you think this is a rant and it doesn't make you feel comfortable. It is because of this rage that I know women must stop dumbing themselves down to be palatable to others. Ladies, you know what I mean. We NEED more women in leadership. Not women who serve the patriarchy and join in keeping "their feet at our necks", but women who use their expertise for progress. We NEED women to SPEAK UP, before they think they're ready. You don't need another qualification, You need More Assertion. There are plenty of our brothers who leap when they know half of what you do. Stand Tall amazing woman. We NEED women to stop attacking their bodies and other women when they are abused and oppressed- this saps us of energy that desperately needs to be directed at institutions and industries that need to be dismantled. We NEED the men who love strong and ambitious women, to know how to support and embrace them, rather than be threatened by her Assertiveness. Our children NEED strong emotionally resilient and robust women, to change the direction of this world. Rage at the current state of this world, is not a waste or misguided, it is warranted. The patriarchy has brought us right here, where we are and the world cannot and must not continue down this road. But unless more women learn how they unconsciously misdirect their rage at themselves and their body, or towards other women, we will continue to progress at a snail's pace. RBG your passing has inspired me to stop commentating from the sidelines and throw myself deeper into the arena. Watch this space. I'd love to know if you were impacted by the passing of the great RBG? #womeninleadership
11.01.2022 Get a Cuppa or Wine- It's a bit of a read. Almost feels like I'm re-introducing myself. Evonne Englezos- Your Love Work Yesterday I woke up at 5am, I meditated for an hour then got up to do some Yin yoga. Specifically yin yoga for Anger, grief and resentment. As I neared the end of my hour practise Matthew, my five and a half year old bundle of love, joined me in the room. ...Continue reading
09.01.2022 Do you truly listen to yourself??? Stay with me... the music and this fabulous DJ are part of this story. Last night, at 1.00 am I got what felt like a tap on my shoulder. I woke up, rolled over, my wife was sleeping-nope it wasn't her. I tried to roll back over and go to sleep. ... Again, Tap tap tap. And I thought Okay, okay, I get it. Time to get up. I had no idea why... but I listened. You see I have a spirit guide. Yep, an energy that taps me. For the longest time I thought it was muscle spasms. But last year a woman with highly spiritual powers said to me, you have a guide that taps you, but says you don't listen. So, I've really started to pay attention. Last night, I woke up and this amazing DJ Millie Milz Vega who lives in the US messaged me within 5 minutes of me getting up. We ended up having a live conversation. I'd asked her a question a few days ago after listening to this amazing recording. Why is this important. Well, since I was a little girl, I wanted to be a DJ. I dreamed of playing to massive crowds in Ibiza, the Greek islands or even Wembley Stadium. It was always house music that called me. My parents did not approve of such a dream - it's just not what "good greek girls" do. Although, I suspect they would have preferred me become a DJ to marrying a woman... (insert cheeky laugh) Over the last month, I've been listening to more house music, sometimes I find myself wondering what it would be like to combine my love of music (deejay) with my love for helping people develop the awareness that creates transformation. In our conversation in the middle of the night, Dj Millie Milz Vega showed me what equipment to start out with, she encouraged me to just start with the music I love, to do it for myself. She told me she started when she was 32, I'm now 40. We got to talk a little about ourselves and I was so grateful for the conversation, for the encouragement and the time. But you see, I NEVER would have had that conversation if I didn't listen to the tap on my shoulder. Have you ever listened to the quiet voice, or a tap on your shoulder (some kind of guide) without knowing why, can you just follow the signs??? Do yourself a favour, turn up the speakers, press play and dance away. https://www.facebook.com/100000180237414/videos/3858322917517011/?extid=2kuvrbr9q4xQHe19
05.01.2022 Why Mental Hygiene is so important
03.01.2022 Women in Business- Ever felt screwed over by "friends or team in Biz" or "Biz Gurus??? Let's speak about how the programming from your childhood or trauma, can sabotage your business success. Read this if you have:...Continue reading
01.01.2022 Releasing psychological pressure requires going from managing stress to processing stress in the moment.
01.01.2022 I've been quiet on social media lately. This has been a conscious decision. I am aware of many businesses trying to pivot and not panic. But, there is a hell of... a lot of noise out there. More podcast, more information, more selling, more fear and panic going unnoticed, going unprocessed. Stress levels high in many and trauma majorly triggered. Some visible, some much more subtle to even notice. During the last 4 months, I am fortunate to be working with business leaders and their teams. We work on ensuring that their past does not sabotage their success in business and relationships. Covid-19 has without a doubt, brought to the surface what needs attention in individuals and in businesses. I believe we are at an important time, on an individual level and also a global level. So many times, I see coaches and personal development and business gurus say that your past does not need to determine your future. And this is absolutely true, but here's the thing, unless we address our unconscious programs (which were developed in our past), we make decisions thinking that we are making them with full awareness and don't realise that our unconscious, our programming and our past trauma is driving our thoughts, behaviours and emotions everyday. I am often shown the vulnerable parts of a person's experience, some choose to dive into the work, to address the past, so that their here and now is better. Others, know that they have a problem - can be addicted to work, to busy-ness (or business), addicted to learning, addicted to achieving, addicted to serving others, (addicted to drinking, exercise, selling ideas, addicted to being seen to have it all together) and at the core of it, it is all about keeping your armour on, avoiding the pain inside of you, driven by shame, the aim is to be "good, perfect, together, accomplished", and always, always striving to succeed. Striving to "not be lazy", to "crush it", to "Get Sh*t Done". But with all that striving to succeed they still feel empty inside. They have success, but no fulfillment. Often business owners and leaders are trying to outrun their past, thinking that achievement and accolades are assurances they are okay, they have made it. And I want to help bring more realness, more courage and more healing to this space. One of the things I know, with every fibre of my being, is that we have a generation of children in adult bodies. They need help to acknowledge how their past has impacted them, to improve their business and relationships in the here and now. And no, this doesn't mean years on end speaking about their past. But it does mean stopping for a minute and understanding what's really going on. Stop focusing on forward momentum as a mark of progress. Because I've seen how forward momentum can often lead to slamming head first into financial debt and making poor decisions. All the while business and relationships are breaking down. We read, we listen, we idolise, we celebrate those who succeed. We look to others to show us the way because they say they have done it. They have succeeded. But we need to think about this differently. Everyone has a story and that story is usually driving us in a way that may seem okay on the outside, but is not so healthy on the inside. We cannot keep allowing shame to drive our actions, because it leads to disconnect, isolation, hidden suffering, addictive behaviours, breaking down of relationships, broken spirits, mental health issues and sadly sometimes suicide. Ultimately, we need to go from personal development to relationship development. We cannot know ourselves if we are not in relationship with an other. This is why all of our "stuff" comes to the surface when we are in relationship with other people. They are there to heal us and show us what we need to heal.
