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Full Circle Counselling Echuca

Locality: Echuca, Victoria

Phone: +61 478 672 867

Address: 47 Heygarth St 3564 Echuca, VIC, Australia

Website: http://www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au

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25.01.2022 I can’t believe how not OK I was, and I didn’t even know it. It was as if I had been trying to run on gasoline, and I actually have a diesel engine.

24.01.2022 Using functional near-infrared spectroscopy, the researchers measured the couples' brain activity in their prefrontal cortexan area of the brain associated with planning, emotional regulation, and executive functions. As a control, the researchers also performed the experiment with randomly matched couples. They showed no synchronous effect in either condition; only true couples mirrored each other's minds

23.01.2022 What Is Internal Family Systems Therapy? Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to psychotherapy that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each person’s mental system. These sub-personalities consist of wounded parts and painful emotions such as anger and shame, and parts that try to control and protect the person from the pain of the wounded parts. The sub-personalities are often in conflict with each other and with one’s core Self, a ...concept that describes the confident, compassionate, whole person that is at the core of every individual. IFS focuses on healing the wounded parts and restoring mental balance and harmony by changing the dynamics that create discord among the sub-personalities and the Self. When It’s Used IFS therapy is used to treat individuals, couples, and families. It is an evidence-based approach that has been shown to be effective for treating a variety of conditions and their symptoms, such as depression, anxiety, phobias, panic, and physical health conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis, as well as improving general functioning and well-being. What to Expect IFS is talk therapy in which you work with a therapist to identify and understand the specific sub-personalities or families that make up your internal mental system. Once you identify these parts, the therapist will help you acknowledge your feelings about these suppressed emotions, learn how to release these feelings so you are freer to address the actual problem, and ultimately find more positive ways to manage conflicts on your own. The therapist may suggest certain tools to help you do this, such as relaxation exercises, visualization, keeping a journal, and creating a chart that illustrates the relationship between Self and the different parts of you. How It Works IFS was developed in the 1990s by family therapist Richard Schwartz, Ph.D., who developed the concept of an undamaged core Self that is the essence of who you are, and identified three different types of sub-personalities or families that reside within each person, in addition to the Self. These include wounded and suppressed parts called exiles, protective parts called managers, that keep the exiled parts suppressed, and other protective parts called firefighters, that distract the Self from the pain of exiled parts when they are released. Echuca's Paul Medew practices IFS on his clients at his Full Circle Counselling practice on Heygarth St Echuca. To make an appointment, email [email protected] or call the number on this link: www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au/contact.html AFTER HOURS APPOINTMENTS WELCOME to accommodate busy working individuals, couples and families.

23.01.2022 Ever get the slight feeling of de Deja vu within a relationship? As complex and mysterious as humans can be, we're also pretty predictable. Generally speaking, we're attracted to what we know and what we're familiar with. Even if that familiarity might not be a particularly healthy one from a psychological or familial perspective. If your folks were not the best at resolving conflict or even acknowledging their needs, there's a high chance you'II find yourself in a similar s...Continue reading

22.01.2022 Read the full Riv Herald interview below: Q; How many clients do you have at the moment and what is the age range? PAUL MEDEW:...Continue reading

22.01.2022 This is article has some excellent relationship advice whether you’re starting a relationship or already in one.

21.01.2022 Following Daniel Andrews announcement today we are starting to see a light at the end of the lockdown tunnel. We can safely start to reflect on the past few months, being denied the comfort and distraction of routine so many of us cling to and how it’s affected our day to day lives. We are many steps closer to life getting back to a new normal. It’s highly probable that your relationships have been tested these past few months as everyone was forced to slow down and focus on... family while adjusting to new work circumstances. You may have even had a few breakthroughs within your partnership having had extra time to talk and sort through issues that went overlooked before things slowed down. As we take steps to head back to work and social activity, don’t abandon the progress you made at home. This is an opportune time to create new ways of operating as a couple and a family and to not get caught back up in too many distractions too quickly. There’s a good chance many industries will flourish again with the easing of restrictions and business will head into high demand. Stay grounded in your relationships. Take heed of the things you learnt about each other during the quiet months and keep the gaps from widening by checking in regularly with each other. You’ve now had a rare insight into how home life looks and feels for your partner and children and where you can help. If there’s one positive that has come from Covid19 it’s that it’s forced us to sit longer than time has afforded us before in the unfamiliar. Let’s use it wisely. If you need guidance : www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au

20.01.2022 Advice from Paul Medew on surviving the changes covid19 has forced upon us. READ: https://www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au/blog

19.01.2022 Try and re-frame the restrictions as an opportunity to dip your toes into the unsupported world of tertiary life. My guess is that Year 12 students who endured COVID will be far better prepared for life than those who didn’t have it. Look at it in a positive way, and don’t forget to exercise to relieve the stress of isolation. Full Circle Counselling’s Paul Medew on getting through Year 12 under trying circumstances.... Read more:

18.01.2022 On Shame & The Online Sphere - Projection as a dual act of avoidant transference. Its a seasonal concern and one not likely to abate. We're seeing increasingly conspicuous news items, locally, addressing underlying fears of young people's exposure to a series of online attacks and more internationally, attempts at radicalisation....Continue reading

18.01.2022 Why Stalling Is Not An Option In Therapy... You’ve taken the big step and commenced counselling alone, with your partner or with family members. ... The first session can be in equal measures both confronting and relieving. Some couples arrive at the first session with an unspoken ultimatum. It’s ‘we try this’ or ‘we are over.’ It’s tricky. In order to do the work required to get the bottom of your issues as an individual, couple or family, you need to let enough time to sink in after the first session to ruminate and think things through before the next session. On the other hand, leaving too much time in between follow up appointments can be counterproductive and set your work back too far. The best practices will always encourage intense once weekly or fortnightly sessions to begin with before easing into three weekly or monthly touch up sessions. To make progress, it takes work and patience and sometimes a deep dive into thinking about your own needs, your own faults and ways you could do things to make your life and relationships work more harmoniously. Like gardens our psychology requires tending to regularly and seasonally. Like gardens sometimes gardeners have got to seek professional advice from experienced green thumbs. Like gardens, we need to weed out what’s not needed and trim the excess overgrowth so we can thrive again. At Full Circle Counselling Echuca we are mildly suspicious of the superficial Wellness Industry model that seems to want to profit from your need to get in touch with and care for yourself. Our approach is to utilise eye to eye client/Counsellor sessions to work through issues that are holding you back. To give you an understanding of what you think you might need through discussion and disclosure. And to offer support and proven results that will assist you to walk out of the session with enough tools to become the carpenter of your own life or relationship and enough skills to allow you to carve your own path. Take advantage of our Covid19 discounted rates this winter and talk to us about committing to 6/ 8 / or 10 failsafe sessions at a reduced rate so we can do our job the way it’s meant to be done, over time, and you can get the absolute most out of your time in and out of session. BOOKINGS OPEN : www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au/contact.html

17.01.2022 A compelling read below about the myriad pressures rural Australians face during times of change, It’s not a weakness to admit you need some guidance. At Full Circle Counselling Echuca we don’t talk down to our clients nor talk above them. Our Counsellors are rural/regional people too and we understand your trials, your vernacular and your social and family pressures.... We can help. All it takes is one phone call of one email to book in. Book direct if you’re short for time and just book via our one click calendar here on Facebook. Take advantage of our reduced rates over the Covid-19 periods and our after workhours sessions from 5pm-9pm BOOK : www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au READ : https://www.abc.net.au//treating-mental-health-in/10705826

17.01.2022 Who are you in the context of your family of origin? ... Were you the golden child? The black sheep? The child carer? The conflict-avoidant middle child? Carl Jung brought to light the idea of Individuation; the process of stepping into an adult role and the invocation of identity outside the boundaries and limitations of your prescribed family role. The process of individuation involves the integration or coming together of all the internalised archetypes of your identit...Continue reading

17.01.2022 ON THE PERVASIVE PRESSURE TO STAY POSITIVE... May I just precede this post with the assurance that.. It’s okay...I’m not one of those. I all too often hear of people reflecting on their past therapy sessions with others feeling worse coming out than when I went in... feeling a sense of failure after being encouraged to think positive or to practice some kind of zen based gratitude, which frankly, culturally is at odds with the overarching structure we’re messaged cons...Continue reading

16.01.2022 On the recent concerning Tiktok video:... Echuca family therapist and counsellor Paul Medew said while parents had a right to be concerned about what their children could be exposed to, he encouraged them not to overreact with fear. "A lot of kids, especially younger ones, will have no context to understand what they are seeing if they do see something. he said.... "I would encourage parents to check with their kids if they have seen anything that has made them feel upset or that they thought was strange and to allow them to express their thoughts and feelings while you offer reassurance. "As a parent your anxiety is naturally going to be felt by the child and may exacerbate any bad feelings they may have, so approach the situation calmly and rationally." The Full Circle Counselling founder said the incident could be used as a good opportunity to discuss social media dangers in general. "Social media is a reality in kids lives today and simply prohibiting it may not necessarily be the best approach," he said. "Rather, I would encourage parents to take an interest in what their kids are doing online. Educate your kids and yourself about the potential dangers of online spaces and encourage open discussion with your kids. We can't protect our kids from every unpleasant experience but, as adults, we can help kids to make sense of it in a way that leaves them feeling comforted and secure." The eSafety Commissioner is also encouraging people who encounter the content to report it to the social media platform they've seen it on. eSafety advice is to exercise discretion in any communication about this incident and encourage others to do the same. In particular, please avoid raising the issue with students who may not have heard or been exposed to it, a statement read. Read more:

14.01.2022 Simple but effective.

14.01.2022 An interesting read on the psychoemotional interior landscape. One does not have be a combat soldier, or visit a refugee camp in Syria or the Congo to encounter trauma. Trauma happens to us, our friends, our families, and our neighbors. Research by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has shown that one in five Americans was sexually molested as a child; one in four was beaten by a parent to the point of a mark being left on their body; and one in three couples en...gages in physical violence. A quarter of us grew up with alcoholic relatives, and one out of eight witnessed their mother being beaten or hit. It takes tremendous energy to keep functioning while carrying the memory of terror, and the shame of utter weakness and vulnerability. Read more:

13.01.2022 On surviving Victorias covid19 restrictions on a personal level. From the Riverine Herald article: Echuca Full Circle Counselling therapist Paul Medew said there had been a significant increase in people looking for services, particularly in the past few weeks. I think the lockdown has gone on for such a long time that people are starting to feel it in a way they hadn’t before, he said.... The lack of clarity around what is going to happen is really affecting a lot of people. Mr Medew said he had seen people with increased anxiety and depression, often caused by a lack of feeling in control. An environment like this is very unsettling for people and the everyday stresses of lockdown and people being uncertain really increases the tensions in families, he said. Mr Medew said he expected the mental health of many in the community to improve now schools had re-opened. I’m relieved that schools have gone back, I think that’s going to be helpful for a lot of people, he said. I think this experience has bought to the surface a lot of people’s feelings about their emotional wellbeing and the state of their relationships and families. Mr Medew encouraged people who were struggling with their mental health to do normal things, such as reaching out and connecting with people. I’d also advise people to avoid saturating themselves with negative social media and news, and look for the normalcy in life, he said. Remain optimistic that there is a path forward and there are supports out there. ....... If it’s time to seek professional support, contact us : APPOINTMENTS FOR COUPLES, INDIVIDUALS & FAMILIES Full Circle Counselling Echuca 47 Heygarth St Echuca 0478 672 867 BOOK NOW ONLINE : https://www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au/contact.html

13.01.2022 "People put it off, and when you're an adult most of us see autonomy as the prize; the very idea we have to ask for help can in itself feel challenging." Melissa Ferrari is a psychotherapist and counsellor in Sydney and says counselling should not be seen as the final "hail Mary". "Like most tough challenges in life, the earlier you seek help the more likely counselling will be successful." ... https://www.facebook.com/194764094549/posts/10158265105224550/?d=n

13.01.2022 Interesting read for those interested in complex relationship attachment theory: http://labs.psychology.illinois.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm

09.01.2022 Highly recommended reading and a good one to consider in terms of parenting and what children learn about relationship and gender dynamics from the roles played out in the family home... My early memories around emotional labour began when I was four and my parents divorced. At my mother’s house, I had a few chores, but my food was deliciously cooked, my clothes were clean and folded, and the bathrooms were always spotless, no thanks to me. At my dad’s house, chores were mor...e of the man chore variety, such as gardening and washing cars. In either house, the lion’s share of domestic housework fell to my mother or stepmother. Neither of whom demanded more from me, my father or stepfather. This cultural modelling of mothers, grandmothers and our friends’ mothers all carrying the burdens of most domestic house duties has long-lasting effects. It has resulted in men in my general age range (I’m 41) entering marriage with the belief that their wives will manage the same tasks that they watched their mothers perform growing up. However, a husband or co-parenting father unable or unwilling to participate actively, mindfully, competently in the business of childcare will quickly become like a second child. Someone mum needs to take care of too. Sexless marriages don’t just result from the loss of physical attraction it’s the loss of emotional intimacy because one of them begins to feel as if they’re married to one of their kids. There may be examples of couples rekindling passion once this begrudging parent-child dynamic has set in, but I’ve never seen it. I remember my wife often saying how exhausting it was for her to have to tell me what to do all the time. I always reasoned: If you just tell me what you want me to do, I’ll gladly do it. But she didn’t want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner, and she wanted me to apply all of my intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household, to doing the work of seeing and taking stock of all that must be done in order for our home life to function. READ MORE: https://apple.news/AhKWnHVxARZOYHvb7Y5BhJg

09.01.2022 Paul’s interview on Body Shaming and Online Bullying the the Shepp News. If you can’t read the Shepp News version: Visit Full Circle Counselling ‘S Facebook page to read the full interview here : ... Full Interview; https://www.facebook.com/109338713890749/posts/306979454126673/?d=n Shepp News (paywall) https://www.sheppnews.com.au//cyberbullying-and-body-shami

08.01.2022 Healthy couples constantly make and accept bids to connect. When you turn towards those bids, you communicate to your partner that you see and value them. Try ...to notice the ways in which you and your partner respond to such bids for attention, empathy, or connection in your interactions. You may find yourself too overwhelmed to respond with High Energy responses all the time: let them be your ultimate goal, not an expectation placed on either partner. Read more about the power of bids and how to respond to them on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/39UEOTS

08.01.2022 AREAS OF PRACTICE -Parenting -Family Crisis -Men’s Mental Health Issues -Self-improvement and Personal Growth... -Identity, Values, Meaning and Purpose -Self-improvement and Personal Growth -Depression and stress -Sexuality -Generalised Anxiety -Social Anxiety -Panic Attacks -Obsessive Compulsive Disorder -Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) -Complex and Childhood Trauma -Substance Abuse & Dependence -Anger Management -Grief, loss & bereavement -Relationship and interpersonal issues MORE THAN JUST COUPLE’S COUNSELLING, FULL CIRCLE OFFERS IN DEPTH SUPPORT IN THE AFOREMENTIONED AREAS. ABOUT THE THERAPIST Principal Therapist at Full Circle is Paul I. Medew. He primarily works with couples, families, individuals (adolescents and adults) in a counselling capacity. He is particularly attuned to working with people wanting to explore purpose and develop better relationship harmony in their lives, both with others and self. Read More: www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au

08.01.2022 the person we choose is not nearly as important as the relationship we build

08.01.2022 FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS Feelings give us information, and they can move us to action, but no matter how powerful they are, they’re not facts. You can feel like the worst person in the world. You can feel like taking care of everybody else is the best you can do. You can feel like you’re not worth anything. You can even feel like you’re a human failure, and as powerful as that feeling is, it doesn’t make it true. https://elemental.medium.com/my-therapist-says-feelings-are

07.01.2022 A note on bookings: For the time being please contact me via my website www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au as we are experiencing difficulties with Facebook. Many thanks... Paul Medew See more

07.01.2022 That magic ratio is 5 to 1. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy partnership has five (or more) positive interactions.

07.01.2022 Full Circle Counselling is offering payment plans and discounts for those affected by covid. Book via our website www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au

05.01.2022 You don’t have to be in crisis to benefit from counselling. Relationship tune ups can be immensely beneficial for couples and families in terms of ironing out relationship creases, dealing with nagging issues you’ve both politely avoided for too long or learning to reconnect outside the daily demands of a busy family life. Understanding the recurring patterns in a relationship allows you to manage things that arise in a much more informed and supportive manner, says Paul M...edew, practice founder. You’d be surprised by how helpful even a few sessions can be. And let’s face it, it’s cheaper than divorce. On that note, if you’re recently divorced or dealing with any personal or family issue, we’re here to help you too. Check appointment availability on our website : www.fullcirclecounselling.com.au

05.01.2022 From Campaspe Eyewatch Police Services While we continue to grapple with the challenges presented by coronavirus (COVID-19) and social distancing, we know victims of family violence may be in a situation that makes it harder to reach out for support. safe steps Family Violence Response Centre offer confidential 24/7 online support and can provide advice about safety planning and emergency accommodation to keep victims safe from family violence. ... For consultation with a family violence crisis specialist email [email protected], or call 1800 015 188 if it is safe to do so. If you require police assistance, please call Triple Zero (000) You can contact either of these services on a victim’s behalf. Victims can also apply for a Family Violence Intervention Order online through the Magistrates’ Court of Victoria https://bit.ly/311dWiV #ThereIsNoExcuse

03.01.2022 When making important decisions, we like to think that humans assess risks rationally, that people weigh the pros and cons of a situation to come to a sensible conclusion. In reality, emotions, particularly fears and desires, play an outsize role in decision-making, and typically we go with our initial gut reaction. What’s more, the brain plays a host of tricks, called cognitive biases, to further convince us that our emotionally led decision is the right one...

01.01.2022 Toxic Silence In Relationships... The cold shoulder or silent treatment is a commonly used non verbal form of communication during a disagreement or misunderstanding in a relationship. The good news is, if it’s designed to hurt or scold your partner, it works. ...Continue reading