Healthy Relationships and Psychology in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia | Therapist

Healthy Relationships and Psychology

Locality: Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

Phone: +61 7 3063 3220

Address: Level 1/16 McDougall Street 4064 Brisbane, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.relationshipsandpsych.com.au

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22.01.2022 Tid bit o’ wisdom from Couple’s therapy #2 Who controls the money??? It’s often observed in relationship therapy that one person makes all the decisions and does all the ‘heavy lifting’ when it comes to finances. While it is OK for one person to do most of the practical work when it comes to paying bills at the post office or logging on to internet banking, a couple is destined for conflict if one person makes the decisions on what the financial goals should be more broadly.... Why? Well, when one person makes all the decisions on financial matters it often leaves their partner feeling resentful that they have little or no say in the big financial issues such as where to holiday or whether to buy a new car. For the person who makes the big decisions, they often feel as if they are left with the excessive burden of making all the important decisions. So, when one person does most or all of the financial decision making in an intimate relationship both people experience unfairness. Generally, it is best if couples have regular chats about the ‘big’ decisions on financial matters and find some way of making these as joint decisions. If this is not happening in your relationship and you can’t find a FAIR way forward, it may be time to seek a relationships expert for guidance on how to achieve a better distribution of financial decision making in your relationship.

18.01.2022 COVID-19 Yes, Healthy Relationships and Psychology is currently conducting face to face therapy sessions. In order to keep our staff and clients safe, we kindly remind patients to wear a mask to their sessions and we have social distancing practices in place in our waiting area. We are able to practice social distancing in the offices and masks can be removed in your counselling session.

12.01.2022 Why wait? Did you know that only 1 in 10 individuals or couple's attend psychological counselling when they experience clinically significant levels of distress? For couple's, toxic cycle's of conflict can form within 12 months of their relationship commencing. The longer the couple experiences difficulties with effective negotiation the more deeply conflict becomes entrenched. Don't let your relationship become a statistic, seek help today and save your relationship!

12.01.2022 There's no moral story to this post, but as someone who dislikes Americanisms creeping into the Aussie lexicon, I just like it ;-)

09.01.2022 Self-care plays an essential role in mental health. Depression is very often maintained by a lack of engagement in meaningful engagements or activities that are just 'fun'. Take time out each week for some solitude, exercise and to do nothing. What do you REALLY enjoy? Find it, do it often. You deserve it, and you'll feel better for it...

09.01.2022 Guard your mind, don't let pessimism or cynicism from others limit you. Buddha said: "What we think we become" - we are the ones that write our own destiny!

09.01.2022 Do you have difficulties with anger? Ever said something in the heat of the moment that you deeply regretted later? Ever wondered what really drives the intensity of how you feel? Anger management difficulties are more common that you might realise and can effect everyone in all walks of life: work, intimate relationships and friendships. Healthy Relationships and Psychology psychologist's can help you unpack the deeper concerns that might drive your anger and help you regain some control over how you feel and how you manage conflict - creating better conflict management and negotiation.

08.01.2022 One of the most prized outcomes of the hard work and bravery of attending therapy is enlightenment. What we think is what we become!

06.01.2022 A taster of therapy: Ever wondered what psychological therapy and counselling is all about? Here's a recommended 'taster' to see what therapy can cover. The book is called Reinventing Your Life and it's a classic. It introduces the reader to 'life traps' - recurrent patterns of self-defeating belief's and behaviours that originate in a person's childhood, which serves to keep the person limited from achieving success in multiple areas of life and relationships. It's a recommended read to see what more you could explore in therapy...

05.01.2022 Why wait? Did you know that only 1 in 10 people with significant levels of emotional distress or mental health concerns actually seek help from their GP or psychologist? And when it comes to depression, 1 in 4 people will experience significant levels of low mood (such that it significantly effects their quality of life) at some stage in their lives? The good news is there is a MOUNTAIN of evidence showing that depression, anxiety and other conditions are treatable - so why wait? If you are struggling, book today to have a talk with your GP about the merits of a referral to a psychologist, the faster you start the faster things will improve!

02.01.2022 What is Emotion Focussed Therapy (EFT)? EFT is a therapy approach originally developed by Susan Johnson in Canada. It has been exported all over the world and now has more than 30-years of clinical research supporting it's usefulness in helping couple's create a new capacity for effective conflictive resolution. The approach analyses repeating patterns in the couple's arguments. Typically, one partner is the 'Pursuer', this is the partner most likely to raise issues of concer...n. They can be repetitive in their attempts to engage their other half and can feel increasingly frustrated if their partner does not respond (sometimes expressing intense anger or verbal abuse if they feel unheard or misunderstood for long enough). As the name implies, the 'Withdrawer' tends to be less likely to raise issues of concern to be negotiated. This can be due to a fear of conflict or a sense that it's hopeless to engage. The more they withdraw the more the Pursuer pursues - thus each party reinforces the actions of the other until an almighty clash occurs! Sounds like your or your partner? Then don't wait, seek professional counselling and put and end to the cycle once gain for all!

01.01.2022 Christopher’s observations from couple’s therapy #1: Three simple do’s and don’ts for improving communication in your relationship. 1/ Don’t try to discuss difficult issues after work or after a long day as the primary carer for little kids at home. Research has found that couples are most likely to argue in an unhealthy manner as soon as the couple return home in the afternoon between 5pm and 7pm. Why? Because that’s the time when you’re both tired, sore and stressed fro...m a long day at work or with the kids. Keep the important discussions for when you’re both rested, and preferably when the kids are being baby sat or at school so you can talk without interruption 2/ Slow things down if you can individuals differ in the speed with which they process information. Many clients have said to me in session that they need time to ‘process’ and think through their partner’s perspectives before they can respond constructively. Does this sound like your partner? Have there been times in the past when they have taken what you’ve said into account in a useful way but they seem to take a week to it? If so, you’re in a relationship with a ‘slow information processor’ slow the pace of your discussions down if you can (I know it’s hard when emotions are high!) and give him/her some time 3/ This one’s an obvious one, but worth mentioning. It’s OK to have an argument, but try to keep it as a debate, rather than a fight. When anger or frustration are high it can be hard not to use insults or fall into name-calling. But it’s best to walk away and come back to the issue when you’ve calmed down and you’ve got time to talk calmly. Name calling and abuse just hurts your partner and makes it even more likely they’ll respond with defensiveness and without attentiveness to what your concerns really are.