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Heart2heart Ceremonies Marriage Celebrant

Locality: Gold Coast, Queensland

Phone: +61 438 144 269

Address: 58 Cedar Creek Road Cedar Creek 4207 Gold Coast, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.heart2heartceremonies.com/

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13.01.2022 The Art & Science Of Staying In Love: My 7 Secrets To Keeping it Fresh Against all odds, and with the stress of a dozen years with 2 children, a mortgage and a ...demanding career I am very much in love with my wife. This is more than enough time and impetus for the rose-coloured glasses to come off and the honeymoon to be well an truly behind us and yet somehow this unlikely love continues to bloom and blossom, blossom and bloom. So what’s the trick I ask myself? Here are my reflections on the 7 ingredients I honestly rate. The truth is I don’t know and the whole thing makes no sense to me, but I have been attempting to understand what makes our relationship work of late so I can keep doing it. It seems to me that what we mean when we think of the state of ‘being in love’ as opposed to simply loving someone (like your friend, mother or sibling) is in many ways a kind of enchantment. When it’s fresh it is thoroughly intoxicating and our brains light up in very similar ways to what happens to people in the grips of an addiction or peaking on a substance like cocaine. The depth of trust, intimacy and connection that comes with time is of course the maturation of that process, yet we also yearn to keep the magic of that enchantment alive. It does feel like my wife and I have been choosing to hypnotise our selves into a state of love, lust and laughter for the last few years - so consciously casting the spell may be a prerequisite. A willingness to stay hypnotised is thus my first ingredient, otherwise you hypnotise yourself out of love all too easily. One of the central ingredients in the cauldron of my own intoxication seems to be playfulness. Married life is full of drudgery dishes, bills, laundry the list really is endless but in order to consistently immerse oneself in the full love bubble of a second honeymoon I find a little fun every day to be a crucial component. Playfullness is about novelty and the unexpected it’s the adult version of peekaboo and it delights and shocks us back into connection and the moment. It is the nemesis of choredom and apathy. From a neurological perspective perhaps this is because play stimulates dopamine secretion and MAO inhibition in the brain which then allows the bond-forming love molecule of oxytocin to stay around longer either way it works for us. Something sneaky happens neurochemically when we play and bonds are strengthened; play is my second crucial ingredient. Play is also the first rung on the ladder of flirtation and seduction I feel, and something Maya and I do with free abandon is to shamelessly flirt with each other every day. It's so much fun and doesn't need to 'go anywhere' other than producing a little hit of positive brain chemistry. Personally as a libidinous man I suspect I would be up for more frequent sexual encounters in a different setting but the realities of family and work mean we make do with the average cycle as it is: generally once a week, with a hot n heavy date night once a month. Although its common knowledge, I can’t recommend dedicated regular date nights highly enough. So garden variety date nights for dedicated time to connect beyond the choredom is number 3. Flirtation and little micro-doses or erotic tension also go a very long way to maintaining the polarity and keeping the spark alive. It’s all on the same continuum of playfulness in my mind and it feels like a foundation stone that our love rests solidly upon. Having our own ongoing private jokes about just about anything keeps us laughing, especially about the things that would otherwise make us cry, or lead to a fight. Sex definitely dispersed the tension that constant comprise inevitably builds and reboots the bond too - but playfulness also functions this way. We are joke-making monkeys - and that's one of the ways we stay in deep relationship. Laughter boosts serotonin and serotonin nudges oxytocin. Laughter is my fourth ‘big secret’. The other trick appears to be regular skin to skin contact in any form regardless of whether it’s a cuddle, a tickle fight, a massage or sex. From a medical perspective this is what builds the oxytocin that bonds people together so if you don’t want to bond with someone don’t rub your skin against them regularly or for long periods of time. I’ve thus become a kind of sex-god of spooning. We mammals bind skin to skin, so this is my 5th secret bio-hack. The next point that I have been able to identify is giving the gift of ‘otherness’ to your partner. By this I mean not turning them into a 3rd leg, handbag or extension of your self. Otherness is what we crave, hence the attraction to novelty, yet in relationship we tend to merge our identities in an attempt to find security. This process is stifling to everyone concerned, but the freedom of letting my wife be ‘other’ -to be free and separate - is terrifying at times. We’re all looking for that sweet spot between freedom and security, but fear seems to shift the balance towards security in my experience. We’ve used our version of an open relationship to assist in this regard for over 10 years - and with great success over all (with several off-road challenges along the way). But a structure of open or monogamous is definitely not the point, it's what happens within that structure that counts. So mostly, maintaining otherness means time apart, it means not doing some things together, it means letting your partner make decisions you disagree with, and it means dealing with any jealousy and insecurity as a sacred offering upon the shrine of your relationship. We recently did a 2 week ‘touch detox’ to re-polarise our connection after my 6 month illness last year. It was weird and tough, but it did indeed create the space to meet freshly again. So space and autonomy are my 6th ingredient. The final ingredient is old fashioned gutsy commitment. As my wife says with a twinkle in her eye, the secret to staying married is not getting a divorce. But I’m not simply referring to a commitment to sticking it out here, I mean a commitment to staying in love. It seems like we have this meme that a lot of people succumb to that says: ‘after a while the spark will go but you stay together anyway’. Fuck that. It’s not about staying together at all costs, it’s about staying alive to the magic of life, your Self and each other together. A commitment to a dynamic, polarised love is thus my 7th ingredient. There are obviously many, many other ingredients in the Art of Staying In Love from trust to communication and from radical honesty to compassionate diplomacy. There was a time when communication would have been high on my list, but these days it's less about communication and more about acceptance. If I were allowed an 8th secret, it would be acceptance: of self and other... warts and all. I’d actually love to hear your collective insights and experiences however sweet friends. Like the Art of Happiness, I believe it is a skill we can all cultivate and the more we do the better for everyone concerned. What works for you? With love to spare, Jimi PS - Thankyou baby, you're the best! (I know it's possible that gratitude is actually our number 1, but I can't re-write this now) xxx

05.01.2022 Amazing venue for an intimate wedding

04.01.2022 This is something different for your bouquets :)

04.01.2022 The groom getting his best man ready for the wedding . . . One of the best wedding photos ever!

02.01.2022 I was the lucky celebrant for the wedding of this gorgeous couple last year