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25.01.2022 I bought a livestream ticket to the 2018 Three Principles UK Conference. So this week I have been listening to my favourite 3P speakers including George and Linda Pransky and Dicken Bettinger and I always hear something new and fresh from each of them. Yesterday, I listened to Mara Olsen and Stephanie Fox talk about the 3P initiatives in Chicago and the Gaza Strip. Thanks to technology they were also able to link up with people in Chicago and the Gaza Strip and hear from th...em firsthand, how the 3P understanding is transforming their lives and the lives of others. I sat with tears running down my cheeks listening to their inspiring messages. Stephanie talked about the dozens of reports about conflict I Gaza that she has written which are now gathering dust on the shelves of the United Nations. She was in despair until she discovered the 3P understanding. This has renewed her dream of a peaceful world in her lifetime. When a member of the audience asked how this initiative would be different from all the others which have been started and foundered (many by Stephanie herself), she answered without hesitation....... Because they were all based on a misunderstanding of where the human experience comes from. So all the activities that followed on from that were on shaky ground, they had nothing to stand on. These are based on solid ground, on TRUTH. Its so rock solid that I dont mind sounding crazy by saying these things. You are going at it in a totally different way. You are going to the source of the problem which is a misunderstanding of how the mind works rather than a symptom of the misunderstanding. Conflict is a symptom of the misunderstanding. So here I am in the small country town of Briagolong, sitting at my PC being inspired by young people from all around the world talking about world peace as a real possibility in their lifetime. Wow! Just like Stephanie, I dont mind sounding crazy by saying these things. Using the Power of Thought, we create an illusion of living in separate realities. When we can see beyond that and realise who we really are, we become the solution.

25.01.2022 In my last post, I suggested that you could have a thought about a lemon and once you had that thought , you couldnt change the content of that thought, but that you have the FREEWILL to stop thinking about lemons. So here are a few little exercises... 1. Continue to think about lemons and see if you can notice any feelings associated with your thoughts of lemons.....if you dont know what a lemon is or have never tasted a lemon, you may feel curious....anything else is comi...ng from a memory you have of lemons. You may even find yourself remembering the taste of a lemon. The reality is that all you are experiencing in the moment is a thought about a lemon. 2. Now try your best to STOP thinking about a lemon. Use whatever technique you like and really focus on NOT thinking about a lemon. I hope that you will find that the harder you try to NOT think about a lemon, what actually happens is that you get a whole story forming in your head which has lemons as a key aspect. 3. Now do something that you enjoy or something that requires some concentration. You may find that the lemon thoughts disappear completely or they may pop back in particularly if you are checking out what is happening with your thinking And the above is what happens when we try to get rid of thoughts or feelings that we dont like, such as anxiety or depression. Quite often I will experience feelings that I dont like and NOT know what thoughts have created those feelings. If I try to work out what thoughts have created those feelings, the feelings tend to intensify....Why? Because once again I am focussing and putting energy into the things that I dont want. Having an anxious or fearful thought is normal and just being human, its when we believe that thought is reality that we have problems. Having FREEWILL to DROP thoughts means just that.....when you DROP something you just LET GO of it. So, just as you would open your hand to drop something, I am suggesting that you just open your mind to drop a thought. We are designed for this to happen. E.g. in a crisis many people experience real clarity (no thought) and time seems to slow down. More and faster thinking about something is NOT helpful and is usually exhausting. I used to spend a lot of time and energy thinking and talking about things or situations that I didnt like. Which of course, didnt change anything! Thoughts will flow and change if you just let them.....just like waves on the ocean or clouds in the sky and there will be space for MIND (the creative intelligence behind life) to bring you new thoughts and wisdom. Syd Banks: If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world

24.01.2022 I heard an interesting question today on a 3P training program....where do you experience life? My mind actually went blank but of course that is where we experience life...in our heads. Whatever is going on in our heads is what we are experiencing which is why I can be sitting watching TV but nothing is registering, my thinking has taken me somewhere else. We have various terms to cover this such as ..lost in thought...day dreaming, to name two. When we think about future ...events which we think will be pleasurable, we feel excited or if we think that they may be difficult or unpleasant, we feel anxious. We can even have different thoughts and therefore feelings about the same future event. All that is ever happening is that our thoughts are changing which has nothing to do with the future event. E.g. we can feel excited about going on holiday, then next moment feeling anxious about all the planning thats involved. Being anxious about a future event is actually detrimental to planning it, as our IQ is reduced when we feel anxious. In fact feeling stressed and anxious doesnt help you to do anything. Although the actual thoughts may not be obvious, when you realise that this type of feeling is self created by your thoughts, you can just wait for them to pass. This doesnt mean try to get rid of them, just notice them and the human psychological system is designed to self correct. This is where noticing our feelings can be very helpful in reminding us that our thoughts arent real and that we have free will to choose how we react to them. As I heard on the same training program that I mentioned at the start of this post... We are designed for success.....and have the freewill to screw it up!

23.01.2022 One of the things I have learned since realising the truth of the Three Principles (The Universal Power of Mind, Consciousness and Thought), is that unless I am thinking about an issue it doesnt actually exist in my consciousness AND thinking about it doesnt change it. E.g. you dont feel bills or your bank balance. The above statement is so simple that what it means in your day to day life doesnt really come across. Eckhart Tolle tries to explain the above by talking abou...t the NOW but although I sort of understood it after reading his books, it wasnt until I was aware of the Universal Power of Thought, that I realised how much time I was spending thinking about issues and consequently creating unpleasant feelings and draining my energy without changing anything! Once a thought comes into your head, you cant change it...e.g. if you think of a lemon, you have thought of a lemon, that thought passes and you may think of another thought but it doesnt change the fact that you thought of a lemon. You may choose to keep thinking of lemons but you dont have to. Thats where FREEWILL comes in. The lemon thought may come back and again, you can just let it pass through and wait for a different thought. AND the above is TRUE for any thought. When you see and understand this, you realise that you are the observer of your thoughts, you are NOT your thoughts. If you think anxious thoughts you will have anxious feelings. If you think happy thoughts you will have happy feelings. AND.... a lot of us develop habitual thinking......and say things like ....I am depressed....I am a worrier....I am an optimist.......I have no confidence....I am a coward....almost as though it was genetic. Sometimes it looks that way as we do tend to copy our parents or start to look at life the way they did and it is just habits of thinking which are not permanent. AND just as you are NOT your THOUGHTS, you are NOT your FEELINGS. Bad stuff happens in this world and this understanding does not stop bad things happening in your life but when you dont THINK about it, you dont FEEL it. If you fill your head up with negative thoughts you miss the opportunity of allowing positive thoughts into your experience. Even in the midst a dramatic event, you may suddenly see a baby laughing or a puppy playing and smile. Filling your head up with worrying thoughts about your finances or telling yourself to think positive, will not allow the space for new ideas to come through. So when you are feeling down, look for a place of NO THOUGHT in your head and see what else shows up. As Syd Banks repeatedly said...Happiness is one thought away.

22.01.2022 On Sunday 25th Feb, I drove to the Bairnsdale market with my little dog Reggie. We had a lovely time. People fussed over Reggie and I bought some lovely plants at a very reasonable price. I stopped for a cup of tea at Lindenow on the way home and sat thinking how wonderful life is. Fast forward two weeks and there have been a few ups and downs in my life but nothing major and I am feeling tired and down. Fortunately, I understand that my feeling comes from my thinking and a...lthough knowing this wasnt changing how I felt in the present moment, I trusted that it was just some negative thoughts that were running in my mind even although I didnt know what specific thoughts were there. Over the weekend, I had watched a couple of good films and been for an enjoyable bike ride with friends but the low level feeling was there in the background. When I wasnt doing something that took my attention, I noticed that I seemed to be seeing everything that needed to be done like housework or gardening or ...or.... and this added to my low mood. Knowing that I cant control my thoughts, I could see this negative thinking and just kept going about my day as best as I could. I went to bed without doing anything special and when I woke up about 5.30am, my mind was clear and I felt peaceful and calm. I just lay there enjoying the feeling until it was time to get up. The housework and the gardening still needs to be done but today they are just things to be done and I am feeling totally different. Why......because my mind has quieted down. I can only guess at what was going on in the background and I am pretty sure that there was some thinking about failing at everything and not enough time to get everything done and by just noticing how I was feeling that thinking ran out of steam. Think of your mind as a TV. TV will have some programs that you like and some that you dont like. The TV is working normally even when it is showing programs that you dont like. You can try changing the channel but quite often, you just have to wait for something that you like to come on. We humans are amazing "thinking" beings.

22.01.2022 I grew up with the words ...I worry about you being said by my mother whenever I told her that I was off on another adventure or even something as simple as w...hen I went off to take part in some sporting activity. It never actually stopped me doing those things but it did make me feel guilty and that somehow by doing those things I was intentionally upsetting her. My father even said to me as I was about to embark on my new career in London....Your mothers really proud of you and wants you to go but she worries about you. Im pretty sure it was their way of telling me how much they loved me. So for that reason, although it didnt make me feel good, I experienced worrying as something you should do if you really cared about a person or if there was something you wanted to achieve. My mother was ALWAYS worried about money. Given that her father was killed in WWI and her mother brought her two daughters up single-handedly in Glasgow, Scotland between the two World Wars, when money, food and clothing was very scarce, I never questioned that this was how things should be. So I worried about failing exams, about not having enough money, about not getting a good job, about not winning the race, about upsetting my parents etc etc. It wasnt until the late nineties that a course I was attending talked about, the Circle of Influence and the Circle of Concern, highlighting that stressing over things that you have no control over, i.e. that are outside your circle of influence is totally pointless. I suddenly saw the truth in what was being said. So I still had initial feelings of anxiety (habitual thinking) about my pension when in 2008 the Global Financial Crisis happened but they soon gave way to the simple realisation that I had absolutely no control over what was happening in the world share market. Learning about the 3P in 2016, i.e. that its our thoughts that create our feelings created another step change in my relationship with worrying but like all habits it was still very present in my life. It is only today when I heard Michael Neill ask what is the benefit of worrying? and suggested that many people thought erroneously, that it was a motivational tool that I uncovered MY belief that if I really cared about someone or something then I should worry about them or it. In other words if a negative thought about what may or may not happen came into my consciousness about the person or thing, I would see it as potentially real and more often than not, I would unconsciously add to it and intensify the feelings of negativity and stress. Now that I have uncovered this unconscious belief, time will tell what difference it will make in my life. Im actually sitting with a smile on my face as I try and make myself worry about the people I love. Life happens and we experience it via the Power of Thought. So when something happens that I think is sad, I will feel sad and so on but..... Im hoping that my habit of creating worrying thoughts about what may or may not be happening now or in the future, will be something that happened in the past :-)

22.01.2022 In this short video Linda Pransky talks about our potential to end the suffering from traumatic experiences. I think she is amazing. https://binged.it/2VbbUZr

21.01.2022 I expected this to be a difficult time of year for me as it was June last year that my husband Rays heart failed and he died very suddenly and unexpectedly. It... has turned out to be a time of healing. The first important date was his birthday, 21st June. Last year he was in hospital recovering from a procedure to have a stent inserted. Normally we would go out to dinner for our birthdays. This year I stayed home with my dogs. Initially it felt tough but I was gentle with myself, allowed some tears and just let thoughts/ memories pass through without resistance and soon realised that I was actually ok. Ray collapsed on the afternoon of the 26th June, 2018. This year the 26th June was a Wednesday, the day after I had had a delicate procedure, under general anaesthetic, to improve the hearing in my right ear. I was driven home from Melbourne by a friend and spent the evening with my dogs. There were no tears, just a sense peace. By the weekend, something else had shifted and I found myself feeling spacious and alive, no longer feeling as if part of me was missing. Even the critic in my head, who is normally reminding me of all the things that I should be doing or preparing, was silent. Over the past few weeks, I have been listening to Drs Bill and Linda Pettits seminar Never Broken, Nothing Lacking and the presentations at this years 3PUK conference. These 3PUK speakers have included, Elsie Spittle, Bill and Linda Pettit, and Dicken Bettinger all of whom seemed to be speaking directly to me. As I listened to each one, they seemed to touch something inside of me and almost without me noticing, thoughts of loneliness and loss have receded like waves on the ocean and by last weekend I was feeling like the ocean. So here I am, more than a week later and I am still able to be in touch the calmness and stillness. It disappeared for a short time at 7.15am on Sunday morning when my barking dogs alerted me to the fact that my Doberman pup, was living up to his name Racer, racing around my neighbours paddocks. I went outside in my dressing gown and slippers and tried calling him. I soon realised that was pointless, he was having a ball. He disappeared amongst the trees and bushes and then reappeared to then disappear again behind my neighbours house and sheds. A black flash in full flight enjoying the imaginary chase. Historically, by this time I would be panicking, imagining all sorts of dire outcomes. This time the thoughts came and went and I started looking for how he had escaped. I found the gap and decided how to close it off. By the time that I had done this, he was back panting and happy but unsure how to get back through the fence. I managed to get him to follow me along the fence line to the gate and get him back onto my property. So, no harm don. . I know that it could have ended in tears but it didnt and after it was over, I didnt entertain any black thoughts about what horrible things might have happened. Once he was back inside, I went back to bed and went back to sleep. This is just another indication of how much my reactions to potentially stressful situations have changed now that I understand where my experience is coming from....NOT the situation but from my thinking about the situation. So all year, despite my understanding of where my experience was coming from i.e. my thinking, it felt like the loneliness was coming from the fact that Ray was no longer with me. That has changed and I feel whole again and when Ray is in my thoughts, I feel something light up inside of me. Why now, a year later? I dont know, I didnt do anything to make it happen other than just being open and present while listening to the wisdom of others.

17.01.2022 The following is a post about Meditation from Dean Rees-Evans (Three Principles: Well-Being for Life). Having tried to practice meditation for years on and off myself, without experiencing any real lasting benefit, I didnt think that I could write a better explanation, so just wanted to share. Many times I have been asked why I dont meditate anymore? The answer is very simple, and this is just one example: Just back from a morning run (as I recover my health after last y...ear) and hanging laundry on the washing line, I know from experience that this mundane and everyday act contains more peace than a lifetime of sitting on cushions seeking that same peace. This is because a peaceful experience, has nothing to do with the circumstances of life, and everything to do with the state of mind I am in any given moment. Sydney Banks often said: "Life is a dream, suspended in the bounds of time, space and matter". Step outside those bounds, and you will find an ocean of endless peace waiting for you... Dean Rees-Evans I still get caught up in my thoughts about my life circumstances and my state of mind can feel like a perpetual state of anxiety and fear but I know, like Dean, that this is only a temporary state and if I just leave it alone and get on with living and doing the mundane things in life, I will soon feel a whole lot better. For me, sitting trying to meditate often made things seem a whole lot worse.

17.01.2022 What reaction do you have to words such as Spiritual, God, Divine.....and if I said....We are spiritual beings having a human experience...... what is your reaction to that????? I encourage you to just pause.... and notice what you are feeling. Are you curious and want to read on or do you have a feeling that makes you totally disinterested in what comes next? If its the latter then I would ask you to consider what THOUGHT has evoked such a strong reaction. Several years ...Continue reading

17.01.2022 Can you remember learning to walk? I know that I cant. I also dont recall being taught to walk. Hearing about my grand nieces and nephew learning to walk, it sounds like they have all done it in their own time and their own way. In fact one story I heard was that one of my grand nieces started dancing before she walked unaided. She heard some music and stood up and started keeping time to it. The one thing that they all have in common is that they have a go, fall down and t...Continue reading

13.01.2022 I often wonder how many patterns of thought and consequent behaviour I have. Sometimes I see them and even though I see them, I still do them. One of my patterns is thinking too much or over analysing. The first time that I was told that I think too much was when I was having a reflexology session in a Health Spa in London in 2001. It was my first reflexology treatment and it was being given by a tiny Asian girl. She said it in such a matter of fact tone of voice, that at... first it didnt sink in. Then when I thought about it :-) I smiled and thought it was a bit of a ridiculous thing to say. I tried to discount it but even at that time something in me knew that this was true. However when you have spent your life valuing your ability to analyse and solve problems by using your intellect and your job has been to manage people who build computer systems, accepting such a statement was difficult but it stayed with me. I found myself watching my thoughts and trying to see how fast I could think. I also noticed that while I was thinking through a problem I also seemed to have an auto pilot. This is quite common as many people know that when they are driving, sometimes they arrive at a destination and have no idea how they got there...who was driving????? So I became aware that there seemed to be two sorts of intelligence, one that was in my head and something else. So, one of my patterns is thinking too much which can be exhausting and being honest, doesnt actually change what is happening even if I like to think that it does. Even before I learned about the Three Principles, I had realised that thinking and worrying about something that I had no control over was a pointless and unhealthy exercise. E.g. the stock market or the weather. I am getting much better at catching myself over thinking. It isnt always obvious but a tell-tale sign is a feeling of tension in my shoulders. When I notice this tension, I usually try to do something simple and practical liking sweeping or dusting while being very present to the task. The only problem with this approach is that I start noticing all the sweeping and dusting that needs to be done :-(. . I am also noticing that thinking about the negative aspects of a situation can lead to inaction due to losing sight of why it would be good to do something in the first place. It can also create a mountain out of a molehill. I have been learning to crochet and have noticed that I have been doing both of these in relation to this which has resulted in a bit of stop start learning curve. Because thought is powerful and invisible, our thoughts and problems look real.......and we just forget that all that we are ever experiencing is our thoughts in the moment.

12.01.2022 When you understand how your mind works, life still happens but you "SEE" it differently and "KNOW" that you will be ok.

12.01.2022 I had a discussion this week about the difference between knowing something is true and believing that something is true. This is helpful to having a deeper understanding of the Three Principles. In 2016, when I read in a book that my thinking is creating my feelings, something shifted inside of me. The next few weeks were like a roller coaster of emotions. It was like I was under attack from all sorts of thoughts and consequently feelings. The best way I can describe it, i...s to refer to it as an emotional storm. It was like the genie coming out of the bottle. Looking back it was as if I had bottled up lots of feelings and suddenly I had found the freedom to feel everything. I did my best to rationalise what was happening using my thinking but was aware that although nothing in my circumstances had changed, I was seeing life very differently. I realised that one minute, I could feel really angry and the next I could be feeling happy, if I just stopped thinking about what had made me angry. I once noticed that I was really angry on someone elses behalf for a couple of days and then met them again and they were perfectly happy while I was still angry! In other words their thinking had moved on while I was still focussing on the unfairness of the situation. Did my thinking change the situation.....no.... but I had a belief that I should be doing something to fix the situation and kept thinking about it. In other words, I was using the Power of Thought to create my angry feelings. This is just one example of how I came to realise and KNOW that I create my beliefs and experience of life through the principles of MIND, CONSCIOUSNESS and THOUGHT. Just as I KNOW that when I drop something it will fall to the ground because of GRAVITY and that the SUN is always there behind the clouds. So to conclude, I KNOW that the 3P is what is creating my experience of life because I have realised it or seen it or whatever words you care to use. Its not something that I have made up or have any doubt about. I often forget and believe that something out there is making me feel the way I do but as soon as I remember, I usually find myself laughing. And when I listen to other peoples stories about how this KNOWING has helped them to function better in extremely difficult circumstances, I experience a real sense of peace and gratefulness that there is an intelligence behind life which will guide us if we just let it.

10.01.2022 This is one of my favorite speakers, Dicken Bettinger being interviewed about Worry and Anxiety. He is talking about how understanding where your feelings really come from can be very practical in dealing with the current anxiety about COVID 19. He stresses that this is not denying that there is a pandemic and that being human he also feels concern but it does not consume him. Find a quiet space and enjoy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLAKIyHBHvQ

09.01.2022 Realising Innocence in Others Today I read an email from Barbara Patterson which prompted this post. Barbara is a successful Business Coach and Consultant. Her work is based on the Three Principles and in the email she was talking about how she now sees people freshly each time she meets them. She recognised that she has changed since learning about the Three Principles so it made sense that others have changed too. Her first example was how she became aware that although s...he loved and admired her mother, she had fixed ideas about her. By letting go of her opinions of her mother and seeing her freshly each time they meet, their relationship has deepened. She has seen this happen in business with amazing results and between couples who were having relationship issues. I can see and understand all of the things that she talks about but I just wanted to share that this year I have experienced relationships where people I thought that I knew well have turned against me. So almost the opposite of what Barb is talking about but......this has made me see how much I have changed since learning of the 3P. With two people in particular, they have openly accused me of causing their distress and unhappiness. Prior to my 3P understanding, I would have been really upset and hurt wondering what on earth I had done to cause such bitterness in another person. Now I can see that I dont have the power to make anyone feel anything just as they dont have the power to make me feel anything. We all work the same way and are living in the feeling of our thinking. I can still get caught up in my thinking and feel hurt by unkind words but soon remember that the hurt feeling is coming from my own thoughts and beliefs. I know that my own equilibrium and well being will soon be restored and as my understanding has deepened, I now feel compassion for the other person. This is because I understand that the other person innocently believes that I have caused their painful feelings. I have realised that there is no point in trying to defend myself trying to prove that I am not the cause and there is absolutely no point in trying to fix them or the situation.....because there is NOTHING to fix! They are in perfect working order, they just dont understand that their feelings are coming from their thinking, NOT from anything outside of themselves. This doesnt mean that there are no bad or unpleasant circumstances in life but with this understanding your own wisdom will help you deal with whatever shows up in your life. Feeling and sending love and compassion and showing kindness is often the best that you can do.

08.01.2022 Here is a link to a free webinar with one of my favorite 3Principles speakers, Judy Sedgeman. She has a light-hearted way of sharing her story that I find captivating. Enjoy. https://youtu.be/kbrZo4QjyRw

08.01.2022 I love listening to Dicken Bettinger.

03.01.2022 Just loved this cartoon. Im having an amazing clear out on the Pranskys Practitioner Retreat.

03.01.2022 My last post was about confidence, this one is about another natural quality that we all have but often lose sight of.....resilience. My business name is Conscious Resilience. What I mean by that is that no matter what circumstances are happening in your life, you are aware(conscious) that you will always have access to your inner wisdom and well-being when your thinking quiets down. All too often we forget and become stuck in our thinking about what has happened, feeling l...ike a victim and unable to connect with our innate wisdom. My Doberman, Reba is a classic example of how we can learn from animals. The following is also an example of when an understanding of how our minds work (the Three Principles), helped me to listen from that quiet space inside, enabling me to make a difficult decision. Reba had been limping quite badly so we took her to the vet where she was diagnosed with an osteo sarcoma in her back right leg on Friday 2nd February. We were devastated as the vet explained that if we did nothing, our beautiful free spirited dog would probably die in two or three months or the leg would break within that timeframe and she would be in great pain. The vets considered opinion was that the best option for her would be to amputate the leg and start a course of chemotherapy. My husband and I were both in an emotional storm as neither of us could bear to imagine amputating one of her legs. Fortunately by the next day, my thinking had quieted down and I had a calm conversation with our vet. I decided that I wanted to give her the best chance to be as happy and pain free as she could be, for what remained of her life. When I explained this to my husband he agreed that amputation and chemotherapy was the best that we could do for her. Following biopsies, her leg was amputated on Friday the 9th February. By the afternoon of Saturday 10th February she was running around the garden on three legs. We had to wait two weeks before starting chemotherapy on Friday, 23rd February. This morning, Sunday 25th February, she was running around our paddock as happy and carefree as she was on four legs. She wasnt thinking, poor me, I only have three legs and am receiving chemotherapy for an aggressive cancer. Her natural resilience was to the fore and she was living in the moment and enjoying her life to the full. We still have months of chemotherapy to get through but watching her this morning, I am hoping that she will be this happy and carefree for a long time to come.

03.01.2022 Since learning about the 3P in 2016, I have felt completely different - lighter and more relaxed. I have been able to see that my thinking was creating my feelings and that this was happening 100% of the time even if I didnt know what those thoughts were. Consequently, I stopped trying to fix my depression and just acknowledged that there would be times that I felt depressed or low or whatever word you choose to call low energy feelings and that my thoughts would naturall...Continue reading

03.01.2022 I was on a webinar with George Pransky last week and one of the participants posted the following quote by Reinhold Niebuhr. Im not sure that I fully understand it but it seems very appropriate for what is happening around the world today....hope, faith, love and forgiveness are things we all need in these uncertain times. "Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime; therefore we must be saved by hope. Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes comp...lete sense in any immediate context of history; therefore we must be saved by faith. Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore we must be saved by love. No virtuous act is quite as virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as it is from our standpoint. Therefore we must be saved by the final form of love which is forgiveness. Reinhold Niebuhr

02.01.2022 Some real wisdom from George. Please share as there is so much misunderstanding around this.

01.01.2022 I have just been re-reading George and Lindas The Relationship Handbook and came across a bit where it says something like.....we all know how to "drop" thoughts, its just that we somehow decide that some thoughts are more important and keep them running. E.g. I kept thinking and worrying about how I will cope following a hand procedure that I am scheduled for this Thursday. However if a thought about what Im having for dinner tomorrow pops into my head, I just let it go. I suddenly SAW that its all just "thought" and those anxious thoughts about my procedure wont actually change anything and it isnt even happening until Thursday. Result....the thoughts about my procedure are dropping away naturally. Maybe not quite as easily as the thought about dinner but Im feeling a lot less anxious.