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Hunter Valley Walk and Talk Therapy

Locality: Maitland, New South Wales

Phone: +61 491 087 355

Address: Nature is the address 2320 Maitland, NSW, Australia

Website: http://huntervalleywalkandtalktherapy.com.au/

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25.01.2022 If you’ve got the courage to change: Relationships that no longer bring you joy, Limiting beliefs that are holding you back, Self-sabotaging behaviours that keep you stuck,... The boundaries everyone keeps crossing The situations in life that no longer serve you.... Then make an appointment. Together, we can use your courage to create change.

21.01.2022 Most of us do not intentionally set out to harm our kids. But we can't control life. We can't control how they'll respond to what life throws at them. Sometimes they'll blame us for everything that goes wrong in their world, and we'll beat ourselves up because on some level, we believe they are right. We forget the times we walked the floors comforting them in the early hours of the morning. We forget the anxiety we felt the first time we had to rush them to a hospital.... We forget how they once delighted in us, with big gummy smiles, because they were safe with us. We forget the endless stories we read, games we played, trips to parks and playgroups. We forget the clean clothes and meals we provided. We forget how magical we tried to make every Easter, Christmas and Birthday, regardless of the means we had at our disposal. We forget all the good. But there was good. In amongst the chaos, the uncertainty, the fears, the lack of resources, the dodgy partners... You did your best. You showed up in whatever capacity you could, and you kept showing up. The problem was never lack of love for them. It was lack of love for yourself.

09.01.2022 Next best thing, for when you want to go bush, but life is getting in the way.

04.01.2022 Ways to Sit with Yourself I talk a lot about ‘sitting with it’ when it comes to hard things (as opposed to avoiding it, numbing out, or trying to cover up or de...lete the feelings. The phrase ‘sit with it’ is really bloody vague. So, I wanted to break it down with some examples. Ways to sit with tough feelings and experiences include: Observe with curiosity: Rather than bringing judgement to your experience (especially to things you can’t directly control, like your thoughts and feelings), approach them with gentle curiosity Practise accepting your physical sensations by allowing them to be there, rather than getting into a fight with them and trying to make them something other than what they are (you don’t have to like them to accept their presence) Read your feelings: Check in about the information and messages your feelings are trying to offer you. What do they have to say? Remember that ‘This too shall pass’ Validate your pain: Rather than dismiss or try to change your experience, validate the parts of you that are scared and the parts of you that are hurt. It might sound like this: ‘I can see this is hard for your right now. I acknowledge that and I also acknowledge you for not running away from this right now.’ Acknowledge unhelpful thoughts: Give your mind credit for trying to keep you safe. That doesn’t mean you listen to, or believe, everything that it says, but it does mean that you don’t put pressure on yourself to ‘just think positive’ (eye roll!) Accept your uncomfortable feelings by allowing them to be there, rather than getting into a fight with them and trying to make them something other than what they are (you don’t have to like them to accept their presence) Take calming action: drink some water; go for a walk or a gentle bike ride; plant your feet in grass or dirt and get some sunshine on your face. I hope this is helpful for the next time you show up powerfully to something that challenges you x

03.01.2022 Feelings aren't 'good' or 'bad' - it's how we interact with them that creates the misery, the joy, or the indifference. Fighting your feelings, and judging yourself for having them in the first place does nothing to move you towards a more meaningful life. Perhaps, if what you've been doing to try and 'manage' your emotions and thought processes is not actually working for you, then it might be worthwhile giving something else a go?... Try this: Next time an unwanted thought or feeling pops up, instead of dropping straight into anxiety and despair - observe it. It can't hurt you or anyone else, so just sit back and look at it for a moment. Notice how your body is feeling, where you are feeling tight, heavy, tingly, hot, cold - really focus in on what your body is experiencing. Then name the thought: "I'm having the thought that I'm really stupid and will never achieve anything in life" Don't engage as to whether or not it is true. It doesn't matter - your thoughts carry as much weight as a single feather floating to the ground. Don't judge or berate yourself for thinking the thought - it doesn't matter, it's not carved in stone - and even if it was - it would be carved in the stone - not you. Don't fight the thought - it's not there to go to battle with you - it actually thinks it's helping you out! Your mind thinks it's protecting you from failure and disappointment by putting these thoughts in our head. Notice it. Name it. Accept it. Then watch it float away, like leaves on a stream. It takes consistent practice. It takes time. And like the days of the week, it will likely come round again. But the less you hook onto it. The less you wrap yourself around it. The less distress this thought will cause you in time. I have had some weird thoughts come through my head in the past. I thought there was something terribly wrong with me. I would get caught up in the thoughts, the anxiety would sky rocket. I would become distressed. Not anymore. I still have weird thoughts from time to time, but now I just go 'oh yeah, there's that thought about....' and then I just let it do whatever it's doing, and I keep going about my day, before long, I've forgotten all about it. If you want help learning this process, get in touch, I'd love to meet with you and help you on the path to a more accepting and less distressing relationship with your mind and body.