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Jane Bond Counselling

Locality: Bairnsdale, Victoria

Phone: +61 429 966 885

Address: 315 Main St; 3875 Bairnsdale, VIC, Australia

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22.01.2022 If at times you wonder - "Who am I?" - there are some useful questions you can ask which will give you a greater understanding of yourself; a way to get to know yourself better. What is important to you? What are you passionate about? Do you have a dream? What do you love doing and being? Are you following these and therefore honouring yourself? Or are you living your life for others? What are your needs and your values and what do you stand for - what are your non negotiable...s? Do your actions align with your values; are you being the person you want to be? Your gut instincts are a great compass as to wheter you are living a life which is true to you; right for you; the authentic you. Those gut instincts will help you in following the road that is right for you, and let you know when you're off course! If you would like help exploring this more, call Jane Bond Life Coaching or Counselling. See more

20.01.2022 Have you ever noticed that when you are focussed on negative, sad or anxious feelings, it is difficult to move from that space or place. You can't just switch off your feelings. So often, your physiology joins in too, creating an even deeper downward spiral. In order to change how we are feeling, and in turn our physiology, we need to do one of two things - either change how we are thinking about the situation, our perception, or change what we are doing to deal with the situation we are in. These changes in thinking and/or doing, can put us back in the driver's seat; back in control of the situation, instead of the situation being in control of us. If you would like to learn more about this, contact Jane Bond Coaching or Counselling.

19.01.2022 Self care; why is it important? I am reminded of the words that are uttered every time one hears the safety check messages before take off in an aeroplane if the oxygen masks come down, always put your own mask on first before helping anyone else (children included). The reason for this is explained clearly unless you are receiving the oxygen you need, you will be unable to help others. However, once you are receiving a supply of oxygen, you will be in the best place to... help others. Keeping that simple survival message in mind, the same applies to our daily lives. When we give and give, but not to ourselves, our oxygen or energy supply starts to run low, if not out. If we do not pay attention to our own self care needs, and continue to push ourselves, we may even become sick - what this indicates is that if we will not give our body the care it needs, then our body will take over and demand rest one way or another!! We will actually reenergise, empower and enable ourselves when we give ourselves an ongoing healthy dose of self care on a daily basis. In effect, this is quite simply respecting and valuing our own self; our own needs. What does self care look like? For everyone it will be different, but you will know when you are not giving yourself sufficient self care you may feel exhausted; lacking in energy; run out of steam; overwhelmed; and the list goes on. Sometimes the survival basics are the most important start in self care enough regular food; rest and good sleep. What a difference these can make, especially at times of busyness and if you need to sustain being busy. When the survival basics are taken care of, sometimes self care may be about carving out pockets of time (however small) for yourself on a daily basis it may be doing nothing; reading; sitting in the sun, going for a walk; you will know what works for you, and what you enjoy. Prioritising yourself; giving yourself that much needed oxygen. Do you give yourself enough self care? See more

19.01.2022 Recently I have had some great conversations with Year 12 students who are experiencing a range of feelings and thoughts about what next? Living in rural areas also brings another layer into the equation with the possibility of leaving the family home to pursue a range of options in life. Change sees everyone responding or reacting differently, and depending on our individual needs. Those with a high survival need often feel anxious about change. If love and belonging needs... is a high priority, living at a distance from those we have a strong everyday connection with, can create challenges. For those with a high fun need, facing new adventures can be exciting. The high freedom needs group often view a move away with open arms. For those with a high power need/the high achievers, it can be a mix of looking forward to taking up opportunities, whilst sometimes nursing doubts or lacking confidence about achieving their inner high level of success bar. Understanding one’s own needs can help inform a person’s differing responses or reactions. It is also easier then to move from the range of feelings being experienced to what actions one can take in order to feel more in control of the situation. Or the other empowering choice is to think about the situation differently; changing the perception of the situation. It is also useful to take just one small doable achievable action or step at a time. That way, it is easier to avoid overwhelm and helps with forward momentum instead of feeling stuck. If you would like to learn more about taking control whilst facing new directions in life, contact Jane Bond Coaching or Counselling. See more

18.01.2022 When talking with parents, be they single or a couple, there seem to be some common themes which create angst. Parenthood is a special choice to make, and the choices involved belong wholly to the people involved. The choice to be a parent needs to be made because it is right for you, not anyone else. Parenting is a 24/7 sign on and way of life, and a responsibility. Choosing to be a parent because of other people’s expectations, or because of media pressure, are not reasons...Continue reading

17.01.2022 As many people experience family get togethers over Christmas or other such occasions, it is inevitable a range of feelings and responses and reactions occur. Often we are meeting with people who we may not see other than these family gatherings. How we respond or react to these conversations is an opportunity for us to understand and know ourselves. It is interesting to reflect and realise how many of these people seem to think they know what is best for us, and what paths w...e should be walking or taking. It can be a very human reaction to let others thoughts create questions or doubts in ourselves and the choices we are making, for a short while. However, what we can do with these perceptions or beliefs that belong to the person uttering them, is to understand that they are in fact owned by that person. Not by ourselves. By all means, if you think there is something in what the person is offering that you’d like to consider, that is a fair response. What is important to remember is that the path you are walking, is the path that you have chosen and is right for you; for all the reasons you have considered and that reflect you and your needs. No two people take an identical path; we are all unique and need to respect that, in order to fully celebrate and value our individuality; who we are, and what we bring to this world. If you are part of a couple, once again, no two couples are the same. All that matters, is that the two of you are leading the life you choose together and as individuals; not what is right for others. We can perceive family gatherings as an opportunity to share the life we are choosing; and when we hold our place both internally and externally on that, our belief in ourselves shines through and strengthens us further. See more

12.01.2022 As the new school year starts, and following the bushfires which impacted everyone, there has been much discussion as to what children and in fact all people need in terms of their well being recovery. It has not been a restful summer break in East Gippsland. For many people, it has been a time of living with one’s safe place our homes under threat. For many, the bushfires have meant losses from actual homes and property; wildlife; friends, and our sense of security. ...The constant calls for evacuating homes, and the relocation involved whilst waiting to see the results of the fire’s impact, has led to people living with ongoing high levels of adrenaline and anxiety. It has been a time of constant heightened activity, and busyness. As homes or devastation has been returned to, there has been the constant eye balling of the burnt land around us. All people, including our children, have and will respond or react differently, and over time. What is common though, as we move into a recovery phase, is a level of exhaustion. As we come down from the crisis phase, many people experience feeling weary and flat, adults and children alike. This is the result of living life over a lengthy period of time, with high levels of adrenaline, in order to deal with emergencies and threats. So how can we best address self care for healthy mental recovery for ourselves, and for our loved ones; and our children? Giving ourselves time and space to just be, is a priority. Avoiding overloading ourselves, and our children, is important; limiting commitments as much as possible. It is important to find ways to encourage and support quiet times for self; feel good times, each and every day. Relationships are key and core as we recover. Listening to each other and being there for each other makes a huge difference. Everyone will have a different perspective about the fires, and everyone’s story needs to be heard and acknowledged at a pace and in a way that is right for each individual. Child, teenager or adult. As we take the time to reconnect and spend quality and fun time with those we care about, so our Circle of Security will become strong again. Children or adults who have been especially anxious will start to relax as their feeling and sense of safety and belonging rebuilds and strengthens. It is important to talk about the bushfires in a way and at a level that your child will understand. Avoiding such conversations through a desire to protect, actually has the reverse affect, and can raise children’s anxiety levels. Children are smart and intuitive; they need to be a part of these important conversations, based on age appropriate information rather than hype. When you listen and talk with your children with honesty, this also develops trust in your relationship. If you or the people you care about are struggling with this recovery, contact us at Jane Bond Counselling on 0429966885. See more

11.01.2022 Yesterday I had an opportunity. I had just completed a lengthy post on parenthood, and when I shared it I realised my internet was not connected. Result? I lost the post! At first I experienced a range of feelings!! However, I realised that was not going to help me longer term. I also reminded myself that it is my choice to either react or respond. It is very human to react in the first instance, but what makes the difference is when one realises the power of choice; how you choose to respond to a situation and therefore stay in control, instead of letting the situation control you. Next time, thanks to an IT guru friend, I will write my posts in Word, and then copy and paste on my Facebook page!!

10.01.2022 We all have 5 needs survival, love and belonging, fun, freedom and power, and in this post I’d like to offer some thoughts about our power need. Many people think that our power need is about how much need we have to control others. However, the only person we actually can control is ourselves. When people attempt to control (or manipulate) others, this is called external control. The kind of power I am instead wanting to describe is that of internal control. People with h...Continue reading

09.01.2022 Change. This is an inevitable and natural part of life, and something that is being faced particularly by many Year 12 students at the moment. There are often feelings of anxiety, stress, doubts, overwhelm, and also loss. All of this is very natural as we deal with change. We can add other change scenarios for everyone to this list loss of a loved one; moving house; changing jobs, and the list goes on. How can we manage change to make this work the best we can for ourselves...? Firstly, it is important to acknowledge and let ourselves own how we are feeling about the change we are facing. To try and button down our feelings only leaves them undercover and waiting to emerge leaving you with a range of feelings anxious/overwhelm/sick to name a few. Our behaviour is best described as the 4 wheels of a car the back wheels represent our feelings and physiology. Feelings can be anything from anxiety to distress, to feelings of loss, to sickness to overwhelm etc. Physiology examples would be racing heart, sweaty palms, headaches, etc. You will know how impossible it is to simply tell oneself to stop feeling anxious/sick/etc. It would be handy if there was an off switch directly attached to those back wheels but not so. The way we can make a difference to how we are feeling and the physiology we are experiencing, is to go onto the front wheels of our car. The front wheels are described as our action/doing and thinking wheels. When we are experiencing anxiety/overwhelm/distress regarding changes in our life, after acknowledging and letting ourselves own our feelings, the way to empower ourselves is to move onto our front wheels. It is amazing the difference one can feel by taking even one small action towards our change. For a year 12 student, leaving school, maybe moving away for the nest phase of education, it may be a range of actions that will make a difference to the overwhelm/anxiety. Maybe setting up an affordable phone plan, will enable connections with loved ones to continue. It may be starting on culling and packing what is wanted in the move. It may be finding a place to live gives an exciting new focus. Maybe research more about where you are going. Our thinking can also make a difference. Whilst allowing yourself to own the feelings that the change represents, it can help by thinking about and focussing on the new goals/scenarios that the change/s will bring. The excitement of the new openings in life. The important message in this, is to find actions or thinking that will give you back control over the overwhelm of change. Staying on the front wheels makes a difference. Self care during change is also important. Know what makes a difference for yourself, and give yourself that. Sleep, healthy food, relaxation, exercise, space to reflect, whatever works for you, will add to your strength and empower you through change. If you would like to learn more, contact Jane Bond Counselling on 0429966885. See more

08.01.2022 We are all at this time, needing to keep ourselves and everyone else safe, by staying home. This is a huge change for many people, and we need to be understanding of ourselves and others as we adjust to this new way of being for the foreseeable future. Some people will adapt to the changes more easily and quickly than others, and that is ok. We are all different. Giving ourselves time to percolate what this change means for ourselves; not expecting too much of ourselves all a...Continue reading

02.01.2022 At this very different time we are all going through, I would like to offer my support for anyone who would like it. With social distancing in mind, to keep everyone safe, I am offering either phone or zoom (so we can see each other) sessions. Whilst we are being asked to stay at home as much as possible, my fee will be reduced. I will charge $50.00 for a 30 minute consult. My contact to book an appointment or make an enquiry is either via this website or my mobile 0429966885.

01.01.2022 Here is a quote by Leo Buscaglia that I would like to share: "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."

01.01.2022 When we allow ourselves to compare or be distracted by other people’s lives/stories, it is easy to let doubts about ourselves and our own story/life, creep in. We can then experience the feeling of confusion, and question wheter the current life we are living is enough. Shouldn’t I; Couldn’t I .. At these times, when we are feeling vulnerable, it can be tempting to veer off our own path; the one we have created based on our own needs and passions. When we are true to ourselves and at one with our own story/life with unconditional love, we are enough. Remembering this, especially when we are going through challenging times, can help strengthen ourselves.