Janine Ayling in Tumbi Umbi, New South Wales, Australia | Counsellor

Janine Ayling

Locality: Tumbi Umbi, New South Wales, Australia

Phone: +61 418 755 578

Address: Shop 4/23 Wyong Road 2261 Tumbi Umbi, NSW, Australia

Website: http://www.ayling.com.au

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25.01.2022 Anxiety often gets so high that we want to shut down completely. There is a significant shift that occurs to take us from high anxiety to being completely numb, although our brain can travel that distance very quickly. This blog post discusses the desire to shut down or disappear. https://www.ayling.com.au//what-do-i-mean-when-i-talk-abo/

25.01.2022 'Why can't you buy me flowers?' is a common & easily recognised slide down the slippery slope to an argument. I've written about it here because its an example of something serious & potentially wonderful going on in a marriage or long-term relationship... if you're willing to accpet the challenge it presents. https://www.ayling.com.au//why-is-it-so-hard-to-buy-me-fl/

25.01.2022 Some people think they can treat their family members however they want and that their harsh words won’t do any harm. They believe that everyone swears, yells or plays nasty games. Behaviours like these are essentially boundary violations. Each destructive moment can be transformed by anyone who is willing to move toward self-respect and a safe, healthy family environment. https://www.ayling.com.au/2021//31/dont-treat-me-like-that/

24.01.2022 Many people struggle in marriage and long term committed relationships because, for all intents and purposes, the love has died. Many questions are left in loves wake: Where did the love go? Was it even love in the first place? Can I start again and make a better choice? Dont I deserve to find real love and happiness? Cultivating a successful long-term relationship takes determined focus and the ability to have a courageous look at what it truly means to love. https://www.ayling.com.au//have-i-married-the-wrong-person/

21.01.2022 Ive noticed that people sometimes struggle with uncertainty about love in relationships. Shouldnt our love for each other be unconditional? Isnt that the best kind of love? As Ive considered this in the counselling room, Ive begun to realise that unconditional love, as powerful and life changing as it is for us in our early years, might actually miss the mark in adult relationships. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/06/27/unconditional-love/

19.01.2022 Caressing and kissing, whispering and giggling all seem to be easily recognised signs of love. Why then, do so many couples complain that these things now belong to their dimmest memories? And what can be done about it? https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/10/28/the-way-we-were/

16.01.2022 How long can we do what we're told without pushing back? In this post I discuss a way of grounding yourself when the elements of daily life are being dictated to you. https://www.ayling.com.au//if-you-do-what-i-say-it-will-w/

16.01.2022 You might be in social isolation, but your thoughts & worries seem to ignore the rules. If only you could quantantine your anxieties! https://www.ayling.com.au///protecting-your-shaky-insides/

12.01.2022 If you’re a stepparent, the chances are that you’ve worked hard and tried a number of strategies to create the kind of fertile soil in which to grow the stability and healing that many blended families desperately need. But creating your own Brady Bunch is harder work than anyone lets on. Here are a few thoughts that may ease the performance anxiety of being a stepparent. https://www.ayling.com.au//step-parenting-when-blending-a/

11.01.2022 Knowing how to approach your own sadness and offer healing is sometimes too tall a task. When you’re in the middle of a stretch of sadness it can seem impossible to do anything useful for yourself no way to ‘pull yourself up by your bootlaces’ if you’re ‘so low you have to look up to see the floor’. If you pay attention in the times when you feel this kind of sadness, you might be able to change the way you respond. Bringing some relief and nurture as you do. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/05/27/sadness-part-2/

11.01.2022 If youre a stepparent, the chances are that youve worked hard and tried a number of strategies to create the kind of fertile soil in which to grow the stability and healing that many blended families desperately need. But creating your own Brady Bunch is harder work than anyone lets on. Here are a few thoughts that may ease the performance anxiety of being a stepparent. https://www.ayling.com.au//step-parenting-when-blending-a/

06.01.2022 You might feel a bit panicky or flat in the current environment. You might be looking okay on the outside but nothing seems right on the inside. An excellent article in the SMHs Good Weekend last Saturday reveals how kindness (even just reading about it) can really make a difference to your internal landscape. If you missed it, you can read it here. https://www.smh.com.au//a-force-for-good-how-the-coronavir

05.01.2022 Knowing how to approach your own sadness and offer healing is sometimes too tall a task. When youre in the middle of a stretch of sadness it can seem impossible to do anything useful for yourself no way to pull yourself up by your bootlaces if youre so low you have to look up to see the floor. If you pay attention in the times when you feel this kind of sadness, you might be able to change the way you respond. Bringing some relief and nurture as you do. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/05/27/sadness-part-2/

04.01.2022 I’ve noticed that people sometimes struggle with uncertainty about love in relationships. Shouldn’t our love for each other be unconditional? Isn’t that the best kind of love? As I’ve considered this in the counselling room, I’ve begun to realise that unconditional love, as powerful and life changing as it is for us in our early years, might actually miss the mark in adult relationships. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/06/27/unconditional-love/

04.01.2022 Sometimes sleep is so illusive... here is a way to show yourself some compassion so that trying to sleep doesn't become a nightmare. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/04/11/i-just-want-to-sleep/

03.01.2022 Our emotions have definite and useful roles in our internal world. Sadness is something we all feel from time to time (even if we prefer not to) but it is not as straightforward in adult life as it seems in childhood. In this blog (and the next) Im shining the torch on a couple of different types of sadness and what their role is in our lives. Hope it helps. https://www.ayling.com.au//05/16/good-grief-sadness-part-1/

02.01.2022 Hello FB friends! In these uncertain times we are living in, I am taking my counselling services online to provide support to the community in the safest way possible. Hence this new Facebook page. I will be writing more regular blogs on my website & linking them here on facebook. At this point I am still seeing clients face-to-face, although will of course be observing the social distancing rules. However I am encouraging sessions to take place via video call. I am able to use Skype, FaceTime, WhatsApp video or Zoom. If you would like to book a session, please call me on 0418 755 578 or email on [email protected]

01.01.2022 Here is the latest blog post from my website. https://www.ayling.com.au/2020/03/24/feeling-deprived/