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25.01.2022 Many parents I work with say they just want their child to be happy. And that is a wonderful goal - but for me an unrealistic one. Of course we want our children to have joy, pleasure, happiness and all the wonderful parts of being alive - but we also need to teach them how to navigate the sometimes challenging parts of being human. Disagreements, hurt feelings, sadness, worry - all the stuff we often want to avoid. Nobody likes painful feelings or difficult conversations - ...but these are skills that are so important when it comes to having conscious relationships and thriving in life. When our children fight, or when they get upset when we set a boundary or if we act out and yell as a parent - we have the opportunity to teach our children about owning our behaviour and repairing. When we can stay calm when siblings are fighting and model how we can hold space for them to be heard, when we apologise to our child after we have yelled, when we sit in the uncomfortable space when our child is really worried - we are letting them know that all feelings can be navigated with connection and love. If we avoid the hard stuff, if we tell them just to be positive, or if we blame them for the way we behaved - we are missing some amazing opportunities to model empathy, compassion, vulnerability and connection. It’s not easy (especially as many of us adults weren’t shown how to do this) but its an incredible gift to give your children. Do you find it easy or hard to repair with the people in your world? #awareparenting #laelstone #connecttedparenting #compassion #listening #connection #ruptureandrepair
20.01.2022 Yesterday the divine https://www.facebook.com/annaroserichards and I recorded a podcast on birth trauma, healing and women finding their power in birth. It’s was a moving conversation and one that needs a lot of air time as so many women (and partners) have traumatic experiences bringing their babies into the world. This can then carry through to parenting and the relationship moving forward. ... If you have feelings around what happened at your birth or you are looking at having a baby, I encourage you to listen you can find the podcast link in Anna’s profile or https://podcasts.apple.com//the-anything-goe/id1518370373 Thankyou Anna for bringing these important conversations to be heard.
17.01.2022 Questions answered around the 8 week Immersion that starts tomorrow ( 15th feb ) still 3 places left if anyone would like to join. Bookings via link in bio or on my website www.laelstone.com.au
15.01.2022 In the latest episode of The Aware Parenting Podcast Marion Rose, Ph.D. And I talk all about mother power. We talk about why we believe it is time on a planetary level for mothers to reclaim our power. We share our own stories of reconnecting with our power.... We explain why having deep compassion for our experiences of powerlessness is so vital. We invite you to connect with your power in service of your love for your child/ren and what you want for them. We support you in connecting with your yeses and noes. And we share power portals ~ ways to connect with your power. It's on all the usual podcast channels. xoxoxo
15.01.2022 Sharing another birthday today with my other half. It’s been 22years together of shared birthdays. It still makes us laugh that we we are born on the same day! Unfortunately we also both woke up with colds and have muddled through the day feeling rubbish. thanks for all the birthday messages and love I am back to bed with tissues and lemon tea. #autumncolds #aries #sharedbirthdays @gaalmike
14.01.2022 I see this a lot with the people I work with and the patterns we continue to play. These great words from the @the.holistic.psychologist ‘Outrage is a powerful combination of emotions like anger, helplessness, frustration + (at its core: fear.)... Continuous cycles outrage puts us in a cycle of emotional addiction make us feel ‘alive.’ For many, it’s the only time we can actually feel anything. If we felt powerless as children, outrage give us a false feeling of superiority or control. We project the pain + anger into situations, people, or events which give a us a temporarily escape + distraction. Outrage itself is not negative it can help us define our limits, align our personal values, create new systems, + bring awareness to our own level of consciousness. It can be a catalyst for change. Cycles of outrage, where we unconsciously seek situations, information, people, or content that leaves our nervous system dysregulated only keeps us stuck in our familiar past. Social media has made these cycles more accessible, addictive, + more consuming. It keeps us feeling (+the subconscious mind confirming) the helplessness we felt as children. The mind always seeks to re-create our past. Then, it allows us to come together in outrage which can lead to dynamics where we create villains or are rewarded socially for ‘punishing’ those who caused our outrage. The mind + body adapt to these cycles + our day to day lives can become an emotional roller coaster. How to begin releasing outrage: 1. Become conscious to what you consume 2. Become conscious to what you speak 3. Become conscious to where your attention flows 4. Become conscious to how your thoughts impact your emotional state 5. Become conscious of how many of your relationship connection allow you to re-enact outrage.’
13.01.2022 My 8 week immersion is coming to an end and we finish with healing and forgiveness. The parents in my course have all moved at whatever pace has been right for them and as we conclude I invite them all to lean into what parts of their story are they still holding onto that no longer serve them. This could be carrying guilt or blame for how they may have responded to their children. It maybe anger and resentment to a partner or another family member. ... It maybe shame around a situation that they didn’t know how to handle at the time. It can feel challenging to move into forgiveness, espically forgiveness of the self. However through gentle compassion for our stories and our past, we can take steps towards creating new imprints and new possibilities around what we want in our lives. My question to all these courageous parents is... what would it mean if you let it go and stepped into what you do want to feel? So often the joy and calm can be scarier than the wounds that we know. #gogently #compassion #awareparenting #laelstone #healing #immersion #growth #forgiveness See more
12.01.2022 Just this...... If we can do the work, we offer our children the possibility of a spacious parent that then allows them to be who they are meant to be. You can join me for my Immersion starting 15th feb....a beautiful look into our stories. ... I am going to hold your hand and support you to move into becoming the parent you want to be. Info in my bio or on my website www.laelstone.com.au . #laelstone #awareparenting #kindness #connection #selfcompassion #raisingawarekids #seeingthepositive #consciousparenting #siblings #Awareparentingimmersion #dothework
10.01.2022 My dearest friend Marion Rose, Ph.D. and I have spent that last 2 weeks finishing our first book! From what was meant to be 4 days together in Byron Bay, ended up being daily writing sessions via Zoom! We are so very excited that all we have shared on our podcast has now been transformed into a book on how to raise your children with awareness and compassion. Writing together has been a fun process and one that has challenged us both to look at our fears, limitations and b...elief systems. Each time we sat down to write we would have to talk about what we were feeling and if we didn’t clear what was alive for us in that moment, the words didn’t flow on the paper It was therapy and writing all in one!!! I am so excited to share this with the world when it is ready See more
09.01.2022 I absolutely agree with all Michelle Mitchell shares below. Unfortunately my experiences in working with tweens and teens and their families have come to the same conclusion. We need to open these conversations from a young age, have ongoing conversations with our children and get the support we need as adults to heal our own stories.
07.01.2022 It is such a gift learning to not only support the feelings of my children but to also own and healthily release my own feelings. When I clear my ‘stuff’ from the family space, seeing the joy that naturally arises in my children, from the freedom that provides to be themselves, is everything. Kirsten Some more beautiful words from one of the participants of The 8 Week Immersion. . My goal is to give you tools and ideas to help create more harmony in your family as well as... support you to unpack your own story and step into the parent you want to be. I have a few spots left - it starts this Monday Live components on Wednesday at 8pm and Saturday at 11am(aest) - Recordings available if you can’t join live. Weekly videos and workbook as well as support from me for the entire Immersion. Bookings and info : Link in my bio or at https://laelstone.com.au//aware-parenting-immersion-level/ Love to have you along for this wonderful deep dive into your parenting self. #awareparentingimmersion #laelstone #awareparenting #connection #consciousparenting #dothework #knowyourstory #imprints
07.01.2022 I can’t tell you how much this little ball of fluff has brought deep healing into our lives. He knows when one of us needs love, calm, soothing, play. He watches and waits and then moves exactly into the right position to give maximum love vibes. He had his work cut out for him last year with Covid lockdown - I think he managed to keep us relatively balanced We are so blessed to have this fluffy being in our lives We all argue over who loves him more #dogsarethebest #therapydog #connection #love #calm
07.01.2022 From the moment my son could crawl, he was looking for things to climb and hang off! It’s good to see that at 20yrs of age... not much has changed. He has taught me to trust him deeply when it comes to taking risks with his body. He has always wanted to jump, leap, balance, climb, run, kick, move in anyway that helped him to master his body. It’s not hard to understand why he struggled in main stream education. He learns through moving his body, he thrives when he is moving..., when he feels strong, when he pushes himself to his edges. He has taught me to look away when the panicked mother surfaces and trust his innate movement magic His latest love is rock climbing and bouldering and I love that he shared with me the other day that he thinks about it all day and every spare minute he has he wants to climb in nature. His happy place. So for all your parents who have a child like Spider-Man... I invite you to give them as many opportunities as possible to find their edges and trust their movement magic #myson #strength #nature #laelstone #trust #movement #awareparenting #connection
