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25.01.2022 To Listen I used to mask up everyday and just soldier on. When asked ‘how are you?’ It was always answered with a smile and a quick response of great. I don’t really know if I ever truly knew how I was feeling. I was just masked up and robot mode! It can be the job role, the circumstances, the environment, the culture - so many things that make many mask up - JUST LIKE ME. There is no judgement here!... When a work colleague talked to me - I learnt to stop - give a 100% attention and listen. The feeling of things not being well or not just right made me turn and give them my time. I did not just hear the words but watched the body language and intuitively feel what they were saying - to read what was not being said. I had to go beyond the mask - to look for signals - to see the real response. Not to push them on how they are feeling but to support them. Maybe they needed a: a gentle day but they would not say it. a hug - but they would not ask a cup of tea away from everyone else - they would not be selfish I could only listen when I gave them space and took it all in. How many times had I kept my eyes on the computer screen as a colleague talked or said not now to a staff member without even looking in their eyes. My colleagues taught me to listen - to create a space. Thank you - this was the best lesson of all. #listening #makingspace #letsbereal #taketimetohear
25.01.2022 oh my, how do you say thank you! I have had the best mentors and I keep meeting the most amazing people in my circle. I am learning from the greats. Whether you attract the right ones into your life or whether I have been so lucky I am unsure, but I do take the time to get to know them and then work with them. These guys have helped build foundations especially Kylie Bartlett from Lead.Love.Leap who I have spent the last 3 years working with. ... #letsbereal #military #militarywomen #veteran #youareenough #nomoremasks #love #tbwc #jcubusinessbites #educating #mentors
24.01.2022 WHAT! I cannot believe it. I am going to have to say a big HELLO and introduce myself as I checked the followers and there is a quite a lot of new people out there. Welcome to my circle. ... I am Kylie Michelle, founder of Lets Be Real. I am a veteran of 19 years and worked in a male dominated industry within Defence where basically I would mask up everyday and be what I needed to be. I was not authentic to myself by masking up, the real me constantly tried to break free which just ended up being a round peg that did not fit into a square hole. I wanted to educate my team, on connection, communication, safe spaces. I desperately wanted to talk about the Inner Critic and how to stop it running my everyday life and switch it from being an enemy to part of me that I could love like a best friend. I wanted to understand how women could elevate each other in a masculine environment instead of compete with each other. I could not take it and I become real, raw and authentic - teaching and mentoring my staff outside the normal. I pushed boundaries to connect and to support a team - I worked towards changing the cultural landscape. I could see that I needed to give more - to share my story, to speak to groups and create my own workshops to help others become real as well, to help them remove the mask so they could find their happy. My mission is to seek out and nurture a community of champions of change that will create safe spaces for real conversations. To connect women with other support networks to change the cultural landscape. To educate through story telling workshops and events being real and raw so others will follow. To Rise Authenically Together. You can check out my blogs, look out for my speaking events, sign up to the community to recieve my emails to provoke thought for a better you. With projects underway with a book to be published in 2021 and workshops to come online - together we can all get real. #letsbereal #mycircle #hellotoallthenewbies #supporteachother
23.01.2022 So tonight is the night - wishing all the finalist luck for the QLD/NT awards. You can watch the full event live at the AusMumpreneur Facebook Page here: https://www.facebook.com/AusMumpreneur This is the page to share with Family and Friends that want to watch live also.
22.01.2022 Reflection on 2020 my word for the year was CALM - think I’m still working on that one. I think about my highs and lows and accept all of them and the many wonderful lessons that I learnt. I learnt a shit load about me this year - how strong I am, put in firm boundaries, I can walk away, listening is the most importantly tool I will ever have, I desperately wanted to be heard, work on love for myself and others daily Thankyou 2020 - you taught me a lot - I’m ready 2021 - relaunch of Kylie Michelle #letsbereal #goodbye2020
22.01.2022 Happiness - my value words I think about how and what I can do that brings me happiness. Little acts of happiness - and then just repeat those. Hugs so make me happy and I do that numerous times a day. I don't think life is as complex as I made it out to be. I find the things that make me happy and I do more of them. end of story. ... #letsbereal #happiness #valuewords #whatmakesyouhappy
22.01.2022 She wants me to walk out happy after having an enjoyable time. I have felt that hairdressers are so close to mental health workers because they have the magic of getting you to talk. I love this as it is such a release and always feel lighter. I learnt that they are really invested in you enjoying yourself so bringing your bad day in and not being open to the pleasant experience they want you to have impacted her massively. I did not know that she felt like she failed if yo...u did not leave smiling and looking forward to the next time. What I learnt was she is not my psychologist, yes she wants to chat and she wants to hear about your life but offloading all your negativity is not good for either of you. Leave it at the door. I walk in now open to enjoy the experience - even if I can't sit still I take my laptop and stand in a corner writing away to myself. My hairdresser is happy if I am happy. Love her x #letsbereal #educationfromwomen #myattitude #leaveyourmoodatthedoor
22.01.2022 Hey - wanted to share my author page where you can find all the information on my books. Would love for you to follow - your support helps me to connect with publishers. I also want to share this journey with you https://www.facebook.com/kyliemichelleauthor/
18.01.2022 This week I am sharing what I have learnt from women. There was no question that I would start with my mum. As a child I had huge expectations of what my mum would do for me, the expectation to be there at the end of the school day, to be there when I need her, to be there for any reason at all but to do it with love and a smile. ... It feels normal for a child to want this and most days were like this but not all days. What I learnt from my mum that we are all human with our own issues, heartbreaks, and hurt. JUST LIKE ME - she was dealing with her own stuff! I learnt that I had to not see a title (Mum, Teacher, Boss ) but see a human - a title does not make you exempt from life or have this ability to hold all your shit together because people are expecting things from you. My upbringing was a tough one, but I learnt that we are all human and to let go of those expectations. I created such high ones that she could never meet and then I would be always be disappointed and hurt. I see you for who you are Mum, I miss you daily and wish we had more time together. What I learnt was to stop and see the person and not the title. Thank you Mum #motherdaughterrelationship #letsbereal #lifelessons #howitwasforme #mystory
18.01.2022 LOYALTY! Oh, this one is big. I thought I was loyal, I was honest - maybe a few white lies on why I needed days off. I did not really bitch that much about her to other staff, so I would call myself a good supervisor - loyal to my boss (but was I really?) Then I met one boss - showed me loyalty - she could read through any BS, the reward for my honesty like I need a mental health day off was acknowledged heard and given. ... Or the words of I really don't know what I am doing here or I am scared was acknowledged and given space to work it out. I backed her decisions even if I did not understand where they came from and heard her when it was a decision we had to implement. I changed and did not complain but stayed loyal and showed staff the belief in the work. Again more rewards, more communication on how and why things happened, I became the trusted circle. I was brave enough to say when I reached management that this job was new, I need mentoring and a safe space to grow. I discussed expectations hers and mine, again more rewards of trust, not being micromanaged. The more I communicated, the more I shared and understood the human I was working with and the better my work environment became. Take away the BS, white lies, the non-support and I attempted true loyalty - I took a chance and it paid off - I was loyal to her and she was loyal to me. It is kind of like love - you have to put yourself out there - hiding and pretending or using white lies is toxic. Thankyou - you know who you are - you showed me being brave is worth it - I am forever loyal to these type of women. #bosslife #letsbereal#educationfromwomen #loyalty
18.01.2022 Happy F%ckn New Year - I am so ready to create 2021 that I will love. I am starting January 1 with the release of my article of ‘F%ck the wins - let's celebrate the failures’ yep you heard me right! If 2020 has taught me anything we need to celebrate it all and create a culture where we can talk about it but own it and be proud of the lessons. Grab yourself a copy today and I hope you enjoy the read. Happy 2021 - Let’s Be Real together. Much luv Kylie Mumpreneur Movement Magazine https://issuu.com/mumpreneurmovementm//relax_into_business
14.01.2022 Change my mindset Shopping would not be my favourite task - actually any type of shopping is really not my favourite thing to do. I started this task always with a shitty mindset - resting biatch face for sure. ... A crappy mindset and a face that said I am in a crappy mood and I would head out on the shopping task only to be greeted with sales assistant doing the best they can with a crappy customer. The story in my head was - this is their job - why can’t they be nice - no wonder I hate shopping! UGH I don’t know how I connect these dots some days because now I look back on it and laugh of the silliness of it all. The thing I did not like about shopping was the assistants but rather it was the loudness os shops- lots of people - a little anxiety playlist and some ear buds calmed me right down. Put a smile on my face even. By the time I made it to the sales assistant I could smile, chat, see if I could make her smile too! I changed my whole mindset because I was tired of being served my sales assistant that could not be uber nice to me when I was in a shitty mood. I believed I was going to have a bad time on the task before leaving the house and bam guess what I did. I couldn’t escape shopping as much online stuff I could do I still had to go into some shops and to do this I had to reduce the anxiety and flip the mindset - Just to one that this is going to be ok - I have some tools and I can do this smiling. I apologise to all the shop assistants who dealt with the crappy me - I hope our paths cross again so I can show you the ME that you changed. #mindset #smilinggoesalongway #enjoyyourday #usetoolsinyourtoolbox #letsbereal
14.01.2022 Did I meet you in a previous life? I love the connection that I now have women, that was not always the case. Working in Military and I would tell myself the story that I don't really get along with other women, I am more one of the boys. For me living in the masculine energy had me thinking in a way that was not me. Putting space between that energy and that story I now see how well I do connect with women and I swear that they speak my language. ... Challenge the story you tell yourself - I did. Thanks, Kerry for being a super star, always having fun, speaking Kylie and being the best fun to hang with. MUCHLUV #thestoryitellmyself #womenfriends #iamenough #letsbereal
13.01.2022 Strap yourself in because it is going to be a big week. This week is the Ausmumpreneur event - QLD/NT winner announcement will be made this Wednesday where I will be online with some gorgeous friends. Wish me luck! Heading into this week I can't help think about what women have taught me - I am about to go online and surround myself with amazing women and learn so much from them with a week full of online events but I also need to acknowledge all the women of my present and p...ast on what they have taught me. I would love to share these stories with you but also want to celebrate all women this week and show our support and love for each other. Please share your stories with me as well. So happy Monday ladies - I celebrate you, I adore you, I love you, I appreciate you and I could not have got this far without you. YOU ROCK. #ausmum20 #letsbereal #risingwithoutanger #mycircle #lifelessons #ausum20onlinefestival #whorulestheworld #womensupportingwomen
12.01.2022 Our end destinations are different. I was so damn excited to attend my first mums and bub group. Let's just note - that my girl is now 21 years of age so it was a while ago but still a good lesson for me. I was 27 when I had my girl - I started the first group of baby massage classes which I loved but it was all about learning the art of massage for me. it was not to I went to the next group that I learnt big lessons. I was a little obsessed with parenting education books a...nd the thought of going to a group where we can share and discuss our ideas on all things developmental sounded like it was a go for me. I had it set in my head that was what the group would offer. When I arrived, some women just wanted to chat about anything and everything, some needed space so they could rest, some wanted to teach their kids to share and others wanted to know where to find the right support like best child doctor etc or best playgroups or schools to look into. I was the only one wanting to discuss my books and all things developmental. I left on my first day only to express to my husband how disappointed I was that no one wanted to talk about what I wanted to. The more I attended the group I could see the individual parents and how what they needed they desperately needed. I had a thought that we would all be the same but our endstate was different. We are all mums seeking the support of one kind or another but the same thing was the support. I remembered this when joining other groups remembering everyone is coming with a different purpose - to be open-minded and kind. (not always easy - but working progress). #endstate #support #openminded #caring #kind #samebutdifferent #letsbereal #educationfromwomen
12.01.2022 Happy Saturday - I have loved sharing my Education from Women series - share them- talk about the wonder of women. Tell me - have you learnt anything from me? maybe you would like me to discuss something else more? Or tag a woman who has taught you so many things to say thank you. #loveher Or you might be keen on more of my words. Just head over to my blogs for more. Link in bio... #lessons #letsbereal #educationfromwomen #whathaveishownyou
12.01.2022 Emotionally SAFE My emotions do get to a stage where they feel overwhelming - like I am drowning in them. I am triggered and then the charge of emotions run through my body and if I am unable to catch it then there is an explosion. I used to just say I was passionate or a redhead. Then as I got older it was about my emotional intelligence. ... NOW - I work on healing the past in an emotionally safe space. I work on letting go of past trauma, reducing that charge within the body. WHEN I can do this then I make space to see what is really happening. How I am working through a situation. Feeling emotionally safe is understanding my needs. Self Love and Care. I am so aware when I am out of balance now, or when my emotions are off - I can sit with it. It has taken years of daily practices. I had to DO THE WORK. #emotions #letsbereal #triggered #emotionallysafe #dothework #selfhealing
09.01.2022 I am Veteran and I spent 19 years in the military - when anything arises there is a templated solution on how to solve issues - apply the template rigidly to every situation. When stepping away from that culture I was like a kid in a candy store and found there were many different ways to deal with my new environment - I removed the templated way. My new circle showed me different ways on how to approach these- there was no one size fits all approach and I was now shown a... variety of solutions. My circle expanded my toolbox and gave me so many new tools that I did not know existed. I now see them as foundations into my daily practice. I love the adaptability and how malleable they are and also interchangeable. Thankyou my circle - you are supportive, you help me grow every day. #mycircle #womensupportingwomen #lifelessons #lovemylife #newdirections #newtools #watchmegrow
09.01.2022 A season, a reason or a lifetime. I really never believed this meaning knowing every one of my friends that I connected with I connected hard. I could never imagine breaking up with a best friend. I know that I changed, I grew, I viewed the world differently and then the meaning made sense - a reason or a season - I learnt to be ok with this and let go with what no longer serves you, what causes pain. This was a hard lesson and hurts just as much like a break up from a loved ...one (well that actually is what it is). I learnt to forgive myself and not look at it as failing as a friend but rather that we grow differently and at different rates and we are not always going to be on the same path. I love my forever friends NOW - I never know when they will change or will I and they change to a season or a reason. I learnt acceptance, forgiveness, and change. Thank you to all the friends in my life who have taught and shown me wonderful things - you have been part of my story. #letsbereal #seasonreasonlifetime #friendships #change #lovingfriendships
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08.01.2022 I’m such a moon lover and this course has been insightful. Also love anything Geo Junkie produces - I am a bit of a fan.
08.01.2022 I would love to say the road less travelled but to be real honest here - what a f*ckn life! The road well travelled. I think now how I am living my best life because I can call my own shit, I am accountable for my own emotions, I sit and work through what I am feeling. That is the beautiful destination to me - when I am no longer numbing it but working on it. I am always a student though. I am loving life and I am owning it. #letsbereal #military #militarywomen #veteran #youareenough #nomoremasks #love #quote #inspiration #journey #destination
07.01.2022 Value words: SAFE Reading this how could you not want to be in a safe space. Nurturing and ALLOWS your feelings to be what they are. That word -ALLOWS - not being told how to feel.... It is PERMISSION to be you, to feel sad or annoyed as you need. Not feeling judged on how you feel - my inner critic does enough of that and I need that SAFE SPACE to just talk it out. Whatever comes out. I had to find the right circle - it is not something that I could expect of everyone I know to be that way. We are all learning and on a journey. I think about what I need and then that is what I want to give. To give it daily, being able to be that person. A Safe Space to be is LIFESAVING to some that enter that space - do not underestimate the power of the space. #letsbereal #safespace #allowingfeelings #thisisme #therightcircle #mycircle #permissiontobeme
06.01.2022 Finding Happiness Coffee - Walking puppies- outdoors- time with David tick tick tick tick What makes you smile? What gives you joy? ... I know for me that simple things or again the same daily acts can bring that smile. I am a sunshine outdoor person - not that Townsville is showing me that love at the moment. I need my sun therapy everyday.... what is your non-negotiable. Let's list together daily practices that make you happy. #dailypractices #happiness #letsbereal #findingyourhappy #community #thisisourcircle
05.01.2022 Throwback to my office days - I was seeking all I can to work easier not harder. I have learnt a lot since then and know that I have to keep going with my gut. Books don't make it gospel they are like advice - take what you need and chuck the rest. YOU DO YOU! ... #letsbereal #military #militarywomen #veteran #youareenough #nomoremasks #love #books #reading #educational
05.01.2022 We all share the same fears. I have been so nervous going to events, my Inner Critic going through the roof. Networking in civi street compared to the military for me was all of a sudden the loss of the identity which felt like a loss of strength. I then had to find the right circles, put on a dress and heels (what the) I was scared to put myself out there and felt totally judged. What I learnt - that we are more alike than different and that we all have those fears, being... brave is a scary thing. I have found the right circles where women talk about how it really is... and we are all feeling it. I thank these women for their honesty you have made me feel like I fit in, I have a place because when I started I felt like I could possibly never belong. #networkingwithwomen #creatingsafespaces #likeagirl #elevateeachother #supportivecircles #letsbereal See more
05.01.2022 PIVOTAL CHANGE! I learnt that from all the emotions and baggage that I carry it created blinkers. I could not see things clearly. Not at all. My mentors created a space that I could talk through it and in doing this it removed the blinkers so I could really see. I had the aha moments, see things in a different light or just have that sounding board. This created change, a new pattern instead of living in a world with a blinkered view. Thank you for patience, time and a s...afe space to land. I know that I do need to check in to see if it is a real view or a blinkered view. It created that change, turned me a couple of degrees in a new direction - I have so much gratitude for this. #mentors #letsbereal#whatihavelearntfromwomen #strongertogether #blinkers #safespace #pivotalchange
03.01.2022 How exciting- this is my favourite event of the year- listening to women’s stories from this event over the years has given me the courage to start a blog, believe in myself, get out of my own comfort zone creating huge growth- PLUS meet and connect with amazing women - it has helped me find my own circle. I am in oh - and it’s a pic of me- love that
02.01.2022 no mask no fake no bullshit ... JUST REAL REAL, RAW and AUTHENTIC. sounds like you? come be part of the crowd http://letsbereal.com.au/index.html or check out link in bio
01.01.2022 What are your value words? This month we look at 'grounded'. I can't help when I see this word that I picture myself bare feet in my backyard. Or I am potting plants.... The ground - the dirt - the earth - all these things come up for me when I see this word. What comes up for you? #letsbereal #grounded #values #womenrising #thisisme #barefeet #myhome
01.01.2022 Feel the Fear and do it anyway! Watching my child throughout her life especially when she was younger but also as an adult - she was scared to try her first swimming carnival, her first test, her first athletics, her first sleepover - whatever it was she talked about and then just did it. It was the perfect example for me to feel the fear and do it anyway. Of course, she did not know this and it was something that she would just do - like it was natural. As I became a singl...e mum and dealing with depression some days I could not get off the floor but EVERYTIME I would think of her and tell myself if she can as a child then I can. It was so important to me that it was a natural process - yes you do feel fear but you know what, you get up and do it anyway. Alicia this is one lesson you have taught me - I could write a book on all of them and keep writing to the day I die. You are an amazing person who cares deeply about our planet, our animals and most importantly people. Let's all celebrate as women what our daughters have taught us. I love mine to the moon and back. #motheranddaughter #feelthefearanddoitanyway #letsbereal #likeagirl #thisishowwedoit #loveher
