Lisa Wheeler in Maryborough, Queensland | Doctor

Lisa Wheeler

Locality: Maryborough, Queensland

Phone: +61 409 057 316

Address: 2/165 Bazaar Street 4650 Maryborough, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.lisawheelerpsychologist.com.au

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24.01.2022 Psychological abuse can affect a person’s inner thoughts and feelings as well as exerting control over their life. Examples are: Controlling their access to medications Frequent abusive text messages or demanding phone calls... Constantly keeping check on where the person is and what they are doing Threatening to disclose a person’s sexual orientation against their wishes. It's important to acknowledge that the examples provided are only a snapshot of what this form of abuse means and it can be far reaching. If anything your partner does affects your psychological well-being in a negative way, then it isn't healthy behaviour and needs to change.

24.01.2022 Technology-based abuse within a relationship can include: Constantly messaging or calling a person Checking their phone and other devices without permission... Tracking their movements using technology e.g. ‘find my iPhone’ or other tracking apps Posting sexually explicit images or videos online without permission. If any of these behaviours are happening to you, or you are responsible for engaging in these behaviours, be realistic with yourself. It IS a form of domestic violence and is part of an unhealthy relationship. Own it, and change it.

24.01.2022 Technology-based abuse within a relationship can include: Constantly messaging or calling a person Checking their phone and other devices without permission... Tracking their movements using technology e.g. ‘find my iPhone’ or other tracking apps Posting sexually explicit images or videos online without permission. If any of these behaviours are happening to you, or you are responsible for engaging in these behaviours, be realistic with yourself. It IS a form of domestic violence and is part of an unhealthy relationship. Own it, and change it.

23.01.2022 Perception is so important during these times of uncertainty and disappointment. Make sure your focus is pointed in the right direction.

21.01.2022 Make sure you are taking good care of yourself in these unusual times!!!

19.01.2022 Sexual abuse within a relationship can include: Forcing or coercing a person to have sex or engage in sexual acts Unwanted exposure to pornography... Deliberately causing pain during sex Using sexually degrading insults. Consent is still required, even within a healthy and loving relationship. It is a person's right to refuse sexual advances and unwanted touch, regardless of the nature of your relationship. If you feel you cannot say no to touch or sexual acts because of the behaviour that will elicit from your partner, then that is sexual abuse. It's not, and never will be, okay.

19.01.2022 Physical violence is the form of violence in a relationship that many of us are most familiar with and involves causing or threatening physical harm to control another person. For example: - slapping, kicking, punching, choking or causing other kinds of injury - punching holes in walls or breaking furniture... physically restricting a person’s movement e.g. locking someone in a room or a house threatening to harm children, other loved ones or pets. None of these behaviours are okay. EVER. It doesn't matter what the victim has done to provoke the perpetrator or what led up to the incident. If any of these behaviours are occurring within your relationship, your relationship is unhealthy and needs work.

18.01.2022 Domestic and family violence happens when one person in a relationship uses abuse or violence to maintain power and control over the other person. Abuse is not only physical it can be emotional, sexual, financial, social, spiritual, verbal, psychological, or technology-based. It is controlling or threatening behaviour that causes the person being abused to be fearful.... Educate yourself on what makes a healthy relationship and what are indicators that the relationship you are in, or the behaviour you may be displaying is not a healthy one. Over coming days, I'll be posting about types of violence, and healthy vs. unhealthy relationship indicators. Something needs to be done to stop the level of domestic violence in our country. It's time to take responsibility for yourself and your actions.

16.01.2022 Verbal abuse within a relationship can include: Yelling, shouting or swearing Using words to intimidate or cause fear... Frequently accusing someone of having affairs Constant criticism and put downs. We get it, there will be disagreements within a relationship. No two people will ever come together so perfectly that they agree on everything. But disagreements or discontent should NEVER result in this kind of behaviour towards one another. If this kind of behaviour is happening within your relationship, or you are responsible for this kind of behaviour - acknowledge it now and make a plan to get help to resolve this. These behaviours are not "normal" and they aren't okay.

15.01.2022 Social abuse can start with subtle, controlling behaviours that can end in complete isolation from friends, family and support networks. For example: Monitoring phones and devices without permission Controlling which friends and family members someone has contact with... Continuously criticising the person’s friends and family Purposefully humiliating the person in public or in front of other people. These are sadly, common behaviours we see a lot, and again, they are normalised and accepted by many. Unacceptable behaviours. I can't stress the point enough. These things do not occur in a healthy relationship.

13.01.2022 Financial abuse can start with subtle, controlling behaviours and can end in complete control over a person’s personal finances. For example: Getting angry about the person spending money Taking a person’s pay or restricting their access to joint bank accounts... Refusing to pay for necessary items such as food and medicine Stopping the person from working. In many variations of different relationships, financial abuse can present differently. It is about education. Informing yourself of what is considered problematic behaviour and not attempting to justify the reasoning behind it.

12.01.2022 Emotional abuse in a relationship is not always easy to identify, but it can lower self-esteem and confidence, impacting on a person’s mental health and wellbeing. Examples are: Constant criticism and name calling Intentionally embarrassing someone... Telling the person what to wear or criticising their looks Threatening to commit suicide or self-harm to intimidate and control. Please be aware that these behaviours aren't normal. They are the behaviours that, in society, we seem to normalise and explain away. Look at yourself, your behaviour and the behaviours of those around you. If this is happening to you, or you are responsible for these behaviours, call it what it is. It is Emotional Abuse. It is a form of domestic violence. It isn't normal or healthy behaviour.

11.01.2022 Sexual abuse within a relationship can include: Forcing or coercing a person to have sex or engage in sexual acts Unwanted exposure to pornography... Deliberately causing pain during sex Using sexually degrading insults. Consent is still required, even within a healthy and loving relationship. It is a person's right to refuse sexual advances and unwanted touch, regardless of the nature of your relationship. If you feel you cannot say no to touch or sexual acts because of the behaviour that will elicit from your partner, then that is sexual abuse. It's not, and never will be, okay.

10.01.2022 Please be advised that at this stage, Lisa Wheeler Psychologist still remains operating under telehealth and videoconferencing appointments. Although some restrictions are indeed being lifted, the recommendation still remains that indoors, it is recommended to be 1 person per 4m of floor space. As our rooms are quite small and session times mean for "extended exposure", it is recommended that we remain non-contact until further notice. We apologise for the inconvenience and appreciate your understanding and support.

01.01.2022 Under recommendation from the federal government and our governing body, Lisa Wheeler Psychologist has ceased all face-to-face sessions and will continue operating offering telehealth (phone call) or videoconferencing (Skype or FaceTime) sessions in place. This will be until we receive advice that it is safe to do otherwise. This is a very different platform to what most are used to, but it is important to stay connected at this time. If you have any concerns about your appointments moving forward, or your mental health, please don't hesitate to get in touch.