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25.01.2022 NOT ALL FATHER’S HAVE KIDS Being a man is in part all about being the warrior. But unfortunately most of us think that the warrior is someone who is mercifulness and attacks and kills without regard or emotion. But this is actually not what the true warrior represents. The true warrior is the defender of those that cannot defend themselves. They defend the elderly, they defend the young, they defend anyone that is in need. That is the true mark of the warrior and that is the ...true mark of the father. The one who nurtures others through protection and love and acknowledgement. He’s less concerned with having more than he needs. He is less concerned about his own spoils. He is dedication to him family and his community. Here’s to all the men, the fathers, the defenders of what’s right, the care takers and the lovers. Who take care of the ones we love in so many ways. Here’s to the women that play the role of the warrior for the ones they love and to the men who have no children of there own. It takes a village to raise a child and you and raise a child you do.

25.01.2022 WARNING Make sure you know what she looks like BEFORE you go to sleep.... @thequeenofconfidence

24.01.2022 IM AN INTROVERT Many who know me may not realize that I’m more of an introvert. Well, maybe an extrovert introvert. What this means for me is that while I love presenting, facilitating and support people, I MUST find time to be alone. This can be difficult in relationships where the partner can feel hurt by this withdrawal. But not doing so make me tired, depressed and disconnected. It took me many years to understand this and even today I’ll fuck it up. Being alone means bei...ng alone with my thoughts. A note book and a pen where I write, draw and dream. It’s like my mind and body get to play for a while. After enough time I feel more recharged and like the life has come back to me. Communicating this need in my relationship has been essential. Not feeling guilty for taking the time and learning how to schedule this in while raising children, running business and nurturing my relationships. So take this time to communicate what you need and why. It will make all the difference

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22.01.2022 POWER OF THE COUPLE I don’t know where I would be without this special lady. We have worked through so many aspects of ourselves both as individuals and as a couple that I can proudly say we are living our best life. But it’s not all rainbows and unicorns, it takes hard work, communication, knowing your values, putting aside your ego and wanting the best vision for yourself and your family. I just had the pleasure of finishing up a couples mastermind and it has been one of t...he best things that I have ever done. Seeing these couples transform over this time from acting like strangers to reigniting the fire they had when they first met is honestly so humbling. I think in this crazy hectic world we often lose sight of what’s important. We forget why we are doing the things that we’re doing to start with, we forget who we’re doing these things for and we forget to check if we are still on the right track. This is why it’s so important to work on your relationship and work on yourself. Because you don’t end up just creating a better world for yourself, you also end up creating a better future for generations to come. Our next power couples webinar is on Sunday, 23 August at 10am. Here we will go into details on what we do to create and maintain a strong and powerful couple and how you can do the same. Details can be found in the link in my bio. Use code word COVIDCOUPLES for your $20 discount.

21.01.2022 HORROR STORY SYNDROME This podcast is just in time for Halloween. I love Halloween, I mean Thriller is my all-time favorite song and video clip. I was obsessed with horror as a kid. I watched every werewolf, vampire and ghost movie you could find. But this love for horror had its side effective. It led me to be hyper-vigilant. It causes to be always be on guard and expect the monster to jump out at anytime. And so I never enjoyed life for fear of what may come. ... This is the horror story syndrome and many men suffer from this without even knowing it. Check out my lashes podcast as I share my experience and tool which help me get out of this pattern. https://open.spotify.com/episode/0za71txUXCCHCxPos5ZgI9

21.01.2022 HAPPY INTERNATIONAL MENS DAY To be honest, I did t realize this was a thing until today Nevertheless, I felt it was a good time to reflect on the journey of creating Manfulness and the Manfulness podcast. Which, by the way, hits 50 episodes next week. The best part about doing this work with men is meeting all the incredible men out there. Men often get a bad rap, and maybe some of that is deserved, but I know for sure that there are great men out there who can be strong and sensitive, the protector and the nurturer. It’s shows me that we can re-imagine what it looks like to be a man so we can better serve ourselves as well as our community.

20.01.2022 LEARN TO SAY ‘NO’ TO YOUR PARTNER This week I have had several men struggling to say ‘No’ to their partner. I know this space so well. In fact I had to revisit it only a few weeks ago. Sometimes we think that being good to our partner means being there for them, supporting them, helping them and protecting - and for the most part, it does. ... But if we don’t allow them to help themselves we create a dysfunctional co-dependent relationship. This is neither desirable for either person in the relationship. It’s stops our partners from learning, making mistakes and growing. It’s also leaves us resentful and we end up doing everything for them. We feel unappreciated and exhausted. Unresolved, the relationship becomes bitter. Neither partner grows and we find ourself disconnected. How do you fix? One approach is to take responsibility for how you have been showing up. Book a time to talk openly (yes, book it in). Then listen without trying to respond, listen with out defense, just listen. Set some boundaries and agreements. Learn to say ‘No’ with love. See how this goes for a few weeks and then evaluate.

19.01.2022 MEN'S MEET UP GROUP Hello Gents, Last Sunday I ran a private men's group meet-up for the partners of the Sistahood (my wife's private women's coaching group). It was great to meet and connect with so many of your partners and offer a space for them to share their stories. ... At the conclusion of the zoom session I ask if they wanted to be continually support and if regular meets up was something they are interested in. Most were in agreement with this but I wanted to gather some deeper information on what that would look like. I wanted to open up this feedback to my Manfulness community and ask any men out there if they have a moment to fill out this short survey. Thank you in advance. Looking forward to supporting men in better ways. https://forms.gle/MPgD8vTtYV45ukG97 Hamish

18.01.2022 HAPPY WORLD MENTAL HEALTH DAY Here’s the thing though, it’s great that we are all talking more about mental health but I think we need to expand on the conversation. I think for many of us when we think of mental health we are thinking that there is something not right with our mind. This I think is part of the problem for we are not just our minds. We are human beings, with a body with a soul and with a spirit. If our mental health isn’t in a good place we need to consider ...that we don’t operate these parts of us ourselves in isolation. Instead we need to appreciate that we are a holistic beings and that all things, mental health, physical health, emotional health, relationship well-being, communication and purpose are all going to have an impact on our mental health. It’s actually a trick of the mind to think that all these parts work in isolation. So let’s not consider it mental health day maybe we can change it to world human day. Because at the end of the day we are all humans and there can be many aspects of our lives which will be impacting on our mental health. Opening up this conversation will open up our awareness to look at all areas in order to improve our well-being.

17.01.2022 MEN, IT’S TIME TO TALK... After an absolutely amazing first Manfulness Masterclass, I’m doing it all again. It’s time to get men to talk, to discuss, to connect. The last masterclass was an eye-opener on how ready men are to work on themselves and change their lives. No longer is this subject taboo or ignored. Men are stepping up and leveling up as men and it’s already making a difference. Every man has an obligation to become his highest potential to improves his life and th...e lives of those around him. Now he doesn’t have to do this alone but to be held and supported by other men. The next Manfulness Masterclass will be on Saturday 17th July at Alterego - 14-20 Abbott street Alphington from 12-4pm. Details and tickets are available via the link in my bio. Feel free to DM me any questions.

17.01.2022 BREATHING & LOVING MEDITATION

17.01.2022 This photo is back when me and Erika first met each other. God! we look so young and thin then - Ha ha ha. If we were only aware of the journey that was ahead of us. Our relationship has gone through some good times and some bad times but we have always managed to find the love through any challenge. Honestly, when I first met Erika I really didn’t think we were going to last. Don’t get me wrong she was hot and all that but I saw many areas in which we conflicted. We had diff...erent ways in which we communicated, we had different ideas of the future, we had different spiritual and religious beliefs, we had very different upbringings, we came from two very different countries and had two very different backgrounds. But despite all of that we found a love deeper which sent us on a journey of self discovery for ourselves and as a result created a powerful union. I am blessed in so many ways to call this lady my wife and cannot imagine that I would be the man I am today if not for her. I say that with 100% certainty. But to get to this place took time, it took effort and it took work. But it was all worth it to enjoy the relationship we have today. This is a shout out and an invitation to all my fellow men to take an interest in your relationship - to fight to make it better, to work on yourself so that you can work on your relationship. For in doing so I honestly believe we make the world a better place. If you’re interested in learning more join us on our power couples webinar Sunday, 23 August. This is open to all men and women whether you are coupled or single. Everyone can benefit from learning how to become a better person, establish better relationships and and inevitably live a happy life. Link and details in bio @thequeenofconfidence

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17.01.2022 I GET OVER IT TOO Don’t get me wrong I still get days where I just cannot be fucked. I get days where I feel tired and exhausted and I just can’t be bothered doing anything. I have moments where I’m over this lockdown I’m over this virus I am over all the restrictions. I long to be traveling and socializing and moving towards my goals. And most days I can keep going and then some days are just harder to get through. The difference is I have the tools to help get myself out of... a hole. This can be life-changing as it stops me from falling too far too deep into it. Don’t think for a second that personal development and spiritual development means that somehow or someday you will reach this place where you never feel a negative thought or sad emotion again. Instead this type of development helps you take a step back, take a moment to see what you need and then take the next right step. For all those out there feeling tired overwhelmed and exhausted I hear you and I feel you. See more

16.01.2022 It’s always a pleasure having my wife on the podcast and in this episode we talk about a concept I’ve been working on for some time. Trying understand ways in which we seek validation. I’ve seen it through ways we seek nurture and acknowledge and what we did or didn’t get during our childhood. Listen as we deep dive into this topic and explore ways in which validation can play a health and unhealthy roll in our lives.

16.01.2022 When I was a younger man I didn’t know a day without anxiety. To be honest, it didn’t feel like anxiety, it just felt normal. My mind was consumed by what could happen and I actually thought I was being smart by trying to navigate every possibility and outcome to life. Ha! GOOD LUCK This kept me in a place of hyper vigilance. Always expecting the unexpected. The funny thing was the unexpected never happened and I found myself exhausted. I later found myself in martial arts, ...more specifically, Capoeira. If you don’t know what this is YouTube it, you won’t be disappointed. I saw these masters of capoeira moving so gracefully, relaxed and in joy as they sparred with their opponent. When I jumped in I was rigid and stiff. Trying to anticipate my opponent next attack left me second guessing and often caught out, leaving me on my ass or flat on my face. My frustration grew until my teachers said to me Hamish, just smile when you spare. I was like seriously! I was hoping for some super move which would take them out. But, I listen to his advice and began smiling in my next sparring session. It was then that something magical happened. I relaxed, surrended and started to enjoy myself. Suddenly as my opponent attacked me I found myself already in position. As he moved so did almost instantly. My mind wasn’t involved, my body already knew. I was in flow. I meet every attack and too advantage of every defense. It was bliss. This is what life can be like when we let go and surrender. When we focus on enjoying and have faith that we will do what’s best only when the moment arrives and not a moment sooner. While this doesn’t mean you should never train or prepare for life, it’s does mean that this is only a temporary state and you should never forget to smile.

15.01.2022 INTOLERANCE This was the podcast I was unsure if I would release. I recorded it while frustrated with the comments of some female friends made on the way men SHOULD BE. These same friends would scream murder if such things were said about race, gender, religion or culture but it seem perfectly fine when referring to men. Let me know your thoughts.... https://open.spotify.com/episode/1hlKg5MA9m8pYf72y8otn5

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15.01.2022 Psychotherapy, arguably the most efficient means for managing much of our anxiety and depression, is time- and labor-intensive. Counseling requires an empathetic and wizened ear to guide the patient to do the work. Ingesting a pill to do that work for you is more seductive, and easier.

15.01.2022 In times of such uncertainty, it’s hard to know what’s true and what’s not. It’s hard to know what to believe in and who to trust. In times likes these we have no other choice but to really look at our lives and try and find that truth for ourselves. Away from our culture, away from our family, our religion, our institutions and away from mainstream media. It’s during this time that I have found my self going back to nature and seeing the intelligence that resides there. It’...s here I remembered a book I read more than 10 years ago. A book which was one of my first introduction into personal and spiritual development. That book was The book of Secrets by @deepakchopra In the beginning chapters of the book, Deepak, speaks of the intelligence of a simple cell and the fundamental way to live our lives can be found in the interactions between the 60 billions cells that create the very body we live in. Check out my latest podcast as I explore these principals and why we need them right now. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6n9OytLv1UFadMVpmqKjNN

14.01.2022 HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY BOY This time 3 years ago we welcomed our little man Navah into this world. That birth was something else for me. Navah was born at home surround by an amazing team of mid-wife’s and doulas. I can not put into words what the experience did for me. I got to be there, I was involved, I supported and was supported, I was there to watch him enter into this world. It really speaks to the miracle of life and the sheer amazing strength and power women have to br...ing life into this world. It was something I had the privilege to witnessing and it will forever be etched in my heart. What I did expected was for this little dynamite to be the perfect combination of Latino crazy was and Sri Lankan stubbornness but we wouldn’t have it any other way. Nosotros te amamos mucho!

13.01.2022 WALKING IN THE STEPS OF MY FORMER SELVES Took the time today to visit an old stomping ground of mine. Used to come here to reflect, contemplate, cry, laugh, sing and scream (provided no one was around ) Great see how far I have come and looking forward to what’s to come.

13.01.2022 Me after I meditate.

10.01.2022 WHAT IS SHAMANISM? I’ve been getting a lot a lot of questions about my shamanic work. Some are curious, others have no idea why it is. To be perfectly honest any words used to describe shamanic practices only appears to diminish it’s true essence. At its core for me, shamanism is about seeing the word from an energetic perspective. When it refers to healing the body, it’s about understanding that all pain, both physical and mental, originate in a disturbance in the energy fie...ld of a person. This idea causes conflict in the mind which wants to find the visible cause and effect of illness. Often it’s the mind itself which is a complicit in the creating of illness. The role of shamanic practices is to guide the person to use their own innate intelligence to manifest their own healing. Leading to a feeling of empowerment as a pose to dependency. Realizing that the spirit or consciousness is the fundamental catalyst which can attract healing or illness. Harnessing that conscious can literally be life-altering

09.01.2022 LIVE MEDITATION IS BACK So happy to announce that Saturday morning live mediation is back! We can finally share in the beautiful practice in-person. I know for myself I have missed meditating in a group. There is a special power when we come together with the same intention of finding peace and stillness. If your happy to travel to north-east suburbs of Melbourne, then I would love you to attend. No meditation experience needed and as always it’s free.... NAMASTE

09.01.2022 LOOK UP When it all gets too much. Go outside and look up and see the majestic universe you live in. All is possible

08.01.2022 1200 MALE SUICIDES IN AUSTRALIA IN 2020. Unfortunately this particular virus cannot be avoided by wearing masks or social distancing. In fact lack of connection and speaking up are some of the root causes to this virus spreading. We’re in a very challenging time in our lives right now and it doesn’t seem like anyone has the right answers. I myself am often lost for answers as I try to understand this world in which we live in. But running away or trying to ignore this proble...m doesn’t make it go away. So what can we do? How can we help men open up? The biggest thing that I have learned through working on myself and working with other men is that we all have a desire to be heard. The problem is we are all so busy talking, trying to prove a point, trying to be right, trying to justify ourselves and our actions, trying to find our identities, that we lose the ability to hold space for another. So here is what you can do, ask a man how they’re doing and then listen, don’t try to fix his problem, don’t try to suggest a solution, don’t try to give him advice, don’t try to sympathize with him, just listen. You’ll be amazed at how being open and being present and just acknowledging how he feels can change the direction of his life. It takes practice for sure but with a little effort we may just make a difference. And if you need more help I have tagged some amazing people and association which can help.

07.01.2022 RESENTMENT: THE ROOT OF ANGER Through most of the coaching sessions I have had with men, anger is often the most common emotion. Men struggling with this emotions for many reasons and I think it’s because this emotion is so misunderstood. For me, there is actually nothing wrong with anger. It’s an emotion which has energy and if directed correctly can have many benefits. The key word is directed. When anger is not direct well or directed at another person it becomes quite neg...ative as most of us know. The key to anger is getting ahead of it. Understanding what triggers anger and finding a more positive outlet allows the potential for transformation. For example I would often put my anger into the gym. It allowed me to train hard and push myself which in turn led to great physical results. So how do you get ahead of anger? By looking out for its quiet cousin: Resentment. With myself and all the men I have coached, the root cause of anger was resentment. Resentment is defined as bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly. When we feel we have been treated unfairly and we don’t communicate this, resentment builds and transforms into anger. I spent many years learning to catch my resentments and dealing with them in the moment. This requires practice and patience and a willingness to communicate in a non-threatening and diplomatic way. Easy, right? One step at a time.

06.01.2022 MEDITATION & PRAYER Happy summer solstice! Today is traditionally known as the first day of summer and the longest day. I never really paid that much attention to astrological dates in the past, but I have come to appreciate the beautiful moving‘s of our planet. It gives me a sense of the greater workings of the universe and that there is always so much more going on around me than just the life that I live. I use this day to center into myself and to focus on letting go of... the things that no longer serve me and asked to anchor the things which will help me bring in a wonderful new year. You’ll be surprised at how powerful such a ritual can be and I often find many men are reluctant to include spiritual rituals Into their life for fear it is too feminine. But all the men out there trust me spend some time incorporating some of these practices and watch your life expand.

06.01.2022 MEDITATION IS A PRACTICE This was my guest today for meditation. I tired to find a quiet place to sit, plug my ear phones in, light a candle and softly allow my awareness to expand. Then like a hurricane, this little guy jumps in, finds a comfortable position in the bed and starts playing Mario Cart - loud as ever. Meditation is a practice of acceptance. Accepting the present moment as it is. It would be easy for me to get upset, to rush him out and get frustrated that my pe...rfect hideaway for peace was distorted. But this is not putting the practice of meditation into action. Instead I just sat there taking the moment in, with all its noises and interruptions and suddenly a wave a gratitude came over me, for I love this little guy more than words. And in accepting the moment I also accepted him - how could I not. It’s easy to meditate when the environment is favorable. When the circumstances are favorable - but this is not life nor the present moment. So my surrender to what is become the peace I have been looking for in my meditation. Thank you for the lesson. How beautiful life is

05.01.2022 THAT’S A WRAP (for now) Such an amazing day celebrating my wife and launch of her book Confidence Feels Like Sh#t I couldn’t be more proud of my wife and our team for pulling of this milestone. A massive thank you to everyone that came and supported with so many great sponsors and suppliers.... For now I’m exhausted and hungover as hell with two crazy kids running around. Bliss @deanpublishing @nikitqoc @thetanjalee @thequeenofconfidence @barggiovans @luxecoutureevents @boutiqueballoons.melbourne @theprincehotel @sweeteve1 @sweetsbysuzie @letter.art.designs @st__loves

05.01.2022 RITES & RITUALS WITH TIM MORRISON It was such an honor to have Tim on the podcast sharing his insights into masculinity, rituals, Shamanism and his own journey through life. The biggest take away that I got from Tim was his explanation on the primal energy inside all men and how we as men need a positive way to direct and utilize that primal energy. Tim helps his clients get in contact with this energy through various modalities and exercises, one of them being a form of wre...stling. I hope you enjoy this episode with Tim and learn as much as I did. https://open.spotify.com/episode/5xQJUX1eT0DrI2ZuVQFXiT

05.01.2022 NEW PODCAST It was an absolute pleasure to sit down with my good friend Adam Dean Edwards as he takes me through his transformation from night club owner to life coach. Adam is one of those exceptional human beings that I had the privilege of meeting during my crazy hey days of partying and club life. Adam was an absolute gentleman and probably the most genuine person I met during that time and it is of no surprise to me that he’s now doing what he’s doing and helping so ma...ny people transform their lives. In this episode Adam and I exchange notes on personal development, spiritual development and what it’s like for a man to change careers and change his entire perception of himself. As you can imagine I can talk to Adam for hours on end and this podcast went for a very long time and therefore has been split into two parts with part two available next week. I want to take this opportunity to thank Adam so much for his time and his insight and for being on the Manfulness podcast and sharing everything so vulnerable. Adam Edwards https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wL5ykZFgqlUgNXiiz2qYV

04.01.2022 COUPLES & COVID Now is particularly difficult for couples. We are in the midst of a pandemic, we are in the mist of a financial crisis, there is uncertainty about the future and what the future will look like. Most of us are at home locked up and restricted from doing the things that we love doing, and seeing the people that we love seeing. We have children that are unable to go to school, unable to see their friends, unable to go out and play and yet instead of trapped insid...e at home. So this is definitely not an easy time for anybody and especially for couples with families. However through every dark time there is an opportunity for growth and for evolution. And this could not be a better time to address those things that maybe we didn’t spend the time looking at before this. what I have seen through working with couples for the last couple of years has been the amount of resentment that most couples hold for each other. That resentment has been kept inside for years and left to fester. Then you add in a crisis like the one we find ourselves in and the real virus splurges out. These resentments go back to almost the beginning of the relationship but the couple never took the time to discuss to communicate and to heal the wounds inside of their relationship. There is no better time now to face these resentments to talk about past pains so that your relationship couldn’t grow and flourish. In this episode I share my insights into relationship and a tool that you can use in order to give your relationship a fresh start. https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JmvctFe1R7VWXsZHkOmCJ

03.01.2022 My word for next year is BREATH Every year the wife and I sent an intention for the year in the form of a word. This year was BE SEEN (that’s two words) and I feel I did that. I never wanted to start Manfulness, I just couldn’t be bothered. We already have two businesses and two babies. But after going within and seeing the level of suicide in men, I knew I had to do something. This year I competed over 50 Manfulness episodes, 100’s of live IG mediations, gave away my free me...ditation course, collaborated with @bloomapp and did 150 men’s coaching sessions and healing sessions. I’m so proud of myself. And 2021 is BREATH. Because the breath is the center, it’s the beginning and the link between mind, body and spirit. Not only that but now I’m a qualified @somabreath instructor and I’m so excited to add this amazing technique to my practice and bring the world of pranayama breathing to those I work with. Honor to be apart of the amazing Soma family too. I want to take this time to wish you a happy new year. 2020 was tough but for me the best year ever. And not because it was perfect or easy but because it challenged me and helped me grow. I wish you that continued growth as we welcome 2021. And express my deep gratitude for life. What is your word for 2021?

01.01.2022 STOP BEING SCARED OF THE DARK Our stories tell us things that hide in the dark, of the monster lurking behind the bed. We become paralyzed by the thought of what’s behind there and choose to run away, to hide away. Become distracted and busy with others things and feel like we have defeated the darkness by getting as far away as possible. But this is a lie.... The darkness is always there. The fear is always just around the corner. Until one day we stop running, we stop hiding and pretending and turn inwards to face our demons. This is true courage. Not the man who fights every enemy but the man who sees the enemy inside of him and offers him love. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6V7jnF68y4v2UQrlJwF5nd