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25.01.2022 MATE’s Women’s Health Week series continued... let’s talk mental health! #womenshealth #womenshealthweek
25.01.2022 Thank you to BDVS (Brisbane Domestic Violence Service) for committing to educating the community during Sexual Violence Awareness Month - and especially for asking us to partner with you to share some information about image based abuse. Take the time to watch all of the videos BDVS have shared this month - share them and discuss with your people. We all have a role to play in the prevention of sexual violence and challenging the attitudes that support it. #besomeonewhodoessomething
25.01.2022 We take for granted that people know what makes a relationship a healthy one. As an effective bystander, this is a simple way for us to acknowledge, reinforce and promote equality, respect and safety in relationships. We can also normalise that relationships are not easy, but that there is a clear line between an unhealthy relationship and an abusive one. To learn more, visit our recent webinar recordings with Brisbane Domestic Violence Service and The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation here: https://fb.watch/2wNzXmWRnp/
25.01.2022 It’s been a privilege to work alongside Mildura Rural City Council to present a series of virtual webinars and workshops to their community. It’s an even bigger honour to receive feedback like this. We love empowering community members to inspire change in their homes, schools and workplaces. Thank you Mildura Rural City Council for your commitment and for leading the way. #besomeonewhodoessomething
24.01.2022 It was both an honour and a privilege to MC the Domestic and Family Violence Forum in the Moreton Bay Region in July. As the Director of the MATE Bystander Program I am often asked how we can #dosomething to challenge and change the devastating impact of domestic and family violence on our community. I will always respond with "it's on all of us". We, you and I, need to learn the signs of domestic and family violence and find safe and appropriate ways to intervene. Inte...rvening may look different for all of us, some of us are more confident directly challenging someone, while others wait for the right moment to say something to either the victim or the perpetrator. Being an effective bystander is all about showing up and potentially saving a life. We've got this. We are all in this together. P.S. MC'ing next to @kaymcgrath was a career highlight - what an incredible woman! @Kay McGrath
24.01.2022 May 26 // National Sorry Day We cannot begin to fix the problems of the present without accepting the truth of our history. Sorry Day asks us to acknowledge the Stolen Generations, and in doing so, reminds us that historical injustice is still an ongoing source of intergenerational trauma for Aboriginal and Torres Islander families, communities, and peoples. (reconciliation.org.au) Image by the amazing @sar.ra__
24.01.2022 Today we joined colleagues from across Queensland at the DFV COVID19 Summit - where we explored ways to support victims experiencing domestic violence and ways to hold perpetrators accountable at this time. The robust, challenging and innovative discussions were incredibly important and our hope is that we can all end violence against women. What can you do? Check in on your neighbours, family and friends, share information about DFV and the support services available an...d seek out opportunities to learn more about DFV so that you can #besomeonewhodoessomething #dfvcovid19summit
23.01.2022 NAIDOC Week Series // Follow and Support We talk about a 'social media vortex' here at MATE. It is where we forget that social media is no longer real time photos showing up in chronological order, rather its algorithms deliberately showing you content that it thinks you want to see, based on what you have previously engaged with. The posts you spend the most time reading, the ones you share, like, comment on it will show you more of those. As a result, you can see much... of the same type of thing, which can be great, but it can also trick us in to thinking that everyone thinks the same as you, likes the same things as you, is passionate about the same things as you and - possibly even looks like you and has the same experience of the world as you. It also adds to the real-life vortex we can sometimes inadvertently create where we tend to spend time in the same places with the same people of the same culture and not necessarily experience any diversity. Both the social media vortex and the real-life vortex are easily fixed, they just take some effort to diversify your experience of both. The pages we have tagged here include amazing First Nations advocates focusing on a wide range of topics. From petitioning to incorporate the traditional land names in Aus addresses, ways to pay reparations as an individual, social movements, politics & education. It makes our hearts sing to see that thanks to the work of Gomeroi woman Rachael McPhail (@place_names_in_addresses), @auspost has today publicly endorsed the idea of traditional place names in the addresses of all mail! In addition to the accounts above, if you are in Melbourne @djirravic recently shared 'Djirra's Reverse Advent Calendar', noting one small non-perishable item each day that people can collect during November which will create a hamper to be donated to an Aboriginal mum and her children doing it tough this Christmas. You get to choose who you follow, support, engage, consume, listen & learn from. The tagged accounts are just the beginning, the social media vortex will lead you to so many more inspiring and educational pages. #naidocweek2020 #naidoc See more
23.01.2022 To round out our Women’s Health Week series, we’re taking a look at social wellbeing. Sometimes we forget to consider how our social lives and the relationships within them can impact our overall wellbeing - either positively or not-so-positively. Hopefully these tips will help! Happy Friday everyone! #womenshealth #womenshealthweek
23.01.2022 The work we do everyday is never about the praise, awards and accolades. It’s always been about recognising our privilege and knowing that we can play a role in eliminating violence against women. BUT, being acknowledged as an inaugural Queensland Domestic Violence Prevention Honour Roll recipient as individuals and also as a team here at MATE is an absolute honour. We wear the title with both a deep sense of pride and a determined responsibility to continue to #besomeonewhodoessomething. Together, us Queenslanders are changing the world
23.01.2022 If you haven't already registered for our upcoming virtual event, Man to Man: Exploring the role of men in preventing domestic violence, you still have time. This event promises to be inspiring, with thought-provoking conversation from some of Australia and New Zealand's most influential men in this space. You will take away some practical tips to discuss this issue with other men in your life, and ways for you to personally address the pandemic of violence against women. Sh...e Is Not Your Rehab White Ribbon Australia Beyond DV Kay McGrath Small Steps 4 Hannah #besomeonewhodoessomething Register at https://matebystander.edu.au//man-to-man-she-is-not-your-/ TODAY!
22.01.2022 Meet Mark Grantham, National Commercial Vehicle Manager for AVIS car rentals. On Sunday, Mark drove this temporary rental vehicle to the Gold Coast to provide the car to Kelly Wilkinson’s family free of charge to enable the family to travel with all 8 children together as one. Mark, we cannot thank you enough for helping Kelly’s family in such a practical way through such a terrible time. Mark and his team contacted MATE at 7pm Friday night after a tiring day of fruitless cal...ls for help. Mark heard our plight and made it happen simply stating it’s a no brainer! You’re a legend and we will be using only AVIS car rentals from now on. Now, come on MATE community.... let’s finalise a permanent car option. This is only temporary. Who can help???? #Channel10 #channel7news #9News #today
22.01.2022 We don't always share the same world views as the people that we love. And this year has been the year that previously unspoken opinions have come to the surface. Staying true to your values is important but challenging conversations that make you feel uncomfortable at this time of year is difficult. We're all exhausted and ready to switch off from the emotionally charged nature of 2020. Remember, it is OK to take a break from consistently challenging people to see things fr...om your perspective, it is OK to set boundaries and protect your personal space. We hope some of these tips will help you to do that! #besomeonewhodoessomething
22.01.2022 NAIDOC Week Series // Anti-Racism This week is a time to celebrate the culture and achievements of First Nations people. We must also recognise that Australia has a dark history, and NAIDOC Week provides us with the reminder to go there and learn. Learn about the policies and the political rhetoric that has formed the deeply entrenched attitudes that lead to discrimination, disproportionate levels of incarceration, and higher levels of unemployment, mental illness and economi...c disparity of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people in this country (when compared to non-Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people). Julia Gillard said these words in parliament in 2013: "We must never feel guilt for the things already done in this nation's history, but we can and must feel responsible for the things that remain undone". There is so much work to do for all that remains undone, and progress is painstakingly slow. Just yesterday, on the 3rd day of NAIDOC Week, parliament voted AGAINST hanging the Aboriginal flag in the senate chamber alongside the Australian flag. It starts with us. It's ON all of us. It starts with learning. It starts with listening. And it ends when we are all free from injustice. #naidoc2020 #naidocweek #besomeonewhodoessomething
22.01.2022 We have partnered with the incredible team at Top 100 Women to ensure that Kelly Wilkinson’s three children are well cared for by all of us into the future. If you work in construction or know someone that does and would like to help please click on the link below
21.01.2022 Free WEBINAR session // We are experiencing unprecedented events and the current circumstances can pose increased risks to the safety and wellbeing of the people within your organisation. Do you need some advice on how to offer the appropriate support? There is no handbook to guide us through what we are currently going through. What we can do however, is apply specialist domestic violence knowledge and the bystander approach to ensure the people in our workplaces, who may ...be experiencing or using violence, are supported. Therefore, we're offering a free webinar to discuss some ways you can provide this support - from a MATE perspective. This is a dynamic situation and while it is not a ‘one size fits all’ approach, we believe we can provide general advice on some of the ways you can address the situation within your own context, with empathy and compassion. We will discuss how the current restrictions may be impacting those working from home, those who are considered essential and can’t work from home, and those who no longer have job security. We will also be able to provide you with details for other specialised services who will be able to give you further support and specific advice if required. Register at the below link and don't forget to leave a question you would like answered. #besomeonewhodoessomething
21.01.2022 Today, 28 August, is Equal Pay Day. It marks the additional 59 days from the end of the financial year that women must work to earn the same as men. The WGEA Director, Libby Lyon reminds us also that the COVID-19 crisis has had a disproportionate impact on women - with female dominated industries suffering the worst of the job losses. She is urging all employers to ensure that gender equality is a top business priority in their organisations. Further than that though - what ...are you doing for gender equality? This week in conversation with @gloriasteinem (via a @businesschicks event) we were reminded that ideas of democracy start in the home. Ideas about equity, fairness and justice start where we each have the most influence - at home with our families. Let’s remember that incredibly courageous feminists like Gloria paved the way - and a 14% pay gap would have seemed like a pipe dream in the 50s, yet we still have a long way to go. Standing on the shoulders of greatness we remember that we each have the capacity and the RESPONSIBILITY to continue the work of those that came before us. What will your conversation around the dinner table be about tonight? #keepmindingthegap #equalpayday #besomeonewhodoessomething
19.01.2022 Sport and violence prevention: making change through action, activism and research - Panel discussion online - Tuesday 18 August Violence against women is one of the pressing issues of our time and despite the increasing visibility of women at all levels including as CEOs and coaches attitudes that condone violence (including rape jokes, and using gender to undermine people’s abilities and capabilities) continues. Change is difficult but necessary and this change needs t...o happen at micro levels (everyday exchanges and norms) and at macro levels (the standards we uphold in our society and workplaces). We're really excited to be joining this panel discussing the important role sport has to play in preventing violence. Bringing together perspectives from academics and activists, and those working to prevent violence in the community, together with professional elite sport, we will engage in a productive discussion of what is working, and what is holding us back as we address violence (including sexual violence) and the relationship to sport. Click the link below to register! https://www.vision6.com.au/v/53700/1041228/email.html
19.01.2022 This incredibly inspirational woman turns 40 today. Anyone who has met Shaan knows her passion, her integrity, her wisdom and her commitment to changing the world for the better. To know her is to love her and be inspired by her. We can’t wait to see what she can achieve in the next 40 years! Happy birthday Shaan!
19.01.2022 Consistently challenging problematic attitudes on social media? Always being 'that person' at the BBQ that pulls up the racist language or joke? The ONLY person in your family who feels the way you do? Feel exhausted after engaging in social or mainstream media? ... Let’s talk about bystander self-care. We have to recognise that practising self-care is vital to anti-racism work. Self-care looks different for everyone. Sometimes, disengaging is vital for your mental wellbeing and it is OK. It doesn't mean you retreat so far back that you stop doing the work, it just means you might change tact to doing some more reading, listening to, or hanging out with people with the lived experience. It might mean that you spend some time in corners of the internet where you find inspiration. Whatever it is, it is OK and it is healthy. When you know that doing NOTHING is no longer an option, doing SOMETHING can become exhausting so recharge so you can continue in your commitment to change. We need you! #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
19.01.2022 Today is Strive To Be Kind Day! This year this day feels even more important given our current circumstances. Thank you to The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation for all that you do. Today and every day we remember Allison, and her dedication to kindness.
18.01.2022 Here is another announcement and opportunity to join us in conversation! We’re so pleased to be working with our friends at ANU Respectful Relationships Unit to bring this event to you. Join the Respectful Relationship Unit Manager Sue Webeck and experts from the MATE Bystander Program to discuss the importance of identifying and responding to racism and discrimination within our communities. ... Let’s talk about how you can make Bystander a VERB and make a positive impact in our community. If you want to be a proactive leader in your community and take a stand against racism and discrimination, this is the webinar for you! Details: 11am Friday 15 May Register for the FREE event here:
18.01.2022 We are deeply saddened by yesterday’s High Court decision and are concerned about the community impact at this time. We know that the decision would have caused distress for many people, particularly those who have experienced abuse. This distress is compounded by the current circumstances - in which people may feel further isolated and less connected to their regular supports. Our role as bystanders is critical - check in with friends, colleagues, neighbours and loved ones. ...There’s still so many ways we can offer our support while maintaining physical distance. Encouraging people to maintain hope - in themselves, in the justice system, in the world - is what we each have the opportunity to do. We see you. We hear you. We believe you. Thank you to Premier Dan Andrews for his leadership. If you or anyone you know needs support, please contact: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 DVConnect Sexual Assault Line: 1800 010 120
18.01.2022 Registrations are coming in FAST for this one! You still have time to register and we are very pleased to announce that Cathy Oddie - Financial Wellbeing Consultant, Family Violence Advocate, Public Speaker and Survivor (and all round amazing human) will be joining us to add her perspective and hopefully answer some of your questions. For all of those registered, you will receive the link to access on Monday. #besomeonewhodoessomething
18.01.2022 Domestic Violence is 100% preventable. Substance abuse, mental health, stress and just losing it are not causal factors of violence. Domestic Violence is a choice. A conscious choice to use power and control over your partner. What if bystanders had intervened at the first sign of domestic violence for Sabah? What if they had of held her perpetrator accountable at every turn? We need more education on the role of bystanders and we need it now. We are sooooo sorry Sabah - ...you deserved better, you deserved to feel safe inside your own home (and everywhere for that matter). Together we can change the world. We can eliminate domestic and family violence. We can have conversations that change lives #domesticviolence #besomeonewhodoessomething #bystanderintervention
17.01.2022 Someone very wise once told us that bystander intervention is like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it gets. The more you exercise it, the better at it you become. As bystanders, finding a way to intervene that feels safe and appropriate for you can take some time. Here are some tips that can help: You don't need to have all of the answers - you can still be learning and call out racism at the same time. ... Sometimes, simply asking "can you please explain that to me?", or "What makes you think that?" can respectfully hold people accountable while promoting meaningful conversation. You could say "I understand these kinds of comments were normal in our family when we were growing up, but as an adult, I have learned that they can be harmful" Or "I know I can't control what you do in your own home, but those kinds of comments are offensive to me. I don't want my children to hear them, so please don't use that language in my home". Or "I've done some reading, and I feel like I understand the problem a bit better now, so I have stopped using that language it’s the least I can do". Or "I'm all about equality - so I don't tell jokes like that/use that language" Or change the subject. Sometimes, creating the circuit breaker and diverting the conversation to something else can be the most effective thing you can do in that moment. What bystander intervention techniques work for you? #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
17.01.2022 The time to act is now. Women are dying at the hands of their partners and ex-partners. This is 100 percent preventable. We are all bystanders. It’s on all of us. We must act. Call the police, yell out, phone security, knock on the door, do anything but do something!
17.01.2022 Anoushka and I sat in the living room of Kelly Wilkinson’s sister Danielle, husband Rhys and their five children yesterday. Having just learnt about the horrific, devastating murder of their sister, Danielle and Rhys immediately put their hands up to raise Kelly's three children, alongside their own five children, to ensure they have a loving, safe and supportive home environment after witnessing the brutal murder of their mother at the hands of their father. They know it's... just what Kelly would have wanted - all of the cousins growing up together. What we do know is that this family is going to need ALL the support we can give. We, the entire community, can ensure that this family receives our messages of support through donations, big or small, that will go toward funeral costs, counselling for the children, school uniforms, food, clothing, a car that fits the entire family and a bigger home with enough space for eight children's beds. If you can donate, please click the link below. Every little bit helps. If you can help in other ways, please email [email protected] and we will link you with the family. Kelly, we failed you as a community. We are sooo sorry. We will NOT fail your children. https://au.gofundme.com/f/help-kellys-children
15.01.2022 Today is World Humanitarian Day. Given we are in the midst a global pandemic, the day brings a new meaning, and prompts us to focus our thoughts on those who are on the frontline of this crisis globally - risking their lives to save others. Ultimately, World Humanitarian Day is a global celebration of people helping people - which from a MATE perspective celebrates effective bystanders. Choosing to #besomeonewhodoessomething signifies the strength of humanity in us all, whether you are on the front line of a health crisis, a concerned neighbour or friend checking in, or someone determined to challenge the systems that marginalise groups of people in our communities. Whoever you are, and however you choose to help people, is celebrated today and every day by the entire MATE team! You are our #reallifeheroes
15.01.2022 25 November is the International Day of the Elimination of Violence Against Women and it also marks the start of the UN Women's 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence. This is a very important day in our calendar. It is the day that we are able to leverage global attention and highlight the importance of preventing violence against women and bring much needed education to the forefront. Violence against women has this year been labelled by UN Women as the 'shadow pandemi...c' due to the way the COVID-19 fall out and lockdowns have intensified the violence that women and girls all over the world have experienced. However, the global pandemic of violence against women is not new - and we all have a role to play in preventing and addressing it. Over the next 16 days, MATE will be sharing tips on how to be an effective bystander to various forms of gendered violence. Because ending violence against women is everyone's business. #besomeonewhodoessomething See more
15.01.2022 At MATE we’re so passionate about ending victim blaming and shaming in our culture. As bystanders, this is the most effective thing we can do to create environments where victims/survivors feel supported and not further isolated. When we remove the perpetrator from the dialogue, we fail to hold them accountable. End victim blaming - change up the dialogue. No one is ever to blame for someone else choice to use violence against them. It’s that simple. #besomeonewhodoessomething #16daysofactivism
15.01.2022 'Spitting on homeless man', only forms part of the vile, misogynistic, racist, homophobic list of humiliating, criminal and destructive muck-up day activities the Shore School boys had planned. But WHY? and HOW? How in 2020, do boys still find it "funny" to challenge each other with "jokes" that are sadly all too familiar. The list, put together by year 12 school boys at an elite Sydney school, included sexual and (sometimes) illegal acts, such as kiss a girl under the age o...f 15, and an "Asian chick", have sex with a woman who weighs over 80kgs and another who is deemed 3/10 in attractiveness, along with "get with a lesbian" and "act gay". The list highlights a dangerous sense of entitlement, privilege and problematic social norms about what it means to be 'a boy/man'. It clearly shows who these boys believe are 'beneath' them on the social ladder, and that includes non-white people, LGBTIQ people, and homeless people. Further, it highlights a concerning level of disrespect for women. There is a clear link between these violence-supportive attitudes and violence against women. These boys go onto being men who occupy top jobs in our country - lawyers, politicians - given the power to make decisions about our social welfare and economy.... Is it any wonder we are 44th on the Global Index measuring Gender Inequality? Is it any wonder that one woman a week is being murdered at the hands of her partner or former partner in this country? Is it any wonder that over 90% of women report being sexual harassed, and sexually assaulted on the streets of Australia and over 50% of women say they feel particularly vulnerable at night? In all of this, there is hope, clearly an effective bystander said something, told someone, brought this to light in order for this list to be quashed before it could be executed. Bystanders prevented this list from creating a lifetime of hurt, humiliation and suffering for the victims on the receiving end of this list - and have hopefully sent a message of accountability to those involved. It is time that we as a society, as parents, as educators, prioritise discussions around privilege, social inequities and kindness above all else. Learn more about the important role of men holding each other accountable at our upcoming Men’s event. Register here: www.matebystander.edu.au//man-to-man-she-is-not-your-rehab/ #shoreschool #besomeonewhodoessomething
15.01.2022 To celebrate Women’s Health Week, we’re sharing a short series with some physical, mental and social wellbeing tips for women - with a MATE spin! Our overall health and well-being is determined by a number of interconnected factors because women are multidimensional (and amazing ). Healthy, thriving and empowered women are integral to healthy and thriving communities - so take some time to go inwards this week and check on what might be effecting your health and well-being #womenshealth #WomensHealthWeek
14.01.2022 NAIDOC Week Series // Start today! As children of the 80's and 90's, we learned very little about Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander culture and history - and our social conditioning was problematic when it comes to recognising and understanding the divide between First Nations people and non-indigenous Australians. Regardless of where your thinking has been, or what your actions and beliefs have been, it is never too late to start learning and celebrating. Normalise chan...ging your opinion and behaviour when presented with new knowledge that is how we will challenge status quo and change the world for the better! This is our final NAIDOC Week post and it's Friday! Celebrate by listening to our favourite Aussie duo, Busby Marou. Jeremy Marou is a proud Torres Strait Islander man, and an advocate for youth within the Torres Strait Islands community. #naidocweek2020 #naidoc2020 #besomeonewhodoessomething
13.01.2022 We have been lucky enough to travel all over Victoria, meeting and working with people from Gippsland to Mildura to Bendigo, Geelong, the Yarra Valley, Melbourne and everywhere in between. Some of our most favourite people are in Victoria and tonight we’re thinking of you and ALL Victorians. As you move in to a further difficult and testing time, remember to reach out for support, stay in contact with friends and loved ones, be kind to yourself, and remember - regardless of how isolated you feel - you’re not alone. We’re here with you, and we can’t wait for the day we can visit you and learn from you again soon! Stay safe - we’re sending all our love
13.01.2022 It’s NAIDOC Week 2020 - Always was, always will be. This week we celebrate the oldest living culture on Earth, and recognise that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people have cared for this land for over 65,000 years. They were Australia’s first explorers, first navigators, first engineers, first farmers, first botanists, first scientists, first diplomats, first astronomers and first artists (naidoc.org). And their deep, spiritual connection to this land is to be both recognised and celebrated. This week, we will bring you a series of NAIDOC inspired Bystander Activism tip sheets and information as a way to start a discussion and inspire positive action. #besomeonewhodoessomething
13.01.2022 Believe, listen to and support survivors. In doing so, we will reduce victim blaming and shaming, and create a culture in which victims of violence feel safe to disclose their experience. Ultimately, when we respond to survivors with respect, we are contributing to prevention too - because it will promote conversation, education and shared ownership . It costs you nothing to believe survivors. The cost of not believing them is far greater. If you would like to learn more by...stander strategies, and understand your personal capacity to prevent violence, join us for our FREE webinar with BDVS and the Allison Baden-Clay Foundation as part of the 16 Days of Activism on 2 December at 6pm AEST - for more information, visit https://www.facebook.com/events/381952936340310 #16daysofactivism #besomeonewhodoessomething
13.01.2022 RECORDING AVAILABLE // We know so many of you have been waiting for this... The recording of our recent event Man to Man: Exploring the role of men in preventing domestic violence, is now available! Watch it now, share it with your friends, and drop your thoughts below! Beyond DV She Is Not Your Rehab Australia's CEO Challenge Kay McGrath White Ribbon Australia Small Steps 4 Hannah
13.01.2022 We’d love for you to join us for this webinar presented in partnership with the Allison Baden-Clay Foundation and BDVS during the 16 Days of Activism! Take away practical tips and techniques for your bystander activism journey. #besomeonewhodoessomething
12.01.2022 Today marks the end of the #16daysofactivism. It’s been a busy 16 days, with various events and webinars with diverse organisations committed to bringing this conversation to their people and their communities. We’re a little tired but a lot inspired! We’d like to end the 16 days with this: You are not alone. ... If you’ve experienced violence in the past: You are not alone. If you are currently experiencing violence: You are not alone. If you are distressed, frustrated, outraged by the experiences of violence towards women in Australia and around the globe: You are not alone. If you want to make a difference: You are not alone. If being an effective bystander is confronting to you: You are not alone. We see you, we hear you, we’ve got you. You are not alone and we are better together. We can leverage these feelings and create meaningful change when we work together. Stay tuned, we are busily working on ways to do just this in a BIG way in 2021. #besomeonewhodoessomething
12.01.2022 As bystanders, the most important part of our role is to ensure the other person feels seen, heard and supported. You don’t have to get it right 100% of the time - we’re not perfect. But we’re pretty sure that: good intentions + being considerate of the language we use = a pretty perfect equation. ... If you’re interested in learning more practical bystander tips, particularly around challenging problematic behaviour - don’t forget to register for our (free) upcoming webinar! https://matebystander.edu.au//webinar-respectfully-challe/ #besomeonewhodoessomething
12.01.2022 It is utterly devastating that 3 more women can be added to this register in one single day because of something that is 100% preventable. It is utterly heartbreaking that it doesn’t even make the front page or the news headlines. We should be outraged. We should be screaming until our lungs give out. Yet, it appears we’re desensitised. During the 16 Days of Activism against Gendered Violence when we are supposed to be the most energised, activated and empowered - the mur...ders of 3 women - for a total of 48 this year - barely makes a ripple. This is a stark reminder of all the work that lay in front of us. All of us. See more
11.01.2022 As we sit here today hoping that COVID19 would unite us, bring us closer and remind us of what's important, we are very quickly reminded that while racism still exists we will never truly feel united and equal. During COVID we saw an increase of racism toward our Asian community and we continue to see racism toward our Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities on a daily basis. Here at MATE we want to thank all bystanders who do everything they can to hold people who use racism accountable. It is not enough to not be racist, we need to be anti-racist. We cannot be apathetic to what is happening around us. There is an inner advocate in all of us, let's use it to heal the world. #equalitynow #saynotoracism #besomeonewhodoessomething #ripjoyceclarke #ripgeorgefloyd
11.01.2022 Sometimes, the universe sends you some really clear messages. Over the last 24 hours we’ve been reminded that some things are 100% certain... 1. There are some incredibly passionate people working in this space, doing some astonishingly amazing things to prevent violence and create equality. 2. You can never have enough conversations with said people. 3. Just when you think you can’t be more inspired, you meet more of those people and they light a spark inside you to continu...e to forge ahead. 4. Most people are good humans, willing to be part of movement of positive change - and mobilising them remains our biggest goal. Thank you to each and every person to who joined us last night. The conversations had will absolutely change and save lives. Here’s to having many more. For those who missed it, we will make the recording available as soon as possible. Special, heartfelt thanks for Matt Brown (She Is Not Your Rehab), Lloyd Clarke (Small Steps 4 Hannah), Michael Jeh (MATE) and Brad Chilcott (White Ribbon Australia). You are the embodiment of positive role models. Thank you for your leadership. Kay McGrath, you are a brilliant and consummate professional. Thank you Beyond DV Australia's CEO Challenge #besomeonewhodoessomething
11.01.2022 Some of you may have had the absolute pleasure of meeting this incredible human at our MATE conference last year - it was life changing! Samuel Leighton-Dore just happens to be one of our most favourite, certainly most inspirational, humans. Please watch this clip and make a promise to build and create communities where everyone feels safe and like they belong. We adore you Samuel Leighton-Dore. Together we are changing the world
11.01.2022 It’s Transgender Awareness Week! Maddison is a great friend and contributor at MATE and we’re incredibly grateful for her leadership in this space. Thank you Maddison for what you have done for the trans community and for all people who have been lucky enough to learn from your graciousness. It is so important that we bring attention to issues of prejudice, discrimination and violence that affect trans and gender diverse people - and educate on the ways to prevent it and adv...ocate for equality for all people. Trans rights are human rights. On the Trans Day of Remembrance, today, 20 November, we pause to remind ourselves of the work still to be done. We remember those lost, celebrate the strength of the trans community in the face of adversity, and commit to ending transphobia to create a safe and inclusive world for everyone. #transvisibilityweek #besomeonewhodoessomething
11.01.2022 We still have a few spots remaining for our Train the Trainer on 14-16 September. If you are Queensland based and interested in joining us, contact us now for further information or book now via the website. For our interstate friends, we will be looking to run another Train the Trainer early in 2021, depending on COVID19 restrictions and border closures. Did you know we now offer a Griffith University micro-credential for the successful completion of a Train the Trainer cou...rse? This includes a digital badge certifying that you have the skills to be a change-maker and leader in the prevention of violence and the promotion of gender equality. Become part of our MATE community! We'd love to see you there. #besomeonewhodoessomething
11.01.2022 Announcing our final DFV Prevention Month Webinar - featuring Cathy Oddie. Facilitating bystander workshops all across the country, we have been met with genuine and consistent questions about how bystander action really impacts the person experiencing the violence. Do bystanders make it worse? What message is the victim getting when bystanders intervene? What message are they getting when bystanders do nothing? What if I get it wrong? These are important questions, and as e...ffective bystanders, the answers can help us to overcome some significant challenges. Cathy comes from a the perspective of a survivor, and thanks to her work, people in many spaces (including the finance sector) have a better victim/survivor-focused understanding in their practice. Cathy advocates long and hard for a better understanding of the lived experience of people who have suffered violence and abuse. This FREE webinar is Tuesday 26 May at 12:30-1:30pm via zoom. You can access the webinar via this link. Registration is not required. We hope to see you there! #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
09.01.2022 To our incredible MATE community - thank you for your leadership. The last few days, weeks and months have been challenging, confronting and overwhelming. But if you’ve stood up to injustice, if you’ve stood alongside those marginalised and oppressed and if you’ve focused on your own varying privileges and how you can use them to lead and interrupt unhelpful conversations - you are an incredible leader! We want to thank you. Together we are changing the world!
09.01.2022 The MATE team are very excited to be be a part of this initiative, the launch of the Bystander App! This App will be the first of its kind to empower bystanders with the information they need to identify domestic and family violence and will provide them with strategies to be effective bystanders. We all know someone who has been affected by domestic and family violence and we want to help. This app empowers us with the tools to know how to help. #besomeonewhodoessomething
09.01.2022 Our Director here at the MATE program was very excited about arriving home to her new @hearts_ofpurple bin tonight. Those of you who know Shaan know just how much Coke No Sugar she consumes, so this bin will be filled in no time with all proceeds going to fund the incredible and tireless work done by this organisation supporting domestic violence victims in their time of need. If you would also like to do the same personally or within your organisation please contact @hearts_ofpurple today
08.01.2022 Have you registered for our webinar with Brisbane Domestic Violence Service and The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation yet? Please join us for an hour of bystander empowerment and tips to activate your leadership for positive change! Email [email protected] to register now.
08.01.2022 We are so pleased to be partnering with Brisbane Domestic Violence Service and The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation to bring you this FREE webinar. In this webinar we aim to upskill our community to recognise DFV, including coercive control. Participants will: learn how to RECOGNISE domestic and family violence... understand your STRENGTH as a friend/family member learn what Brisbane Domestic Violence Service CAN DO for people experiencing abuse in their relationships be a part of CHANGING ATTITUDES and helping us end violence against women in our community Register via the link below! #besomeonewhodoessomething
05.01.2022 We're all set up for our FREE webinar tonight - Man to Man: Exploring the role of men in the prevention of DFV. For those still wanting to join at 6:30pm AEST please find the link to Webex on the event page here... https://matebystander.edu.au//man-to-man-she-is-not-your-/
05.01.2022 It feels very fitting that today March 21 is Harmony Day, during a time when remembering we are all connected and we are all one, is imperative. A day when we are to honour diversity and celebrate inclusion - now more than ever, the message of Harmony Day is so important. May we commit to act, today and always, with boundless love and kindness towards every person, despite our differences. Image via Pinterest #besomeonewhodoessomething #harmonyday
05.01.2022 Don't allow your silence to be compliance when it comes to violence against women, or violence supportive attitudes and comments. Use your personal leadership and respectfully hold people accountable while promoting further discussion. We know it's difficult, we know we each have personal barriers that take significant courage to overcome when it comes to being an effective bystander. But if each of us do something that feels safe and appropriate for us, every single time, we will shift our culture. If you would like to learn more bystander strategies, and understand your personal capacity to prevent violence, join us for our webinar with BDVS and the Allison Baden-Clay Foundation on 2/12 - for more information, visit https://www.facebook.com/events/381952936340310 #besomeonewhodoessomething
05.01.2022 Time is running out to register for our free upcoming webinar featuring MATE facilitators, Stephen Hoskin and Michael Jeh. Here, Stephen Hoskin writes about why he is so passionate about the work that he does in this space. This webinar is going to be truly incredible. Please register via the events page on our website to join us. #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
04.01.2022 Partnering with the Allison Baden-Clay Foundation on the Allison’s Gift program has been an incredibly moving experience for our team here at MATE. The love that Allison’s parents Geoff and Priscilla and her sister Vanessa have for Allison was evident from the very moment we started exploring how they wanted to honour Allison through empowering the community to #besomeonewhodoessomething - their drive and passion for change is actually changing the world We can all be active bystanders by choosing to #dosomething when we hear, see or sense that something isn’t right. Ask are you ok?, share information about essential services like DVConnect and do what you can do - together we can share the message that violence is not tolerated in our communities
04.01.2022 The last couple of months have been challenging. The public discourse around violence against women, increased media attention, and the heartbreaking loss of lives to the domestic and sexual violence pandemic. Our heavy hearts are with the people at the forefront of this national crisis - the ones who take the distressing phone calls from women, listen to their experiences, provide them with support, manage their case and do everything they can with the resources they have to... keep every single woman who accesses their service, safe. We thank you for the work you do. We’re grateful the world has people like you in it. We recognise the emotional toll this work must take on your well-being. We appreciate, that for every heart wrenching loss, you have saved the life of hundreds, if not thousands, of others. Such is the nature of the sheer number of women experiencing violence in this country. May is Domestic and Family Violence Prevention month. Recognising the vital work of the people responding to this crisis in support services all around Australia reminds us of the importance of prevention. Our society owes it, not only to victims of violence to focus on prevention, but to those responding to it daily. Thank you, we see you, we appreciate you. #dfvpreventionmonth #besomeonewhodoessomething
04.01.2022 R U OK? day and suicide prevention is a challenging and important topic for all people - and given it coincides with Women’s Health Week, we’ve included it as part of our series. As bystanders, considering our response to loved ones who have told us that they are not OK, can be confronting, so we’ve provided some tips and scripts here to help. Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636... #ruok #womenshealth #womenshealthweek
04.01.2022 This year we have talked A LOT about how we can respectfully hold people accountable for problematic behaviour. As non-confrontational as some of these tips are, it still takes courage. It is hard to find the words, when your heart is racing and your voice may be shaking. Keeping some of these tips up your sleeve can help you to walk away from these conversations feeling like you did SOMETHING. And that is a million times better than doing nothing. #besomeonewhodoessomething
03.01.2022 What a day! With over 800 registrations for today’s webinar, Respectfully challenging problematic behaviour, our MATE directors Shaan and Anoushka shared practical tips on how to hold people accountable in a respectful manner. We looked at gender inequality, racism, disrespect in the work place, bullying and discrimination in general. We don’t always have the answers or know what to say when something feels wrong or we see/hear problematic behaviour. We may not have the co...nfidence or knowledge to call it out or hold people accountable. But we must speak up. We must say something. Even if it’s met with resistance, seems uncomfortable or we are still learning ourselves. We are all learning. Let’s learn together. For all those asking, the link to the webinar is below. Thank you to all who attended today and thank you for being someone who does something! #besomeonewhodoessomething See more
03.01.2022 FREE EVENT Join us for this very important event focusing on the role of men in the prevention of Domestic and Family Violence. We are thrilled to have the opportunity to hear from Matt Brown from She Is Not Your Rehab sharing his perspective and experience built from working with men to break the cycle of domestic violence. ... We will also be joined by Brad Chilcott, Executive Director of White Ribbon Australia and Lloyd Clarke from Small Steps 4 Hannah - and the event will be hosted by none other than Kay McGrath. Understanding the social conditioning around masculinity in our society is crucial to ending Domestic and Family Violence - and men play a vital role as bystanders. So recruit your mates and register for this event by visiting the link below! https://matebystander.edu.au//man-to-man-she-is-not-your-/ Proudly presented with Beyond DV. #mensevent #besomeonewhodoessomething #notnownotever QUEENSLAND TIME - AEST
03.01.2022 Calling all influencers and change makers Here is a clever and thoughtful way to make a difference and show that you care. Thank you to Mum Little Loves for sharing this post with her almost 30,000 followers and making herself visible as someone available to offer (discreet) support. This community based approach ensures that awareness of Domestic Violence is kept at the forefront and that this conversation is being had in all spaces.... Make no mistake, conscious raising in this way will save lives! #besomeonewhodoessomething See more
03.01.2022 FREE Webinar // Please join us for a webinar discussing how to Respectfully Challenge Problematic Behaviour. As bystanders, holding people accountable for any form of violence, abuse or problematic behaviour is confronting. Here, we will discuss some strategies that will assist proactive bystanders to challenge behaviour effectively and respectfully. Register via the link below! #besomeonewhodoessomething
03.01.2022 We truly believe we are witnessing a revolution. We are having a global conversation about racism, in a way we have never seen before. We know that one of the most important stages of bystander intervention is EDUCATION. Education is where we get inspiration. It is where we overcome our apathy and build the desire for change. It is important that those who feel the pull towards anti-racism work, know where to go for this education. We at MATE, are each doing the work on a... personal level, while learning how we can continue to educate outwards also through our bystander message and refining our Racism & Discrimination bystander program to include the recent events and the attitudes we have seen emerge - both positive, and unhelpful so that we can continue to drive social change. We are focussing on becoming more informed and building our knowledge as bystanders, and as humans who want to do better. One of the best things we can do for education is to recognise the many forms that it takes in our society. Have a think about racial stereotypes, racist language and jokes that have been normalised in our culture, and the way that movies and other media perpetuate this. Look up micro-aggressions what are they and how do they impact? Research the way our racial biases have resulted in employment disparities and socioeconomic disadvantage in Australia. Research Australian history and read about the intergenerational trauma caused to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people as a result of colonisation. Read also about Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women being at higher risk of domestic and family violence, and the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander childhood suicide rate. This is just the beginning of our education and it is vital we share this knowledge with others who want to learn and promote equality too. Once we know better, we do better. It’s never been more important to educate ourselves so we can advocate. #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
02.01.2022 There’s so many ways to check in and ask how are you... find what feels comfortable for you. The initial question is up to you - it’s the conversation starter. The prompt that says i care about you - I see you. The follow up questions depend on the response you get... their response will tell you how much (if anything) they may need from you. At worst, the conversation goes no further but you’ve still sent your message of support. At best, you go on to have a meaningful conversation that may just save a life. So, theres nothing to lose yet everything to gain by asking that first important question #besomeonewhodoessomething
02.01.2022 Hello to our MATE community, What unprecedented and trying times we find ourselves in. Impacts to health, safety and psychological wellbeing are currently immeasurable. Now, more than ever we must remember our role as bystanders. It costs us nothing and is something we can do today and everyday even under these circumstances. We at MATE are all about prevention - and bystanders are vital to preventing violence before it occurs and providing support if it has occurred. ... In this period of isolation, we are acutely aware of the need to be a MATE - even while social distancing. For people experiencing or using abuse, the current climate and restrictions are particularly volatile and unsafe. Here’s some things you can do to #besomeonewhodoessomething from afar...
02.01.2022 Do bystanders make it worse? In every MATE workshop, we discuss the barriers that we all have to intervening as bystanders. These barriers are both social and psychological and they are very well researched. The one that comes up the most consistently, is the fear of making it worse. This is a particularly strong barrier for bystanders intervening in incidences of domestic violence. We know what we are seeing is not alright, and we don’t want to make it worse for the person... experiencing the violence and abuse so how do we balance those two things? Click the link below to read more and listen to Cathy Oddie's perspective. https://matebystander.edu.au/do-bystanders-make-it-worse/ #besomeonewhodoessomething
02.01.2022 What better way to end a week in which we focused on how bystanders can hold people accountable for problematic behaviour - than with this incredibly impressive speech from US Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. She is measured and respectful, focused on the issue and it’s impact and she sends a message of accountability loud and clear. Thank you #AOC for your courageous leadership. Thanks for showing us how it’s done. For explaining so succinctly that language matters. For so beautifully describing this cultural norm that women are so used to and men are very rarely held accountable for. Thank you for reminding us that it is not ok, it never has been ok, and #timesup on letting it slide. #besomeonewhodoessomething
01.01.2022 A personal message from Anoushka Practicing self care is something I’m pretty good at. I’ve never been the type to sacrifice my mental wellbeing, even for my children or my husband. I put my needs on a level playing field to those around me because... equality. I believe in the power of being vulnerable, in hopes that I can give the language to others to understand, process and share their own feelings. ...Continue reading
01.01.2022 Register now for our FREE webinar with Michael Jeh and Stephen Hoskin our amazing MATE Facilitators. They will be talking about how they manage backlash from other men, how to challenge the defensive, "it's just a joke" response and many more FAQs. We're so excited for you to hear their perspectives. You don't want to miss this. #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
01.01.2022 As part of QLD Domestic and Family Violence Prevention Month, we will be posting a series of blogs and hosting free webinars, covering a diverse range of topics. First on the list is a blog written by our incredible MATE facilitator, Michael Jeh. Anyone who has heard Michael speak at an event, or facilitate training will have heard his passion and commitment to this work. This real and heartfelt piece reflects the same. We're pleased to announce that Michael will also be hos...ting a webinar, alongside fellow MATE facilitator Stephen Hoskin focusing on challenging problematic attitudes that lead to violence, on Wednesday 20 May - register now under the EVENTS page on our website. #BeSomeoneWhoDoesSomething
01.01.2022 While I may be the first woman in this office, I will not be the last, because every little girl watching tonight sees that this is a country of possibilities. - @kamalaharris 100 years after women were given the right to vote in America, they elected their first Black & South Asian woman as Vice President. While there’s still a lot of work to be done to heal and unite in the US and beyond, this is worth celebrating. It comes in the same week that NZ Prime Minister @jaci...ndaardern (aka Our Favourite World Leader) announced her second-term cabinet, in which she appointed Nanaia Mahuta as NZ’s first Mori woman Foreign Affairs Minister. Ms Mahuta is also the first Indigenous woman to take on the role and the first woman in parliament to wear the moko kauae - a traditional facial tattoo worn by Mori women. PM Ardern’s cabinet is the most diverse in the country’s history. 40% are women, 25% are Mori (two in five of those are women), 15% are Pasifika (two in three are women), and 15% identify as LGBTQI. What a week for women, what a week for diversity and what a week for representation where it counts!
