Dr Julie Kimber in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia | Motivational speaker

Dr Julie Kimber

Locality: Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

Phone: +61 478 257 119

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25.01.2022 Knock on doors that will give you love, support and compassion!

25.01.2022 Have you been the target of a smear campaign against you? What is parental alienation? Smear campaigns are designed to turn the ones you love against you. ...Continue reading

24.01.2022 Is your childhood survival strategy serving you as an adult? Have you been in a situation when you are going through a difficult patch in your life and you reach out for support from one or more people around you either friends or family; only to have them belittled you, patronise, mock or humiliate you for what you think, how you look and give you unwanted advice about you what you should and should not be doing with your life? Then they justify their comments and judgeme...Continue reading

23.01.2022 TRIGGER WARNING

23.01.2022 Survival mechanisms we adopt as children to cope with family dysfunction - The creations of the co-dependent or narcissist! A child is born with wonderful traits needed to explore our world, we are curious, brave, creative, unconditionally loving and compassionate. We have needs which vary according to our developmental stage. As babies we need to feel full and satisfied as we suckle, as toddlers we need to be free to start to explore boundaries so between the ages or 2-4, we...Continue reading

22.01.2022 Hi Everyone, I am so excited! I have just launched our New Facebook group - Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Community Group! This is FREE for anyone who is being hurt by someone they love. Please join up, introduce yourself and if you are comfortable tell us a little about what is happening in your life right now. I will be welcoming all and providing advice and support no matter where you are in the world! About... This support group is for anyone who is being hurt by someone they love! This could be a family member or your intimate partner, you may have just met someone or you may have been with them for decades. You love them deeply BUT you know deep down that something is not right! You may be feeling exhausted, confused, crazy, unloved, unappreciated, unworthy or just plain NOT ENOUGH no matter what you do to please them? Are you a mere shadow of the person you were before the relationship? Perhaps you suspect that they are narcissists and want to better understand what that means and how they operate? Perhaps you cannot imagine yourself being free of the 'toxic' relationship you are in at the moment, and that is ok. It is ok to feel afraid, uncertain or to want to cling onto 'the devil you know'. You still love them and you maybe unable to see your life without them in it, right? You do not have to do this alone, you will need support from people who are at different stages of the same journey. You will need compassion not judgement, clarity amonst the confusion and we are here for you ALL OF THE WAY!

22.01.2022 A must see for all those working in the trauma healing space!

22.01.2022 Welcome everyone to our Facebook group!

21.01.2022 Why is love and connection so challenging the role of the ‘nuclear family’ Love / connection is a universal need, why then is this often one of the most challenging needs to have met? It is often said that loneliness is worse in a crowded room where you can find yourself being an ‘observer’ of the love and connection happening around you. 'Sometimes it feels like I am in a bubble looking outwards whilst invisible to others, it is a melancholy place to exist. But unfortunat...Continue reading

21.01.2022 In 2020 make the decision to walk away from anyone you love who abuses you. Your future self will thank you for it!In 2020 make the decision to walk away from anyone you love who abuses you. Your future self will thank you for it!

21.01.2022 Toxic Grannies! The wolf in sheeps clothing.

20.01.2022 Launching in 2020! Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Support Group Show your interest by commenting Join me up! and we will contact you personally before the launch.... Who should join? If you suspect you are being affected by a narcissist (partner, family member or friend) and want to know more. Perhaps you are experiencing physical, sexually, verbal or more covert emotional or economic abuse from a narcissist. Both forms are just as damaging to your health and wellbeing. If you are thinking about leaving or ending the relationship and are feeling: Afraid of retribution You lack the support of others or resources (emotional, financial, material) Confused - magical thinking (they will change), or going through the crazy making stage where nothing makes sense! Overwhelmed dont know where to start! Have children face a potential custody battle and or fear of parental alienation? Experiencing emotional rollercoasters And you still love them right! You are stuck in the grips of trauma bond. The 4 STEPS - It starts with YOU! STEP 1. Awareness Traits of a narcissist and a co-dependent. Why do I always seem to attract narcissists? What is Trauma bond? Mental and Physical Impacts of trauma on you! Understanding parental alienation and how it affects your children. STEP 2. Letting go and moving on! To get somewhere is to make the decision you are no longer going to stay where you are! Get the knowledge, advice and emotional support you need to start your new life. Going NO CONTACT! Creating awareness around emotions. Practical steps to smoothing out the emotional rollercoaster day by day. Independence at last! STEP 3. Healing Start the journey towards self-love. Learn how to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem: How to establish strong boundaries. Emotional mastery. Understanding your needs and how to get them met. Managing your mindset - How to control your inner critic! Trauma recovery. STEP 4. Future planning! Change is inevitable, progress is not! Gaining clarity on what really matters to you! Creating goals and how to achieve them. Relationships with yourself and others. Career Hobbies and adventures Financial security Living your dream! Membership is based upon an affordable monthly investment. There are NO lock in contracts so you can leave at any time.

20.01.2022 How stress and trauma impacts your physical and mental health. Historically, our brains and bodies have evolved to keep us safe from dangers such as sabre tooth tigers and other predators. Low level anxiety is rampant in modern society along with an increasing number of mental health issues, and an alarming rate of suicides. This article explains how stress and trauma leads to chemical imbalances in our bodies and the onset of mental and physical manifestations and the expe...Continue reading

19.01.2022 Welcome to our Facebook page!

16.01.2022 Parental Alienation From losing the battle to winning the war in the end! What is parental alienation? You may be planning to separate or have already divorced from a partner, wherever you are along this journey, family conflict ending up in separation of the parents is traumatic for all. Often this is only the start of an ongoing challenging relationship together if there are children involved. It is often hard to believe that difficult roads can lead to beautiful destinat...Continue reading

15.01.2022 The Understanding Narcissism Summit is online in November 4-13th, register now by clicking on the link below.

15.01.2022 Narcissistic traits develop in response to childhood trauma. It was a survival mechanism that can persist into adulthood.Narcissistic traits develop in response to childhood trauma. It was a survival mechanism that can persist into adulthood.

15.01.2022 What is your relationship with money and why it matters? N.B. Most people spend more time (and money) planning a holiday than they do their lives including finances! First, ask yourself what were your parent’s attitude towards money? This is important because a child under the age of seven adopts the values of their parents to ‘fit in’ to the family it is a survival mechanism. Unless we consciously review these values and perceptions, we can carry them into adulthood. ... Did your parents have a scarcity or abundance mindset towards money? I grew up with the attitude that money is a problem when you have it and a problem when you don’t! At school we are never taught about values let alone financial planning! For me this meant that despite working in a well-paid professional job, I had no clue about what to do with money so it just sat in the bank without earning anything worthwhile. It is no surprise that this is what my parents did! They also always bought our home with a long-term mortgage thinking that this was an investment when it was a liability. Guess what I did? Yep, exactly the same! When I was in my twenties and thirties, I thought that anything to do with finances was boring and tedious how I regret that attitude now I know better. The first book I read on anything financial (during my life coaching course) was Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, which I read from cover to cover it was all about questioning our mindset and perception about how to generate wealth. It completely busts the cultural norms that getting a degree, working hard for someone else whilst paying huge amounts of tax, getting a mortgage having 2.2 kids etc etc. yes all the stuff that is associated with ‘success’ will not give you financial freedom in the long term! The second book is the barefoot investor by Scott Pape which gives you a practical guide on what to do with money. Thirdly, there is a practical and simple ‘bucket system’ that makes it easy to set yourself up for financial freedom in 7-10 years. This system I was taught by Sharon Pearson also during my coaching course. Ask yourself these questions: 1) What were my parent’s approach and attitude towards money? 2) Have I followed or am I still mimicking their patterns? 3) What results am I currently getting financially? 4) What really matters to me and where do I want to be in 10 or 20 years’ time? 5) Do I currently have a scarcity or abundance mindset? Does this need to change (I can help you with this).

14.01.2022 Three steps to choosing the right people in 2020! You become a product of the top five people you hang out with the most so choose carefully.Choose to spend the most time with people who support, inspire, and excite you in 2020. Your future self will thank you for it!...Continue reading

14.01.2022 Triangulated relationships How they can make you feel you are not enough, worthy or lovable Do you have a dysfunctional perhaps even toxic relationship with someone who is supposed to love, cherish and support you? This could be a member of your family or your partner, someone you love who maybe says they love you. Maybe you feel uncomfortable, confused, or anxious when you are with them, mixed with moments of love and joy resulting in a continuous roller coaster of emotion...Continue reading

14.01.2022 Launching in 2020! Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Support Group. To show your interest by ask to join the group now and we will contact you personally before the launch!... Who should join? Are you feeling stuck in a relationship with a partner, family member or friend that is no longer working? Do you suspect someone may be a narcissist and want to know more? Perhaps you are experiencing physical, sexually, verbal or more covert emotional or economic abuse? Both forms are just as damaging on your mental and physical health. If you are thinking about leaving or ending the relationship, but you are feeling: Afraid of retribution You lack the support of others or resources (emotional, financial, material) Confused - magical thinking (they will change), or going through the crazy making stage where nothing makes sense! Overwhelmed dont know where to start! Have children face a potential custody battle and or fear of parental alienation? Experiencing emotional rollercoasters And you still love them right! You are stuck in the grips of trauma bond. The 4 STEPS - It starts with YOU! STEP 1. Awareness Traits of a narcissist and a co-dependent. Why do I always seem to attract narcissists? What is Trauma bond? Mental and Physical Impacts of trauma on you! Understanding parental alienation and how it affects your children. STEP 2. Letting go and moving on! To get somewhere is to make the decision you are no longer to stay where you are! Get the knowledge, advice and emotional support you need to start your new life. Going NO CONTACT! Creating awareness around emotions. Practical steps to smoothing out the emotional rollercoaster day by day. Independence at last! STEP 3. Healing Start the journey towards self-love. Learn how to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem: How to establish strong boundaries. Emotional mastery. Understanding your needs and how to get them met. Managing your mindset - How to control your inner critic! Trauma recovery. STEP 4. Future planning! Change is inevitable, progress is not! Gaining clarity on what really matters to you! Creating goals and how to achieve them. Relationships with yourself and others. Career Hobbies and adventures Financial security Living your dream! Membership is based upon an affordable monthly investment. There are NO lock in contracts so you can leave at any time.

14.01.2022 Launching in 2020! Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Support Group Show your interest by commenting 'Join me up!' and we will contact you personally before the launch.... Who should join? If you suspect you are being affected by a narcissist (partner, family member or friend) and want to know more. Perhaps you are experiencing physical, sexually, verbal or more covert emotional or economic abuse from a narcissist. Both forms are just as damaging to your health and wellbeing. If you are thinking about leaving or ending the relationship and are feeling: Afraid of retribution You lack the support of others or resources (emotional, financial, material) Confused - magical thinking (they will change), or going through the crazy making stage where nothing makes sense! Overwhelmed dont know where to start! Have children face a potential custody battle and or fear of parental alienation? Experiencing emotional rollercoasters And you still love them right! You are stuck in the grips of trauma bond. The 4 STEPS - It starts with YOU! STEP 1. Awareness Traits of a narcissist and a co-dependent. Why do I always seem to attract narcissists? What is Trauma bond? Mental and Physical Impacts of trauma on you! Understanding parental alienation and how it affects your children. STEP 2. Letting go and moving on! To get somewhere is to make the decision you are no longer going to stay where you are! Get the knowledge, advice and emotional support you need to start your new life. Going NO CONTACT! Creating awareness around emotions. Practical steps to smoothing out the emotional rollercoaster day by day. Independence at last! STEP 3. Healing Start the journey towards self-love. Learn how to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem: How to establish strong boundaries. Emotional mastery. Understanding your needs and how to get them met. Managing your mindset - How to control your inner critic! Trauma recovery. STEP 4. Future planning! Change is inevitable, progress is not! Gaining clarity on what really matters to you! Creating goals and how to achieve them. Relationships with yourself and others. Career Hobbies and adventures Financial security Living your dream! Membership is based upon an affordable monthly investment. There are NO lock in contracts so you can leave at any time.

14.01.2022 Is someone you love hurting you? What are the traits of a narcissist? They could be a parent or other family member, a friend or your partner. Do they:... 1) Do anything to win your love at the start by buying you gifts and making you feel special, this is called LOVE BOMBING! 2) Use ABUSE as a weapon to control you and keep the upper hand? This includes: Physical or sexual abuse leading to physical and psychological damage. Verbal abuse deliberately (or subconsciously as that is their pattern) trying to say or do things to try and bring you down, insult you and make you feel bad. Emotional abuse - Place others on a pedestal showing favouritism just to try and make you feel unworthy, not good enough or unlovable. Economic control the way you can access financial resources including materialistic things such as a car. Keeping tabs on your location or contacts you have and your movements under the premise that it is to protect or benefit you! 3) Lie or exaggerate about their successes especially when they have an audience (often reverting to their miserable selves when the audience leaves like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde)? 4) Alienate you from friends or family by telling them stories about you that are not true launch a smear campaign? 5) Accuse you of imagining things or making stuff up and accuse you of being crazy this is called GASLIGHTING? 6) Appear incapable of showing you empathy and are never there when you need them and yet expect you to prioritise their needs and wants at the drop of a hat! 7) See themselves as superior to others especially you? 8) Cheat on you without any conscience or remorse they may be seeking out their next supply to replace you after they have destroyed YOU! Your comments are welcome.

13.01.2022 Are you a co-dependent stuck in a relationship with a narcissist? What is trauma bond? Traits of a Narcissist: Lack empathy for others See themselves as superior to others...Continue reading

12.01.2022 https://collectivetraumasummit.com/live-events/ This years collective trauma summit has started this week for anyone who is interested.

12.01.2022 Three steps to choosing the ‘right’ people in 2020! You become a product of the top five people you hang out with the most so choose carefully.Choose to spend the most time with people who support, inspire, and excite you in 2020. Your future self will thank you for it!...Continue reading

10.01.2022 Steps to recovery post narc! I find myself in a hospital room alone, exhausted, emotionally and physically broken. I wanted it all to end to be free from the pain from the bruises on my battered body, the constant roller coaster of emotions that flood over me. I hate myself for the person I have become, I lash out when the rage inside me erupts from my body like a demon possessed. It is not me, and I feel terrible shame afterwards wondering how I could spiral out of control, ...Continue reading

10.01.2022 Have you been alienated from your children by their narcissistic grandparent?Have you been alienated from your children by their narcissistic grandparent?

10.01.2022 Are you stuck in trauma bond?

09.01.2022 Are you stuck in a toxic relationship with a narc? Decide TODAY to make a plan to leave! Your future self will thank you for it!Are you stuck in a toxic relationship with a narc? Decide TODAY to make a plan to leave! Your future self will thank you for it!

09.01.2022 Identifying the abuse of a narcissist an exercise Read through the story below and write down which forms of abuse or strategy a narcissist uses to control you. e.g. love bombing, physical abuse. ...Continue reading

09.01.2022 How we make decisions and what controls our behaviour? We all perceive the world using different senses as our dominant source of information, which our brain distorts, deletes and generalises to prevent overwhelm. If I ask people to think of an elephant some people see it, others feel the rough skin or say phew it smells! People asked to recount their version of a couple arguing in a restaurant will give different interpretations of the same scene. Perhaps it started off by ...a woman pouring a glass of wine down her partners shirt followed by his reaction of standing up and hurling abuse at her. We all attach our own meaning to the situation based upon our perceptions and past experiences. Some people may feel fear whereas others may be focussed on the colour of the red wine on his shirt. Auditory people would remember the words spoken. It is the same with trauma people can go through the same scenario and experience and react to it very differently. Some will say that it was no big deal and will not attach the word or meaning as trauma to the experience unlike others who will say that it was a traumatic experience, and this will manifest as a range of sensations (emotions) in their bodies. We are all meaning making machines and our brains are amazing in the way that they handle incoming information. As children we are very sensitive and perceptive of peoples feelings as we look at their facial expressions and body language. 70% of communication is not verbal but is our interpretation of others body language. A quick glance around your family in the sitting room and you will quickly know who is angry, sad, happy or anxious. As children we are adopt a role to survive in the family, to meet the needs of our caregivers often at the expense of getting our own needs met. You may be the good girl/boy, the rebel, scape goat or the sick child. We adopt certain patterns of behaviour to keep the family together if a child is sick both parents are likely to forget their arguments and problems and focus on the child. Then we become adults but still run the same patterns of behaviour we adopted as a child in our relationships even though that role is not serving us. If you were a good girl/boy, you are likely to be a people pleaser or rescuer always on alert to save other, meeting their needs again at the expense of your own! Only 10% of our mind makes up the conscious rational part where we logically make decisions. However, 90% of our minds lay in our subconscious mind and most people are unaware that this is where our decisions are made that depict our behaviour. Better understanding our subconscious minds where our values and beliefs reside will help you become conscious of your behaviour and this awareness means you can change!

09.01.2022 Launching in 2020! Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Support Group. To show your interest by 'ask to join' the group now and we will contact you personally before the launch!... Who should join? Are you feeling stuck in a relationship with a partner, family member or friend that is no longer working? Do you suspect someone may be a narcissist and want to know more? Perhaps you are experiencing physical, sexually, verbal or more covert emotional or economic abuse? Both forms are just as damaging on your mental and physical health. If you are thinking about leaving or ending the relationship, but you are feeling: Afraid of retribution You lack the support of others or resources (emotional, financial, material) Confused - magical thinking (they will change), or going through the crazy making stage where nothing makes sense! Overwhelmed dont know where to start! Have children face a potential custody battle and or fear of parental alienation? Experiencing emotional rollercoasters And you still love them right! You are stuck in the grips of trauma bond. The 4 STEPS - It starts with YOU! STEP 1. Awareness Traits of a narcissist and a co-dependent. Why do I always seem to attract narcissists? What is Trauma bond? Mental and Physical Impacts of trauma on you! Understanding parental alienation and how it affects your children. STEP 2. Letting go and moving on! To get somewhere is to make the decision you are no longer to stay where you are! Get the knowledge, advice and emotional support you need to start your new life. Going NO CONTACT! Creating awareness around emotions. Practical steps to smoothing out the emotional rollercoaster day by day. Independence at last! STEP 3. Healing Start the journey towards self-love. Learn how to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem: How to establish strong boundaries. Emotional mastery. Understanding your needs and how to get them met. Managing your mindset - How to control your inner critic! Trauma recovery. STEP 4. Future planning! Change is inevitable, progress is not! Gaining clarity on what really matters to you! Creating goals and how to achieve them. Relationships with yourself and others. Career Hobbies and adventures Financial security Living your dream! Membership is based upon an affordable monthly investment. There are NO lock in contracts so you can leave at any time.

08.01.2022 Who has a narcissistic parent? I was never good enough no matter what I did. I was never told I was loved or lovable.... My friends and lovers were never good enough either so she criticised them consistently. I had to be an obedient good girl as a child never daring to answer back, I was scared most of the time. My sister was the rebel and she coped the slaps, I remember her being swung around by her long hair. I remember the yelling and screaming. My Dad never knew what to do or how to feel so he used to place headphones on and listen to his music to shut everything out. I remember feeling alone, sad and angry. I kept telling myself I must not hate my mother but I did. Yet I feared losing her, being abandoned so I walked on eggshells everyday to make sure she was ok. I felt like a dog, with orders being barked at me, you can do this you can do that! I was never respectfully asked, or thanked and she never said sorry. I had to meet her needs, I did not realise that I had any myself. I mistook duty and loyalty for love all my life. I am so angry at myself for being so blind and stupid. But I have learnt I have cut off from the tiger that needed to hurt and disrespect me. To release the pain of her inner world. I feel compassion as I realise she was treated the same by her mother and she never healed . I learnt how to cry and know that it is ok to feel angry. I am learning to feel love and joy for myself and others. Now my life is for me, to love myself for the wonderful woman I have always been. I am worthy, lovable and good enough!

06.01.2022 What are our core needs? Co-dependents are typically too busy meeting the needs of others (on a subconscious level) whilst neglecting their own! This is the pattern you adopted during childhood where you were conditioned to meet the needs of one of your parents instead of them meeting your needs as a child. As adults we need to create conscious awareness about what our universal core needs (that apply to every human regardless of culture) are so we can get them met. This is... crucial for your self-esteem and confidence. Here is an exercise you can do. Rank the following 6 core needs in terms of importance to you. Each need can be associated with different words that are just a different flavour of the same need. 1. Certainty (security, comfort, safety) 2. Variety (uncertainty, adventure, challenge) 3. Significance (respect, validation) 4. Connection (love) 5. Growth (learning) 6. Contribution (giving to others) Now give a score out of 10 for each of the above in terms of your current satisfaction in your: 1) Relationships with your significant other. 2) Career / business. 3) Hobby or ritual that you do on your own e.g. a sports club membership. If you score 10/10 for each need in all three categories, you are living your dream life! Does your relationship with your partner give you the certainty or security, comfort, safety? In Western society we can be addicted to certainty! Some people stay in a boring job they do not like just to pay the bills. Or, in a toxic relationship that allows you to stay in your comfort zone, which is be linked to your desire to meet others needs. Remember this was your survival mechanism as a child where you may have been the good girl/boy, robot, rescuer or caretaker. Now you are an adult you are still running the same pattern of behaviour as a people pleaser or doormat! The more uncertainty you can embrace the more you will grow. Does your current relationship give you variety or are you bored? Do you get the significance or respect you deserve? Significance is the most important need for narcissistic people! Do you have the amount of connection you need and the opportunities to learn new things? If you are not green and growing, you are brown and rotting! Finally, are you contributing to others and society, this is our biggest need! If you score 10/10 for all of the above in your relationships, you will never leave each other! If you would like to gain clarity about what really matters to you then pm me for an exercise called My Ideal Day. It takes you through a series of questions about what your ideal day would look like, what you would be feeling or hearing around you. How many hours would you be working, who is in your life or not? PM me now for a free My Ideal Day Exercise.

06.01.2022 Do you find yourself repeatedly falling for the wrong type of partner? How to break the cycle and live consciously Do you find yourself attracting the same type of people around you, often falling for the wrong partner again and again? Maybe you find you yourself feeling alone even though you are in the same room as them, feeling sad, unloved, unappreciated no matter how much you do for them? Are you the hand that is fitting into their glove bending over backwards to meet the...Continue reading

06.01.2022 HEALTH WARNING! Holding onto emotional baggage (anger and sadness) will damage your mental and physical health! pm me to have a chat and learn more.

06.01.2022 Are you grieving for some one? How long have you been grieving? How much longer do you think you need to grieve? If you had the option of letting go of those feelings now, would you take it?Are you grieving for some one? How long have you been grieving? How much longer do you think you need to grieve? If you had the option of letting go of those feelings now, would you take it?

05.01.2022 What is Trauma and the effects it has on our minds and bodies. The word trauma originates from the Greek meaning wound others interpret it as a deep distressing or disturbing experience. We may think that trauma is a result of being exposed to a catastrophe such as a tsunami or terrorist attack, where there is a threat of death or serious injury to self and / or others. I remember that I was eating breakfast in bed when the news of the planes crashing into the twin tow...Continue reading

05.01.2022 Saying sorry is such a powerful and simple way to heal a relationship, why is it so hard for some people?

04.01.2022 The origins of addiction and pathway to recovery Children are little human beings with an astonishing ability to perceive the state of others around us. If you remember walking into the lounge room where your family were you would have instinctively picked up on who was feeling anxious, sad, angry or cheerful. As children we are egocentric so if your caregivers abuse you, ignore or neglect you, judge, mock or shame you, you internalise it! As children we think of our parents ...Continue reading

03.01.2022 Eckhart Tolle joins the dots about how the subconscious mind can create fear in adverse situations which manifests itself in our bodies affecting our physical health. Also, how a person who does not experience adversity can end up a self-centred person who is incapable of empathy. Reach out for help to change your mindset and your emotional state. Together we will get through this! Contact me for a FREE 1/2 hour consultation.

02.01.2022 A life of dark tunnels, how resilience is the way to emerge back into the light! When you are enduring a difficult and often traumatic chapter of your life it is often challenging to remember how strong you really are, or to recall other periods of your life that you have come out of the other side of a dark tunnel. Resilience gives you the strength to keep going and to bounce back to your true self we all have this ability. 1) Remain future focussed! ... Remind yourself of the big picture, your whole life is ahead of you it is easy to get lost in the past or buried in the present. This is not the first or last dark tunnel, you have come through others in the past and you will get through this one! If your inner critic is overactive, become the observer of your thoughts, say I notice that thought thank it, then place it in a thought bubble and pop it with your finger! Remember everything will be alright in the end, if it is not alright it is not the end! Taken from the film The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel! 2) Emotional mastery. Create awareness around your emotional state, where are you experiencing them in your body? Be compassionate towards yourself when emotions arise, it is ok to feel the way you do. It is your bodies way of communicating how to survive. Anger is not a negative emotion it is needed for you to establish strong boundaries (physical, verbal and sexual). The same with sadness, allow yourself to grieve a loss, crying is an important part of healing. 3) Support from others Reach out for any support you can get to help you physically, emotionally, practically and financially if needed. This can be people in your inner circle that you trust or professional services. Form healthy boundaries around people who do not support or inspire you! Remember that only hurt people, hurt people so if someone is judging and criticising you it is a reflection of their fucked up inner world and insecurities! 4) Self-love. Looking after yourself is not selfish! You cannot serve from an empty vessel. So everyday do something for you that you enjoy even if it is something small like taking a long hot bath. Start a gratitude journal where you write down the simple things in life you are grateful for like a flower in the park, your pets, having clean drinking water. It is impossible to feel down when you are doing this! If you struggle to feel worthy, lovable and enough then say yes to you and invest in yourself so you can embark on a journey towards self-love, because you are worth it!