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24.01.2022 Remember, you are the creator of your life. Your life is like a canvas, so if you don't like something, gather some new paint and add to it until it feels right - one stroke at a time. What is something that makes you feel alive and excited? ... What was something you enjoyed doing when you were a child that you may not have done for a long time? You know, that child is still inside you, waiting for you to let it play
15.01.2022 There is a misconception, that positivity means only feeling good, having positive thoughts or "positive emotions". I hear from several people, particularly those who battle with anxiety and depression, that they are sick of all the talk about being positive all the time. First of all, it's not humanly possible or natural to feel good all the time. There's a yin to the yang and light to the dark. As part of being human, we have the full spectrum of emotions; joy, anger, jeal...ousy, sadness, love, envy, guilt, shame, fear, disgust etc. Feeling these emotions are not wrong or right, nor are they good or bad. They simply are and there is a purpose for all of them. It's more about what we choose to focus on and for *how long* we are in that space. Or what action we take next (e.g it's completely okay to be angry but it's never okay to yell or hit someone). Every single moment we take in experiences through our senses (around 2 billion bits of information to be exact). Our brain filters through it all so it doesn't get overwhelmed. It deletes, distorts and generalises the information based on our past experiences, upbringing, culture etc. What we are left with is our tiny overview (from 2 billion bits to around 5!). Imagine if you have a camera and you see a whole landscape view through the lens. If you zoom in on one aspect, you can't see anything else as it's out of the field of view. If you had then zoomed in on a beautiful flower you'd have an entirely different experience, emotion and memory of it, than if you'd zoomed in on the rainy grey clouds. Positivity is essentially about readjusting the camera when all we can see is a storm cloud. It's looking for the flower and other good aspects in the picture #positivity #positivevibes #focus #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lifecoach #entrepreneur #resilience #health #wellness
15.01.2022 We talk to ourselves in our own mind more than we ever talk to anyone else. The thoughts we think have a massive effect on us and how we feel about ourselves. Mindfulness (noticing in the present moment with curiosity and no judgement) of thoughts can help us be aware of the kind of self talk we have. The first step is recognising how we talk to ourselves. ... I started practicing this around 7 years ago and it's had a profound effect on my self esteem, sense of self worth and my happiness. I used to have horrible thoughts about myself. I would ask myself: is this how I would talk to and judge my friend if they did the exact same thing? If a friend did a mistake would you say "you're so stupid"? No!! We would perhaps give them reassuramce that it's okay to make a mistake and that doesn't make them stupid. It's so important to distinguish between the *action* or behaviour and our self identity; we can make a mistake or do something stupid but that is all it is - it doesn't mean we are not capable or that we are stupid. I challenge you to notice your thoughts throughout the week, and every time you notice you are talking unkindly to yourself, rephrase it to how you would talk to your friend
15.01.2022 When was the last time you allowed yourself time to let go and have fun? Or if you've been stuck in the rut lately, what is something you will do? Please share I've talked to a lot of people lately, and so many are saying they are really exhausted. That was the case for myself last couple of weeks as well. The thing is that sometimes our bodies are tired and we need sleep and rest. Other times, it's actually our heart and soul that is tired and no amount of rest is going to help. This is when play and fun activities is needed to break that cycle. Can your inner child come out and play?
12.01.2022 Which ones are you spending the most time surfing? Trying to control our emotions or pushing them away, is much like trying to force the waves to go away - it will exhaust us and we wouldn't get very far. What if instead we focused on making ourselves stronger so we can manage to stand up and surf? Or investing in a good board we feel comfortable with so we can feel in charge and take each wave for what it is? Nature has much to teach us What can you do to build your emotional strength so you are prepared?
08.01.2022 Thanks so much to all new members of my page and your support. Join this group to share inspiration, insight and perspectives. It's a group built on respect and embraceing individuality I will be starting some online challenges, programs and workshops soon, so join the group to stay connected.
07.01.2022 Every second we take in approximately 2 million bits of information through our senses (vision, hearing, sensations and self talk). The brain cannot cope with this much information so it narrows it down to around 5-7 bits that our concious mind is able to 'see'. It does so by generalising, distorting and deleting. How our mind does this process is very much based on our upbringing, culture, environment and significant emotional experiences. This is why three different people ...may experience the same thing and have three entirely different experiences. , This illustration is not to say that we have to pretend to enjoy the 'rain' [insert whatever event]. Nor is it to say that we can't dislike it. It's simply just about the focus and applying judgement (good/bad/dislike/love...). When we label it, we have an emotional reaction and when we do that enough times throughout the day, it can affect our entire day, . , I used to believe it's impossible to control my thoughts and emotions. They were running the show for a big part of my life until I started learning about mindfulness and the ways the mind works. This is why I'm so passionate about teaching this stuff - because I want others to be able to reclaim the control and live a happy life on their terms! . You are doing the best that you can with what you know and have learned so far. When you learn new ways, you can have different results. You are capable and past results do equal future results. 4- , !
05.01.2022 This is the essence of mindfulness As thoughts lead to emotions [repeat cycle], imagine the power of learning mindfulness. It completely changed my life in so many areas (work, friendships, relationships, concentration, self talk, self love, communication, patience, happiness, inner peace, sleep, direction, managing emotions and anxiety, and being less prone to depression)
04.01.2022 Emotions are like messengers; they show up to give us a message so we can take the necessary steps to move through. Often times, we get overwhelmed and feel like pushing away the unpleasant emotions (anxiety, grief, shame, sadness, jealousy, anger) and cling on to to the pleasant ones (joy, love, happiness, peace). This means we never get the message and use the learnings it's there to teach. Every emotion is valid and it's part of the human experience to feel the full range,... not just the pleasant ones. However, we often feel some emotions are wrong (like being angry or anxious) which can make us feel even worse. If we feel guilty for feeling angry, or like there is something wrong with us for feeling anxious, it results in a even lower emotional state. No emotion is wrong - it's the actions we take that matter (e.g it's completely okay to feel angry but it's never okay to hit someone or yell abuse). The first step is awareness. Ask yourself these questions. Simply notice the emotion as if you are an observer. If it feels too overwhelming to start with, imagine you are standing in a mountain top far far away observing yourself from a distance. The second step is acceptance. Don't judge yourself or label the emotion as good or bad. It just IS The third step is the knowing that every emotion come and go, like clouds that drift through the sky. They are not permanent regardless of how all consuming they can feel.
03.01.2022 How often do you beat yourself up over the mistakes you do and what you feel you could have done better? In contrast, how often do you give yourself a pat on the back when you have done something well? I'm pretty confident I know the answer to that - we don't give ourselves enough credit.... Comparisons are one of the biggest contributors to unhappiness. Yes, you can do better but that doesn't mean what you did is not good. Yes, you are just beginning, but even just having a go and learning is something worthy of giving ourselves credit for. Yes, your friends may be better (had more practice), but that doesn't take away from your success. Every night, think of one thing that you are proud of that you did that day. (It doesn't have to be something big - it can simply be "I'm proud I did my best" / "I'm proud I got out of bed when I really didn't want to face anything" / "I'm proud I faced my fear and did what scared me" Notice the change in how you feel about yourself after doing this practice for a couple of weeks
