Ilka Jane | Public figure
Ilka Jane
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25.01.2022 World Breastfeeding Week I will never forget sitting in an Adelaide cinema cafe breastfeeding my first born, Lotti, when an older man asked a staff member to ask me to stop. "She's doing it right there" he said in a raised voice as he pointed at me aggressively. I was a young, new, first time mum and I remember feeling like I had done something wrong as I wiped away my tears. That was until Lotti's dad came out of the movie and assured me I wasn't as he contemplated trac...king the man down and giving him some choice words . No mother should EVER feel uncomfortable for feeding their child. It is such a beautiful thing. I think myself incredibly lucky to have been able to successfully breastfeed my 3 children, it's not always easy. The challenges are many and brutal, not enough milk, to much milk, mastitis, cracked nipples, attaching issues, exhaustion. It is hard work, so WELL DONE to all you MUMMAS out there smashing it. Breast or bottle, doesn't matter, we are all doing the best we can for our babes . #worldbreastfeedingweek #fedisbest
25.01.2022 Someones happy its FRIYAY #weekendready #friyay #ohana
25.01.2022 My 2 kids are currently enjoying (or not) a week of technology free time and the benefits are awesome Saturday night whilst dining out at our local Chinese restaurant Esix turns to me and says "mum, I made an adult friend." This came as a surprise to me as I had been sitting next to him the whole time. He went on to explain that a gentleman dining with his wife on the neighboring table had been winking and waving at him. Esix then asks me if we could buy the man a drin...k, so we did. Long story short the couple came and sat with us, we discovered that the lovely couple were tourists from the Riverland, we exchanged phone numbers and will be sure to visit them the next time we are in the area. On the way home we all had a lovely discussion about the benefits of keeping your head up and the things you could miss when your focused on technology. Over the few days that followed that kids did not mention the ipads once . #winning #lovehatetechnology #meetingpeople
20.01.2022 This is one of my absolute favourites.. I hope it helps you as much as it did me. #quoteoftheday #ohana
16.01.2022 This takeaway came from a webinar by Dr Justin Coulson . When your kids walk into the room do you appear happy to see them, do your eyes light up and you immediately hand over your attention or are you busy in the moment and simply give them a quick glance. I don't know about you but this had me wondering . Now that Lotti and Esix are getting older they no longer demand my attention (most of the time) like they used to. It's easy to just carry on with whatever i'm doing..., more then likely busy with Blair at 3 months old, which is even more of a reason to take the time to show them that I'm glad they are there. Witching hour is approaching and things may be crazy at your house but tonight when your cooking tea, coordinating homework, unpacking the dish washer and juggling the baby maybe stop what you are doing and give your child a playful wink or casual high five when they wonder into the room. Kids should know your glad that they are there and it may save them from getting your attention in an undesirable way #seethem #ohana #love #family
16.01.2022 What are you thinking my son, falling to sleep watching my tears roll down my face. Tears of pure joy, you are so loved. A big sister to show you compassion and love and a big bro to protect you and show you the ropes. Gotta love those hormones ... #bigsister #bigbro #motherslove
14.01.2022 I love the idea of cohesive parenting, although it is sometimes difficult to achieve when co-parenting this is a little hack that can help. These days there is so much valuable content on line and on social media, we are always learning new things. This is all well and good for us but what about your co-parent? You may have read a great blog that is going to change the way you parent. Why not flick it through to your co-parent to read so you can both be on the same page when... it comes to parenting. Simply text... I just read this [insert link] and leave it at that. By sending a short text we are not forcing anything on them, just suggesting, if it's good content they will adopt the learnings. At the end of the day we all want to be the best parents we can be. #forthekids #ijustreadthis #cohesiveparenting
12.01.2022 Whether they are chucking a tantrum in woolies, calling large people with beards Father Christmas or farting in public they continue to embarrass us. I can't wait to return the favour through her teenage years. This morning while going into the school to purchase a school jumper for her, the office lady asked me what my last name was. I responded, "Stone, but Lotti's a Curtis," at that moment, she turns around does a little dance, shaking her hands (weirdly) and say's in an a...merican accent.... "Lil bitta divorce goin on here" Very embarrassing but bringing some humour to a delicate subject, not sure what the poor office lady was thinking . Love her to bits #daughters #motherlove
11.01.2022 Question time... How do you deal with your kids leaving, what is the first thing that you do? Cry in a pillow , crack a bottle of wine or dial a booty call ??... In the spirit of getting the conversation started i'll go first. On a Tuesday morning I take the kids to school like any other day, I give them a kiss at the school gate (thanks Covid ) like any other day and then quickly remind them that Dad will pick them up. It will be almost a week before I see them again, this has been my reality for over 5 years now and the way I handle it remains the same today. In a nutshell, I transition, just like the kids do. I take Blair for a walk along the foreshore to clear my head, and then head home. Upon arriving home I turn up my favourite spotify album and get to work. Giving the house a quick going over; tidying things out of place, laundry, kids bedroom spruce up (which should have been done by them as a rule), wipe over kids bathroom etc etc etc. On completion I close the kids bedroom doors, kids playroom door and kids bathroom door and sit down with my journal to write a list of everything I want to complete before my darling squids return. This is not a case of me forgetting about them, it is not me living two lives, it is simply my way of dealing with the situation. It may not work for you, you may love the kids junk spread around the house, it might remind you that they will be home soon enough, but this is my way and I'd love to hear yours .
11.01.2022 The time homeschooling got the better of us.. #homeschooling #thiskid #covid19
08.01.2022 It's never to late to start a positive relationship with your co-parent Start with a small gesture... Invite them to attend an event at school or give the phone to the kids and encourage them to call and say goodnight. At the end of the day the biggest winners will be the children. Put your issues aside and the kids first ... #nevertolate #startsmall #ohanastory #kidsfirst
05.01.2022 I need your help If you are a co-parent and you and your co-parent share the care of your children I would greatly appreciate 5 minutes of your time. Could you please click the link and complete a short survey. https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/ohanaapp... The purpose of the survey is for us to gain validation of our product by obtaining feedback from key potential customers within the market. Ohana is a company created with a vision to build a world where all families feel supported. With that at the forefront, we are on a mission to improve the lives of separated families. The Ohana co-parenting App is step one of that mission. I would really appreciate it if you could take 5 minutes to assist us in achieving our vision. Thanks Ilka xx
05.01.2022 Question time and this one's a doozy Sometimes it's an easy decision, one that you just know and sometimes it can be the hardest one of your life. When deciding whether to "go again" do you use your head or your heart ???... Asking for a friend #howmanyistomany #ohana
03.01.2022 [Latest Blog] Not my Dad Click the link below to read what makes me proud To anyone, we look like a ‘normal’ family. Mum, dad, pigeon pair and family dog. ... I’m proud to say that, upon meeting people for the first time, all they see is a loving family. However at times the awkward moment presents itself when the comment your dad. arises. In this moment, Lotti never really knows what to say and she is always rescued by a quick response from Esix. That’s not my dad, that’s my Darrin (it’s so cute in his sweet voice). Darrin has been in Esix’ life since he was 2 years old, so in his mind it is simple information and people need to be corrected. Click the link below to enjoy the end . https://ohanastory.com.au/not-my-dad/
