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25.01.2022 Some demographic analysis from one of my favourite researchers - Dr. Justin Lehmiller - Sex and Psychology
24.01.2022 ... & C o n s e n t is the language of boundaries. Boundaries acknowledge what we do and do not have control of. Setting boundaries affirms your right to safety and choice. Respecting boundaries acknowledges another persons freedom to choose & exist safely, as they are.... Blurring of boundaries can be a blurring of consent, and can cause conflict & harm. #consent #boundaries #communication See more
24.01.2022 Love this, from Cyndi Darnell
23.01.2022 I really love the rooms that I practice in. Such a warm, quiet & comfy space, with plenty of natural light. .... . #mentalhealth #relationships #pleasure #selfcare #therapist See more
22.01.2022 They are two different things. That’s it. That’s the post. ... #therapy #intensivelove #pleasure #science #climax #truthbomb #education #venndiagram See more
21.01.2022 Scary times, hey? So very glad Im not down in Melbourne right now... and Sydney seems to be on the edge. Im definitely feeling the weight. ... A counsellor I study with told me recently, that the mental health issues which people are experiencing due to COVID, are similar to when people live through drought... out in the country. No big explosions, just a low level of constant stress, and uncertainty of when the rain will come... its exhausting. Keep chipping away, fellow humans. Dont forget to include extra rest & self care... Be patient with others, and check on the people you care about too, if you have the energy. Were in this together. . . #covid19 #pleasure #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #mentalhealth #menshealth #womenshealth #genderdiverse #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #inclusive #therapy #intersectional #humanrights #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #somatic #personcentred #sexpositive #sexworkiswork #australia
21.01.2022 B e t t y D o d s o n Rest in Peace, Power & Pleasure. I only learnt of Betty a few years ago, when I started my education in Sexology. ... By then, she was around 87 years old. She had already taught generations of people how to experience & reclaim the pleasure of their bodies. Yesterday, she left her body, aged 91 years. She had been teaching the science of pleasure since well before I was born. One of the founding Mothers of the sexual revolution, & an influence to generations of Sexual activists, therapists & educators. She wrote many books, but her most well known is ‘Sex for One’, along with her BodySex workshops, which her partner in pleasure, Carlin Ross, will be continuing. @dodsonandross She even has a proven orgasmic masturbation method for people with vulvas, named after her! #bettydodsonmethod Great places to see Betty in action is on the Dodson & Ross website, on YouTube, or on Netflix- the recent Goop series has an episode with Betty & Carlin. Vale Betty - a legend of pleasure activism & a true inspiration. . #bettydodson #sexforone #bodysex #pleasureactivism #selfpleasure #pleasure See more
20.01.2022 Exciting news - New Location! Ive just started practicing in the rooms at Union Street Wellbeing. The rooms are Lovely, Warm & Comfortable, with lots of natural light (& a garden courtyard!).... Being an inner westie myself, Im super excited to be practicing here, in my favourite part of #Sydney, on Gadigal country. I invite you to check out my website (Link in Bio) for more info on what I do & whats possible in sessions with me (In Person, or Online). Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions, or would like to book a session. E v e r y o n e is W e l c o m e . Also, check out: Union Street Yoga & Wellbeing There are lots of other practitioners & services available, and they have a gorgeous Yoga studio too! . . . #pleasure #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #mentalhealth #menshealth #womenshealth #health #genderdiverse #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #inclusive #therapy #intersectional #humanrights #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #somatic #personcentred #sexpositive See more
20.01.2022 Re-D e f i n e So much of our language judges, shames & stigmatises sexuality, & all things connected to it. We need to rethink some of our language, & how we talk about sexuality.... Language also changes... new words appear, to describe peoples experience, & old words are reclaimed or reapplied. Quote is taken from one of the great books in sexology. S W I P E to see! What other words can you think of that have been reclaimed? What word/s would you like to #reclaim? Let me know in the comments! #language #redefineyourself #growth #empowerment #selflove See more
19.01.2022 Fire from @aoc More Humans like her in this world, please. Reminds me of @juliagillard & her brutal call-out to Tony Abbott, when she was PM.... These old white men who claim they are decent because they have women in their families, LGBT relatives, black friends, or served soup to a homeless person once at Xmas... Overflowing with arrogance & #privelege. Posing for photos, attending church with a film crew in tow, kissing babies. Its all painfully false, when you watch their unscripted behaviour... and their decisions in government. An empty apology, followed by an assertion that they are Family Men means nothing. True apologies come with change. Time to do better. . . #sexism #racism #homophobia #resist #dobetter #intersectionality #sexology #humanrights #auspol See more
18.01.2022 Important to understand. Also a central theme of many psychotherapies!
18.01.2022 E m o t i o n a l L i t e r a c y . A major aspect of emotional literacy is to develop a L a n g u a g e to describe our experience. Having words to accurately communicate your experience to others (& yourself) is one way to connect on a deeper level.... As you become able to express deeper primary emotions (which are universal & harbour no judgement of other) deeper understanding can become more possible. Primary emotions tend to draw people together, & may elicit a more empathic response from others. While at other times, simple statements like Im angry might not hit the mark to describe how you truly feel. Resources like the feeling wheel are great tools for exploring you emotional states. For example: There are many more nuanced ways for describing Anger, and obscure emotions all point to something simpler. Its important to develop language to both ends of the spectrum. How are you F e e l i n g ? . . #feelings #emotionalliteracy #mentalhealth #feelingsandneeds #relationships See more
17.01.2022 Juuuust.... gonna leave this here for folks to read a few times. via @mattxiv #stopgenderingthings #queerpride #lgbtqia #transpeoplearesacred #genderreveal #stopit #sexeducation
17.01.2022 Interesting brief article about an important and complex issue. From TheschoolofLife ... https://www.theschooloflife.com//signs-you-might-be-suffe/
16.01.2022 I came across this great quote in a textbook today. Envy stems from shame, from feelings of inadequacy. When we envy others for what they have, we can ignore those that have less, & lose sight of our own authenticity. ... Moral awareness acknowledges systems of oppression, which we individually are affected by, participate in, & benefit from... rather than live in envious & shame-ful inadequacy (characterised by capitalist systems built on control & consumption). Strive for Authenticity & Connection. Believe that you are E n o u g h . . . . #pleasure #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #mentalhealth #menshealth #womenshealth #health #genderdiverse #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #inclusive #therapy #intersectional #humanrights #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #somatic #personcentred #sexpositive #sexworkiswork See more
16.01.2022 Just a Lil Sunday reminder to F*ck the system. . .... #socialjustice #pleasureactivism #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #mentalhealth #health #genderdiverse #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #inclusive #therapy #intersectional #humanrights #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #somatic #personcentred #sexpositive #sexworkiswork #australia
15.01.2022 This year I’m beginning clinical training in Gestalt Psychotherapy, to develop further as a Therapist. I started my first 3-day intensive today, and met all my wonderful peers. What a diverse, passionate & big-hearted group of humans! A big focus in our training will be Therapy as a force for positive social change.... To help people feel more Whole, more Free, in their lives, minds, bodies & relationship/s. Moving towards greater Awareness & A u t h e n t i c i t y . I’m SO excited & inspired! I believe that examining & exploring $eXuaIity can be a vehicle to go D e e p . I look forward to the deep dives I do with my clients in the future, if they are willing. My greatest hopes for this training, is that I develop a greater ability to hold space for those that want to take the dive. Gestalt has the potential to be valuable, beautiful, liberating work... for both Client/s & Therapist. I’m sure I’ll be posting more about Gestalt, as my learning progresses. Have you ever done Gestalt Therapy? Feel free to share your experiences! Photo by the amazing @lindyloustudio #gestalt #therapy #counselling #mentalhealth #education #study #learning #authentic #intensivelove #pleasure #activism #socialjustice See more
15.01.2022 F o r e s k i n a bit T i g h t ? This is a pretty common issue for people that have a penis. P h i m o s i s is tightening of the foreskin, which can become a major issue with sexual comfort & managing hygiene.... Its mostly caused by irritation & inflammation, which often leads to painful cracked skin & even scarring. In extreme cases, it can cause the foreskin to get stuck in its retracted position. Having broken skin can also increase your risk for contracting STIs. Some sources recommend the only cure for phimosis is to remove it. I firmly disagree. Genital surgery should be a final resort, and should not be normalised. If a doctor suggests circumcision, without at least trying the following, get a second opinion: Take it easy on the sex/masturbation until you start to get it sorted. If you keep splitting the skin, it will take longer to heal. STOP using soap. Just dont. Only wash with warm water, from now on. But definitely wash every day... with water... ONLY. Gentle moisturiser (e.g. light sorbolene) in-between washes can help soften the skin (only if you shower regularly though!). Sorbolene can be a great soap alternative too! Make sure you dont have post-pee leakage; Dry off after peeing. Residual urine under the foreskin can cause inflammation. Anti-inflammatory ointments (talk to your GP, sexual health doctor, or dermatologist). These products can help reduce the chronic inflammation, which lets the skin relax. Often, inflammation can be a symptom of something else- go to a sexual health clinic & get checked. Make sure you havent got any other issues, like an STI or thrush, which needs to be managed first. Other things like lichen sclerosis & rashes can be diagnosed by a doctor that has good knowledge of genital dermatology. Ill say it again- No. More. Soap. . . #sexualhealth #sexeducation #dermatology #pleasure #selfcare #health #menshealth #urology #circumcision #intactivist #noteveryonethathasapenisisaman See more
14.01.2022 If you don’t know the language to describe, know or engage with something, it’s very difficult to understand it. F e a r & P a i n alike, often relate to the unknown. ... Language is dynamic, it evolves over time & develops with understanding. Within relationship, a shared language is essential for understanding & connecting. In society, Language (or the lack of) can be used to disrupt, invalidate, marginalise & oppress people. Language is important. It contains knowledge, it contains culture. If you’re truly an Ally of people, learn & develop your language. Learn & Engage. Seek to U n d e r s t a n d . #language #understanding #therapy #education #educate #love #relationships #justice #evolve #learn #intensivelove #activism See more
14.01.2022 Great article from Martha Lee
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14.01.2022 So keen for the next season!
13.01.2022 I’ve had a bunch of lovely new followers in the last few weeks - W E L C O M E ! Please reach out if there’s any questions, comments or requests. I do this for the people, so every human that hits that follow button is special here. ... Just wanted to say there is some SUPER exciting things coming up from me @ourintensivelove - so stay tuned! ~Arlyn #psychosexualtherapy #nurselife #healing #counseling #mentalhealth #pleasure #lovers #selfcare #selflove #relationships #sexualwellness #real #queer #quotes #sexgeek #queersydney #lgbt #lgbtqia #change #menshealth #movember #bodypositive #intersectional #inclusive #pleasureactivism #transpeoplearesacred See more
12.01.2022 P l e a s u r e I’ve been speaking with alot of my clients about pleasure recently. It seems to be a recurrent theme for many people. Guilty pleasures. Indulgence. Selfishness..? Some people find it easy to serve, to be a provider of pleasure, yet struggle when it comes to being a receiver, or seeker, of pleasure.... There may be guilt, or a sense of duty. Perhaps a sense of undeserving, or fear that expressed desires & joy may be judged negatively by others. There is a term in Sexology: ‘ S*xual S u b j e c t i v i t y ’ = to be the experience-er (subject) of pleasure, rather than the source (object), of pleasure. In S*x, while at times it can be a subjectively delightful thing to be objectified by our Lover/s, at other times we may forget our own pleasure in the process. This can leave you feeling unsatisfied, or disregarded. S*x can become a chore. You lose sight of what you want & need. What is your relationship to pleasure? Do you deserve pleasure? Are you comfortable asking for what you desire? Are you comfortable receiving, indulging, in pleasure? . @gelatomessina #counselling #mentalhealth #pleasure #relationships #love #2020 #sydney #gelato #indulge #goodvibes #couplegoals #newtown #sexgeek See more
12.01.2022 A really important point about our objectification of black culture, contrasted by our systemic racism. (- About a 4 minute listen. Well worth it.) You cant have the Rhythm, without the Blues.... https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-52890690
11.01.2022 In conflict we want to find fault. Whose fault is it? We want to blame. But blame divides individuals & keeps us stuck. No resolution or understanding. Just dis...connection. Blame is for larger systems, all the -isms & phobias that cause the vile conditions we endure in our relationships & lives. We grow up like this & they influence our world view. Its normal; like fish dont see water, its just home. E.g. Whiteness knowing the law looks favorably on you, your mere existence = no threat to others, cavalier attitude to PoC fear Men not taught emotional intelligence, depends on womxn for emotional labor, frustration & entitlement, maybe physical violence Women- prioritize others & not speak up, suppression = fear/fawn = manipulates others not direct. Sneaky, damsel-in-distress & cruel. Hetero/Homo normative scripts how we do sex & relationships to be validated by society. Monogamy & vanilla. In contrast, RESPONSIBILITY means acknowledging we have power & control at individual levels. Taking steps to repair damage made by systems. Responsibility invites us to reflect on our values. What kind of person we want to be in relationship to others. Doing the right thing, even if no one thanks us. E.g. honesty, kindness, compassion, loyalty & reliability are examples of values that might guide our lives. We are responsible for our behavior. We are responsible for being accountable to our loved ones and communities. We must accept that hurt has happened whether we intended it or not. Our responsibility changes systems one-by-one. This starts with apology, listening to how harm happened & changing the behavior that caused it, *even if we didnt mean it.* Guilt keeps us stuck. What kind of behavior/s embody care? Kindness? Compassion? Justice? Responsibility is what we do, an action, not just what we think. Its changing behavior & feeling uncomfortable to change our default reflexes under duress. When we take responsibility, we understand the systems short-changed us all, but we commit to changing our behavior by reflecting on whats important to us. In this way we get to reclaim our guilt & embody our values in our relationships
10.01.2022 Hi Lovers! Just a very quick update on whats happening with Intensive Love at the moment. Sexuality & Relationship Therapy, in the inner west of Sydney. Get in touch if you want to book in for some sessions! - Face to Face (socially distanced, of course!), or Online (Zooom) are both possible.... ~ Arlyn See more
10.01.2022 The reopening of sex services are not logically in line with other touch-based services, and social venues. The government restrictions are covert criminalisation. This is especially bad in states like Qld, which already imposed tight partial criminalisation. In Qld, SWs (mostly cis and trans women) can be arrested for privately working together in apartments for safety (brothel-keeping), or carrying fluffy handcuffs (carrying a weapon). #sexworkiswork #respectsexworkers
10.01.2022 Brilliant think piece from David Ley, exploring boundaries & self-disclosure as Therapist. The helping professions have traditionally demanded that we virtually hide our personal lives from our clients (especially regarding our sexual selves), due to the potential for transference. What does this mean for us as therapists, and our ability to be authentic & live authentic lives as active participants in our communities? (2 Parts! - Second article link in the comments!)... I'd love to know how you feel about this topic! Let me know in the comments.
09.01.2022 If this applies - Get involved with ACONs study!
09.01.2022 Sex workers in NSW can return to work from 1 July with a COVID-19 safety plan in place. We'll be collaborating with SWOP to support our peers to prepare their plan. Please see our statement for details http://www.scarletalliance.org.au/libra/NSW_Return_to_Work
09.01.2022 Desire feeds on -Tension- On Vulnerability... The Deliciousness of Longing ... What’s happening in that space? Quote from the amazing @estherperelofficial We all know by now that I’m a massive #fanboy #eros #space #tension #desire #love #therapy #education #intensivelove #pleasure #consent See more
08.01.2022 Consensual sexual expression & intimacy are essential human rights, and needs. https://theconversation.com/why-it-is-reasonable-and-necess
08.01.2022 S i m p l e ~ P l e a s u r e s I had a rough couple of days last weekend. So, in a moment of clarity, I dragged myself down to the ocean. ... To be quiet, to put my feet in the water, smell the air, feel the sun & see the horizon. To feel connected. To feel some simple pleasure. It happens a lot, especially in the city. Running on the productivity wheel, always achieving, performing, spending & consuming. It can get E x h a u s t i n g , right? Its easy to forget simplicity as life becomes more & more complicated. Not everything has to be complicated & intellectual. Simple pleasures refuel... Rest heals. What are the simple pleasures that give you joy & rest? . . #mentalhealth #health #simplepleasures See more
07.01.2022 An explanation of a simple concept... I believe that my lovely followers are good, open-minded & compassionate humans, but I just want to say & share this- For the contrarians, for the peace & love white pacifists.... and for the outright racists.... Let me explain something: All lives matter is a racist statement, for people unable to think pragmatically about the struggle of minorities. Its silencing an uncomfortable conversation, which needs to be had. Black lives matter is an assertion that, despite demonstrated & proven systemic bias, BIPOC people do, in fact, matter just the same as All other people. This can be applied in the same way with other disadvantaged and violence-affected minorities (eg. Trans lives matter). If you dont see or feel the systemic bias that I am talking about, that means you have Privelege. If you have Privelege- it DOES NOT mean your life is always easy. It just means you have not experienced disadvantage solely on the basis of your skin colour or race. It DOES mean- you need to swallow your pride, face & feel your guilt, shut your mouth, listen & learn from the experiences of people that have experienced discrimination. Support minority communities. I do my best to listen & watch, and what I observe is NOT pretty. We can, & still NEED TO, do better. (Feel free to share this, if you wish. But, remember there are BIPOC profiles whose content deserves to be shared more) . #blacklivesmatter #intersectionality #privelege #shutupandlisten
07.01.2022 Happy annual M@sturbatlon month! May is a special month for self-L o v e. Maybe it’s time to reconnect to some self-touch. Take some time, get rid of the standard goal (0rga$m), and spend some time exploring what feels good beyond your usual routine.... Sync it with your breath, try edging, try using (or not using) a toy, get a new toy, do it outside (in private!), try using lube, do it with an audience, do it in the mirror, search other body areas that feel good... do it a little different, and see what you discover. E x p l o r e ~ P l e a s u r e #therapy #counselling #education #relationships #pleasure #pleasureactivism #selflove #selfcare #may #intensivelove #mindfulness #mindfulmay See more
07.01.2022 Just hit 200 Followers on FB! Thanks Folks Xx (Fb & Insta are my main advertising too - If you enjoy the content, Please share!)Just hit 200 Followers on FB! Thanks Folks Xx (Fb & Insta are my main advertising too - If you enjoy the content, Please share!)
06.01.2022 Just received this hilarious book in the mail. Worth every penny A collection of cartoons from amazing artist @exotic.cancer It’s SW affirming, and pokes a very funny & sarcastic finger at toxic male entitlement.... Highly recommended! See more
06.01.2022 "I always say - even without it, it goes away." "...therapeutic, or cure...one thing just sorta blends into the other." -this damned psychopath. Dangerous, when one of the most powerful men in the world doesn't know anything about something like 'AIDS'... or anything about health or medicine, at all. Very Dangerous.... (For those who also don't know, there is no such thing as a vaccine for AIDS, or HIV for that matter... and it will never just "go away") #fascism #fakenews
05.01.2022 We contain M u l t i t u d e s . Quote from the wonderful #carlrogers, from his book ‘On Becoming a Person’. Carl Rogers was one of the core humanistic theorists & the original developer of person-centred therapy.... We all have the capacity to heal, change & develop, if given sufficient support & opportunity. #personcentred #holistic #humanistic #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealth #therapist #change #traumainformed #sexeducation #empathy #becomingaperson See more
04.01.2022 You dont need to be in a crisis. Therapy is good for you. We understand ourselves in macro & micro contexts of relationship -... Society, culture, and personal connections. These relationships are fluid, & always developing, changing, moving. A good therapist works to develop a healing & transformational relationship with their client/s. Through this relationship, we can learn to understand ourselves & our contexts. This can be transformational for both client & therapist. To be truly heard, receive empathy, and to be understood... is a beautiful thing. It is H e a l i n g. It involves S k i l l. Good, non-judgemental therapy can reach a part of you that is longing to be seen & heard. E v e r y B o d y needs T h e r a p y . . #pleasure #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #mentalhealth #menshealth #womenshealth #health #genderdiverse #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #inclusive #therapy #intersectional #humanrights #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #somatic #personcentred #sexpositive #counselling #sexworkiswork See more
04.01.2022 I have Q u e s t i o n s ! I have noticed a few things about gender on my profile, & in my practice. Maybe my dear followers could offer some insight & suggestions! Among other things, Ive noticed how my followers & reach changes when I set my own profile setting to different genders.... (Answer- The algorithm is overtly sexist & gender normative) S t a t i s t i c s 70% of followers are Women-identified, 30% are Male-identified. (...unfortunately no allowance for other gender expressions on here, but for now, Ill just work with what I get...). Male-identified also seems to be a broader spread in age groups, with quite a few extra men above 44yrs. I do quite like that Im reaching that group. However, Id really like more of an even balance of genders (and, of course more people that dont fit either binary!). Heres the interesting thing: Despite my social media followers, the majority of client enquiries I get (for sessions) are from Cis Men. This is fine, but Id love to get some feedback from my followers- - How do we get more cis men following @ourintensivelove? - How to help cis women & NB/trans/non-cis folx feel comfortable enquiring about Sex Therapy services. - What are some potential barriers for both of the above? Lets have a conversation. Ideas & feedback, both positive & negative is welcomed! #mentalhealth #gender #sexualhealth @ Newtown, New South Wales See more
03.01.2022 A l l i e s The state of the world at the moment has me reflecting on a topic that I believe is extremely important. ... A l l y s h i p I dont personally come from a history of socio-cultural oppression, or experience any particular mechanisms of oppression in my own life. In light of this, I see my responsibility as one of Allyship. In social justice, Allyship is an important, complex & interesting topic. Its not enough to just Not be... racist/homophobic/transphobic/sexist/classist/ableist/etc. Inaction is a decision that does not contribute to positive change. Allyship is an active behaviour. The world needs more allies. Allies are not complacent. Allies are A c t i v e. Allies are V i s i b l e. Allies do the W o r k. Allies L i s t e n. Allies A d v o c a t e. Allies pass the microphone to those whose voice has been taken away. So... what is Allyship? Here are some dictionary definitions: ~To Ally~ (She/He Allies, They Ally) -Transitive Verb- to unite or form a connection or relation between. -Intransitive Verb- to form or enter into an alliance. Of course, its also a Noun: ~To be an Ally~ (plural allies) 1: a sovereign or state associated with another by treaty or league. 2: one that is associated with another as a helper : a person or group that provides assistance & support in an ongoing effort, activity, or struggle. 3: a plant or animal linked to another by genetic or taxonomic proximity. What is Allyship to you? Who/What are you Allied to? What are you doing to be an Ally? Do you have Allies that youre grateful for? How can people be a better Ally to you and/or your community? (Lets talk about this. DM or hit the comments) . . #sexology #sexologist #sexuality #sextherapist #relationships #love #mentalhealth #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #sexualhealth #queer #intersectionality #humanrights #harmreduction #allies #blacklivesmatter #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #kink #bdsm #nonmonogamy #polyamory
03.01.2022 Missing human contact? Struggling to connect? Book a session & lets talk about it. ... Current restrictions in Sydney still allow for in-person sessions. However, if you are keeping distance for any reason, Online is always available. All Service info is on the website (in Bio). Get in touch via email: [email protected] #sydney #counselling #connection See more
03.01.2022 E s s e n t i a l R e a d i n g I often bring these books up in conversation, & emphatically recommend that people read them. In my view, these books are essential for anyone with social conscience, or desire to learn & understand our world & societies.... By no means an exhaustive list, just a few of the most brilliant, impactful books that Ive read in the last couple of years. These are books that youll feel in your gut. Theyll make you angry, theyll make you cry, theyll fascinate you. They will challenge everything you thought you knew. Read them, share & talk about them. Reflect on life, the world, & our communities. 1- #ChasingTheScream, by @johann.hari Explores addiction & the history of the horrific war on drugs. Themes- trauma, race, class & abuse of power. 2- #DarkEmu, by Bruce Pascoe @bitheega Relearning the truth about indigenous Australians, & the lies of the Hunter-Gatherer, Terra Nullius & Noble Savage. Important for all Australians. 3- #SeeWhatYouMadeMeDo, by Jess Hill. Thorough & chilling exploration of domestic abuse. Challenges many misconceptions, and doesnt minimise or sugar-coat anything. Also- If youre a man, you MUST read this. 4- #RevoltingProstitutes, by Juno Mac & Molly Smith. Analysis of issues facing SWs, which positions them at the center of the intersections of Race, class, gender, sexuality. Essential reading if you care about ANY of those things. 5- #TheBodyKeepstheScore, by @bessel_van Psychological Trauma- A concept which is still misunderstood by our modern society. Read if you want to understand humans. 6- #TheEthicalSlut, by Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton. The first step in embracing Sex Positivity. Practical & Inspiring. 7- #LostConnections, by @johann.hari Understanding the social determinants of mental ill-health, which are too often ignored. More about trauma, isolation & what we can do to heal. Happy Reading! . . #sexology #sexuality #sextherapist #mentalhealth #sexeducator #intensivelove #nurselife #queer #trauma #intersectionality #humanrights #harmreduction #allies #lgbtqia #lgbt #tantra #bdsm #nonmonogamy #sexpositive #sexworkiswork #australia #aboriginalland #racism @ Sydney, Australia See more
02.01.2022 Sydney- Show up.
02.01.2022 I’ve been engaging in a heck of a lot of my own Therapy recently. One of the best parts of studying Gestalt Psychotherapy is- that am required to have my own regular Therapy & study practice groups with some of lovely peers. I’ve also ramped up my professional practice by adding some extra 1-1 supervision in $eX Therapy along with the amazing group I’m already engaged with. ... All this processing & reflection is really inspiring me, though it’s hard work sometimes. As a Therry myself, it’s invaluable both professionally & personally. Therapists spend a lot of time in isolation from support, colleagues & mentors... and expanding that contact is important to be able to really show up for clients. It’s a special investment. I’ve got some amazing Humans around me, & I’m feeling excited for the next 6 months! Image by the amazing @lindyloustudio #therapiststuff #therapist #gestalt #health #wellbeing #pleasure #relationship #learning #study #gestalt #gestalttherapy #sydney #love #education #reflection See more
02.01.2022 S e x & L o v e ...don’t have to be inseparably linked. Both are great, together or separately. ... #sexualhealth #sexpositivity #love #mentalhealth #relationshipgoals #intensivelove #sextherapist #health #sexeducation #friendship #positivity See more
01.01.2022 Exciting News - New Therapy Space! This is where Im practicing now - Union Street Yoga & Wellbeing, off South King Street- Newtown! (Yep, that super colourful building just beyond the Union Hotel - The Entrance is through the lovely garden courtyard at the back of the building)... Its such a lovely space, with comfy & sun-filled rooms. Book in & come see for yourself!
01.01.2022 Must say I think this version is pretty rad What do yall think?
01.01.2022 C o n s e n t . The pressure to go condomless is a constant battle for many people, especially from partners that are cis men (sorry guys, it’s true). A condom is a barrier... a boundary. It provides a sense of safety for one or both people, creates physical safety as a precaution, and can be a symbol of how close someone is willing to get to their sexual partner. Some people do not wish, don’t feel safe, or are not ready, to cross this barrier - for many possible reasons. ... Respectful negotiation is a valid activity, but pressuring someone to give up their boundary for the sake of your preferences is not cool. And, begging isn’t sexy (unless your partner is into that!). We all need to get better at consent, in all our connections with other humans. - to see, respect, and enquire about the boundaries (physical & mental) of other people. Good consent creates safety, it creates space for people to self-determine. Consent literacy is a constant practice, and is a skill that can be learnt. #consent #boundaries #condoms #sexeducation #condom #sti #safety #intensivelove #relationships #facts #sexpositive #communication #lovers #friends #medicine See more
01.01.2022 https://www.aclu.org//sex-work-is-real-work-and-its-time/ "Sex workers arent always a part of the conversation about police brutality, but they should be. P...olice regularly target, harass, and assault sex workers or people they think are sex workers, such as trans women of color. The police usually get away with the abuse because sex workers fear being arrested if they report. If we lived in a world that didnt criminalize sex work, sex workers could better protect themselves and seek justice when they are harmed." See more
