Pause for Reflection in Brooklyn, New South Wales | Counsellor

Pause for Reflection

Locality: Brooklyn, New South Wales

Phone: +61 450 482 321

Address: 1 Bridge rd 2203 Brooklyn, NSW, Australia

Website: http://www.pause4reflection.com.au

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22.01.2022 This is brilliant from Sir Anthony Hopkins: ''Let go of people who aren't ready to love you yet! This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life and ...it will also be the most important thing: stop giving your love to those who aren't ready to love you yet. Stop hard conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop loving people who aren't ready to love you. I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it's also the impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health. When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity. That doesn't mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don't want to love you yet. When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don't do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life. The truth is that you're not for everyone... And that not everyone is for you... That makes this world so special, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with... You will know how valuable that is... Because you have experienced what isn't... But the more time you spend trying to make you loved by someone who cant... The more time you waste depriving the same connection... There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand... But... The smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as a pillow, background option, a therapist and a strategy for their emotional healing... More time you stay out of the community you wish for. If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted... If you stop trying, the relationship might stop... If you stop texting, your phone stays dark for days and weeks... Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve... That doesn't mean you ruined a relationship! That means all this relationship had was the energy that only you and you hire to keep it in the air. It's not love. That's attachment. That's wanting to give a chance to those who don't want it! The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy. Its not just your time because it's limited... It's your energy! What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life. It's the ones you give time and energy that will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you are so impatient when you spend your time with people that don't suit you, and in activities, places, situations that don't suit you. You're starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, protect your energy stronger than anything. Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only '' compatible '' people with you are allowed. You are not responsible for saving people. You are not responsible to convince them to be saved. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after the moment! Because if you feel bad or if you feel obliged; you are the root of all of this by your insisting, afraid they promise you the favors you won't give them... It's your only fact to realize that you are the loved one of your destiny and to accept the love you think you deserve. Decide you deserve a true friendship. Wait then... just a minute... And look how everything is starting to change..." - Anthony Hopkins

20.01.2022 What an uncomfortable watch Coronation Street was last night. One of the most realistic portrayals of domestic abuse I have seen by a tv soap. Those of you who ...have been watching it would of seen the slow suffocation of Yasmina, who was once a strong independent woman. Isolated from family and friends, mentally tortured, manipulated and humiliated in front of friends and family she was stripped of everything that identified her as the person she used to be. But this was tv and not real life..... Wrong. Every hour of everyday there is a real Yasmina or indeed Mark, going through the same torture. However at the moment that torture, that humiliation, that emotional and mental abuse is going on during lockdown behind closed doors, with no escaping from it. Since lockdown between, March 23rd and April 12th, there have been, nationally, at least 16 suspected domestic homicides in the UK, including children. In the same period, over the last 10 years, records show an average of 5 deaths. So it's not a TV soap, real people with real lives are living with domestic abuse every hour of every day. Boots Chemist are offering a safe space for those seeking help. They will be able to use the consultation room at access a phone and call the national abuse helpline, mens advice line and phone numbers for specific services in Scotland, Ireland and Wales will also be provided. Bright Sky mobile app, also provides support and information. Stay safe and spare a thought for those men women and children who are not able to stay safe in there own homes. See more

18.01.2022 I don't often post on this page but during the week a client really moved me and so I thought I would share. Grief and Loss, which is what I specialize in, is not just associated with death, be it human or heart pet it can take in a large number of impacts in our lives. This can be anything from losing a job, a relationship breakdown, losing something material that is very dear to you and the list goes on. I had a client this week that has just lost her dog and is feeling ver...y much alone through covid, there are now friend issues due to their lack of empathy, a workplace that just thinks she should "get over it" and feelings of a new sort, the realization that she must now face many issues of unresolved bullying due to race throughout her childhood. We are very complex creatures and we think that when shit happens in our lives that we "get over it "and move on. This is generally not the case and it is only at times of immense pain and anguish that other issues, that remain unresolved, come to the fore making it even harder to get through the initial loss and heal. I like to call this the onion effect. So many complex layers and the only way that we can move ahead with clarity and resolution is by peeling back those layers and really looking at how we have processed each, accept, and move forward addressing the next one. This is hard because we not only have to accept that we may have been wronged but also what our part in the outcome was and accepting our failures as well. At a time where mental health is challenged with restrictions in our lives maybe this is the time to open pandoras box and learn to love and accept what's inside. If you need guidance then reach out to a health care professional who can support you on that journey.We are blessed now with remote hookups , Zoom meetings so help is not far away. You are not alone in this and maybe it's time to actively work on how your world is going to look when this pandemic settles, making this a positive time and one of growth. See more

15.01.2022 This is Charlie Chaplin at age 26, photographed 100 years ago. It’s believed he wrote the poem below at age 70. I feel he pretty much said it all with this one...... As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is Authenticity. As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call this Respect. As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call this Maturity. As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call this Self-Confidence. As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call this Simplicity. As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is Love of Oneself. As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is Modesty. As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it Fulfillment. As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart. We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing, new worlds are born. Today I know: This is Life!

12.01.2022 Bob Marley once said: "You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before... she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfectyou aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can breakher heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there. Love with your whole being when you receive love. Because there are no perfect girls, but there will always be a girl who is perfect for you.."

10.01.2022 copied & shared from Alex Hunt Clinically diagnosed anxiety is not just being a bit worried, you can't just "chill out a bit" or "get over it". It eats into your well being, your confidence, your health and your life and it is 24/7. When someone cancels, or ducks out, or makes a pathetic excuse please understand that it isn't personal, it isn't laziness, it isn't being rude. It's because they can't physically do it. When someone needs supporting/encouraging/ hand holding it i...sn't pathetic, it isn't attention seeking, it isn't childish - it's because they are desperate to beat it but can't do it alone. "Anxiety sucks, being isolated and believing your friends don't care sucks even more . How many of you have had a night out planned, or arranged coffee or a beer with friends and suddenly the 4 walls you inhabit seem the only safe haven because it's the only place you don't have to pretend you are ok, so you cancel. Or when you are invited out you tell them how terribly sorry you are, but you're already booked up that weekend, when you are actually just really busy holding it together in your safe box. So the first problem starts, all by itself. People stop asking you and the isolation that at first wasn't true becomes your only truth. Please don't give up on your friends. Ring them if they don't reply to a message. They really do want to talk, they just don't know how to say it some days. And in work every passing comment is a negative, you constantly do more to get over the feeling you are not good enough. The exhaustion from not sleeping because you panic all night over what you cannot influence means you make mistakes, you live in a fog and it is a vicious circle. Please copy from this post and paste it to yours and increase Mental Health Awareness See more

09.01.2022 "Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh. There was a pause. "Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet. "No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do." ..."That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend. "What are you doing?" asked Pooh. "Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either. "But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh." And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs...he thought that his best friend had never been more right." A.A. Milne Sending thoughts to everyone having a Difficult Day today. I hope you have your own Piglet to sit beside you

08.01.2022 I just read this on Quora and really liked the lesson RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE. When I was at one of my lowest (mental) points in life, I couldn’t get out of b...ed some days. I had no energy or motivation and was barely getting by. I had therapy once per week, and on this particular week I didn’t have much to ‘bring’ to the session. He asked how my week was and I really had nothing to say. What are you struggling with? he asked. I gestured around me and said I dunno man. Life. Not satisfied with my answer, he said No, what exactly are you worried about right now? What feels overwhelming? When you go home after this session, what issue will be staring at you? I knew the answer, but it was so ridiculous that I didn’t want to say it. I wanted to have something more substantial. Something more profound. But I didn’t. So I told him, Honestly? The dishes. It’s stupid, I know, but the more I look at them the more I CAN’T do them because I’ll have to scrub them before I put them in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher sucks, and I just can’t stand and scrub the dishes. I felt like an idiot even saying it. What kind of grown ass woman is undone by a stack of dishes? There are people out there with *actual* problems, and I’m whining to my therapist about dishes? But my therapist nodded in understanding and then said: RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE. I began to tell him that you’re not supposed to, but he stopped me. Why the hell aren’t you supposed to? If you don’t want to scrub the dishes and your dishwasher sucks, run it twice. Run it three times, who cares?! Rules do not exist, so stop giving yourself rules. It blew my mind in a way that I don’t think I can properly express. That day, I went home and tossed my smelly dishes haphazardly into the dishwasher and ran it three times. I felt like I had conquered a dragon. The next day, I took a shower lying down. A few days later. I folded my laundry and put them wherever the fuck they fit. There were no longer arbitrary rules I had to follow, and it gave me the freedom to make accomplishments again. Now that I’m in a healthier place, I rinse off my dishes and put them in the dishwasher properly. I shower standing up. I sort my laundry. But at a time when living was a struggle instead of a blessing, I learned an incredibly important lesson: THERE ARE NO RULES. RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE!!!

06.01.2022 Wow... my mum just shared this with me. Beautiful to watch...

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