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19.02.2022 Sex can feel a little awkward in the beginning, especially if it's the first time in a long while. Establishing a pre sex ritual helps you to loosen up & get comfortable with your lover. Relaxation is the best state one can be in to feel the ultimate pleasure of sex. So here are a few fun ways you can break the ice before getting down. Healthy competition is sexy. Play a game before hand, it could be chess, a running race, or even strip poker. Playing a game gives plenty of... time for cheeky banter & flirting. Clear communication & consent gets a gal wet. Discuss what you're both in the mood for over a bottle of wine. Knowing what's good & what's off the table eliminates having to ask if something is okay or not whilst having sex, which can be a turn off for some. Dance! I've said it before & I'll likely continue to say it! Dancing is great for shaking off anxieties because if you can silly dance infront of your partner, you'll feel more comfortable to express your pleasure in the bedroom. Give each other lap dances if that takes your fancy - avoid seriousness, make it fun & theatrical. Shower together. Cleaning each other is a great way to bond before getting sexy. Hygiene & clean buttholes are HOT. You could even brush each others teeth if you that kinda freak Eye Gazing. Yes, I'm mentioning eye gazing again & for good reason. Eyes are the windows to the soul & if you've ever eye gazed on hallucinogens you know what I'm saying. Eye gazing tears down your protective walls that shield you from the fear of being seen. When you eye gaze, there's no running away from that adoring soul sitting right in front of you. You're forced to feel all the love & you deserve it!

16.02.2022 I know there are many out there who are curious to try anal, thanks to the saturation of big wet gaping buttholes online. To do butt stuff safely there are a few secrets one must need to know. Silicon lube is your best friend & lots of it, if you're going in dry you face the risk or tearing sensitive skin & creating a painful anus fissure. Make it wet, wet, wet! Secondly anal is mental, for it to work your head has gotta be in the game - Meaning that if you have any sliver of... a doubt about it being painful or scary then stop & do something else. You need to be completely wanting of it for it to be successful. Thirdly, don't force your way in. Massage the anus, let it relax & open up, allow the hungry butt to swallow whatever is going inside. Once it's in, go slow, I can't stress this enough. Avoid going in & out like you see in porn, you want nice smooth deep strokes to fully enjoy the intense experience of anal. Try with yourself by yourself first so you can learn how you like it, which will allow you to be confident in instructing a future lover. See more

07.02.2022 Write your lover a letter For some of us, expressing how we feel verbally can be difficult. Sometimes we simply fear hurting our lover, so we keep quiet, bottle it all up & self implode - Only for it to eventually explode in a fit of rage or a long depressive episode. Writing down how you feel about a conflict when it's happening allows you to observe & analyse your emotions so you can rationalise them & create a solution. Sometimes the conflict fixes itself after journalin...g & there's no need to have your partner read it. That's the magic of writing. Place yourself in their shoes Perception is projection & because of this what we find irritating about our lovers can be our own unconscious behaviours. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world, your thoughts, feelings & beliefs. Placing yourself in your partners shoes & asking yourself if you ever displayed similar behaviour allows you to empathise instead of chastise. Shut up & actively listen It's normal to want to avoid conflicts, but ignoring them or mentally exiting when faced with a relationship conflict results in the same drama cycling back into your life. Hear your lover out & make sure they're doing the same for you. Listen to the words they use & adopt them when it's your turn to speak. If your lover says "I can't see what you're saying" you need to be using visual words so they can form a picture of what you're saying in his mind. If there's misunderstanding between anyone it usually boils down to word misinterpretation. There are visual, auditory, feeling, & auditory digital (AD) words & people prefer the words they primarily use! - using words your partner uses will allow for better communication, so pay attention.

07.01.2022 Over time & even at the beginning of a relationship, the polarity between a couple may feel a bit awkward & shy. This is so normal & to be expected. If you're looking to strengthen the connection between you & your lover/s here are a few FUN practices that I've used that served me with excellent results. Eye Gazing. Sit across from each other at a comfortable distance where you can easily focus on each other's eyes. Pick only one eye that feels the best for you to focus on.... Stare into the eye without blinking for as long as possible, the longer you can stare, the stronger the connection. Be aware of tension in your body while you do this & relax. You may cry or you may giggle, that's ok, let it happen. It's a good thing. Your faces may morph & look grotesque, that's ok, keep staring with love. Dancing. Dancing is an expression of life. When we dance, we allow the universe to flow & express itself through us. I've met people who feel awkward to even dance alone when no one's looking. I say, feel the fear & do it anyway! There are no rules when it comes to dance. Put an album on that pumps you up & move however you like. I've been to ecstatic dance meetups where I have watched persons flap around on the ground like a fish out of water - if it feels good, do it! Breathing. I talk a lot about the importance of breathing, for good reason. Ancient tribes in history would get together for ceremonies & breathe for hours. They said that the rhythmic breathing synchronised their minds & would allow them to make easily agreeable group decisions. I love to mix breathing & eye gazing together. Make time for mutual interests. Find something you both enjoy, whether it's golf, running, arts & crafts, drifting, sex or whatever - plan a day or a couple of hours to do things together that both bring you joy. Aa