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Poppy Seed Counselling

Locality: Ipswich, Queensland

Phone: +61 478 215 349

Address: 6/20 Gray Street 4305 Ipswich, QLD, Australia

Website: https://www.poppyseedcounselling.com

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23.01.2022 "Your Body Is An iIlussion" This Video Will Literally Blow Your Mind!

15.01.2022 The attachment oriented parenting course "Circle of Security" encourages the parents to be "bigger, stronger, wiser, kind". If a parent has an insecure sense of self, they will depend on their children to behave in ways that affirm them. When a child misbehaves, the insecure parent will tend to over react (too mean) and aggressively demand their children to change in order for themselves to feel ok, loved, competent, respected etc. . Alternatively, the parent can under-react ...(no boundaries - too weak) for fear that any boundary will bring them rejection from their child. Both reactions are representations of co-dependency. To be "bigger, stronger, wiser, kind" means the parent has the ability to separate their children's behavior from their sense of selves. In fact they will be able to tolerate sometimes being the "villain" in their children's protests. The insecure parent will tend to enforce boundaries by exception which primarily communicates intolerance and rejection. The reasons for the negative behavior are dismissed and the child learns that how (and why) they feel doesn't matter and is wrong. The "bigger, stronger, wiser, kind" parent will establish boundaries based on their personal and children's self-worth. Sure, there may be resistance, however the self-validation, constancy, coaching and esteeming from the parent will in most cases be enough for the child to eventually feel safe and secure within the confines of the self-worth centered boundaries. If you find that you over or under-react when you're children fall apart, this is generally a clue to how attachments were formed and internalised with your primary caregivers. Until you explore and address these aspects of self, you, as the parent, will pass on your insecurities and remain dependent on your children and many other's to affirm and validate you to feel ok...a task that children will never be competent to complete and will then try and complete in their future adult and children relationships...hence perpetuating the insecure relational patterns. See more

12.01.2022 Blame - The Great Growth Suppressant For many stuck relationships, couples find themselves in a stand off of sorts. It feels unjust to 'cross the bridge' to connect with the partner with a list of unaddressed grievances at hand. They need to change right? If I was to go towards them now...it would be like I'm to blame for the state of relationship! They need to change!! The evidence that relationships are stuck is often recognised in the level of conditionality placed on the ...other. Both people in the relationship then wait for the other to move...hence stalling growth. This state can endure for years, impacting intimacy, increasing resentment to the point of stonewalling, even seeking resolve outside of the relationship. Sure, there may be points of togetherness however without navigating what sits beneath the blame, the relational health will decline. Many unfortunately determine that the relationship at this point "is as good as it gets". Amazing outcomes await those that can endure the pain of growth. "Can't go over/under/around it...got to go through it" and there will be discomfort....if people have enough courage...incredible discoveries await with personal and relational shifts inviting couples beyond any current imagination of intimacy....in fact...unconditional love.

08.01.2022 Sounds Too Good To Be True She was thoroughly shaken, wondering what was behind a greeting like that (Luke 1:29, MSG). As the early entry into the biblical ‘Christmas Story’, Mary found herself greeted with a confronting truth. The angel Gabriel welcomed her with Good morning! You’re beautiful with God’s beauty, Beautiful inside and out! (Luke 1:28, MSG). What a foreign greeting! Mary was simply going about her normal life. While her fear could be attributed to the presence... of a supernatural being, I take solace it related to the very words that addressed her inherent worth. In the ordinary of life, and in the realm of form and function, it is easy to lose ‘self’ in the acts of service and established role identities. It’s even easier to lean on others to validate our self-worth. Likewise to feel worthless, even for a moment, could be as nearby as the next comment made to or about us. Marianne Wilson famously wrote Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us..We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us [which is what Mary was literally being asked to do]. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others (A Return to Love, 1992). On occasions we get a taste of our self-worth through the gracious words of the discerning, or in extraordinary moments in life. Less often, we get interrupted with an inner-voice that reveals to us our immense beauty. While the moment doesn’t go unnoticed, to continue to live the reality of our worthiness can frighten us so we retract. Brene Brown calls this foreboding joy. Fear remains the resident internal state that hides our inner beauty. When fear has hold on us, we generally turn to form and function so others may penetrate our insecure selves and tell us of our worthiness. Thank goodness that our nearest and dearest find ways to insult our sensibilities for it would be convenient to build addictions around outside-in validation crutches. What would it be like to awaken on Christmas morning and take ownership of the words Good morning! You’re beautiful with God’s beauty, Beautiful inside and out! Can you imagine living the reality of those words in your ordinary every day? Doing so would be to live out the truth of who you are

02.01.2022 Caught unaware, unbridled love swept me away A breath-taking moment of deep connection As tears welled my story was lost I for a moment was a child spellbound in my protector's delight Like a first hand witness of love that framed my existence... Remembering just how much I too was loveable Acknowledging that I am so loved See more