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23.01.2022 Do you know someone who keeps choosing dysfunctional or abusive partners? Maybe you have had the experience of being in one abusive relationship after another and you are not sure why you keep wanting partners who treat you badly or who are not emotionally available. Robin Shapiro (2016) explains that when kids are neglected, abused or inconsistently responded to by their parents or caregivers they grow wide neural pathways for anxiety and for interacting with abusive and em...otioanally unavailable people. According to Louis Cozolino (2006) people growing up in these kinds of environments actualy get a rush of good feelings when they are with abusive or neglectful people. It feels comforting to them to be in this familiar environment no matter how dysfunctional it is. In my opinion, people who grow up in dysfunctional families do not recognise abuse the way others do. If abuse or neglect is all you have known, not only does it feel like being home, but it also doesn't raise any kind of alarm bells or red flags when you are treated badly. If abuse is all you have ever known, how do you even know where the boundary of good vs poor treatment is? It is like abused or neglected adult chidren are blind to mistreatment even when it is right there in front of them. It can be so baffling to people who have been raised by healthy parents when they see friends returning to abusive partners. They can see that these abusers are so toxic for them but their friends seem completely blind to it, or at least to not be as repulsed or offended by the abuse. When it comes to alcohol..... if you have been raised by alcoholic parents you often have to guess as to what normal actually is and often children of alcoholic parents find themselves consistently drawn to alcoholics, substance abusers or emotionally unavailable partners.

23.01.2022 Last time you made a resolution to do something important to you, what factors helped you to keep it up?Last time you made a resolution to do something important to you, what factors helped you to keep it up?

22.01.2022 Alcohol is liquid anxiety. It may seem that it is helping you to unwind as while you are intoxicated you may feel more relaxed. Unfortunately, the way it affects the brain and the nervous system means that the rebound effect from drinking causes you to experience anxiety or panic attacks. If you are using alcohol all the time then you may assume that this is part of your nature. You probably feel like you need alcohol to relieve this anxiety. This is like scratching at an i...tchy wound that would heal if you only left it alone. You keep scratching at it (drinking) to relieve the itch (the anxiety). It stops the itch for a short while, but scratching it also prevents the itchy wound from ever healing. You may have an alcohol induced anxiety or panic disorder that could easily be treated without any need for medication. Taking anxiety medication on top of alcohol can really take it's toll on your liver. I am not saying to stop taking medication without your doctor's advice, but I am suggesting that you may not need it anymore if you free yourself from the drinking habit. The good news is that hypnotherapy can allow you to relax deeply, feeling really good without the need to drink. This can help to relieve your anxiety and crush your alcohol cravings.

22.01.2022 Do you ever feel that there's a battle going on inside you when it comes to quitting drinking? Your imagination is far more powerful than your willpower. This is why diets don't work. Don't you find that you want those forbidden foods or the smokes all the more when you can't have them! This is because the more we try to NOT think about something... the more it tends to enter our mind. ... This is where hypnotherapy can help by reprogramming your mind so you no longer desire that bad habit and get the same sense of satisfaction and relaxation in healthier ways. www.habitbusters.com.au

21.01.2022 Whether or not you believe that we have a soul that lives on after death, and that we choose our challenges before birth, there is no denying that challenges se...em to keep reappearing in our lives until we have gained the wisdom and insight that we need to gain from them. It is only then that the universe stops sending us these assignments in the form of dysfunctional relationships, cravings, poor self esteem, or poor health. Life doesn't just happen to us. We are powerful co- creators of our own destiny. We can blame others or circumstances for our misfortunes but that is a position of powerlessness. It may not be our fault that we have certain problems, but it is our responsibility to grow from them and to help ourselves improve our own lives. I love this quote from a book I am currently reading: "When John no longer sees himself as less important, less loving, less delightful, less sacred than those around him, the obstacles of this human will fade" With these words the angel conveyed a primary purpose of life challenges... to show us how our thoughts and feelings create our reality. Challenges are mirrors that reflect to us our feelings about ourselves. In that sense they are gifts. Wisdom allows us to recognise them as such" Quoted from "Souls plan" by Robert Schwarz.

21.01.2022 Some of my clients who come and see me talk about how they can't imagine life without alcohol and that it's part of their identity. I remember feeling this way too. If you drink every day and every time you socialise you drink, of course it's going to seem uncomfortable and strange when you stop. I bet you can remember lots of times where you did something for the first time and it seemed uncomfortable and strange, especially if you think back to your childhood days. If you...'ve never socialized as an adult without drinking when you first start socialising without drinking you're going to probably feel like an awkward teenager. If every time you come home from work you drink then when you stop drinking it's going to be really important to substitute you drinking behaviour with exercise or a hobby. These are going to feel uncomfortable and new for the first month or so, but this doesn't mean that you shouldn't do it. The great news is before long you will start to feel a lot more comfortable socially and you'll realise that it is possible to have a great time without drinking. You will also realise that there are some social situations that you don't actually enjoy, and you've been to tipsy to notice before. these days I really enjoy socialising with good friends without the need to drink but in the past this would have been something that I could never imagine doing. Sometimes there is an underlying social anxiety that needs to be addressed. It's so worth facing and overcoming your fears. Amazing things are on the other side of discomfort. If you'd like to reduce the awkwardness and discomfort you may feel when you don't drink then visit www.habitbusters.com.au to find out more about how I can help you to be the best version of yourself in 2021.

21.01.2022 Such a great feeling to help people to make such great transformations. This client not only improved his health and wellbeing but saved himself a lot of money now he no longer had to spend it on drinking alcohol

20.01.2022 What sort of conversations do you have with yourself? I had a very cold and critical Mother so I used to be very very hard on myself. I suffered from depression and anxiety until about 10 years ago when I discovered hypnosis. I realised that I had been beating myself up internally. I used to say horrible things to myself. The conversations you have with yourself really matter. I notice many of my clients are very critical of themselves. I had a client come in the other day ...and told me within 5 minutes all the things that were supposedly wrong with him. When I asked him what he liked about himself he looked totally stumped. This is very common. You might think that if you stopped drinking, or lost weight you would feel better about yourself and that may be true, but how on earth are you supposed to manage to do that while your inner critic is following you around hurling abuse at you. Your drinking and/ or your weight is a reflection of your internal world. Clean this up first and watch what happens! The first step at combating the inner critic is to recognise the bully. Notice what he/she is saying. Then identify what the opposite of this would be and act in ways that support the contradiction of these negative beliefs. This can be quite difficult because your subconscious likes to sabotage efforts that contradict your internal dialogue. It takes feeling the discomfort and doing it anyhow. There is no growth without discomfort. If you would like to know how to fast track the process of turning down your inner critic so you feel calm and confident send me a PM or text 0410 573 650 to organise a strategy call. I

20.01.2022 Today is apparently National Day of Action against bullying. Some of us may have been bullied as kids by other kids or family members or both. Some may have been bullied by our partners. Often we internalise these bullies and they become part of our psyche. Something that I have noticed about what alcohol does, this is not just my experience but also something I've noticed in so many others and that is that alcohol intensifies at amplifies this bully/ critical voice inside o...ur minds. I don't mean that we literally hear this voice but it is the way we talk to ourselves. Alcohol can create such a negative way of corresponding with ourselves and the world. It makes us critical of ourselves and others. One thing you will notice when you no longer drink is how much more positively you think about yourself and your life in general. I really feel that alcohol holds you back from evolving spiritually.

20.01.2022 Drinking alcohol is a fantastic way to disassociate from your feelings. The habit of disassociating may have started when you were a child. You may have experienced emotions that were too big to cope with and you had nobody there to help you deal with them. So you learned to turn the feelings off. Maybe you were told that your emotions were unacceptable or your emotions were ignored or invalidated. Maybe using alcohol or food to avoid feelings was something that was role mode...lled to you by parents. So what happens when we disassociate from our feelings? Do they just go away? Well no, they don't. Stuffing down your emotions can lead to substance abuse, overeating, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, jealousy, panic attacks or sometimes even bouts of rage. If you never learn to process your emotions such as feeling uncomfortable in social situations, feeling sad, disappointed rejected, or angry then you never get to grow, develop, evolve and you never learn the coping skills you need to handle future situations effectively. Big emotions (including feeling uncomfortable in social situations) can be something that trip people up down the track when they have given up drinking or smoking for a while. If they haven't learned how to process these emotions then they may resort to the old patterns of disassociating. This is why if you have a history of avoiding feelings or dealing with them by drinking (or other means) it is really important to see a trained and experienced hypnotherapist or counsellor to help you to process and release these feelings as you quit or after you quit.

19.01.2022 Did you know alcohol is a depressant? When I used to drink daily I remember reading that and thinking "What a load of rubbish. Alcohol makes me feel good, and lively! How can it be a depressant?" Well I now understand that the reason why it is a depressant is that it decreases our nerve activity, making us feel calm and relaxed, but it also decreases our mental clarity and our coordination. Our bodies are very clever at maintaining homeostatis (equilibrium) to keep us alive.... So what happens when we regularly consume a depressant? Our brain compensates for this depressant effect by keeping us more wired, and anxious than we would naturally be if we didn't drink. This is why so many drinkers suffer from anxiety. And ofcourse they look forward to the drink that they think they enjoy because it seems to relieve their stress. What they don't get is that it exacerbated their perception of the stress in the first place. It is a hamster wheel that you will keep running around in your entire life if you don't get help to kick the habit. You don't have to be a heavy drinker to experience the unease or anxiety that alcohol causes. Did you know that it is possible to easily kick the drinking habit for good with hypnotherapy?

16.01.2022 Quitting an unhealthy habit can be compared to learning to use windscreen / indicator functions on a European vs Asian car. I've had to go between driving my PT cruiser and my Holden Commodore the last few weeks, and I've noticed that I make a few slip ups on each car as they have indicators on opposite sides of each other! I know that after driving one of them for a while I'll get used to it and won't make any more slip-ups. Imagine if every time I made a mistake I said to... myself "Well that's it...I mucked up.... I'm obviously no good at this I might as well give up!", I didn't bother to drive the new car. You can see that this kind of approach would not get me very far. Quitting a bad habit is no different. If you quit for good and never touch you're bad habit ever again, that's great. However if you do find yourself slipping up from time to time how about seeing it as a learning experience. You can examine what your triggers were and what coping skills you can put in place next time. Remember to encourage rather than berate yourself. And remember your original 'WHY?'

15.01.2022 https://www.psychologytoday.com//we-ve-got-depression-all-

15.01.2022 https://www.theguardian.com//on-the-sauce-shaun-micallef-b This documentary looks really interesting

15.01.2022 Not a bad idea

14.01.2022 The power of habit lol

14.01.2022 Here's a challenge to create a new positive anchor for yourself in 2 weeks! This will give you a quick and easy way to feel really good anytime you want to. "What does she mean by an anchor?" You may ask.... "Does this mean I have to buy a boat to feel good?"... Well yes I'm sure a new boat would help you feel great but in NLP/ hypnosis circles anchoring is the process of pairing an emotion with some external or internal trigger so that you can feel that emotion any time you experience the trigger. It's actually really enjoyable and fun to create a positive one. Here's one way to do it: STEP 1: Decide whether your desired emotion is relaxation or joy. It's a great idea to look at what negative emotions you currently experience that you try to avoid and choose the opposite emotion. So the opposite of anxiety could be relaxation.. STEP 2: create a music playlist which creates this positive feeling in you. It's best if the playlist is quite short. 4-5 songs is good. STEP 5: Every day do something healthy that you enjoy doing or used to enjoy while listening to this music Examples of fun/ healthy activities could be: bike riding in nature, walking, jogging, cloud watching, walking on the beach, cuddling someone you love, taking a bath, meditating. After 2-3 weeks of doing this every day you will have anchored strong positive feelings to that playlist. You will find that just by listening to the music you will feel great even if you're not engaging in the pleasant activity. If you think about it isn't that exactly what you've done over the years if you've gone out and had a drink with friends? Maybe you listened to great music or perhaps just listened to your friends and enjoyed their company while drinking alcohol. It's likely that if you've done this repeatedly over the years that you will have created a positive anchor out of looking at the glass/ bottle of alcohol or experiencing the taste. It's amazing how strong these anchors can be and how we can be fooled into thinking that it's the trigger alone (the sight/ taste/ feeling of alcohol) that is giving us the positive emotion. We may not realise that we've programmed ourselves to feel good while drinking. Please help me to create a relaxing playlist so I can keep calm while homeschooling by commenting below your fav feel good music

13.01.2022 How is drinking effecting your life? Since consuming alcohol is very common in many cultures and the effects vary so widely from person to person, it’s not always easy to figure out where the line is between social drinking and problem drinking. The bottom line is how alcohol affects you. If your drinking is causing problems in your life, you have a drinking problem. If you are interested in appointments, check out my website www.habitbusters.com.au

13.01.2022 One of the lesser-known benefits of hypnotherapy is improved sleep. I have had 2 clients come and see me recently for insomnia. One client has not slept more than 3 hours in a row since she was a teenager (and is now in her late 50's), another client is a young man who has had insomnia since an incident that happened to him 5 years ago. He had tried everything to fix it with no success. Both of these clients reported that after just one of my hypnotherapy sessions they are now sleeping really well and both have referred friends and family members to see me. If only people knew how easy it can be to fix insomnia. I should mention that I made sure that both clients had ruled out any physiological causes first by visiting appropriate health care providers/ doctors.

13.01.2022 Have you ever worked out how much you spend each month on drinking? This includes not only the ones you drink at home, but also the while out at restaurants etc. Imagine being able to live every day completely free of any desire to drink, feeling content and peaceful AND having all that extra money in your pocket. It's totally possible! I know it may not feel like it now, but future you is cheering you on right now saying "You can do this!"

13.01.2022 https://www.actcursus.nl/?page_id=1267 Interesting article on how it is possible to reframe the past so it no longer affects you in a negative way.

11.01.2022 I love this analogy of grief. Most people think about grief as having experienced somebody close to you passing away, but grief can be a result of all sorts of losses. If you're finding that you experience waves of intense emotion such a sadness or anger about an event that happened to you, then what you're experiencing may be grief. Grief can include the loss of a relationship, the loss of a job, a child, a pet, a friend, a friendship, a limb, a health status, a relative, ...or an identity. If you deny your grief or are ashamed of your reaction to it you are more likely to seek out unhealthy ways to manage it or disassociate from it. As painful as it is sometimes we have to go through it to come out the other side. It makes the whole process a lot easier when you accept your feelings and don't criticize yourself in anyway for feeling them. this doesn't mean you have to be ok with what happened to you but it does mean that you can start to allow the emotions to flow through you without judgement.

09.01.2022 The 4 steps that make up the habit process are: 1/ Trigger/ cue 2/ Craving 3/ Response 4/ Reward... So the steps that you need to reverse a habit are 1/ Make your triggers invisible or change them.. 2/ Use new coping strategies to be able to manage any negative emotions or sensations 3/ Do a different behaviour that gives you the same..... 4/ Reward - feel happy, relaxed, focused or connected. Most people when they quit just take away the behaviour and the reward. With no reward (relief of negative emotions) and no coping strategy it can be easy to slide back into the old behaviour. Here's me lifting my own body weight today. When I quit drinking 8 years ago, I started working out to get the same perceived reward (relaxation). Now I find I want to exercise in response to some of my old triggers. I also listen to the message that is behind any uncomfortable emotion, instead of trying to ignore it. It can really help to see a counsellor or Hypnotherapist who specialises in habit change, so they can help you to apply the new strategies by helping you to feel the same reward, with healthier behaviour.

08.01.2022 Let's talk social anxiety. This is a very common but often silent or hidden struggle so many people have. Some people have spent their entire lives avoiding social situations because they don't like the discomfort. What is instead of trying not to feel the discomfort you were ok with feeling a bit scared? What if you were to play social discomfort bingo with yourself and set yourself some challenges for the week (start with mild discomfort and once you have successfully mana...ged mild discomfort then you can set yourself increasingly challenging situations) and actually welcome embrace the discomfort you feel. In the end, it all boils down to what you tell yourself about the discomfort and the self-talk you have when you're in the social situations. The way you hold your body and your muscles also makes a huge difference. You'll probably find that nobody is anywhere near as interested in you as you think they are, and that they are all way too busy worrying about their own problems. The best way to overcome fear is to go through it. If you run away from it every time it'll never go away. Life in your bubble might seem nice and comfy but it can be incredibly barren. Socialising is just the same as any other skill and gets easier with practice. It's ok to feel unsure of yourself and scared when you begin to practice this skill. Rather than beating yourself up for your awkwardness why not celebrate the chance to feel the fear and discomfort and grow from it. Just remember that person you feel shy in front of may be fighting the same battle!

08.01.2022 No you're not weak willed or uniquely flawed....we all have sub-personalities. Our psyche is made up of several parts that all form a coherent whole. We may have a shy part, an outgoing part, an angry part, a sexy part, a nurturing part, a healthy part, a part that wants to drink. If you think of your mind as a classroom and all the parts that make up you as the students in the classroom. The students up the front are the personality parts that are running the show on any giv...en day. Since this COVID-19 crisis we may have a scared, or child like part chattering away up the front. We experience inner conflict when two or more parts disagree on how to get what they want. This inner turmoil if left unchecked can go on for years! The wonderful news is that this can be resolved quickly and easily with parts negotiation during hypnosis. We can get parts to agree to work together and unite so you no longer feel conflicted. This is just one of the many hypnotic techniques that can bring you incredible inner peace.

07.01.2022 So many people are disconnected from their emotions. Especially if you have a background of trauma or come from a family where your emotions weren't acknowledged. You may experience emotions as physical sensations or pain. It can help to listen to the message you body is giving you

06.01.2022 Deep breathing is such a great way to relax your body and mind

06.01.2022 So many of my clients have spent so much of their lives feeling like they are not good enough. Not pretty enough, not smart enough, not socially confident enough, not interesting enough. I remember feeling that way. It is important to remember that we were not born with these self doubts. If we were born riddled with self doubt we would have never learned to walk. We would have given up after several failed attempts and called ourselves a loser. We would have assumed that all... the walking humans were so much better than us... more skilled, more intelligent. Your life is a reflection of how you talk to yourself. Your partner reflects how you talk to yourself. Your job, your friends, your meals, your exercise routines, all reflect the conversations you have with yourself. You are not a helpless victim of circumstances. The thing about drinking alcohol is it feeds off your negative self talk. It also amplifies it. So the more you drink the more you criticise yourself. The more you criticise yourself the more you want to drink. So how do you break this viscious cycle? It is important to pay attention to the thoughts that are feeding your bad habits. They are not just feeding your bad habits but they are also influencing so many other areas of your life. If you are not good enough then your friends will be takers, your partner abusive, your job will be dissatisfying, your diet and lifestyle habits will be poor. If all these are lacking you will be more likely to crave alcohol or junk food. Imagine what would be possible and how your world could change if you replaced your critical, powerless and self defeating thoughts with encouraging and compassionate ones. I see the results of these transformations all the time.

06.01.2022 https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=DgmdnPDsnc0

05.01.2022 What if you were to lean into the fear instead of running from it? All growth takes putting yourself outside your comfort zone

05.01.2022 Are you feeling anxious or down? Would you like to try something that could really help? For a few minutes write down your stream-of-consciousness (this is everything that comes into your mind without censoring it, editing it or analysing it). Once you have finished take a look at what you have written. You may now realise why you feel so bad. how could you possibly feel happy and at peace with those kinds of thoughts going through your mind? Your thoughts are what generate ...your emotions and your mental state so here's how to go about changing them. The first step is to become aware of them so you're already half way there. Next, list a few of the main thoughts or main points that you noticed in your stream-of-consciousness. Now flip these thoughts to turn them into a positive. You now have yourself some positive affirmations tailoredr just for you. For example.... Let's say that I am thinking "My life is such a mess, I'll never find love our happiness" The reverse of this could be 'I choose to notice all the blessings in my life' "I deserve happiness and choose to feel it' "I feel love for myself and others. I am love" "I am unconditionally lovable" Affirmations should be worded in the present tense. Next to your affirmations you could list some examples in your life when you have felt this way or any evidence at all that could support these positive statements. Your mind is probably used to looking for evidence to support negative statements that tell you doom and gloom and tear at your self-esteem, so this can help to retrain it. if you really want to drum these affirmations in then print them out and stick them where you'll see them every day (eg. on the fridge or the mirror). I like using the voice recorder app to record myself saying them out loud along with my supporting evidence. If you listen to these affirmations as you go to sleep or as soon as you wake up your mind will be more open and receptive to them.

04.01.2022 I firmly believe that challenges can be the making of us. I know it's hard to see the bigger picture sometimes when you're knee deep in the proverbial cow dung, but overcoming these obstacles can help to build self esteem, self efficacy, gratitude and help us to grow.

04.01.2022 Wonderful feedback today from an online client of mine who started seeing me at the same time as she started antidepressant medication. She was told by her doctor that he'd never seen anyone make such a dramatic recovery from such severe depression in such a short time. She had her fourth session today and although she's still grieving her loss she's so much more calmer and at peace about it.

03.01.2022 I have been busy seeing clients via Zoom the last couple of months, but I am pleased to say that I am now starting to see in person clients once again. The COVID-19 restrictions really took a toll on a lot of people. Many of my clients report finding it difficult to balance homeschooling and working from home. A lot of people have been drinking or eating more than usual. Well now is the time to turn things around! The first step in my quit drinking program is helping you to achieve an absolute state of bliss anytime you want without relying on alcohol or junk food. The best news is you will be able to easily achieve this with no negative side effects whatsoever. If you would like to find out more you can email me on [email protected]

03.01.2022 According to Dr Navaz Habib, author of 'Activate your vagus nerve' studies show that music can lift mood and help lift you feel better. We don't really need a study to prove what we already know though right! Remember that if you drink while listening to your favourite music you are setting that song up to be a trigger for your drinking. You are also pairing a positive emotion with the act of drinking making your brain think that the happy feeling from the song also comes f...rom the alcohol consumption. Your brain learns to link happy feelings with things in your environment that are happening while you're feeling happy. So if you're having fun with friends and listening to great music while drinking, guess how you're going to feel about alcohol? It's going to be linked in your mind to joy and connectedness which is actually the opposite of what it really brings So how about listening to your favorite song while walking, or exercising or sitting on the beach or amongst nature with no alcohol? What's your favourite song/s to lift your mood?

02.01.2022 I saw this picture and I thought it was a great analogy for how once you have seen me to quit alcohol, you'll never look at alcohol in quite the same way again. Perception is everything. If your subconscious mind thinks that alcohol is doing you a favour then even if you try to abstain you will eventually start drinking again. It's possible to completely change your perception of alcohol at a subconscious level. I use hypnosis to help you to feel good in much healthier ways.

02.01.2022 Sometimes you need hardship to steer you in the direction of change and make you realise how powerful you are. Do you see yourself as a strong, capable, powerful person?

02.01.2022 I hope everyone had a really great Easter weekend. If you're finding it especially hard to resist the choccies then it might be worth reading this article. A wise naturopath once pointed out to me that chocolate cravings can sometimes be a sign that you are magnesium deficient. Apparently it's a common deficiency and can be made worse by a diet high in sugar or by drinking alcohol. She told me that magnesium deficiency can make you feel tense and cause muscle tightness. The ...more stressed you feel the more magnesium you need so it can be a bit of a viscous cycle. If you ever want to be turned off chocolate so you have no desire to eat it PM me. It's super easy and quick to do with hypnosis. Aren't I the party pooper? https://www.huffpost.com//is-your-chocolate-craving-a-sign

02.01.2022 Ever wondered why you end up drinking that glass of wine, beer or spirits when you promised yourself that you wouldn't? Or maybe you find yourself eating food you told yourself you wouldn't eat. I've been in your shoes. For years I felt split in two. Part of me really wanted to stop drinking, kick the sugar and get healthy. But somehow another part of me felt compelled to drive into the bottle shop or go and eat the third chocolate icecream cone. Both the part of us that is d...oing the unwanted behaviour and the part that wants to stop it both want the same thing for you.... They want you to be happy and feel good. Just like two parents in conflict over how to raise a child that they both love. Amazing things happen when we negotiate with these parts during hypnosis and help them to both agree on a ways they can both get what they need. Hypnosis can also help to form new connections between positive feelings and healthy habits as well as dissolve old connections between pleasure and drinking/eating/ smoking. BOOM! Inner conflict gone.