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25.01.2022 NEW BLOG POST Okay so its been a hot minute (try over a year) since I posted a blog. I got distracted building a business but today I just felt like getting back to the basics. I sat down and nearly turned on the hypnotic drama of @therealhousewivesofbh and instead started typing away.... I hope this is one you enjoy. Let me know your thoughts

24.01.2022 Thank you @ryan_tuckwood @isrtraining @ Gold Coast, Queensland

24.01.2022 2020. An iconic year. Marked in history.... The world’s history and my own history. Every New Years I post a review of how the year gone was the most pivotal of my life. 2020 was no exception. In fact, 2020 didn't just pivot me, it catapulted me! It seems each year that goes by peels back another layer of ME. Something else to be looked at, something to be healed, something to be refined, some other challenge to rise to. In 2020 the layer was AUTHENTICITY. And with that... self-acceptance, self-honouring, and self-sovereignty. I've always lived my life in a very particular way - true to what I believe to be true. I'm strong willed and never bend in the direction others want me to go if it's out of integrity. I've always found being true to myself fairly effortless and so I thought Authenticity was something I already had down pat (). But... over the last few years much of what I believe has changed or adapted, in beautiful but brutal ways. Beautiful, because it has opened the door to a whole new version of "me" Brutal, because I’ve been unwilling to let the old Jess go so I can step in to the Jess I know I can become. So why is it now taking so much effort for me to continue being true to new beliefs? Because in life we find belonging in friendships, community groups, peers, even family based on our beliefs... and when those beliefs change, some people tend to feel threatened by your presence. In turn, our core human need to belong is threatened, and we fear being kicked out of our "tribes" or fear losing our status within those tribes. Also, because it's terrifying. You think you know who you are, and then you realise you don't really have a clue... and the truth actually is that you are SO much more! WHO YOU ARE is ever evolving and ever changing, and the mind likes the comfort of familiarity and certainty. Your mind spends your life carefully constructing your self-identity; an identity which it believes will give you what you need to belong and to feel safe. Naturally, to detach from self-identity and to just BE is the most difficult thing we can do. Though this road has been my most challenging journey yet, being true to myself always eventually overpowers my fears, and my pride. My will to overcome the restraints of personality, the perception of others, and societal norms if needed to answer my Soul's call, will always trump my ego (eventually). I'm acutely aware there are people looking in on my social-media-curated-life and thinking "oh wow, what's Jess up to, she seems to be making some very different choices." I'm acutely aware people see posts of mine and form assumptions about what I must believe and what that must mean about me. And being this aware of it used to be debilitating... which showed me just how attached I was to being respected, looked up to, or even admired, and how my mind never wanted to do anything to lose that. So, in to that lesson I nose-dived. Apparently I like soul wrenching things 2020 has taught me this about AUTHENTICITY * Other people's perception of me will be formed by the state of THEIR own internal world, and therefore I truly can not control it * It's not my responsibility to live up to anyone's expectations of me, it is my responsibility to be true to me * I am not in subjugation to anyones projections of me; who they want me to be, what they'd prefer me to do, or how they'd like me to act should never influence my choices * I’m not accountable for the emotions of anyone else, ever. I am free to act, and how people respond to my actions is completely on them * This has also been my lesson on the flip side - my reaction to the choices, words, thoughts of others is completely on me * When what someone has done or said upsets me I always ask myself this, What has that triggered in you? What does that show you about you? * It is not my role to behave in a way that makes others feel more comfortable within themselves * When we dishonour ourselves in an attempt to make others feel a certain way, we lose ourselves, and we take away their opportunity to find their own learnings within their triggered state * Accepting myself is the only acceptance that matters * I am lighthearted, bubbly, and full of sarcasm and humour. At the same time I have a fiery intensity on any topic I'm passionate about * In order to REMEMBER who I am, I must FORGET all my conditioning, societal constructs, limitations, attachments to "identity"... for my Spirit is not limited in anyway * I have come to trust my Spirit on a level I've never truly tapped in to before, and am learning when to ignore the view of the mind My work this year has been to emotionally detach from how others perceive me. I’ve always known the importance of that on an intellectual level, but never on a level which changed my being... until now. There’s much more work to be done, but the reward has been soul liberation. The World would have me believe this is all very selfish. To think about our well-being before others is viewed as a very poor trait. Yet take a look at the word SELF LESS... to LOSE yourself for others... and then we make this one of the highest virtues?! We've grossly misunderstood. But that's a topic for another day. 2021. I’m as wide-eyed and curious as ever to see what 2021 has in store for me. I know it won't be boring... it never is. And I know in my heart these lessons about true Authenticity have been laying the foundation for what's to come next. There is no more courageous act than following your spirit.

22.01.2022 In this progressive time of personal development, accountability, wokeness I recognise and coach a lot of people who refuse to play the victim. Which is great! Except for one thing... there can be no true healing without acknowledgement.... You do NOT have to PLAY the victim, but in order to actually heal your emotional wounds you MUST first acknowledge you WERE a victim to someone or something. You must acknowledge your suffering and not invalidate it by comparing to others you may perceive to have it worse. If you invalidate your pain you can’t heal from your pain. While you can take pride in your strength to overcome circumstances, or while you can accept your soul may have attracted those circumstances to help you grow and evolve... you still can’t skip the step of acknowledging and FEELING the pain you experienced. Too many people are wanting to bypass this step to prove they’re not a victim. Myself included at times. But it is not helping you. Instead it will be stored in your emotional body ready to be activated in any similar situation that triggers it. Acknowledgment is an integral step for any healing

22.01.2022 After a period of low energy, restless nights and seriously low motivation I’ve been more productive this week than the past month! And you know what? That’s totally OKAY. Sometimes the answer is NOT to push and force yourself in to doing more. How does that approach usually work out for you anyway?... Sometimes the answer is to STOP and rejuvenate; to process things you might not be aware are in need of processing. I wish we trusted our bodies more. Intuition - that’s your spirit talking. Tiredness - that’s your body talking. Sickness - that’s you not listening when your body was talking. We are Mind, Body AND Spirit. We are NOT just the mind. And yet, how many of us are almost solely governed by the mind? I used to think being strong minded was a good thing. Well, I’ve learnt (okay, learning) some great lessons contrary to that belief. Stop trying to balance on a one legged stool Stop only listening to what the mind is saying...you should do more, be more, work harder or you don’t deserve to relax you haven’t done enough or don’t take a day off work, what will your boss think?. Hear this... nothing is more important for productivity than rest and rejuvenation. Start tuning in to the other parts of YOU

21.01.2022 Let’s talk about FAILURE Too many people are afraid of it, many people are paralysed by the thought of it, and others become depressed because of it... yep, failure is a big deal! But here’s the thing with failure... it is ONLY ever a PERCEPTION... A person, a situation, an event, or circumstance is only a failure if you LABEL it a failure To someone else they might perceive the same scenario as a lesson, a blessing or a re-direction Can you see? Failure can’t exist in your experience unless you decide it does! How amazing is that to understand?! How much more confident could you feel pursuing goals and dreams KNOWING you can NEVER fail unless you choose to label it so?

20.01.2022 You are NOT your beliefs, your ideas or your thoughts. You’re not your job, your life’s work, your hobbies. You’re not a role like parent, spouse, lover, sibling, friend, child. You’re not a title like doctor, cleaner, lawyer, administrator, criminal, model citizen. You’re not successful, poor, wealthy, angry, happy.... Actually, everything you’ve constructed to be your identity is NOT you. It’s the egoic mind. So who the hell are you then? YOU are the one who EXPERIENCES all of it. Not everyone likes this concept. People who resist it are usually people who’ve worked really hard to become those things or create a certain identity for themselves. But the truth is, you are SO much more than any of it! Your essence is whole, complete, perfect, loveable, limitless and free. Everything else is a construct of the mind. How has this realisation helped me? Well for one thing, I no longer feel I need to DO anything to be worthy. Look beyond what you’re currently experiencing to see who you really are. #divinebeing #spiritualawakening #iamweare #lookwithin #remembering

18.01.2022 CLIENT LOVE "I came to Jess kicking and screaming I was coerced by a friend that I had coerced a few years ago, so I didn’t have a choice. I have bipolar disorder type 2, with atypical anxiety and depression which ultimately culminated in a breakdown. After what I can only describe as the most terrible experience of my life, my focus was solely on the medication I needed to get myself stabilised. I lost faith in and rejected anything and everything associated with self ...help after a lifetime of soul searching and learning. Whilst I am now the happiest I have ever been in my life, I know that my medication is only masking the anxiety and depression going on behind the scenes. The anxiety in particular was having a significant impact on some aspects of my work, and my mountain bike riding. I mentioned it to my friend, and he recommended Jess. I figured if Jess could help him then she could definitely help me, so I called her. I felt an immediate connection with her, and I could tell from the outset that she is extremely knowledgeable about how we work psychologically. I told her about two things I wanted to address, and we set about understanding what was behind these things and how to resolve them. After only a few sessions with Jess, these things no longer cause me grief. I no longer personalise the ups and downs with work, and my confidence on my bike is restored and I am once again having fun on it. I really didn’t expect such an amazing outcome. I had tried everything before finding Jess hypnotherapy, psychology sessions, confronting the fear head on and nothing else worked." - Preferred to remain anonymous Some of my clients own large businesses and prefer to remain anonymous for reputation. I'm so grateful for their beautiful testimonials. #ClientFeedback #clientlove

16.01.2022 Absolutely yes. This is one hell of a lesson I’ve been learning (at my own divine pace) over the last few years....

14.01.2022 Over time, as you have interacted with one another, you have arrived at collective preferences about how life should be lived; and while you have come nowhere close to an agreement about what the appropriate way to live is, still, on the myriad of subjects that you are experiencing, you continue to try to convince others to accept the preferences that you most prefer We’ve gotta learn to love the contrast (differences) that exists between us. We need to remember contrast is... the basis of how we experience anything at all. Contrast is the foundation of growth. Without comparative experiences you’d never be able to come to know who you are or who you want to be. Imagine the PEACE you’d feel if you stopped the need to change people’s preferences, have them agree with your opinion, or judge their decisions. Imagine the APPRECIATION you‘d feel if you accepted everyone’s individual journey while thanking them for the contrast they’ve provided for your own. Imagine the RELIEF you’d feel if you allowed people to choose their own experience without fearing it would affect your experience. Imagine the LOVE you‘d feel if you did the internal work that allowed you to release the restrictions, conditions, expectations you have on others in the hope that controlling another’s behaviour will make you happy. I’m not perfect at this, not by a long stretch! But, I consciously work at it and it ALWAYS enhances my capacity to feel those things. We are not here to control others, we are here to control our own thoughts, while experiencing the contrast and diversity of LIFE!

14.01.2022 'All aboard my Trump-Thought-Train' What wild times we're all experiencing! Covid, U.S elections, QAnon, no new blockbusters... rough 2020, rough! May this blog post (which was just too lengthy for Facebook) offer you another perspective in a time when people can only see their own. May it offer some peace to the frenzied mind and some reprieve to the troubled heart.

14.01.2022 The SWISH Show Episode #11 now live! Mindset, Communication and Optimising Team Performance with Jess Cameron. We’re changing it up today and are bringing you... an extremely raw podcast that will force you to shift your mindset for optimum performance - all BS aside. In this episode, Jess will reveal practical tips on how to communicate better with your partner, colleagues & friends, how to identify underperformance within your team, as well as how making gut choices could be the best thing to do. Jess Cameron is the founder of ‘Real Talk Coaching’, a renowned mindset and relationship coaching company based on the Gold Coast. After previously being employed as an organisations mindset and performance coach, Jess is known for fixing the performance issues that (quote frankly) no-one else could fix. Listen now: https://podcasts.apple.com//jess-cameron-int/id1523402596 #TheSWISHShow #ISRTraining #SWISH #SalesCoaching #ISR #JessCameron #Mindset #Coaching #Relationships

09.01.2022 CLIENT LOVE I just received the most touching testimonial from a client in Tasmania. What an honour it is to be trusted by this remarkable family, and a joy it is to work with them! .... "Jess is nothing short of incredible, a friend suggested her for my husband to talk to after the loss of our daughter, suddenly and tragically, he had been to psychologists and just found it too hard and not enriching. He started speaking to Jess weekly and his perspective changed, he coul...d mention Madison's name (which he didn't before), we then suggested to her twin sister to talk to Jess too, she has gone leaps and bounds. Now we have a son also talking to Jess. As a mother and a wife, this is truly money well spent, Jess is incredible and is helping our family through heartbreak in the most positive way. We couldn't recommend her anymore highly. If you are considering Real Talk Coaching, you absolute must do it, you will not be disappointed and it will change your life. We love Jess xoxo " - Preferred to remain anonymous

07.01.2022 Here’s a truth and it’s an important one! It is NOT your circumstances but your PERCEPTION of those circumstances that CREATE your experience. Go on and re-read that.... You simply cannot control all of your circumstances ( until you’ve mastered the #lawofattraction ) and you’ll drive yourself mad or depressed trying to do so. BUT, the most empowering thing is knowing you don’t even need to control your circumstances .... .... Why? Because ALL of your EXPERIENCES in this life are determined by how you choose to THINK about the circumstances. It’s not hard to find evidence of this truth. Ever wondered why many in third world countries who have so little seem happy? Or why some with so much abundance seem miserable? Ever wonder why people can go through a tragedy and still be optimistic and hopeful, while another can go through a similar tragedy and become bitter and resentful? Well, this is the answer. Everything you believe (or repeatedly think) you WILL meet (or create) in your life experience; whether it’s something you want or not. It’s how it works So, take your life back by deliberately choosing your thoughts. It’s not magic, but it will feel like it when you see the results. #manifest #livedeliberately #extremeownership #mindsetcoach #iamweare

07.01.2022 What would happen if you led with desire and passion rather than practicality or reason? I’m just being logical is FEAR disguised as practicality and sensibility. You might initially disagree with that statement. You might think - as I (a heavily logic orientated person) always thought - that logic is the best way NOT to succumb to your emotions....Continue reading

06.01.2022 Dealing with this 2020 lockdown sitch. Well, we’re certainly in unprecedented times huh?! Never (ever) before have the well and healthy been quarantined. What we don’t want as a result is the well starting to become unwell.... Your immune systems need you to be outdoors, soaking in vitamins touching things with bacteria on it; they need you NOT scrubbing your skin raw in fear of germs. Picking up bugs allows your immune system to strengthen to protect you from more (dangerous) opportunistic bugs. Your mental health needs human interaction, affection, and connection - or for some of you, SPACE () from those you’re cooped up with. Now don’t get riled up - I’m NOT suggesting ignoring lockdown rules, social distancing or washing your hands. I’m suggesting an alternative. There is one powerful thing you can do to strengthen your mental and physical health, without going anywhere.... FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT. Where focus goes, energy flows. If you’re focused on getting sick or even focused on NOT getting sick, your focus is still sickness - and doing so increases your chances of attracting sickness Instead, focus on WELLNESS. Wake up everyday and visualise yourself healthy, strong, fit and vibrant. Go to bed visualising how your sleep will restore your body. Instead of focusing on people losing jobs and loss of income - focus on the abundance of our earth and the resourcefulness of humans. The BEST most effective thing you can do right now for your health and for the health of others is to be very deliberate about your focus. Sure, you will have negative thoughts pop up and that’s okay, just remove your FOCUS from those thoughts as soon as possible. Avoid negative conversations about everything that’s going on. Change the subject slightly to the positives you see. Influence others to shift their focus onto what they want to see too. I now have a notebook where I write (daily if possible) all the things I want. For my health, my business, my clients, society, my relationship... everything. Just 15 mins a day of pure word spewing about what it is I want to experience really shifts the energy. #isolationcreation #isohacks #mindfulness

06.01.2022 When we go into a forest that has not been interfered with by man, our thinking mind will see only disorder and chaos all around us.... everywhere new life grows out of rotting and decaying matter. Only if we are still enough inside and the noise of thinking subsides can we become aware that there is a hidden harmony here, a sacredness, a higher order in which everything has its perfect place and could not be other than what it is and the way it is - Eckhart Tolle This qu...ote has come to mean everything to me. As someone who is proudly strong minded, a mindset coach, and is always in the mind analysing and planning... life has repeatedly (and forcibly) prompted me to learn this truth; That the limited, restricted mind cannot possibly comprehend the order and purpose that exists in everything that seems wrong, or chaotic, or unfair. It’s an important time in history to grasp this inner knowing. What might look disastrous or bad to you could actually be the unfolding of something glorious! Sometimes, you might just need to sit back and go along for the ride my friends. Lesson from an overthinker - you’re welcome

05.01.2022 NEW BLOG POST Yes, another one already! I’m sharing all my brain dumps with you lately... you’re welcome (or not) ... Systemic Change, are we really ready for it? Somehow, even straight after a 24hr stint with a violent tummy bug I’m still brave enough to dip my toe in to the riptide of controversial topics... wish me luck! Trigger Warning: content may contain some examples you don’t agree with. That’s okay. I encourage you to look past those to consider the underlying message. If not, continue scrolling. Shared with authenticity and love, Jess x

05.01.2022 Relationship Hack: JUST HAVE FUN! Some couples spend so much time tying to make their relationships work, or trying to stop their marriages from falling apart, or trying to win every little battle.... that the only result they end up with is HEAVINESS. Heavy hearts, heavy bodies, heavy tension, heavy conversations, heavy tempers. Laughing? Rare, if at all.... If even your jokes have become offensive or annoying - you’re in the heaviness. Heavy is not happy, trust me, I know. I’ve worked with couples that had less serious issues than they realised, but because everything felt so heavy the issues seemed insurmountable. Heaviness also kills desire. Sometimes you need to take the focus off working on the relationship and focus on building the FRIENDSHIP first. If your baseline isn’t friendship, then you’re trying to fix a roof while the walls have no foundation. No one can think straight when they’re constantly under pressure. No one can relax when every conversation is about something intense. No one can be happy in a relationship when every move is monitored with scrutiny. Once upon a time in your relationship you had fun together, and that’s probably why you stayed together. For the next week, try to avoid anything heavy and just have some light hearted fun! See what happens! #relationshiphacks #livelaughlove #consciouscouples #coaching #relationshipcoach

03.01.2022 The basis of life is FREEDOM, the result of life is EXPANSION, and the purpose of life is JOY - Jerry Hicks This truth I feel in every part of me! But how do most of us actually live? ... Something more along the lines of this... the basis of life is obligation, the result of life is mediocrity, and the purpose of life is to get through it as positive as you can. To me, that way of living is not even an option. I don’t subscribe to it, I don’t resonate with it, I don’t buy it. We are creators of our own experience. We somehow have forgotten that. Every moment of every day we are meant to decide what we want to experience, and go out and do it with joy. Too many of us believe we have no power to control anything in our lives, so we just wake up and roll with the punches, and eventually we die. Wow, what bliss huh. It’s time to start living my friends, in the way we were meant to. Drop a if you’re feeling this truth too.

01.01.2022 Thank you @bekkielou

01.01.2022 We’re talking about grief. We’re talking about how a tragic life-blow can rupture your soul enough that all the unfelt pain of your past can flood through. We’re talking about how bitter suffering can bring you home to yourself. Take a listen.