Monique Harding in Burleigh Heads, Queensland | Counsellor

Monique Harding

Locality: Burleigh Heads, Queensland

Phone: +61 402 504 361

Address: 3/79 West Burleigh Road 4220 Burleigh Heads, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.ritualcounselling.com

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25.01.2022 This idea has been coming up lots in sessions this week. Whether it be big work decisions, leaving or staying in relationships, boundary work or embracing vulnerability and following that internal urge or deep knowing; it seems to keep coming back to the exploration of resistance. What is the resistance? That pull that directs you in the other direction? That whispers (or sometimes screams) no when youre on the verge of taking action? Where does it come from? What is its ...role? The reality for most of us is that our big decisions; the ones with lots of value, importance and emotion are unlikely to ever feel totally positive. Because through growth there is always death and loss. And often those aspects that we are letting go of as we move forward are left unacknowledged. The answer may not be in focusing on the future destination and your hesitations surrounding that. There may be tremendous value in exploring what you are struggling with letting go of in the past. Once you are able to find this integrated both/and stance, where you are keeping both the growth and the loss in mind, you may find yourself sitting a little easier with the experience of both joy and grief simultaneously. - Monique Harding #relationships#healingrelationshps#boundaries#boundarywork#relationshiptherapist#relationshipcoach#familytherapist#familytherapy#marriagecounselling#couplescounselling#couplestherapy#growth#growthmindset#goals#biggoals#psychology#mindset#goldcoastliving#burleighbusiness#relationshiptips#relationshiptips101#consciousrelationships#emotionalhealth#mentalhealth#anxiety#anxietytips

25.01.2022 The telehealth transition . SWIPE for tips. If you are one of my many clients transitioning across to this new platform, heres a few tips to soften the experience for you. Lets do it gently and kindly. We are all adapting to so much right now. Go easy on yourself and your expectations. This new way of relating may take a little time to feel natural and normal. - Monique Harding... #telehealthtips #telehalthtips#telehealthgoldcoast#telehealthpsychologicalsupport#telehealthcounselling#teletherapy#onlinecounselling#onlinetherapy#mentalhealthgoldcoast#mentalwellbeing#gcgib#businesschicks#stayathomegc#flattenthecurve#goldcoastisolation#isolife#itaintweaktospeak#goldcoastliving#healthygc @ Gold Coast, Queensland See more

24.01.2022 Each for Equal #IWD2020 I always feel so emotional on this day. I feel so fortunate for the amazing women I am surrounded by who continually inspire and uplift me. I also feel a great responsibility for raising the next generation of women with strength, resilience and love. Im reminded today of the difference that each individual can make in the ongoing fight for gender equality. That gender inequality is not a womens issue but a social one and we can all do our bit to r...aise awareness and celebrate each other. Who are you celebrating today? Who is a woman in your life that has supported you in chasing your dreams? How could you let her know today how much she has gifted to your life? - Monique Harding #womensupportingwomen#raisinggirls#womeninbusiness#celebratingwomen#genderequality

23.01.2022 Let’s normalise these conversations! We all have mental health just like we all have physical health. For me, taking care of my mental health looks like;... Daily movement Intentional mindful pauses/space to be with my thoughts and feelings and explore their physiological charge. Nourishing food Good quality sleep - I’ve recently been using sleep meditations on insight timer and LOVE them! Let’s talk about this! How do you nurture your mental wellbeing?

22.01.2022 If you have been told your whole life that you are X you will reflect what it means to be that in your behaviour. Our beliefs shape everything - our thoughts, our feelings and our actions. These descriptors start in our early years. We each take on different roles in our family of origin and we tend to repeat these roles in our later relationships. We are driven to make sense of ourselves within relationship and stay consistent with the definition that is consistently reinfor...ced. Sometimes the conditioning is outward and visible. You may be commonly spoken about in front of others as these traits. Sometimes it is more subtle and reinforced through others actions and behaviour. Ask yourself; What story are you repeating? Is this a story that you chose for yourself or that you inherited? What behaviours do you engage in to stay consistent with this identity? How is that playing out in your life? Is it serving you? Does it bring you joy? Does it feel authentic? If not, it may be time to make a different choice; to lean into these stories and expand your self perspective. A shift in your inner world will ultimately lead to transformation in your experience of the outer world. - Monique Harding #personaldevelopment#selfdevelopment#personalgrowth#selfgrowth#therapy#personalcoaching#identity#narrativetherapy#conditioning#familytherapist#relationshiptherapist#inspire#motivation#goldcoast#goldcoasttherapy#psychology#goldcoastpsychology#mentalhealth#mentalwellness#mentalfitness#2020goals#lmbdw#beliefs#stories#investinyourself#goldcoastgirlsentrepreneur#gcgib

22.01.2022 Which ones are you reaching for at present? Personally Ive been enjoying having a bit more routine to my days and ticking a few from this list. Whats that look like? On non work days - Meditation / tapping / breathing Some movement in nature with the pram... Cooking Video calls with loved ones Art and craft Games (my inner grade 12 drama student has come alive) Toddler dance or kids yoga - Monique Harding - @themindgeek #telehealth#counselling#psychology#onlinetherapy#mentalwellness#homeschooling#isolife#covid_19#selfisolation#silverlinings See more

20.01.2022 Happy Mothers Day to every Mama in every sense of the word. Thank you .

20.01.2022 Amazing morning so far at the higher love mini retreat. So excited to welcome another group of incredible women to this space for round 2! #retreat#higherlove#selflove#empowerment#makepeacewithyourpast#goldcoastretreats#goldcoastworkshops#psychology#familytherapy#familytherapist

18.01.2022 Thank you medicare As of Monday 6th April, I will be offering a reduced fee for Telehealth sessions for those with an eligible mental health care plan. This makes seeking counselling and psychological support more affordable than ever. It also removes the location barrier for those who live not so local to my practice on the Gold Coast.... Please reach out for more information via DM or my website www.ritualcounselling.com. - Monique Harding #telehealth#psychologicalsupportgoldcoast#counsellinggoldcoast#anxietytips#anxietytreatment#psychotherapygoldcoast#gcgib#businesschicks#onlinecounselling#mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#resilience#goldcoasttherapy#therapy#itaintweaktospeak#community#burleighbusiness#goldcoastbusiness#supportlocalgoldcoast

18.01.2022 Im hitting pause on posting my own content until June 7th and joining the #amplifymelanatedvoices challenge created by @blackandembodied and @jessicawilson.msrd. I am acutely aware of the privileged position I am in. Right now we need to hear and learn from the experiences of the BIPOC community and not another privileged white woman. I see you. I hear you. I mourn with you and I will fight for you.... #istandwithyou - @eyesoflovephotography

17.01.2022 Not everything given to you is necessarily yours. What are you holding on to that could be further explored? ... #mentalhealth#psychologicalwellness#mentalwellness#healing#emotionalintelligence#coronavirus#socialdistancing#traumatherapy#selfcare#selfacceptance#selflove#isolife#covid19#quarantinelife#therapist#mindfulness#trauma#goldcoastbusiness#fempreneur#coping#emotionalwellness#traumahealing#traumasurvivor#mentalhealthsupport#anxietysupport#selfawareness See more

16.01.2022 Downplaying your own struggles is not helping anyone. Im going to let you in on a little secret here - Empathy; you know that thing that allows you to feel for others? Its not a finite resource. It is isnt some sacred emotion that we need to hold close for fear of it running out. You showing kindness to yourself and acknowledging your own struggle does not mean that you are taking away empathy for those who appear to have it worse. When we resist our own emotional experien...ce through comparing our suffering. All it does is breeds shame. Which paradoxically leads to more suffering. Empathy actually works in the opposite way. The more we practice empathy, the more we are able to access it. This means that the more you acknowledge your own feelings with kindness and compassion, the more empathy you will have for others. And when we have empathy for others; we spread calm, kindness and love. What is one thing that you can do to show yourself some more kindness? - Monique Harding #mentalhealth#psychologicalwellness#mentalwellness#healing#emotionalintelligence#coronavirus#socialdistancing#yourfeelingsmatter#selfcare#selfacceptance#selflove#isolife#covid19#quarantinelife#therapist#mindfulness#empathy#goldcoastbusiness#fempreneur

16.01.2022 These times are an invitation for you to become much more aware of your own thoughts. To create awareness of their content and the impact that they are having on your wellbeing. Ask yourself, what is taking up mental space for me today? Is it the media? Worries about others? Playing out potential future realities? Heres some practical tips;... Simplify; rest, play, read, practice gratitude Focus on what is within your control; journalling this can help Acknowledge whats coming up for you; phrases like heres fear or Im noticing anxiety Come back into your body; Use your breath, do some gentle stretches, go outside and mindfully walk on the grass Reframe change as possibility Practice the above through creating new rituals; For example, I had a birthday dinner cancelled this coming weekend with the host suggesting a way we could all connect virtually through a silly selfie challenge instead Choose connection; make that phone call, organise a tea date over FaceTime, transition your dinner out to a virtual platform Whilst we navigate these uncertain times, a bunch of amazing organisations have released products to support your mental wellbeing for FREE. These range from mindfulness practices and breath work to meditation and exercise programs. I will collate and share what I am aware of in a post later this evening. How are you taking care of your wellbeing through this uncertainty? Have you got a strategy to share? Please do so below! - Monique Harding #anxietyrelieftips#anxietyrelief#worry#systemicanxiety#socialdistancing#mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#mentalhealth#worrytips#stressrelief#psychology#psychologicalsupport#counselling#goldcoast#goldcoastbusiness#onlinecounselling#stresssupport

15.01.2022 With extra pressures on us at the moment there will be times that we say and do things from a place of frustration or worry. The most important step is the repa...ir in the relationship that happens afterwards. Repair is where the relationship strengthens and thrives. Especially for parents, start afresh today, and let go of yesterday. Youve got this #selfcompassion #repairtherelationship #talk #hug #saysorry #moveforward #love #startfresh #forgiveness

15.01.2022 So often we have been conditioned to abandon our true selves in order to remain connected with another. As human beings, at our core, we are wired for connection; to belong to something greater and bigger than ourselves. This plays out in our relationships, our family of origins and even our work systems. We give up parts of ourselves in order to be accepted by another. Perhaps you have been conditioned to stay quiet about your own needs, to do things for others, to not rock... the boat, to play the nice kid etc. This achieves the core need to belong.. Until it doesnt and we emerge with anxiety, sadness, grief and a longing for something more; something, truer and deeper. The crunch? True love will never ask you to give up core parts of yourself to please. Ask yourself; What am I sacrificing to remain connected to another/others? In my family of origin, who did I have to be to be shown love? What was I implicitly asked to tone down or filter to please? What did it feel like to filter yourself in this way? When was I shown the most love growing up? What was I doing? What did it feel like to filter yourself in this way? What part of yourself is hardest to expose to others? What would it be like to show up in this way, exposed to your intimate others? - Monique Harding #selfreflection#relationalawareness#innerwork#reflection#relationships#observeyourself#familyoforigin#familytherapy#relationshiptherapy#insight#boundaries#love#couplegoals#socialwork#psychology#goldcoast#GCGIB#lmbdw#mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#mentalhealth#counselling#therapy

15.01.2022 Have you read Victor Frankls Mans search for meaning? Its been a comforting re-read for me over the last week. So many gems of wisdom to guide us through these times. Like many, life for me at the moment feels uncertain and foreign. Im taking each day as it comes and truly learning what it means to live in the moment. I was reminded by Frankl about the incredible power within that we all hold. That is, the power that exists in how we respond; the power in our choices;... our reactions and our thoughts. How are you choosing to respond to this crisis? As today draws to an end, I am reflecting on this quote and feeling energised to be back in the clinic tomorrow working with clients. Doing what I love most; providing psychological support. Perhaps now, more than ever, there is a need for this. Most of us could do with a bit of added psychological flexibility right now. - Monique Harding #onlinecounselling#telehealth#covid_19#wereinthistogether#mentalwellbeing#anxiety#slowthespread#purposedrivenliving#psychology#psychologicalsupport#counsellinggoldcoast#therapygoldcoast#connection#mentalhealth#victorfrankl#ritualcounselling#familytherapist#covidwellbeing#psychologicalflexibility

15.01.2022 Are you stuck in your symptoms? Is your time consumed by focusing on how anxious you are? How hard it is to get up in the mornings? How low your mood is? These kind of thought patterns leave us feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. We then start to look towards loved ones or even experts to fix us. As time goes on, patterns in our relationships become more deeply embedded. One person becomes the patient and the other the carer. It leaves us stuck. In my clinical practice, I wor...k with people to shift their focus from symptom to the self. What is it within you that needs nourishing? What inner resources do you have that we could tap into that could assist? What would be one small step you could take towards your goal? What would be something that others would notice about you that told them things were shifting for you? This subtle shift opens up new possibilities for people and their relationships. It allows one person to change the entire dance of a family by simply changing themselves. It develops a deeper knowing of oneself, of ones past and takes a step towards acceptance of sensitivities. If this resonates for you. Ask yourself this - what in my life can I do each day to take active responsibility for myself? This might be as simple as making the bed or ensuring you drink 8 cups of water. The speed of action doesnt matter as much as the direction that you are headed. - Monique Harding #selfimprovement#selflove#psychology#familytherapy#mentalhealth#mindfulness#mindfulrelationships#selfhealing#psychotherapy#counselling#familytherapy#goldcoastpsychology#goldcoastcounselling#goldcoasttherapy#selfreflection#reflection#wellness#mentalwellbeing#wellbeing#personalgrowth#lmbdw#gcgiv#goldcoastwellness#holisticcounselling#moniquehardingtherapy#anxietymanagement#anxietytreatment#mentalillnessrecovery

14.01.2022 Happy Friday Beautiful People! Love this little check in from @heyamberrae. Mindful moments really can be created very simply and accessibly. Give yourself permission to tune in . - Monique ... #mindfulliving#mindfulness#reflection#selfreflection#selfawareness#selfacceptance#trust#mentalwellbeing#mentalhealth#goldcoasthealth#counselling#therapy#goldcoastpsychology#goldcoasttherapy

14.01.2022 I am fully equipped to offer Online Therapy Sessions . In fact, I have been working in this way with a number of clients for many years. Sessions are offered via either video or phone conferencing with strict confidentiality protocols in place. If you are currently unable to attend the practice in person due to illness, mandatory isolation laws or increased anxiety please get in contact.... With everything going on, you may also prefer online sessions due to the decreased travel time and convenience. Some clients who have transitioned to this platform have found the familiarity of their own environment very comforting (even if at times, therapy is conducted in the car - whilst parked of course!). - Monique Harding - - - #onlinetherapy#modernmentalhealth#onlinementalhealth#onlinetherapy#telephonecounselling#psychologicalsupport#psychologygoldcoast#counsellibggoldcoast#anxietysupport#mentalhealthgoldcoast#covid_19#mentalwellbeing#covid19#support#stayconnected#itaintweaktospeak

14.01.2022 Feelings are not mutually exclusive . We can experience gratitude, joy, grief, exhaustion and sadness all at once. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. Name it. Breathe into it. Feel the physical sensation.... Processing emotions is both the easiest and one of the most challenging things to learn and practice. Check out my post yesterday for the simplified four step process. A more detailed blog post coming soon. A qualified therapist is another good place to start if you are needing some emotional support or tools to assist with this. With medicare making Telehealth so affordable at present - it might be the perfect time to seek help. - Monique Harding #covidfeelings#isofeelings#emotionalprocessing#feelings#emotionsmatter#therapist#goldcoasttherapist#telehealth#mentalwellness#mentalwellbeing#itaintweaktospeak#gcgib#lmbdw#businesschicks#psychology#bothand#expressyourself

13.01.2022 Sunday morning breathing

13.01.2022 SELF LOVE = Acknowledge your self hate. You can take all the long walks, baths, meditation courses around but until you embrace the shadow; those deeper; darker more raw parts of you, true self love is unattainable. Self love requires us to examine those darker parts. Those parts that we hide away, that we ignore, that we reject. They're the ones that bring up discomfort and frustration, deep sadness and shame.... Bring them back into the light, into awareness. Examine, be curious, reflect, question and FEEL. How can you make room for these parts? How can you show them compassion and kindness? Monique Harding #selfreflection#selflove#selfhate#healing#selfcompassion#confidence#identity#selfesteem#therapy#mindfulness#selflovepractice#mindfulnesspractice#minfulnesstips#psychology#awareness#goldcoast#gcgib#therapygoldcoast#burleighbusiness#fempreneur#lmbdw#goldcoastcounselling#selfawareness#familytherapist#relationships#innerwork See more

13.01.2022 You dont need to be a psychology professional to make a difference in your loved ones mental well-being. Three simple words . So simple, yet, so powerful. #ruokday2020 #ruok

12.01.2022 Do you find your attempts to talk about the hard stuff are often met with defensiveness? Could there be something deeper fuelling that? Meet defensiveness with compassion. Check for criticism and talk about your own experience and feelings. Notice it, name it, make room for it to be explored. If you are the one who is quick to become defensive; Reflect on what that might be about. How can you create space for the emotional expression of others? Is there some deeper relational... wounds that are making an appearance in your current relationship that need healing? Monique Harding #relationshipgoals#relationshipquotes#relationships#couplegoals#selfwork#healing#selfwork#mentalwellness#therapy#goldcoasttherapist#paychology#psychologicalwellness#gcgib#fempreneur#onlinecounselling See more

11.01.2022 Little Friday reminder - @haleydrewthis ... #emotions#emotionsmatter#emotionalwellness#anxiety#mentalwellness#mentalhealthmatters#goldcoastpsycholotherapy See more

10.01.2022 We live in a culture that has completely romanticised love. Its programmed into us from such an early age. Hollywood blockbusters, advertising and bestselling books are so often centred around the dramatic love story. We grow up dreaming of finding the one. This programming leaves us feeling that if our relationship is challenging; if it confronts us; if it makes us uncomfortable, it isnt meant to be. In reality. Amazing relationships dont just happen to lucky people.... Amazing relationships are created. They take nurturing, they take resources, attention and investment in order to grow. And when you make your choice and you commit there will inevitably be challenges and speed bumps for you to navigate along the way. This is our humanness; we change and evolve as we experience new things. This means that in our intimate relationships, we need to check the pulse every so often in order to stay deeply connected. Spend some time reflecting on your own relational awareness. How have you observed love and connection in your life? How was this shown between your parents? What messages have you absorbed from media? How do you participate in your most intimate relationships now? What do you do that fosters open communication? What shuts it down? When do you feel most fulfilled in relationship? How do you show others love? - Monique Harding #love#relationships#healthyrelationships#relationalawareness#relationalintelligence#communication#couplestherapy#relationshiptherapy#relationshippatterns#relationshipawareness#happyrelationships#relationshipgoals#selfwork#selfgrowth#selfreflection#selflove#boundaries#relationshipboundaries#relationshipschool#relationships101#gcgib#lmbdw#reflectivequestions#familytherapist

10.01.2022 The language that we use when talking about our feelings has a direct effect on how we experience them. Simply adding the when we are referring to experiences such as anxiety or depression reminds our mind that the feeling is not all of us. It transforms the conversation from Im so anxious to the anxiety has a lot of power at present. Externalisation allows us to think more clearly and objectively about emotionally fuelled matters. The addition of for now reminds us ...that all emotions are temporary and promotes progression through the feeling. #mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#ACT#acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy#psychology#paychologicalflexibility#mindfulness#mindfulliving#presence#consciousliving#goldcoasttherapy#goldcoasthealing#onlinecpunselling#onlinetherapy#burleighheads#mentalhealthgoldcoast - @swatercolour See more

09.01.2022 The Telehealth transition . SWIPE for tips. If you are one of my many clients transitioning across to this new platform, heres a few tips to soften the experience for you. Lets do it gently and kindly. We are all adapting to so much right now. Go easy on yourself and your expectations. This new way of relating may take a little time to feel natural and normal. - Monique Harding... #telehealth#telehealthtips#teleahealthgoldcoast#telehealthpsychologicalsupport#telehealthcounselling#telehealththerapy#gcgib#lmbdw#businesschicks#stayathomegoldcoast#flattenthecurve#goldcoastisolation#isolife#isogoldcoast#itaintweaktospeak @ Burleigh Heads, Queensland See more

08.01.2022 FAMILY VALUES Are you clear on your individual values? What about those that exist within your intimate relationships and family? What are some of the principals that guide your behaviour? How do you know what is acceptable and what is not? Hubby and I sat down late last year to put together a family manifesto. Were deep in the trenches of parenting with young children and it can sometimes feel like we get lost in the busyness of life. We wanted something visible in our ...home that spoke to what we truly stand for, what we value and how we want to raise our kids. We completed the exercise individually, came together and negotiated the final piece. This will be something we plan to revisit as the kids get older and gain their input into as well. For now, its prettyd up in beautiful font and framed as a centrepiece for our home. This photo reflects one of my personal favs = We believe there is little in the world that a dip in the ocean cant fix. Our others are; We can get through anything as long as we have each other. We are grateful for what we have and never take it for granted. We are inclusive. We support each others dreams. We laugh a lot. We dont sweat the small stuff. We find joy even when its difficult. We engage questions and are OK if the answers remain unknown. We celebrate our efforts just as much as our success. We practice self-compassion. We are kind to ourselves and others. Swipe to see it in print form. - Monique Harding - @eyesoflovephotography #healthyfamilies #happyrelationships #goldcoastmums #familyvalues #positiveparenting @ Palm Beach, Gold Coast

06.01.2022 Every problem was once a solution. You know those niggly habits? The stuck behaviours that you just cant seem to shift? The patterns that you seem to repeat over and over again despite your insight? Well, they arent shifting for a reason - you are likely gaining something from it. In some way they are also functional. They are both a problem and a solution. Exploring this thinking always evokes such interesting responses in the therapy room. Most people struggle to see how ...something that frustrates them so much could also be purposeful. Say for example, you want to quit drinking. You hate that you crave a drink every day and the dependency that has developed. However, that 5pm vino also acts as your primary stress relief and has embedded itself as a ritual marking the transition from work to home life. You can apply similar thinking to relationships too. Relationships tend to arrange themselves around these kind of behaviours. Intimate relationships can also often be where we get a lot of our deeper needs met. Often changing the behaviour will also mean a change in the relationship dynamic (which can also be associated with fear of not knowing if it will be for better or worse). Figuring out the deeper need that is being filled through the behaviour may help you explore alternative ways to fulfil it. Think of a behaviour, habit or pattern that bothers you and you would like to change. Ask yourself this. #selfreflection#mentalwellness#mentalwellbeing#psychologicalwellness#psychologicalhealth#healing#emotionalintelligence#emotionalgrowth#growthmindset#investinyourself#quarantinelife#isolife#covid19#mindfulness#selfawareness#selfwork#behaviourchange#counselling#therapy

06.01.2022 When I first learnt this - it sounded a lot more self-help than scientific to me So, is it really true that our emotional experiences only last 90 seconds? - Basically, feelings themselves are temporary, they come and go like waves. It is when we attach to them that they like to stick around and try to weave their way into our self-identity. What happens neurochemically is; the emotional trigger hits and there is a 90-second window where you either work your way to a more... aroused state or regulate to a calmer state. If you are able to feel your way through the emotional experience, stay regulated you can then use your higher thinking brain centres to make a rational thought. - Heres an experiment. This week, try and take a small step towards becoming more observant of your own inner world. You could try any one of the following; Start your morning with a simple mindfulness exercise. Take 5 deep breaths, feel the inhale through your nose, your chest rising and falling, hear the noise it makes in your body, feel your feet grounded on the floor. When feeling nervous or stress increasing; tune into your body. Where are you feeling it? Tightness in your chest? Churning in your tummy? Tingling in your legs? Soothe yourself through your body. Allow the feeling to come and go. Name the feeling and thank your mind for it. Let it flow. Take some breaths, rub your arms, shrug your shoulders with an inhale and collapse into the exhale breath (ensuring that the exhale is longer than the inhale 3 in, 5 out etc). Stay alert during the emotional experience. Tune into all the body sensations. Remind yourself that this will pass. This is just 90 seconds. Breathe. Be kind to yourself in this process. If this is a new practice, it takes time. But like any skill, you can increase confidence and competency with practice. Starting out is rarely easy. Come up with an encouraging mantra for yourself. You could try; How human of me, I am constantly learning or I forgive myself and let go of perfection. - These simple exercises can help you develop mental resilience to deal with challenging situations, thoughts and feelings in the future. - - Monique Harding

05.01.2022 We project onto others the things within ourselves that have been suppressed by shame and guilt. Those parts of ourselves that are a little harder to connect with because they have sat in the shadow for so long. See, when we are feeling disconnected and distant in our intimate relationships we are often disconnected within ourselves. Ask yourself;... What are you yearning for in your relationship? How do you emulate these qualities within your own life? What is the history of these things? What stories do they connect with? Are they familiar? What emotion do these qualities bring? How can you share these new learnings with your partner to reframe the disconnect? What is one thing you can do to take action towards connecting back in with yourself? #relationshiptips#relationshipinsight#relationshiptherapy#couplestherapist#marriagecounselling#couplegoals#relationshipgoals#goldcoast#GCGIB#selflove#selfreflection#emotionalawareness#relationalawareness#selfimprovement#growthmindset#loveyourself#goldcoastfamilytherapy#goldcoastcouplestherapist#counsellinggoldcoast#healing

05.01.2022 The full human experience = a full range of emotions. Sadness, joy, anger, excitement, fear, love.... they all belong here. #emotions#mentalwellness#mentalwellbeing#mentalhealthmatters#act#acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy#allthefeels#itsokaytonotbeokay#normalisementalhealth#itaintweaktospeak#onlinetherapist#therapyiscool#goldcoastpsychology#healing

05.01.2022 You don’t need to be a psychology professional to make a difference in your loved ones mental well-being. Three simple words . So simple, yet, so powerful. #ruokday2020 #ruok

05.01.2022 Your past will constrain you until you are able to acknowledge it, process it and integrate it. Lets be real here, those collaborative, conscious uncoupling relationships endings are pretty rare. This means that the peace in the ending will often need to come from within rather than sought from another. Within ourselves we are called to reflect, acknowledge and forgive both those things that hurt us and those that we contributed to. Peace demands honest and brave appraisal.... See, because when the ending isnt so peaceful, the pain gets carried forward. It is stored deep within ourselves, far away from conscious thought. As it suppresses more, it gains power over us. It shows up at the most unlikely times. It attaches to new relationships and we project our wounding onto others. This is true for both romantic and relationships with friends and families. When tension rises and things get tough, the invitation can be to cut-off from another. While it may provide some necessary immediate reprieve, the ghost of past hurt remains. You can choose to heal and move forward. Peace is there for you to claim. Take a step towards it. - Monique Harding #relationshiptips#breakups#consciousuncoupling#breakuptips#relationshiphelp#marriagehelp#lovetips#relationshiprules#goldcoastcounselling#goldcoastcouples#goldcoastromance#singlelife#healing#familytherapy#relationshiptherapy#therapy#gcgib#lmbdw#relationshipcoaching#emotionalintelligence#emotionalhealth#growthmindset#inspire#fempreneur#womeninbusiness

04.01.2022 #internalwisdom#psychology#intuition#mindfulness#trustyourgut#selfawareness#relationships#relationshipcoach#couplestherapy#selfwork#selfhealing#love#gcgib#counselling#innerwork#mindfulliving

04.01.2022 Anxiety in relationships can show up in an increasing urge for others to align with our thinking, feelings and behaviour. You might notice yourself starting to seek extra reassurance or feeling emotionally fuelled when your friend, partner or family member has a different opinion to you. How can you shift your energy back inside the wheel today? What area are you most needing to work on at present? - Monique ... - @wholeheartedschoolcounseling #mindhacks#psychology#mindset#grateful#gratitude#happiness#thingicancontrol#GCGIB#mentalhealth#anxiety#anxietysupport#mentalwellbeing

04.01.2022 What beliefs do you hold around emotions? Is your goal to strive for more happiness and joy in life? Do you actively avoid sadness, anger and frustration and view them as negative. So many of us have been conditioned to see emotions as either positive or negative. The brain loves to categorise things and labelling can help us make sense of the world. What if - all emotions were permissible? What if - you really allowed yourself to just sit in the sadness? What if - you ...could express anger without judgement in your own space and time? Often what we are seeking so strongly is the very thing keeping us stuck. - @thepsychologymum #happinesstips#act#acceptance#psychology#emotions#growth#mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing#burleighpsychology#goldcoastpsychology#goldcoast#support#GCGIB#consciousness#minfulliving#mindfulness

03.01.2022 HIGHER LOVE workshop I am so excited to be facilitating at this new offering from @withloveashe alongside @iamkiralove and @staystrongmummy at The Grounds, Tallebudgera. Its going to be an incredible day that will take you on a journey through your past into creating an inspiring, values aligned future.... DM me or contact monique@ritualcounselling for more info as I have 5 spots for each workshop to giveaway . - Monique #goldcoastevents#goldcoastevent#freeworkshop#selfdiscovery#reflection#selflove#higherlove#thisisgoldcoast#psychologygoldcoast#mentalwellness#mentalwellbeing

02.01.2022 Ive been a little quiet on the gram lately. Currently soaking up more of this . Hubby and I had this little getaway planned for months and had really been looking forward to travelling north for a few nights. However, leading up to the holidays has been intense! With our littlest babe unwell, busy clinic days for me and him finishing off some post grad study - life has been FULL! Past Monique hasnt been particularly helpful either. She got waaaay too excited about some ...of the online psychotherapy training being offered during lockdown and I now have lots of mini tests and final modules to complete! Whoops This experience had me reflecting on how often I fail to project myself forward and think through how commitments like these will likely impact my future self (and in this case; my families). Its interesting because whilst I am a huge planner and love to be organised, I tend to focus more on immediate pressures and priorities than future ones. If I traced this pattern through history, I can see clearly that my spontaneous streak has been celebrated often. It has led to some pretty epic experiences for myself and those around me. Ive never really questioned this as it hasnt had the same negative story attached to it that so many other parts carry. Reflecting on this has been powerful. It got me thinking about the people I work with and just how multifaceted human behaviour is. Its so rare that we are open to deeply exploring parts of ourselves that from the outside appear more socially acceptable. Can you relate to this? Are there characteristics or parts that you can identify within yourself that are celebrated or seen so positively by outsiders that you fail to explore them more deeply? Could there be just as much wisdom, growth and healing in exploring those parts as the more negatively perceived shadow parts of ourselves? -M.H - @gathered.wildlings #familytime#reflection#holidays#rest#introspection#learning#goldcoastliving#healthyliving#healthylivinggc#thisisgoldcoast#growthmindset#alwayslearning#ongoingwork#psychotherapy#mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#shadowwork#jungianpsychology#familytherapist#couplestherapist#individualtherapy

01.01.2022 To those people who have had to change their holiday plans; those who have cancelled their weddings; those who wont be celebrating their milestone birthdays with their nearest and dearest; those who are feeling lonely at home; those navigating break ups; those who are feeling frustrated with their kids; those who just got engaged; expecting mothers; those who have just welcomed new life into the world. I see you. What you are feeling right now is valid. Do not compare your e...xperiences to others. What you are going through is your own experience; it is not less or more worthy than the emotional experience of others. You are free to express whatever you are feeling. It is healthy for you to do so. Please do not numb your fear, sadness, joy, ecstasy, worry, excitement or sorrow. Acknowledge it, lean into it and process it. #mentalwellbeing#mentalwellness#mentalhealth#selfcompassion#selfcompassionjourney#mentalhealthawareness#vulnerability#vulnerabilityisstrength#psychology#mindfulness#anxiety#anxietysupport#covid_19

01.01.2022 How do emotions show up for you? Notice it. Name it.... Feel it. AND breathe. - @lindsaybraman #emotionprocessing#emotionsensationwheel#mentalwellness#mentalhealth#mentalwellness#nameittotameit#psychology#lookafteryourself#burleighheads#girlsinbusiness#womeninbusiness#supportsmallbusiness#goldcoastbusiness#selflove#healing#therapy