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24.01.2022 He who throws dirt always loses ground." -- Unknown Criticism is never as productive as simply focusing on what you need to do to get your needs met. Here’s a hint: 1) Ask Gently... 2) the problem is the problem, not the person is the problem. See more
22.01.2022 Relationships usually work better when we think about what we can do for others, rather than what’s in it for us. If both parties are doing it well....Eureka!
22.01.2022 It’s the weekend! So here’s a sweet short story about how two sisters reconnected after some years apart. https://www.rd.com/artic/laugh-in-a-crowd-reuintes-sisters/
20.01.2022 Saving your relationship should not come at the expense of your self-respect. To maintain your self-respect follow this simple acronym from DBT: F - be fair to yourself and others A - apologise when appropriate; don’t overdo it... S - stick to your values T - (be) truthful representing self with integrity https://www.cheatsheet.com//things-never-to-compromise-in/
20.01.2022 Continuing our Stepfamily series A common mistake people make when becoming a step-parent is assuming parental authority or position is automatic. The reality is that you earned your parental authority with your children with every nappy changed and boo boo kissed; so you can’t expect your partner’s children to accept your influence straight away either. Furthermore, children who have two loving parents are not motivated to accept stepparent authority early, regardless o...f your parenting prowess. They simply don’t need another parent. In the first year, and depending on the age of the child, the best you can aim for is a role a little akin to a coach or mentor. From there, your influence can build as your relationship does, but like many things time and communication is key. https://www.parents.com/pa/dynamics/step-parent-boundaries/.
17.01.2022 Don’t forget the free fitness classes folks. A healthy you, means a more relaxed happy you and that’s great for your relationship too!
17.01.2022 The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism. It is a natural human behavior for people to seek an explanation for their negative feelings and, over time, people can develop a negative habit of mind to search for why they feel so bad. They scan their environment for other people’s transgressions and mistakes to account for their own annoyances or disappointments. https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-criticism/
16.01.2022 Now here’s a couple with shared meaning https://youtu.be/0M7wH2z0zcY You can watch it at Readings Cinemas here:... https://readingcinemas.com.au/movies/details/BUNDABERG/7348 See more
16.01.2022 I enjoyed this weekend read on the benefits of nature play for our children and our future. https://www.magzter.com//Hea/WellBeing/Playing-in-the-dirt
15.01.2022 There’s no such thing as Mr Perfect, just Mr just about right for you.
14.01.2022 This all sounds very romantic.. But to meet properly in May and to already be planning to marry, is a wee bit quick. The first two years is about getting to know each other. They are very inlove now, but if they truly want to give their love a chance I would recommend they delay long term decisions until the rose coloured glasses come off and they can see and love each other as they are, not the idyllic version of each other, that lovers first see. Falling inlove is one thing but learning to live together is a whole other story.
14.01.2022 Has anything bad ever happened to you that turned out to be for the best?Has anything bad ever happened to you that turned out to be for the best?
14.01.2022 This week let’s take a look at the first of the four horsemen; criticism. Clinical Psychologist, Anastasia Hronis states, Generally, criticism is not a successful or effective way of getting a positive change in behaviour from another person, and more often than not can result in resentment in the long term.
13.01.2022 This is quite good.
04.01.2022 Happy couples find ways to let their partner know how much they love and appreciate them. They do this in small ways but frequently. https://www.instagram.com/p/CQbbLhmr4yx/
03.01.2022 So this is why my husband is a master at marriage. Using his Love Maps he knows my favourite food, second only to chocolate is plum pudding. He also knows that I’m not eating sugar atm. (Updates his Love Map of me to incorporate new information.). His dilemma is this; he wants to honour my goals by encouraging my no sugar diet, but also wants to give me a sweet treat, that he knows I will love. So he finds a tiny plum pudding (portion size) and low fat, reduced sugar custard. Bingo! Happy Wife! The man is a genius!
02.01.2022 Family Vacation Family Meeting First, sit down and talk about what vacation means to each of you, says Gabe Saglie, a senior editor at the website Travelzoo. Is it spending time together? Trying new things? Reminisce about the best vacations you’ve taken, either as a family or before the kids were born. This shifts planning from where we want to go to how we want to feel. When the trip gets closer, try the top pick strategy: Everyone chooses the one thing they really ...want to do on vacation. Maybe your husband wants a surf lesson, your son wants mini golf, and you want a few hours on the sand with your book. Fill the itinerary with these highly desired activities. If you’re planning a larger family vacation, put a leaf in the table and discuss budget expectations early. Accept that compromise and alternative plans may be in order. Once the budget is nailed down, touch base weekly. Share itinerary ideas via Pinterest boards, then employ the top pick strategy. For an extended-family trip, imagine the worst-case scenarios (messy rental house, whiny kids) and proactively set up systems to combat them, Miles says. Creating a cleaning chart or planning a few breaks can make the trip more restful and fun. https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/family/family-meetings
