Ruby Companion End of Life Doula in Tullera, New South Wales, Australia | Local business
Ruby Companion End of Life Doula
Locality: Tullera, New South Wales, Australia
Phone: +61 410 443 832
Address: 704 Dunoon Road 2480 Tullera, NSW, Australia
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25.01.2022 LAURIE ANDERSON on her life with LOU REED: Lou and I played together, became best friends, and then comrades, we traveled, listened and criticized each other...'s work, studied things together (butterfly hunting, meditation, kayaking). We made ridiculous jokes; quit smoking 20 times; fought; learned to hold our breath underwater; went to Africa; sang opera arias in the elevator; made friends with unlikely people; followed each other on tour when possible; we had a sweet dog playing piano; shared a house that was different to our respective apartments; we protected and loved each other. We often went to see art, music, shows, theatre and I watched how he loved and appreciated other artists and musicians. He was always so generous. He knew how difficult the environment was. We loved our West Village life and our friends; and we always did everything in the best way we could. Like many couples, each of us has built a way of being: strategies, sometimes compromised, which allowed us to be part of a couple. Sometimes we lost a little more than what we were capable of giving, or gave in a little too much, or felt abandoned. Sometimes we really got angry. But even when I was out of my mind, I was never bored. We learned to forgive each other. And somehow, for 21 years, we've intertwined our minds and hearts together. It was spring 2008. I was walking down the street in California feeling knocked down and talking on my phone with Lou. ‘There are so many things I never did and want to do?’ I told him. Like what, for example?" I don't know, I never learned German, I never studied physics, I never married Why don't we get married?" he asked. We could meet halfway there. Arriving in Colorado. How about tomorrow?" Uhm... don't you think tomorrow is a little early?" No, I don't think so ". And so the next day we met in Boulder, Colorado, and married in a friend's garden on Saturday, wearing our normal Saturday clothes, and although I had to play a show right after the ceremony, Lou was ok with it. (Musicians marrying is like when two lawyers marry. When you say damn I have to work in the studio until 2am, or cancel all your appointments to close the case. You know exactly what it means and you don't necessarily jump for joy). I guess there are many ways to get married. Some people marry someone they barely know, which can even work. When you marry what's also your best friend for several years, there should be another name for it. But the thing that surprised me the most about getting married is how time changes. And also how it somehow adds a tenderness that was, in some way, completely new. To paraphrase the great Willie Nelson: 90 % of people this way end up with the wrong person, and that's what still makes juke boxes play." Lou's Jukebox was full of love and many other things : beauty, pain, history, courage, mystery. Lou had been sick for two years now: first for interferon treatment, a series of vile but often effective injections to treat hepatitis C which is equipped with a good series of annoying side effects. Then a liver cancer took over, which was added to an advanced form of diabetes. We achieved good results in the hospital. He learned everything about these diseases and their treatments. He continued to do Tai Chi every day for two hours plus photographs, books, recordings, his radio broadcast with Hal Willner and many other projects. He loved his friends, and called, texted, emails when he couldn't be with them. We tried to understand and apply the teachings that our master Mingyur Rinpoche imparted; especially the most difficult ones such as you must learn to master the ability to feel sad without actually being sad ". Last spring, at the last minute, he received a liver transplant that seemed to have worked completely and instantly regained health and energy. Then even that started working badly, and there was no escape. When the doctor said, It's over. There are no options anymore ", the only part Lou heard was options ". He didn't give up until the last half hour of his life, when he suddenly accepted it: suddenly and completely. We were at home. I had taken him out of the hospital a few days earlier. And even though he was very weak, he insisted on coming out in the morning blinding light. As people used to meditation, we were prepared for this: how to move energy from your belly to your core and then push it out of your head. I've never seen an expression as full of wonder as Lou's when he died. His hands were doing the shape 21 of Tai Chi, that of flowing water. Her eyes were wide open. I was holding in my arms the person I loved more than anything in the world and talking to him while he died. His heart stopped beating. He wasn't scared. I was able to walk with him to the end of the world. Life - so beautiful, painful and spectacular - can't give anything more than this. What about death? I think the purpose of death is to free love." ~Laurie Anderson~
22.01.2022 A lovely, honest and simply written piece...
21.01.2022 <3 This is the kind of deathcare I teach and love. If not in a facility then on the street. If not in a city then in your village. And certainly to be taught in your home. <3
20.01.2022 This is what a grave looks like after it’s been dug at a conservation burial ground. The grave is dug by hand, usually by a team of 2 (sometimes 3), and the ear...th is carefully laid out in 3 separate piles so that the earth can go back in to its original layer. This step is critical to help reestablish the plant life. No astroturf for this grave - no way! Surrounded by the simple beauty of nature. See more
19.01.2022 Currently most storage facilities at funeral homes and crematories in Los Angeles are now at capacity, and all decedents no matter the cause of death are being ...stored in refrigerated containers until burial or cremation. If your loved-one is dying at home on hospice, you can avoid the body bag and impersonal sterile containers and keep them at home, on dry ice until they can be placed on the cremation schedule. Please consider this option for your family, it allows time for sacred rituals and ceremony, to say goodbye and integrate the loss. To learn more please visit: https://sacredcrossingsfuneralhome.com/home-funerals/ #homefuneral #homefunerals #homefuneralsupport #deathcare #cremation #crematorium #hospice #hospicecare #deathpositive #deathpositivemovement #eldercare #elderlycare #consciousdying #deathmidwifery #deathmidwife #deathdoula #sacredcrossings #sacredcrossingsfuneralhome
17.01.2022 Beautiful connections
14.01.2022 Trigger Warning: Infant Death. Supporting the family can include many things. Letting this little one go home,no matter how briefly,was so important to the family. https://www.facebook.com/171297746260673/posts/3449854648404950/
14.01.2022 Amazing people with amazing ideas and the ability to do it. Fantastic
12.01.2022 This is a really important documentary to watch
11.01.2022 Beautiful Helen Callanan
11.01.2022 The only lawful possessor of a corpse is the earth. Many people will want to involve a funeral director in supporting them with the planning of a funeral. If ...you do chose to use a funeral director make a list of things that are important to you, then call several companies and take your time in choosing the one that feels right for you. All funeral directors charge differently. Ask all the questions you need to enable you to have an understanding of all the costs. There is nothing wrong in asking questions it is respectful to do so, for you and for your loved ones. Many funeral directors still embalm bodies needlessly. This is not a legal requirement, whether the body is being viewed after death or not. It is an invasive procedure that involves formaldehyde, which is carcinogenic to the environment and the technician. You can be involved in washing and gently dressing the deceased. This can be a beautiful process to be involved in and allow you to say your farewell in a personal way. It’s unnecessary to give this meaningful ritual away to a stranger. The body can be kept at home until the day of the funeral. Depending on the time of year, air conditioning units can be hired and used to keep the space cool. Friends and family can then come and say farewell in familiar surroundings with familiar people. If a person dies in a hospital or hospice this does not mean that they cannot be returned to their home after death. Funeral directors often mark up a coffin price unreasonably. A coffin can be purchased directly from a supplier. Have it delivered home and organise friends and family to be involved in preparing the vessel for their loved one’s last journey. Many people are realising that cardboard coffins are not only cost effective, but they are wonderful to decorate and personalise. The ceremony is the true essence of a funeral. Involve those that knew the person. Create meaningful personal rituals. Own it. See more
09.01.2022 Beautiful song to her grandmother
08.01.2022 Saw this the other day... I don’t know who originally wrote it but it’s brilliant Every minute someone leaves this world behind. We are all in the line wit...hout knowing it. We never know how many people are before us. We can not move to the back of the line. We can not step out of the line. We can not avoid the line. So while we wait in line - Make moments count. Make priorities. Make the time. Make your gifts known. Make a nobody feel like a somebody. Make your voice heard. Make the small things big. Make someone smile. Make the change. Make love. Make up. Make peace. Make sure to tell your people they are loved. Make sure to have no regrets. Make sure you are ready.
