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25.01.2022 Flat tyres and no fuel?? We all need a reminder about 2020 exhaustion. It’s a phenomenon that differs from the usual end of year tiredness; it’s actual fatigue or nervous exhaustion level for so many people, worldwide. The vast majority are speaking of scary-level exhaustion, fears of not recovering, worries about how to even function or get through festivities. There’s a reason for it; on top of all the normal huge life stressors, we’ve lived in uncertainty, change, stress, ...hypervigilance and political tension (local and global) all year. Those energies take their toll. Some feel it more than others due to personality and personal circumstances. But it’s rampant. Please be kind to yourself about it. Please be accepting of it. Please allow rest and recovery. Please do the things that will support your nervous system in recovery. Please avoid toxic or dysfunctional coping mechanisms. Rest, walk, ride, read, watch, drive, swim, eat, talk, meditate, create, potter, and avoid whatever you need to avoid. The pleasure and motivation will return. No pushing, no self-whipping; just know it’s normal and it will pass. The energy will slowly refuel and all will be well. See more

25.01.2022 Feeling as good as you want to?? Scan your mind and body signals. Notice the main thing youd like to address. Focus only on what you can influence or change, and perhaps talk about it or write down what you are feeling and where in the body its located. Ask yourself how youd prefer to feel, given the circumstances. Do just one thing that will help you feel the way you want to feel today, keep it simple and expect a beneficial result.

24.01.2022 Relax, relax, you’ve got this: All those stirred up neurons lately, whoever or whatever is stirring them, time to listen now, listening now as I calmly speak to you, tuning in with your inner mind, right now, nothing to do or prove or conquer, nothing to notice, nothing to fear even, breathing in, just relaxing, breathing out, letting the mind rest, all is well, the sun is rising as it does, cycles of everything, relaxing into the rhythms of nature, of life, of your own life-force, breathing in, that’s right, breathing out, relaxing as you calmly go forth into the next adventure of today. You’ve got this.

24.01.2022 Inspire. To feel creative we need to stop trying. With certain activities, effort brings reward. Creativity and inspiration require a calm mind, perhaps focused on something simple, easy and pleasant. While calming the mind can be difficult during heavy or stressful times, thats what we need most. Find a way to meditate that works for you; try apps, binaural beats, white noise, silence, breathing, mantras, water, staring at a candle or other object- whatever clears your mind for a bit. Let inspiration arrive in peace. It will.

24.01.2022 Preventative Calm: Everyone wants a way to trigger calm when the nerves are all haywire. The truth is, its all about prevention. That means doing things to keep the nerves in a calm state rather than ignoring or overriding signals of nervous overactivity. Prevention is different for everyone but usually includes thought management (recognizing and redirecting fear or pressure thoughts in particular), exercise, some kind of relaxation/breathing/visualization/meditative type of thing, eating correctly for blood glucose regulation, control of incoming information overload and having a balance of social and creative outlets. Its currently a challenging time for implementing preventative calm but we could all do more. Take a breath, and choose one thing that will make a difference for you to help stay relaxed and unwound today.

24.01.2022 2020 Burnout: Just like the CovidFight in the home, CovidBurnout is an actual thing. Research is now showing levels of burnout not seen before, across a range of home situations and professions. One study even showed 70% of professionals working from home were experiencing major burnout symptoms by May 2020, including fatigue, disengagement, lack of enjoyment and lack of motivation. Four months later, symptoms are more extreme and widespread. For many, its the lack of separa...tion between work, school and home, combined with continued uncertainty as well as excessive or fluctuating workloads. Screen fatigue also plays a role for those not used to spending their days online. Like any form of burnout, a good break is the best prescription, but restrictions have changed the nature of what a break can involve and what we can look forward to in the short to medium term, as well as many of our stress-release outlets. Its ok to know if were in burnout. While it doesnt change the situation, it does change our frustration about feeling this way. Its a thing. Worldwide. And it is being studied and researched. All we can do is our best; just cruise along in survival mode and know that our fellow humans are in it with us. See more

23.01.2022 Brain in peace: If your brain needs a small tune-up, listen now, as I speak to you here, and you can listen with your inner mind, relaxing, taking a deeper breath now, slowing down those parts of the brain that might be a little too active, just easing off that accelerator a bit, thats right, relaxing, and those parts of the brain that help you feel better, those comfort controls, come alive right now, turning the settings to a much more pleasant level, you can, and youll notice more comfort and peace today as you remember to relax and enjoy. Your brain will remind you.

23.01.2022 You have credit!! No matter how things feel, no matter whats going on, theres all this credit stored inside, all the resources, talent, gifts, agreeable personality traits, achievements, hidden creativity and other stuff just waiting to be released when required. You have lots in the internal bank, many assets, in fact you are really quite rich within. Dont let anyone allow you to feel otherwise today. You rock. Its official.

22.01.2022 Chemically haywire?? Cant sleep properly? Wake up tired? Exhausted in the daytime? Cant generate that mojo? Pain, sinus blockage and malaise? Frustrated with lack of achievement? Taking it mentally day by day without the usual ability to jump ahead?? These are the current themes and theyre the result of stress hormones being switched on long term. Its not a fault in the system; this is what happens when scary, unpleasant or unwanted events are unrelenting. The only way t...o feel better is to physically calm the nervous system regularly and to add in our personalized psychological optimism narrative. Meditate, walk, do whatever relaxes us. Ask the questions of optimism. What CAN I do? Which parts CAN I work on? Who do I need to connect with at the moment? What small actions might assist me right now? What do I need to stop doing or asking or thinking? How can I get started? Calm optimism is your prescription for today. See more

22.01.2022 Pleasant surprises: We never know quite when good things will arrive out of nowhere, perhaps in the place we least expect. Exciting things can be just waiting for us around the next corner, or even closer, so let’s allow some anticipation of great stuff to come, perhaps even sooner than we think.

21.01.2022 More eggs in the fun basket! Theres so much research showing the emotional protection from achieving satisfaction, fun and fulfillment from many different aspects of life rather than just one or two things. If we have all our happiness eggs in one basket we are at risk if we cant access that thing. Never has this been more apparent than in current times. Think about your basket and check whether you need to find a few more fun eggs to keep you balanced.

21.01.2022 Heres a random card selection from my Anxiety Solutions card set. Use when you need a bit of time out of mind. (Cards sets available online via my publisher Innovative Resources; link in comments)

21.01.2022 Soothing your nervous system: Perhaps youre up and down, or down, or up, or both, or perhaps just flat, or maybe even flattened, or perhaps a little activated, or triggered, or even jagged; nerves can need soothing for many reasons as you know, and I know too, as you breathe, and read, focusing right here, all parts of your mind paying close attention, or maybe just skimming over, it doesnt matter really, your inner mind can know that its ok to flow, ok to relax, or not, ok to feel very soothed now, simply allowing yourself the possibility of feeling better, or feeling better about what youre possibly feeling, or not; either way you can be soothed, knowing that at the deepest level, you are ok. Just be.

20.01.2022 Your GO EASY! reminder: Again and again I hear self-critical talk of not doing more, not being motivated enough, not being productive enough during this unprecedented crazy time. In truth, many people seem to be affected by a weird kind of malaise, lack of enjoyment, difficulty with concentration and low motivation. Its probably due to the survival mechanism as parts of our brain subconsciously grieve the pleasure and stimulation we miss while simultaneously scanning our environment for danger/safety-related information. We need to aim for acceptance of this weird emotional state; its temporary, it doesnt ruin all aspects of life (many things are still ok) and its not personal, its part of the human emotional picture right now. Please go easy. Have a plan, look for small pleasures and be forgiving of self and others. We can do it.

20.01.2022 The gaslight headf*ck: It’s been said that one of the more nasty things you can do to a person is to mess with their sense of reality. That’s what gaslighting does: you know what’s happened/happening but the other person denies it, undermines it, twists it, scoffs at it or explains it in a perfectly logical way in order to trigger doubt, defectiveness, embarrassment or confusion in the other person. The effect is to wonder if you in fact might be incorrect, might be taking ...it the wrong way, may be too sensitive or too demanding. Gaslighting can occur in a very calm controlled reasonable manner (even more confusing), leaving the other person feeling like the unreasonable one. Gaslighting happens at work, in families, in relationships and in the public arena. If you’re in that conversation and you’re confused, you’ve been gaslit. A witness or third party view may be helpful. The only antidote is to stay in your own reality, stay away from gaslighters, and stay in fact mode. Get away as soon as you can and stay with the accepting, respectful, loving people. Gaslighters suck. See more

20.01.2022 Just follow for extra calm. This mode of breathing lowers your nervous system stress response. Its called 4-7-8 Breathing and you do it in cycles. Start with a couple of cycles now: Breathing in, count one, two, three four; now hold, count one, two, three, four, five, six, seven; and now breathe out, count one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight. Repeat three times daily.

18.01.2022 Been in a CovidFight?? Theres a thing happening at the moment that Im calling the CovidFight. Theyre silly arguments that escalate so quickly and nastily that they trigger great couples (or friends or family) to worry about their relationship compatibility or longevity. Prolonged frustration and uncertainty plus too much time together without stimulation is the reason, but what is the solution? Its a mix of trying to remain in wise adult mode when your partner loses it, and staying out of defence, criticism or contempt mode as much as possible. What feels like just standing up for ourselves or being honest can probably be delivered in a more effective way to restore harmony. Have a read of this and see if you can memorize a few key phrases. Above all, if its a CovidFight, try to end it quickly and painlessly.

17.01.2022 Silence beats drama. Sometimes the best response is no response. Not in a passive aggressive, silent treatment kind of way, but in the face of insult or inappropriate behavior, assertive eye-contact silence can speak volumes. When paired with confident energy, silence may be the most powerful response in certain circumstances. Some actions do not deserve your attention or reaction. There is wisdom in knowing when to choose the right to remain silent.

16.01.2022 Total confidence: Its not arrogance. Its merely a certainty about being resourceful. You can be totally confident today because you know that whatever happens, you can find the skills, the information, the resources or the assistance you need in order to manage it. No need to know all the answers or to feel especially amazing in any way. Total confidence is being open and knowing you have access to your own resources as well as all the resources available out there, and that our access just keeps expanding. Be sure of this today, and enjoy your confidence.

16.01.2022 Short fuse?? If your fuse is a little shorter and more explosive than normal, youre not alone. Living in a chronic state of stress for long periods leads to changes in brain chemistry that include lowered motivation, lack of enjoyment, fatigue, sleep disturbance, irritability and good cravings. Initial bursts of stress can be semi-energizing but this doesnt last over the long haul. We need to mitigate the chronic stress overload with methods that calm the nerves and soothe the brain, even if just for a few minutes at a time. Find a mediation method. Block out the works with music. Go outside. Find a moment of escapism however you can. And, of course, remember that this short fuse wont last. Things are improving. There is light.

15.01.2022 Irritation alert: One of the key signs of chronic stress is a change in our pattern of temper. Normally, many of us have a longer fuse, going with the flow on most minor things and keeping it in perspective if we get annoyed. But in times of chronic stress (ie everyone right now) one of the personality factors that changes is our ability to manage these irritations. At the moment, Im hearing of more accounts of frustration, more criticism (voiced or silent) and more uncharac...teristic explosions, generally directed at those closest to us. Awareness is key. If your temper feels a bit off, youre not alone. Take preventative calming action. Leave the room or go outside if you feel yourself hitting the red zone. Hold your breath for a few seconds. Do five star jumps. Count backwards from 10-1. Sing something easy like a nursery rhyme or football theme song (Were from Tigerland might work well!) or perhaps an ABBA or AC/DC song. Then ask yourself if what you were irritated about really matters. Sometimes it does matter and sometimes its just a moment that needs perspective. We usually need a circuit breaker to see the difference in the moment. Be aware today. See more

15.01.2022 Remember EASY. Easy on yourself first up. Easy on others. Easy on expectations. Easy on hurry or worry. Easy within thoughts. Ease off all tension and pressure. Small adjustments have pleasant results today.

15.01.2022 One step. Stop running. Take a breath. Just breathe and focus on that oxygen going in, going out. Your job is to remain calm. Calm means clear. Breathe.

15.01.2022 The down/up/down: Mood stability is taking a battering at the moment. Not many people are reporting being on an even keel; the majority speak more of a roller-coaster type experience. Please dont be harsh on yourself if youre up and down, flat as a tack or lacking in motivation. These mood effects are real and theyre widespread. We can moderate the effects by observing without judgement, accepting the validity of the emotions and not getting caught up in secondary narrative about how we feel or projecting it into the future. When theres a down, there will also be an up. Ride the rollercoaster, watch the scenery and know that your fellow passengers are right there with you.

14.01.2022 Let your words elevate you: Language creates emotion and mood as well as reflecting it. If we choose our inner words and our speech more carefully, we can elevate our state quickly, given that every word and thought has an instant effect on the nervous system. Test some key words to see their emotional results: energize, inspire, love, action, focus, improving, uplifting, powerful, optimistic, accepting, beauty, joy, peace, harmonious. Words can heal. Choose well today!

14.01.2022 Breather. In some way, only you know in which exact way, you do need a breather right now, and here is your window, slowly breathing in, your subconscious mind knows where to go, holding, then letting go, slowly breathing out, releasing all tension and build-up, allowing the old to expel, ready for the new, letting go of everything no longer needed, making space for the better things to come, relaxing, just being, letting mind and body rest for a moment, you will, as your inner mind updates all of the software, correcting any glitches, maximum functioning after this minor reset, and good to go. Relax and enjoy.

13.01.2022 Around the world, people just arent feeling right. This long-term ambiguous stress is having an effect on most of us; were out of adrenalin and depleting our cortisol levels, affecting mood, motivation and sleep. This article explains it well.

13.01.2022 Count your credits! Is your brain a little too wired for deficits? Luckily for humans, we have a steering wheel for the mind, and we can adjust our focus in the moment and move towards the credits. The things you HAVE done. The stuff you ARE happy with. The personality traits you DO like. The people that ARE supportive. The ways in which youve been ABLE to manage life well lately. They exist and they need some attention so that all parts of the brain can remember. Get in the credit zone today!

12.01.2022 Weird physical symptoms?? More and more over the past weeks Im hearing people talk of strange symptom patterns; lots of sinus blockages, sleep disturbance, new or recurring back or neck pain, fatigue and chest tightness. The brain is wired to find new ways to present underlying stress in the form of physical symptoms (well they get our attention, right?!) especially for personalities that are keep pushing on types, and those that dont like to disappoint or upset others. T...heres a lot of research around this presentation of stress in physical form (read Dr John Sarno if you need convincing) and it happens to us all. The brain is adept at finding a vulnerable spot, such as an old injury site or a scary symptom that freaks us out like numbness, sudden shooting pain or palpitations. Many times the stress is subconscious; we think we are managing ok and keep going but the body has another plan for getting our attention. Tune in. Acknowledge the stress or fear or frustration. Talk about it within yourself with a compassionate tone. Its not self pity, its just accepting its presence as you move forward, and perhaps slowing down some aspect of mind or activity. The body tells the truth about whats going on. Always listen. See more

10.01.2022 Please meditate. Even a little. If there is stress, frustration, tension, worry or anxiety in the system, finding a way to meditate will help. Anything that calms the nervous system will down-regulate that angst and smooth things a little. You can use an app like Calm or Headspace, you can focus on breathing, or use a word or mantra or binaural beats or anything you like. Even five minutes can help. Its not always the time to meditate; if were sad, a pleasant distraction might lift us, but mediation has a place with every emotion. Stop and check inside today. If in doubt, focus on the breath.

10.01.2022 Supportive self-coaching? Are you a self-coach or a self-critic?? A self-critic is always looking at the shortfall, the so-called flaws and the woulda/shoulda/coulda whereas the supportive self-coach takes a more solution-focused and friendly approach. Want to change something? Break it into a tiny step or chunk. Be encouraging of yourself. You can do this! Be kind to yourself. Praise anything, no matter now small. Cheerlead yourself! Great job! Celebrate every small win with a fist pump! And please remember. Just surviving a global pandemic is achievement enough. There is no requirement to be achieving anything above and beyond your essentials. Youre doing a great job. Please remind yourself of this on a regular basis today!

09.01.2022 Plug into the light! Need ideas? Need energy? Need help? Maybe you need to plug into the universal solar power source. That source that shines the sunshine, lights up the sky and kickstarts photosynthesis in all the plant life in the world. It’s all around as and it’s all through us. You can look to the sun or you can look to the light in whatever room you are in. Take the light in via your eyes or your mind, and know that we are all solar powered. Time to charge up the batteries and energize.

09.01.2022 Nothing to look forward to? We humans have many future expectations, which boost our dopamine levels. Looking forward to something is anticipatory pleasure, one of the most enjoyable feelings in the human emotional spectrum. Enjoyment in the moment also boosts pleasure, but many of us are more future focused in terms of our emotional excitement. In times of uncertainty were not sure what to look forward to, or perhaps our future plans have been thwarted. The excitement that ...fuels us isnt quite the same. To maintain mood, we probably need to adjust our goals or desires temporarily. Luckily we can do this via expectation shifting. Things are different so we change our focus and choose to deliberately look forward to different things. This may not be as exciting, but if we stay grounded in reality, we get emotional payoff. Life satisfaction is said to be based on the gap between our expectations and the reality of what actually happens. We cant expect to feel our normal emotional excitement right now but we can plan for adjusted versions of enjoyment. Our pets are as happy as they ever were, probably more so. Again we can learn life enjoyment from watching how pets do it. Lets simplify our pleasures today. See more

07.01.2022 A little bit same-same?? Many people are reporting an experience of Groundhog Day lately, a sense of lack of differentiation between days, to the point of not even knowing what day it is. The usual markers and variability arent the same so the mind is detecting a little too much sameness. Is it time to introduce some markers and differentiators into your day or week? There are many ways of implementing new markers. It could be change of clothing, location (within premises), music, altering habits or forcing yourself to make contact with people at times you normally wouldnt. If you need some difference, work it in. Alternatively, ride the sameness wave while you can; it will be different again before long. Its all going to be ok.

07.01.2022 Stop. Breathe. Assess. Stop for just a moment. Take a breath and be in your body. Check in. Listen to your inner messages: what do you need to keep doing or start doing or stop doing? What is it that you could modify that would enhance your quality of life presently? It may be actions, it may be thought processes or the story you are telling to yourself or others about something. Or do you just need to focus more on the things youre already doing? You dont have to change or do anything. Just check in and listen.

06.01.2022 Flow state. While there are probably many things our brains could fixate upon today, remember the flow. Like a river or any other kind of stream, let today flow without placing pressure on yourself. If there is tension, focus on the flow. Leave the details and just go with it. You’ll get there.

06.01.2022 Relax mental effort: Effort is effective on the physical level. Physically, when we push harder (within reason) we move forward to results. The reverse is true at the mental level. If were looking to change a response or a memory or a pattern, or to create an idea, relaxing the mind is key. The harder we try not to think about something, the more it appears. The harder we try for a creative breakthrough, the more elusive it becomes. The harder we try to study and remember in...formation, the more we can question our skills. In relaxation mode, the mind is receptive to ideas. Mental pressure has the opposite effect in most cases. Learning a method to relax the mind allows for best mental functioning. Breathing, counting, meditating, visualizing, using a mantra; anything to relax and gently occupy the mind is great. Less pressure, less effort = great results. See more

06.01.2022 Lightbulb Sometimes, you know, and I know too, when we really, really need a bit of a lift, a bit of a recharge, just one idea can make all the difference, so breathe now, slow your mind, relax your body, no pressure, no need to do anything at all really, except read my helpful words, ideas appear whenever, no trying necessary, they will ease in when the time is right, when the mind and body is relaxed, and then you know, you’ll feel good, the lightbulb will go on, and you’ll know exactly what to do, or not do, and now you can just relax, flowing with the rhythm of your life today, knowing all will come, all is well. Enjoy.

05.01.2022 2020 fatigue is a strange beast. At later stages in each year, many people feel a bit tired, ready for a break. But this year is next level. Many of us have been hyper vigilant for nine months, in a semi-shutdown mode of life that limited enjoyment and anticipation in a way that none of us had experienced before. Add changes to job or work routines, household membership during the day, relationships under pressure, political clashes, lack of friend activity, no holidays and ...missing out on many routine stress outlets and you have a recipe for nervous exhaustion. The chronic stress of 2020 cannot be underestimated. If you are fatigued, it makes sense. Acceptance and awareness are the first steps to recovery. No self blame, no frustration. It is what it is. We need rest, but more importantly, our minds need a break, an enjoyable break, not just escapism. Tune in to your energy system and work out a plan for the coming few months. We will all come back stronger. See more

05.01.2022 Hows YOUR memory going?? Forgetting words? Or walking into a room then forgetting why you came? Are you needing to write everything down or it just slips away? Forgetting the name of that thing, that person; you know, that one.. whats it called again?? Did you think it was cognitive decline or that other disease, whats its called, cant quite find the word; oh Alzheimers, yes I think thats it. Well youre not alone, and if youre relatively healthy (if youre reading th...is youre ok) then the likely cause is chronic stress, especially that chronic, low-grade, semi conscious type stress affecting pretty much everyone right now, more so than ever. Do the normal things. Eat clean, get sleep, move around, give your brain a break. Perhaps sharp memory is deemed non-essential in survival mode. It doesnt matter, it will improve so maybe just forget it. See more

04.01.2022 Your contribution matters! Its easy to feel a bit lost at times, or feel that sense of not making enough of a difference, especially in phases of low mojo or inner turbulence. But you do matter. Youre an important part of the overall plan and the individual essence that you bring to the world is irreplaceable. You do matter and a lot of people know it. Remember why you do what you do and what drives you. Your contribution, no matter what it is, forms part of the massive amount of good stuff in the world. Nobody can do or give exactly what you do. Please keep at it!

04.01.2022 Soothing brain program: You might have felt, either lately or for a while, that your brain needs some extra soothing, that calm reassurance that all is well, that you can relax now, that there is nothing to control, nothing to fear, nothing to do, and thats right isnt it, youre already doing everything that needs to be done, so listen to me with your inner mind, that subconscious part of you that takes care of everything, and let it turn up the soothe now, easing off all hypervigilance, and allowing relaxed deep breaths to slow and heal and fix everything here, brain reset to optimal functioning and mood improving as you read, feeling better and better as time goes on. You do.

04.01.2022 Help for your nerves: All these things, the ones youve been noticing or worrying about, you know its just long term stress, system a little frayed, and now you can stop for a minute, breathing in a deep breath of relaxation, thats it, breathing slowly, remembering to take that breath right in, holding it, then letting it go, releasing all tension in that breath, your nerves gently massaged by every relaxation, letting go, nothing to do right this second, just be here, knowing, all is well, all will be well, and your nerves can begin now to relax and sing a different song, peaceful, easy and chill. You will.

04.01.2022 Heres a card for you, drawn randomly from my Anxiety Solutions set. You can order from publisher at link in comments. In the meantime, just let it roam around your consciousness

04.01.2022 Watching the frustration responses: Frustration is the tense explosive inner feeling of wanting something to be other than what it actually is. Its that lack of control, the inability to make something be what you think it should be. We all respond to frustration differently. Some accept it calmly with non-resistance, as part of life, or part of learning. Others withdraw, some become angry, or defiant, dummy-spitting, contemptuous, rejecting, defensive, humorous, dismissive, passive, mocking, aggressive or helpless. Our tolerance and responses to frustration are learned early in life and we can modify them with awareness. Our first step is noting our go-to moves, as well as the moves of those we closely interact with. Be aware today.

03.01.2022 Some days you just cant. If time out is needed then thats the way it is. There are times when we need to push ourselves and other times when we need to let go and just take the time out; mentally, physically, as required. Again, check in. When you need to recharge, do the best version of time out that you can manage on the day. Even a little helps. Its called self-care, and you get to feel good about doing it.

03.01.2022 Forgive yourself. Being pissed off with yourself does not lead to positive change. Doing the whole why cant I do this or why am I like this isnt helpful either. The real question is What is most important right now and What is the first tiny action I need to take. The action might be no action at all, but rather a change of perspective. All positive moves start with self-acceptance. Where we are right now is ok. And we can move forward if needed. But first we need to be ok with what is. Forgive yourself today for that thing you tend to berate. Its ok. Its just a phase.

02.01.2022 Dealing with emotionally immature people?? Those that lack emotional maturity (especially colleagues or family members) are tough to manage. They like to control, they don’t take responsibility, it’s always all about them, they don’t actually listen to you, they throw tantrums when they don’t get what they want and they suck up all the energy in the room. If you try and resolve things in an adult way, they turn it back on you and may even trigger self doubt or confusion about... whose fault it is. Gotta do boundaries and they won’t like it; if you’re expecting them to agree to boundaries like an adult, think again. We have to stick to our boundaries and let them be pissed off and/or blame us. Not easy is it. But it’s good to be able to recognize the pattern without internalizing it. Keep an eye out and set the boundaries with as much calm kindness as you can. That’s all you can do. They’ll be ok. See more

02.01.2022 Enter the burnout zone?? Where everything is tiring, nothing feels enjoyable, normal things are boring, any commitment is overwhelming and the tank is on empty?? Doesn’t sound like fun does it. But we can go in and out of this zone due to many kinds of stresses, changes, annoyances, impositions, invalidations and other strains. What do you need to help get back into the fun zone? A rest? A change? A new narrative? A bit of time and space to yourself? Don’t worry if you feel stuck in the burnout zone for a bit; it will pass. Be accepting, be chill, don’t judge it or yourself. Notice a few positives or beautiful things. Soon the internal clouds will shift and the sunshine will be brighter.