Kym Robinson Psychosexual Therapy in Canberra, Australian Capital Territory | Medical and health

Kym Robinson Psychosexual Therapy

Locality: Canberra, Australian Capital Territory

Phone: +61 435 228 554

Address: Level 10 AMP Building, 1 Hobart Place 2601 Canberra, ACT, Australia

Website: http://www.psychosexualtherapy.com.au

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25.01.2022 https://www.psychologytoday.com//why-its-important-men-fee

25.01.2022 Drawing from over four decades of studying how couples handle conflict, researchers have been able to categorize couples into five types: Conflict-Avoiding, Val...idating, Volatile, Hostile, and Hostile-Detached. The three happy couple types (Conflict-Avoiding, Validating, and Volatile) were originally identified in Harold Raush’s landmark book Communication, Conflict, and Marriage, and two unhappy couple types (Hostile and Hostile-Detached) were identified in our Seattle-based Love Lab. The thing all three successful couple types had in common? Maintaining the 5:1 positive to negative interaction ratio during conflict. Dr. John Gottman analyzes each of the five types of couples on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3mGoXA3

25.01.2022 A little beach therapy from last weekend!

25.01.2022 I hope my Telehealth appointments didn’t feel like this!!

23.01.2022 Doing some self care with a long walk on the beach with Millie. We’re both loving it! It’s good to take you’re own advice occasionally!!

23.01.2022 Heart breakingly beautiful! Please read and remember the path walked before us! Read and share!!

23.01.2022 Hopefully justice and answers https://apple.news/ARYIdeWiJS4yhGV78GQNj7Q

21.01.2022 Anxious Attacher = When we were together before we felt so close, then it felt like you pulled away. Avoidant Attacher = Yes, that is true, does it feel like I... kind of fell of the face of the earth? Anxious = Yes! Avoidant = What was that like for you? Anxious = If I really tune into my body when you disconnect like that, my belly hurts. My heart aches. I feel confused and I don't know why we felt so connected a second ago and then you are just energetically gone. It didn't feel like you were there anymore. One moment you are so there and then the next moment you are so gone. I don't want to bother you, because I don't want to come off needy and feel like a burden. Why do you disappear like that? Avoidant = You know back in the day my answer would have been to find something to criticize about you, so you would feel bad instead of me feeling shame about disappearing. But now I know better. Now I know that is abusive to nitpick at you when really I can't find safety when we are close for a long period of time. Anxious = Yes, it really sucks when you nitpick at me, but now I understand it is really because you are scared or threatened or feel ashamed of something. I am glad you don't do that anymore. So what is it really about? Avoidant = I go silent because being so close to ANYONE, depletes me. I didn't have much practice being that emotionally close to anyone as a child. Those who were close to me were loving in their own way, but I didn't feel safe being too close to them. So when I care about someone, the same thing happens inside of me. I am not able to be close for long periods of time AND feel safe. It feels like an emotional marathon. Anxious = I try not to take it personally when you say it feels like an emotional marathon, because I am so happy to be with you. Avoidant = I am so sorry, truly, it is not you. I feel this way with everyone. I used to try to deny that so I can blame the person I am getting close to, but I see it now -- I am this way with everyone if we have long periods of intimacy and closeness. I have to decompress and reset and it has nothing to do with you. Anxious = But what about when I feel I need you? Avoidant = I haven't mastered being needed yet. When I feel needed by someone it feels not like a need, but a major monumental expectation. And that is where I start making your needs feel like a burden, when they are not. Then we get caught into our trauma bond -- I push you away and criticize you so I don't feel guilty and you feel like your needs don't matter and you are a burden like you have most of your childhood. Anxious = So what do I do? Avoidant = Understand it is not your fault, find people who can truly meet you the way you want to be met and stop being attracted to this dynamic in the first place. I can be here, but not in the way you need me to be. Understand that this is your own trauma addiction to someone who will be close to you then have to pull away. You have a deep need for consistent connection -- so move towards people that can hold that with you. I have a deep need for connection, but if I can't escape I will get angry and irritable and that is not fair to you. I am working on it, but I can't control it. Remember how I said it feels like an emotional marathon? In my nervous system it feels like we just ran 2 marathons and now you are asking me if I will do laps around the pool with you. Emotionally that is how it feels in my body, so I try to escape for some rest. Anxious = Damn! Meanwhile, all I am looking for is a message or a short phone call to help me feel the connection is still there. Avoidant = Yes, and from my trauma I will find a way to make you feel bad about that and that you are expecting too much. But now I understand both of us are valid in how we feel. Anxious = So now what? Avoidant = Find the strength to learn how to connect to those who can be consistent and not feel that consistency to be dreadful or an "expectation". Don't let them shame your needs. Gravitate towards people who feel consistency is pleasurable. And while you are doing that, learn how to hold your own freak out moments of feeling neglected when someone needs to pull away. No one can be here all the time. Reparent the child inside of you that freaks out when people pull away so you do not have to feel so needy. I know that you don't like that feeling either. Having needs and being needy are different. Just like wanting space versus needing space to feel normal is very different. Written by Gigi Azmy

21.01.2022 Absolutely loving SBS Viceland tonight! Just watched ‘My Penis and Me’ and now watching ‘100 Vaginas’. Highly recommend!! Absolutely loving SBS Viceland tonight! Just watched ‘My Penis and Me’ and now watching ‘100 Vaginas’. Highly recommend!!

21.01.2022 Truth right here The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself conditioning is a s...urvival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you. From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart. From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave. From all the situations when someone told you we’re in this together or I got you then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too. From all the lies and all the betrayals. You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point. Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE. You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right? You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you. Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak. So, you don’t trust anyone. And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people. To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable. Never again, you vow. But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall. Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either. Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming. It’s a trauma response. The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed. You are worthy of having support. You are worthy of having true partnership. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of having your heart held. You are worthy to be adored. You are worthy to be cherished. You are worthy to have someone say, You rest. I got this. And actually deliver on that promise. You are worthy to receive. You are worthy to receive. You are worthy. You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to prove it. You don’t have to bargain for it. You don’t have to beg for it. You are worthy. Worthy. Simply because you exist. -Jamila White, @inspiredjamila

20.01.2022 https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-pursuer-distancer-dynamic/

20.01.2022 A HUGE thank you to all the wonderful nurses out there on this International Nurses Day! THANK YOU!!

19.01.2022 In case you were wondering.... https://www.cosmopolitan.com//things-i-wish-i-knew-sexolo/

19.01.2022 Well... it can’t hurt!! https://apple.news/A1-Ky-upZQneIyU_aLstlyQ

18.01.2022 I thought I’d share my thoughts today whilst taking Millie to our favourite off-lead beach... What if we could approach sex and intimacy with the same attitude that Millie has when going to the beach..? Curiosity. A sense of adventure. Pure joy. Enthusiasm. Playfulness. Humour. Engagement. Awareness of all our senses. Complete mindfulness. Living in every moment. With no sense of shame, self-doubt, or disappointment.... Not caring how we look and feeling free to express our every desire. Thank you, Millie, for reminding me again to appreciate the simple joys in life that bring us happiness! Xx

17.01.2022 Fascinating and thought provoking!! https://www.psychologytoday.com//why-are-so-many-young-peo

16.01.2022 https://fb.watch/1Htvv6ylvr/

15.01.2022 https://fal.cn/37vbV

15.01.2022 Hubby and I decided to organise a kid-free, dirty weekend away together! Not quite what I had in mind, but still enjoying our weekend camping!!

15.01.2022 If you're stuck in isolation with a toxic or abusive person, message me about my "new cat" and I will know to check in on you. If you ask me about my "new black cat with the green eyes", I will know to contact the police. There has been a 40% increase in domestic violence cases since we have been advised to stay at home. ... Please don't be afraid to reach out. If you're willing, please put something similar on your wall. Strength in numbers.

12.01.2022 Do you know what's involved with being a sperm donor? Meet Adam this is his experience.

11.01.2022 Parents/caregivers, please read and share!! https://www.psychologytoday.com//detecting-sexual-grooming

10.01.2022 A gorgeous client of mine has given permission for me to share her writing with you. Please take the time to read, understand and share this piece! It is so vital that more people understand the difference and learn that coercion is NOT ok!! https://medium.com/@ed/coercion-is-not-consent-8e2cf0b3b7f8

10.01.2022 A great read! https://www.news.com.au///10968430ebf799273c52e172b5aed7b6

08.01.2022 Women’s Health Victoria has developed the Labia Library to bust a few common myths about how normal labia look. There’s also a photo gallery that shows you just how unique everyone’s labia are. Check it out here: www.labialibrary.org.au/ #sexeducation

08.01.2022 https://www.facebook.com/15687708844/posts/10158003091453845/?d=n

07.01.2022 Yep - and healthy boundaries

07.01.2022 Just in case we needed any more reasons... https://www.psychologytoday.com//2/the-health-benefits-sex

05.01.2022 Yes!!! https://www.psychologytoday.com//why-the-best-sex-may-be-y

05.01.2022 Merry Christmas everyone!!

05.01.2022 You can't spell wholehearted without A-R-T. Thank you Andrea Pippins for using your talent and creativity to help us celebrate the 10th anniversary of the #TheG...iftsofImperfection by bringing the 10 guideposts to life. You can download this gorgeous flower and a version YOU color here: https://bit.ly/2GN8MAp

04.01.2022 https://www.facebook.com/149200885864/posts/10158409494485865/?extid=fLBHA8908BQd4JAK&d=n

04.01.2022 Learning to stop and smell the roses!

04.01.2022 A really important read! Please take 2 minutes to better your understanding of the difficulty that many transgender people face!! https://www.boredpanda.com/photography-transgender-youth-/

04.01.2022 A good time of year to be remembering this...

04.01.2022 Devote six hours per week to your relationship and notice an improvement in your communication, fondness and admiration, and attunement. How you chose to split... up your six hours a week is up to you, but we've provided a guide to help illustrate one way to integrate these six hours into your schedule. Learn more on the blog: https://bit.ly/3k7mdcX

03.01.2022 https://www.psychologytoday.com//why-some-women-love-their

01.01.2022 I know it’s not Thanksgiving, and we don’t live in the USA, but this is a useful quick read and includes some examples of the Gottman bids. Do you use these with your partner? How do you respond when it is your partner initiating these bids? https://www.gottman.com/blog/list-minor-bids-connection/

01.01.2022 https://www.psychologytoday.com//the-pros-and-cons-being-f

01.01.2022 A bit of history and how I help clients... https://theconversation.com/happy-endings-the-ins-and-outs-