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25.01.2022 Ive a bunch of new likes here and want to welcome each and every one of you. Im Willo Founder of ShareAbode and also a single mum for just over 3.5 years to these two gorgeous little kids on my lap. My son is 5.5 years old and my daughter is 3.5 years old. Yes, if you do the math you can see when I first became a single mum my son was 2 and my daughter was 3 months old. I turned 40 a few days ago too - just to throw another number in the mix Its been a journey to sa...y the least. Highest of highs and lowest of lows. I created ShareAbode out of my own need to find support logistically, financially and emotionally when I was in the trenches early on in my single parent journey. It grew from there as word of mouth spread and I saw it was a necessity for so many. Its been 2 years since I put the first BETA version out. This year I plan to upgrade it to help even more single parents and their children here in Australia. I was an avid dirt bike rider of 2 strokes up until 2.4 years ago - did it for over 15 years and plan to start again in the future. Im a country girl by heart and suburbanite for practical reasons. I love working out and am teaching myself DIY on home renovations and the garden. My kids are my everything and I consider them the best personal am development Ive ever had. I am a natural redhead and the myths are true - we are as fiery on the outside as we are the colour on our head. Drop me a hello below, Id love to hear from you.

23.01.2022 Home-Sharing and Fear. How do they inter-relate and How can you move past them? From this single parent to all of the other single parents fearfully and worried about home-sharing because you don't know what to expect, you don't want to have a bad experience, you don't know how to do it - I've been there and now I am here and after doing it a few times, I've learnt a thing or two and now I'm here to help you do the same so you CAN reap the benefits of home-sharing with another single parent.

23.01.2022 I wanted to give you all two of my top single parenting tips tonight. These are not often spoken about. Usually its manage your money well don't fight with you ex in front of the kids etc etc but mine are my own, from almost 4 years of single parenting as the things that really have helped me get through those difficult moments. 1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF This is one of the most important things that I feel you can do as a single parent. Your situation may not be perfect, but y...ou are enough. Look back over the previous months and years (or days and weeks, if you're a newly single parent). Give yourself 'props' for all you've accomplished and successfully endured thus far. Acknowledge what you've come through and how much stronger you are today than you were on the day you started this journey. And if you're not convinced, grab a journal and start writing, even if it's in a beat-up spiral notebook! Just start jotting down what's happening, how you're dealing with it, and what you've noticed about yourself along the way. Think of it as documentation for your own personal growth. The next time you wonder how far you've come, you'll be able to look back and see it there in your notebook. 2. KNOW THAT HARDSHIPS ARE TEMPORARY Strong single parents have perspective. They're able to see that whatever is hardest right now isn't necessarily the biggest thing you'll be dealing with a month from nowor even a week from now. To put some context around what you're going through, add the phrase "for now" to your self-talk vocabulary. Embroiled in conflict with you ex over child custody? For nowbecause a resolution is coming. Frustrated that your four-year-old has been clingy and whiny? For now. Keep sharing your abundant love, and your child's confidence will grow. When you recognise that your current struggles are temporary, you allow yourself to see the long term. And that's where you'll begin to glimpse all the hope and joy your future holds. #singleparentsrock #singlemumming #solomun #singlemother #singlemum

22.01.2022 Decent affordable housing is fundamental to the health and well-being of people and to the smooth functioning of economies. - Yet around the world, in developing and advanced economies alike, cities are struggling to meet that need. If current trends in urbanisation and income growth persist, by 2025 the number of urban households that live in substandard housing - or are so financially stretched by housing costs could grow to 440 million, from 330 million. - This could mea...n that the global affordable housing gap would affect one in three urban dwellers, about 1.6 billion people. - A new McKinsey Global Institute (MGI) report, A blueprint for addressing the global affordable housing challenge, defines the affordability gap as the difference between the cost of an acceptable standard housing unit (which varies by location) and what households can afford to pay using no more than 30% of income. The analysis draws on MGIs Cityscope database of 2,400 metropolitan areas, as well as case studies from around the world. - It finds that the affordable housing gap now stands at $650 billion a year and that the problem will only grow as urban populations expand: current trends suggest that there could be 106 million more low-income urban households by 2025, for example. To replace todays inadequate housing and build the additional units needed by 2025 would require $9 trillion to $11 trillion in construction spending alone. With land, the total cost could be $16 trillion. Of this, they estimate that $1 trillion to $3 trillion may have to come from public funding. - These are huge numbers, which just keep growing. ShareAbode believes that one of the strategies to help with affordable housing is to share the resources that already exist. - Australia has 200,000 more homes sitting empty than it had a decade ago. There is gross under-occupation across Australia. Additional to this is that the ABS recorded 2 million lone-person households throughout Australia. Seems to me thats a BIG number of already available housing that would change lives of made available to rent and home share ... What do you think? See more

22.01.2022 Imagine solving the huge challenges facing single parent families - homelessness, poverty and social isolation. Imagine creating a path to a safe, secure and bright future for these families! Would you not support that courageous action and cheer it along? Ive just launched our first fundraiser. And, with my hand on my heart I ask for your support. Because, I am only one person, I only have so many connections and I have limited time. But I believe that when we share th...e load we can turn a ripple into a wave and today Im asking for YOU to help turn the ripple Ive started into a wave. ShareAbode was created as a result of an unmet social need. A need for single parents to have a strategic solution that gives them the opportunity to create a stable, sustainable and affordable home base for themselves and their children. We do this by providing stable accommodation opportunities, while simultaneously addressing other critical unmet needs such as: poverty reduction decreased social isolation social support reduced fatigue & mental health related conditions (such as depression) shared resources With over 959,000 single parents in Australia, the lack of stable, sustainable and affordable accommodation options often keeps single parents (predominantly women) in a cycle of #domesticviolence (single largest contributor to homelessness), poverty, social isolation and increased risks of depression and suicide. But to continue to connect single parent families and improve our reach, long-term viability and social impact, our current platform requires a major upgrade. Please help us to spread awareness of ShareAbode and of this campaign because I cannot do it alone. If everyone who reads this clicked the link below and donated $10.00 and past it onto their network, asking them me to do the same, it would create a ripple effect like none other. https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/ Im gratitude ~ Willo #homelessnessawareness #endpoverty #affordablehousing #singleparents

22.01.2022 Its not something that we talk about often. Too many of us are focused on the struggle of our daily lives to even think of giving back. But in all honesty, we know at the back of our minds that there are people in our communities who are living below the bread line and subsisting on a day to day basis. If it has always been a thought to get around to giving and you needed a little push in the right direction, here are a few reasons why giving back to society is important:... It creates a feeling of gratitude Giving encourages a culture of giving Strengthens communities and nations Alleviates poverty, struggling and suffering It helps you to share resources Creates a nation of emotionally aware people Provides people with the building blocks for their future development You will grow as a person It feels good to give Whichever way you look at it, giving back to society has profound benefits for both the giver and the recipient. The potential for strengthening people and nations through giving back to society is huge and something that we all need to consider looking into. Heres hoping that you are inspired to give and contribute to society in whichever shape or form in your life and if you want to extend that to support us at ShareAbode to continue helping single parent families, you can do this through the link below: https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/

22.01.2022 Today is R U OK? R U OK is a suicide prevention charity in Australia. Its an amazing charity and has done fantastic things throughout the years. Today is all about encouraging responsible public discussion of social isolation and it's negative consequences such as suicide. It's about promoting awareness of mental health and suicide and encouraging Australians to reach out to those at risk in their community. Today I make a point of checking in with those I know to make su...re they are OK. The majority of these are single parents and as a single parent myself I know first hand how lonely and socially isolating it can be. How alone you can feel and emotionally down it can get you. Single parenting is a focused role of raising a child alone, working long hours or more than one job to make ends meet and whatever spare time is found, is making sure daily responsibilities are completed and maybe staying up a little later to have some alone time after the kids go to bed. It's for sure a heavy load. One thing that has really helped me with loneliness and social isolation as a single parent is sharing my home and life with another single parent. It's helped me share the load of life, parenting, financial responsibilities and everything in between so I don't feel so overwhelmed and get down on myself. It's taken away financial pressures and it's given me a fellow adult, another single parent to socially interact with and run things by which has taken the pressure off in many ways. And this has been the same outcome for many single parents who are home-sharing, that connected through ShareAbode. Because having two single parents sharing a house together provides valuable social support, greater emotional stability and reduces the fatigue and depression for themselves and their children in challenging times. If you do anything today, make the two things you do really powerful to support this: 1. Make sure you ask those you love and care for is they are OK 2. Support ShareAbode in delivering this solution based platform to single parents because it is a socially sustainable way to truly make a difference to them and their children for a healthier emotionally and mentally driven life. https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/

22.01.2022 Want to know the human side, the backbone, the story behind ShareAbode? The Director Wilhelmina Ford takes us on her journey, thanks to Lauren Kate (Mad Max Mum) for the opportunity to be included in her blog. https://www.madmaxmum.com///ehvw8i7oskoew1lf1fyf93ufo4lzh1

22.01.2022 There is a lovely African proverb: ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ African culture recognises that parenting is a shared responsibility a communal affair not just the concern of parents or grandparents, but of the extended family. Uncles, aunts, cousins, neighbours and friends can all be involved, and all have a part to play. Here are some tips to help to build your support network: ~ Look beyond your parents and connect with siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunts ...and uncles. You won’t want to share your woes with all of your extended family, but a quick text, an interesting quote, or a phone call just to say hello are all part of rebuilding your tribe. ~ Social media can be a great place for making new friends after your divorce. However, you must be intentional about how you use it. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram have lives of their own. There are certainly things NOT TO DO, like airing your dirty laundry and engaging in drama with your ex. Social media is a good place to connect with people who have similar interests, like here for example. ~ Join the gym, mums and bubs group, knitting circle - whatever you feel you need to add to your life and your wellbeing. Not only does it make you feel good, but you have a high chance of meeting someone you might click with. ~ Join a new parent support group (google this or go to a facebook group and search) ~ Go to places where other parents will be. Library time, parks, local kid friendly events ~ Find some kid friendly cafes to visit, you’ll find other parents trying to get some me time in and the eye roll and knowing glance is enough to start a conversation ~ Get to know your neighbours. Make contact, continue to maintain contact. A tea and a biscuit on the veranda can be the start of a lifelong relationship that’s really supportive for you and your kids ~ Offer to watch a friends kids when they feel stressed or overworked. Like attracts like and what’s a few hours of crazy with 4 kids anyways to help a fellow parent. As 21st-century families, we have much to learn from the people of Africa. Even if we do not have extended family of our own on our doorstep, we can be ‘family’ to others in our community, giving and receiving mutual help and support. #singlemum #solomum #singledads #singleparenting #buildyourtribe #singlemumhelp #singlemumsupport

21.01.2022 4 kids all about 2 years apart and a puppy thats massive. This is my reality, this is my home and it was all my CHOICE. Oh wait ... you thought they were all mine? No. Theres also another single mum in the mix. 6 people under one house sharing a home, sharing resources, sharing ups and downs as well as the washing up, child rearing, puppy responsibilities and cleaning. My lifes never been busier, louder or chaotic!!! But its also never been more full of support, fi...nancially easier and full of laughter. The house is full. Im not socially isolated anymore and my kids are integrating with other kids without even stepping out of the front door. My showers last longer than 5 minutes and they are quiet too!! The house gets a thorough clean every fortnight and it costs half as much (we split cleaning costs) and speaking of money, the bill payment is less stressful because my mortgage is half as much and so are my expenses. My kids have these two other amazing boys to play with, learn from and also teach. They make games to play in the playroom and run around crazy outside and because of this the TV is rarely on. And the eldest tries to educate my two on how good veggies are too! Bonus! Theres moments of madness, noise when you want peace and mess when you just want a clean home but when I see the benefits of happiness and support all 6 of us humans get from one another - that stuff just becomes stuff.

21.01.2022 Welcome into my home. My single mum home-share life. Its me, my two children, another single mum and her two children - plus a young dog. We live in a three bedroom townhouse which we have conferred the single car garage into another bedroom. We have a great backyard too. The kids ages are almost 2, almost 6, almost 4 and 8. We both work from home but respect one anothers privacy and limited work hours we have available around the kids. We have been living together ...for nearly 9 months. Why do we do this? Well, for me - its about the practical support, the social aspect and having someone add to the mortgage payment so lifes a little easier logistically and financially as well as not so socially isolating. For her, she was living in her van before coming here. Escaped DV with her baby and travelled for a while but couldnt maintain that for too long. She needed security, safety and a place that didnt cost her heaps of money. Everyones journey in single parenting is different but the needs are still the same. A bit of ease is always needed and less financial stress always welcomed with social adult conversation thrown in. Our kids adore one another and watching them blossom and create their own relationships within the 4 of them has been really beautiful. Its also shown us as parents how important that tribe is not just for us but for our children.

20.01.2022 How much do you need to save to retire comfortably? Have you ever thought about it? High chances are not and thats OK because as a single parent you do get stuck in the living day to day of life, the emergencies and the responsibilities. Totally understandable. But, what if you could do that and still put away some money for that day of retirement? Without working harder or longer hours? Theres an amazing womens run superannuation company called FairVine that help suppor...t women to grow their super through things like top ups, reward shipping and automatic small deposits. You might not have the extra money to contribute but you do have the ability to shop differently and actually get points for shopping converted to dollar figures and put into your superannuation account. Do you know what else helps? Reducing your expenses such as rent and re-occurring living bills. If you reduced yourself rent by just $50 per week whilst still living in a comfortable home you would be able to contribute $2,400 every year extra to your superannuation savings. Do that every second year for 6 years and you would be putting away a nice little sun of $7,200 for your retirement, which is on top of the normal employee contributions. The 2 bedroom townhouse your paying $300 a week for could be a 4 bedroom house for $500 combined with another single parent, not including that extra $50 you out away each week for superannuation savings! How do you want to plan for your future? Whilst still enjoying today? #homesharingistheanswer

20.01.2022 Renting in modern day society isnt so far removed from days past; its just more structured and standardised. Regulations vary by city, county, state and country, but renting an unfurnished property for a term of at least 6 months is the norm in any landlord-tenant relationship. Throw in real estate or rental agent fees and you have yourself a pretty inflexible situation. - When you sign on the dotted line and receive your house key, you: ~ Enter into a rental contract with... designated start/end date. ~ Pay first months rent and last months rent. ~ Pay a bond ~ Are responsible for covering the agency fee or commission (from a % of the monthly rent up to 23 months equivalent of rent, depending on your city or country). ~ Are responsible for utilities activation and/or contracts. ~ Are required to do credit and background checks plus references. ~ You need to hire a mover for your furniture or buy new furniture to fill this new space. - When the 12 months are up, the most likely outcome and the path of least resistance is to renew the lease. Because one thing we can all agree on is that moving is an expensive pain in the ass, especially on a single parent salary and time budget with kids in tow! - Homesharing in another single parents home as an option can help make most of this easier time wise and money wise. ~ Typically, theres no lease agreement or minimum commitment (with exceptions). ~ You pay only for the term you have agreed to stay for. ~ Theres no bond ~ Agencies fees or commissions dont exist ~ Utilities are already connected so no out-of-pocket contract set up - Food for thought for those struggling to get a real estate rental, those with limited funds and those setting up a new journey as a single parent - Much Easier & Enjoyable. Here at ShareAbode many single parents with homes around Australia looking for another single parent to join forces. See more

18.01.2022 Im a big believer that some of the most important, worthwhile lessons in life are often the most simple, the most overlooked. One of my greatest realisations is that any situation is far less important than your interpretation of it. In fact, I go as far as to say that anything in life is simply a product of the meaning that we give it. As Wayne Dyer said: If you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.... And this is extremely significant because it unblocks any door in the world. To be able to have that perspective, that understanding, that you are the one in control. Knowing that will undoubtedly take you places. The question of course is what are you doing about it. Right? Its no secret that if you look at things with a negative lens theyre going to appear negative. If you look at life as this giant tragedy and youre always the helpless victim, guess what? You will remain that way. Youre essentially enabling a self-fulfilling prophecy. We are who we believe we are. The world around us exists as we allow ourselves to see it. Words like difficult, impossible They have no meaning. They dont even exist until we give them life. Your life shouldn't be about what you can't do, but instead HOW will you! #keepgoing #thisisyourtime

18.01.2022 Sound on ... You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete. #makingadifference #goodcause #philanthropy #giveback

16.01.2022 Single mum in a beautiful home is searching for another single mum to home-share her place. Se has a quiet lifestyle and feels that her home is her sanctuary for healing and caring for her daughter and wants another single mum who is on the same page. She is offering 2 bedrooms and own large living, own bathroom and seperate toilet. Shared large kitchen, dining, day living room, patio, yard. If this resonates with you or you know a single mum that would team up well with thi...s single mum then PM me or comment below for information on how to enquire through ShareAbode #queenslandmums #singlemothers

16.01.2022 ShareAbode has a campaign and news is spreading - but we do need more support. Our campaign is an important one. Its a tough one. But it is also a much needed one because the challenges faced by single parents and their children (over 959,000) arent going away. They are actually getting worse. In 2019 Specialist Homelessness Service reported 95,700 of 290,300 clients (1 in 3) were homeless single parents 1 in 6 were children under the age of 10 (17% or 48,900 clients)... and 1 in 10 were children and youth aged 10 17 (13% or 36,900) And in the same year White Ribbon Australia reported its domestic violence clients being 86.2% women (116,400) These are big social issues which the Government throws lots of money at to fix but no real fixes occur, not inter-generationally or socially. Not in an empowering way either. This campaign is about getting the voices and words of single parents out, to highlight the daily struggles and show that ShareAbode is helping to make a difference in that home-sharing can give us single parents a stable and safe base for a future that can be planned, thus creating more choices and greater quality of life for both parents and children. Support us, share this with others and help us to continue helping them: https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/

16.01.2022 When I was younger and long before I walked the single mum journey, I was often focused on the next big milestone, event, celebration, or purchase: birthdays, weddings, travel, jobs, cars. - My days were often defined by what came next. At times, I anticipated even more than I experienced. Age and single mummy life has given me the gift of reflection and reprioritising what gives me immediate joy as well as the ability to appreciate my todays. - And, as time zooms by, the... little things in life have increasingly become the big things. These days I can more easily recalibrate what is important in my life. So, what are my once little things that are now oh-so-very essential to my daily joy? What are my priorities? ** Giggling and ticking and being so silly with my kids ** Lying on my back and watching the trees sway and making shapes out of clouds with my kids ** Walking the dog by myself ** Showers what last longer than 10 minutes and are uninterrupted ** Tea that stays hot for the full time I am drinking it ** The giggling and simplicity of play from things as simple as balloons and torches and bubbles ** Putting away $50 a fortnight into my investments for a future nest egg All of these little things have made up the story of my single mum journey and older years and will continue for quite some time and sometimes its easy to loose sight of the magnitude of these everyday minor occurrences. But, in this moment, Im putting it out there acknowledging it. How about you? What are some of the small things that have made your big things BIG.

14.01.2022 "Ive always tried to remind myself that theres always something good that can come out of something bad sometimes you just have to look a little harder to find it" said by Kietah Martens-Shaw, Founder of BOKideas and the guest on this episode. B.OKideas

14.01.2022 In an era where our environment is at its lowest point, you may wonder how the way you live can contribute in making a change for the better. Well, home sharing might just be the answer.

14.01.2022 Find your tribe. I’m sure you’ve heard this bantered around a lot lately. I use this phrase all the time. But what does it really mean and what can it do for you? As human beings, we have a need for tribe. Our three pillars of existencelove, safety and belongingare what make us who we are. If one or more of these are missing, life just doesn't feel quite right. Among other things such as family and friends, belonging is also about finding your tribe. A tribe can be descr...ibed as a group of people who are your kind of people. Who get you, who have a common interest or goal, who work towards doing what they love and therefore what you love. As s single parent, having that tribe can be the saviour to you on days when you need support the most. But, how do you find that tribe? Well, it doesn’t happen overnight. It also isn’t about overwhelming your time with a multitude of interest-based classes, MeetUps or networking events. You have to be intentional and focused. Take time to map out what you want, what your interests are and what values you hold. What type of people do you want around your children? Life is too short not to be surrounded by your tribe.

14.01.2022 We are social beings and as such the caring and sharing concepts of shared living justify it is good for our wellbeing. We have come from joint family to nuclear family and starting now to peek into community/shared living. Living together is the key to a better and longer life. Sharing pluses and minuses with another is a good thing in life. The days of the joint family system are gone and have become a thing of the past. Then we entered the single / nuclear family system.... Presently we are entering or have already entered community/shared living. More the exposure, more the life quality and more the life longevity. The more we are extrovert and social, the more we live. Shared living gives us so many things and in return we too must give. That is the fruitful and beneficial thing about living together. The great benefit of living together is that life is a mixture of plus and minus times, happy and unhappy times. Remember and mind that all the times in the life will never be the same. Better and longer living calls for the community living which is a must condition for such a life. We cannot bloom in isolation carrying the weight of the world by ourselves. When we share and build a community around us our happiness enhances and the total miseries / sufferings diminish. #mumtribe #parenttribe #kidstribe

13.01.2022 {Living with HousematesTips on Keeping the Fridge Manageable} Oh yuck you open the door of the fridge and it’s full of nasty containers of dead stuff. Or is it? Who knows? You know they aren’t yours, so you can’t throw them out. Can you? No, you can’t. Different people treat kitchen space differently, which is why we always recommend figuring out your needs before moving doing homesharing with someone. {Allotting Space in the Fridge}... The refrigerator in most home share situations is a communal appliance. And it is THE central appliance everyone uses. So how do you use share it successfully? \\Tip 1: Assign Spaces// The best plan is to have areas for each person in the house share. Top shelf, bottom shelf, left-hand crisper, etc. Just make an agreement as part of the moving in process. Lay it out and make it clear whose area is whose. It just doesn’t work to be loosey-goose about this. We all forget stuff in the fridge. That left-over from the Chinese restaurant? The half can of soup? Whose onion is turning soft and liquid? Things simply get lost and then it then they get yucky. The fridge becomes a mess quickly. \\Tip 2: Cleaning// Speaking of messes. Communal refrigerators lend themselves to being crowded and moldy. So here’s what you do. At an agreed upon time (Sunday evening, Saturday morning, whatever works) one person takes everything out of the refrigerator and places it on counters and tables. With the fridge now empty, the same person cleans the fridge. This is a great task to do with the kids involvement. Then each person has a certain amount of time to retrieve items from the counters and return them to their area of the fridge. A reasonable amount of time might be two hours. At the conclusion of that time, the person cleaning the fridge takes everything left on the counters and throws it out!! Voila! you now have a clean fridge. Save this post for later so you know what to do if you get stuck in this situation. #housematetips #homesharing #happyhome #flatmates #colivinghouse

13.01.2022 Welcome To ShareAbode. ShareAbode is an online platform that allows single parents to connect with once another for the purpose of sharing a home so thy can reduce rent and expenses and gain practical support and friendship. It is currently only Australia wide. Please go to www.shareabode.com.au to create a free profile and start looking for other single parents in your area. We are currently in the middle of a fundraising campaign to raise vital funds to create a new platfo...rm so we can continue to support single parent sand this children. If you could please support us and go to the the link below to donate a few dollars it would be a huge help. And if you can also share the campaign link through your network, friends, family and here through your page on facebook to extend the awareness and raise more funds it would be invaluable to the success of ShareAbode. https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/ With Gratitude Wilhelmina Ford (Founder)

12.01.2022 It doesn't matter if the plates are plastic. It doesn't matter if the cups chosen are plastic kids cups. And it doesn't matter if none of them match. What matters is that we create a home for our children thats full of love, attention, harmony and community spirit. When you live within a community: be it a cul-de-sac full of supportive neighbours, or a home-share with other single parents, or a multi-generational co-living space what your doing is actually showing your child...ren that asking for help doesn't mean your weak, that everyone is different and being inclusive is vital for social sustainability. That family isn't just blood. That working together as a team creates a much lighter load for everyone. And that it doesn't matter what the table looks like when the kids set it, as long as they contribute to the working of the house. #livethelittlethings

11.01.2022 The lack of stable, sustainable and affordable accommodation options for single parents often keeps them (predominantly women) in a cycle of domestic violence (single largest contributor to homelessness), poverty, social isolation and increased risks of depression and suicide. This situation has been exacerbated by the impact of COVID-19, where incidents of domestic violence increased expediently, and single parent families experienced a greater prevalence of joblessness and ...isolation. It is time, as a society, we fully value social factors as equals and as a complementing factor to economic and environmental values. By focusing on the social value of the individual and the impact those individuals have when aggregated into a community, we empower single parents and their children to improve their life circumstances and aspire to inter-generational change. ShareAbode successfully provides stable accommodation opportunities for single parents, whilst simultaneously addressing other critical unmet needs such as: Poverty reduction Decreased social isolation Social support Reduced fatigue & mental health related conditions (depression) Shared resources Home-sharing for single parents is one pathway out of poverty, social isolation, domestic violence, struggle, poor housing conditions and homelessness. We believe that these things are worth fighting for, fundraising for and standing for. But our battle is not an easy one. We are tackling long term, systemic and inter-generational issues and because of this, we need support. 1. Rally with us, behind us so together we can raise awareness and increase our reach though your networks, social media channels and connections. 2. Contribute financially to our fundraising part of the movement. Its not so much the amount, but the action behind it. How can we ask of others to give, without us first giving? And every donation that comes in, is social proof that shows there are people behind us, that believe in us and want to keep us going. Start by going to the link below . Continue by sharing this post. https://readyfundgo.com/project/shareabodefunding/ #affordablehousing #domesticviolence #endpoverty #singleparents

10.01.2022 While sitting in the 2 hour wait from NSW to QLD Ive been listening to a Kerwin Rae podcast with Dr Vanessa LaPointe and its so insightful and eye opening. Its about raising an emotionally intelligent child. About how to teach our child to love, to have good self worth and that as parents we will mess up but we can still help them Crete a blueprint for being. Its the difference between seeing our children not through our lens but through theirs as their own experience.... Without telling them how to feel, how to react, or shutting them down to behave a certain way for our own need of control. See them and hear them. I hear you and I see you If youve got an hour to listen - this is really interesting to open up a different thought process. https://podcasts.apple.com//unstoppable-with-/id1435769990

10.01.2022 Moving to a better neighbourhood, in a nicer house and with a backyard doesnt have to come to working longer hours. It can be as easy as splitting the cost of rent with another single parent that wants the same. For some single parents a bigger home in a better neighbourhood gives them the opportunity to create a lifestyle they might otherwise not be able to afford. That $350 per week your spending for your small townhouse with a paved courtyard in an OK suburb could be put towards a $700 per week house, in a more affluent neighbourhood and with a gorgeous backyard.

10.01.2022 Everyone needs to be known by someone. For our kids, knowing that they are known and loved by one caring adult is the central predictor of resilience. Having great people around them is one of the next critical resources for building wellbeing. When you feel like you have people around you who are your people, it feels wonderful. But more than that, it makes you more resilient and more capable of handling the ups and downs of life. Our kids, just like us, crave that feeling ...of being part of something bigger than themselves. Having a group they identify with and that makes them feel that they belong, is powerful. Human beings in a group nourish each other emotionally. And without that support, were left feeling distanced, depressed and physically and emotionally unwell. And as kids get older, the role of trusted adults other than parents only grows in importance. Its very useful for a young person to get something thats like parenting advice from a person who doesnt have parenting skin in the game. As single parents that can be tricky. But not impossible. As a single parent, you have to find your tribe in order for your child to find theirs because those trusted friends of yours will be trusted adults for your kids. #letthekids #parenthood

10.01.2022 ShareAbode is not a matching among service. The last thing I would want to do is disempower single parents by my choices on them about who they should home share with. What we need is empowered, inspired and motivated resources and services that back single parents to change their mindset and behaviours so our next generation doesn’t fall into the same traps. #generationalwealth #singlemum #children #NextGenerationofLeaders #soloparenting

09.01.2022 Monday’s blog is out now https://shareabode.com.au/blog/ #singlemum #singledads #singleparenting #declutteryourlife

09.01.2022 ShareAbode isn't just a resource for finding someone to share a rental with, its got so many different resources available. One of them is ShareAbode: The Podcast. From financial advisors, to separation strategists, to gentle parenting experts, to councillors, domestic violence survivors, cancer survivors, instagram influencers making a difference, campaigners, single mums doing it all and a whole lot more. You can find all the episodes at: https://podcasts.apple.com//shareabode-the-p/id1446676055

06.01.2022 Building a relationship is like solving a jigsaw puzzleputting pieces together to produce a complete picture. Some of them are made out of cheap material. They are easy to put together but they easily break when faced with a difficulty. Some of them are more complex. They come with many disconnected pieces, no clear starting point or step-by-step instructions. You have to try different combinations until you find the one that works.... Sometimes, we become obsessed with putting all the little pieces together and working on the solution without really knowing whether we would like the big picture once it is complete. Sometimes, it is quite the opposite. When the pieces are unregularly shaped, you might initially think that creating a bridge between seemingly unrelated pieces is impossible. But as the puzzle takes shape, the patterns we see start to make sense. After a few struggle along the way, you may be surprised how much you actually like the pattern. So never act on feelings that are based on the incomplete piece of the puzzle. Wait to see the complete picture. #jigsawpieces #singlemum #singledads #homesharing

06.01.2022 On the ShareAbode blog today "the secret to finding a good housemate" https://shareabode.com.au/the-secret-to-finding-a-good-hou/ #SingleMomLife #SingleParent #singlemomstrong #singledads #SingleParent

06.01.2022 Life is a multitude of choices. We get to choose what we are going to eat, wear and how to do our hair. We choose if we are going to go to work or call in sick. Choices and options are a beautiful freedom. Choices lead to decisions and being a good decision maker is premium in a world full of options. The decisions we make shape the direction of our lives. What we say no to is just as important as the opportunities we say yes to along the journey. ... We have the freedom to choose who we are going to be in life. #whatisyourstory

05.01.2022 The feeling of belonging to a community, or communities, makes me a kinder and happier parent because it makes me a kinder and happier person. What does community mean to you? #thisisbelonging

05.01.2022 No parent should have to choose between safety for themselves and their children and homelessness. Yet this happens so often! - Parents that choose to leave an abusive, toxic or controlling relationship in order to protect themselves and their kids; be it physical protection or emotional protection, more often than not end up in shelters, living in their cars or couch surfing. - It takes a massive amount of courage to leave. Its scary. Its confusing. Its stressful. ... - The thing is these parents which leave are not sitting there and telling their kids This isnt how it should be they are SHOWING them. - These parents are displaying to their children that you can change your fate. That you dont have to be put down or controlled to be loved. That you have the power to come back from darkness and create a life you want. - There are over 959,000 single parents that have been though this. They are struggling to make ends meet, to juggle the responsibilities and have a challenging time a around. Many hold down more than one job, have no social life and no reflection time, living off basic necessities. I think they deserve more of a voice, after all these single parents are growing the next generations leaders, teachers, parents, partners ... the next generation - they shouldnt feel for belittled or left in isolation and told ... you made your choice and now you deal with it. - ShareAbode has connected hundreds of single parents together for home-sharing which has helped them to reside their expenses and rent, given them practical support and friendship. It helps them and their children have an easier and more enjoyable journey and opens their lives up for CHOICE. Next week I will be asking for support for ShareAbode to continue doing the work its been doing through a fundraising campaign. So stay tuned and see how you can help. See more

04.01.2022 How to write an awesome rental application as a single parent. "One final thing when I look at rental properties I dress in business attire. Looking like a professional makes me stand out. I know at each open home I have been to I have been the only one dressed this way and the agents tend to talk to me for longer. The agents are the ones who recommend you to the landlord so building a rapport, looking professional and being friendly really helps" Read more below

04.01.2022 Life is like a camera. Just focus on what's important and capture the good times, Develop from the negatives, and if things don't work out, Just take another shot. #perspective

03.01.2022 Multi-tasking like a single parent! There is nothing quite like it and there aren't any breaks or "hunnies, can you take the kids for half an hour so I can ...." We have daycare and school as a break from the children, but I wouldn't call it a break, as such ... Many of us will be working a job, working on our businesses or still caring for Baby Number (insert number here!) ~ So, none of these "escapes" are really valid break are they!? There are other strategies such as a b...abysitter or a friend or family member giving you some respite. This generally isn't a regular occurrence but its still very much welcomed. Kids going to the other parents house, also really good, but not consistent and generally spent working, also, or doing the parental duties to prepare for the children return. Breaks aren't always not having the children, it's really more about shouldering the load of what the children require on a daily basis that is heavy to carry when you try to mix it with every other responsibility you have as a human. Consider everyday life, if your load was lighter. If your kids were entertained longer, giving you more time to do what you need to do. That your bills and rent were reduced so you were less stressed. That you could have an uninterrupted shower on a regular basis and it wasn't always you cleaning up and cooking? Well, this is what single parent life is when you share with another single parent. How do we know? Because we have connected hundreds of them through Australia and not only do we talk the talk, we walk it: We home-share too.

03.01.2022 When your a single parent, it's not just the parenting thats a juggle. It's the balance of work and parent. It's the making of breakfasts, lunches and dinners. It's the taxi service which comes with the parenting role. It's the shopping and the cleaning and the laundry. It's the combination of every single one of these MUST DO's thats a requirement of parenting and when your doing it alone, it can be a lot to manage. Not just emotionally, but logistically and financial...ly. It's been said that we need to apply our oxygen mask first, in order to do well for others. ShareAbode could be your oxygen mask, a missing puzzle piece, a way to win back some time, some extra money in your account and even some emotional balance. It really is as simple as sharing a home with another single parent. Reduce the rent, allocate the savings to something else and together you can hire a cleaner once a fortnight and forget about the deep clean - therefore continuing to more self-care time, less emotional stress and less logistical juggling. #createyourhappy

02.01.2022 Yes, it does take time to find the single parent that you will resonate with enough to want to share daily life with, but the benefits of persistence far outweigh the cons. A life thats easier financially, logistically, socially and emotionally. Company for your children and someone you can run things off when times are tough or challenging. Just because your a single parent, it doesn't mean you have to battle alone. There are other single parents out there that have similar goals and dreams, with kids you will adore and memories you can create together. Just persist.

01.01.2022 \\Methods to Divide Chores in a Home-Share// Every home needs to be cleaned. When people share housing the question arises about how the common areas that everyone uses are cleaned. Here are three methods that have worked well for single parents in the past. ~Hire a Pro~... If you can both afford it, the easiest, best way to get the house cleaned is to have someone else do it. Seriously once every two weeks by a professional will avoid quite a lot of conflict about the quantity and quality of housecleaning. Since you are both saving money by sharing housing, you might be able to afford this option. ~Rotate Chores Weekly~ Figure out how many chores you have and divide them equally among the housemates. This includes the kids!!! Decide if these chores are done weekly or every other week. Put chores in a set order and everyone in a set order and every week it gets done easier. ~Areas of Responsibility~ Create equitable areas of responsibility (vacuuming common rooms, taking out trash and recycling, washing kitchen floor, toy clean up, setting the table etc. ) divide them among everyone by preference. Each person is responsible for their area or task for a month. They can ask for a change at the end of the month. If no one wants a change each person keeps their area of responsibility. It’s a great way to create a routine for the kids that they start to do without question. ~Follow Your System~ Once you decide your system for maintaining a clean home, you just have to follow through! It may seem tough to come to an agreement, but one of the benefits of sharing housing is that you can divide tasks or even afford professional help! The most important thing is that you come to an agreement about how to maintain your home that all adults and kids can agree and benefit from. #homesharing #colivingspaces #sharingtheload

01.01.2022 Parenting is challenging and a parent without a village not only loses the ability for connection with others but can distort their own sense of self, causing them to feel that our inadequacies are to blame for our struggles, which couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth in fact is that you are doing plenty. You may feel inadequate, but that’s because you're on the front lines of the journey, which means you're the one hardest hit. You absorb the impacts, feel the feel...s and carry on regardless. #parentinspiration To be without a village is to be forced to create your tribes during seasons of your life when you have the least time and energy to do so and you run around like crazy trying to make up for the interaction, stimulation and learning opportunities that come with parenting because you cannot solely get this from yourself and your children. And because of this forced way of being you forget what normal looks and feels like, which leaves you feeling as if you're not doing enough, or enough of the right things. With this, a door opens that contributes to your feeling disempowered by the many responsibilities and pressures you're trying so hard to keep up with. #momsacrifices But, starting within yourself and working your way out, you can create your own villages and you can contribute to your children’s natural way of being which is packs of children, communicating together, exploring the backyards, writing in the dirt with sticks away from screens, walls of the house and of various ages and genders with each other and their imaginations. And here’s three ways you can: 1. Join a new parent support group (google this or go to a facebook group and search) 2. Go to places where other parents will be. Library time, parks, local kid friendly events 3. Offer to watch a friends kids when they feel stressed or overworked. Like attracts like and what’s a few hours of crazy with 4 kids anyways to help a fellow parent. #parentinginspiration #parentinspired #inspiredparenting #inspiringparents