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25.01.2022 This week has been filled with epic highs and teary, life is precious lows. My business has completely taken me by surprise. The launch of the SA Woman awards surpassed any expectation I had. Nominations looking like breaking last years record. A buzz of excitement. New members joining. An event almost sold out. A fb memory reminding me of how far I’ve come. It’s been phenomenal. And then, news that the world lost a superstar. One that lit up the room with her smile and her... energy. Touched so many lives. Cared deeply for others. Too young. Far far too young. So this weekend put all these things on your ‘list’. You know the one we create with all the boring to-dos like washing the floors or buying that new sponge you keep forgetting about... but really if you look at it those to-dos are meaningless. These ones below are the ones that matter.

23.01.2022 I know I ‘talk’ a lot on here, but I don’t stop and reflect on how far I have come with my businesses sometimes. Thankyou Facebook memories for taking me right back to that feeling in 2018 when I decided to give SA Woman one last crack... Have a read below for more! ... Xx

22.01.2022 When you’re relieved that the baby is finally asleep after an unsettled day. But then wonder if you should poke her just to make sure she is still breathing... mum life, hey? It’s messed up! Note. Not actually going to poke the baby. She just made a noise and I held my breath hoping that she wasn’t actually needing me

22.01.2022 I’m feeling a bit fired up today. If you are easily offended scroll by. Its that time of year, we are bombarded with diet and weight loss posts. I saw a post in a group that I hear of often with weight loss: woman is overweight. Woman goes to Dr. Dr says here is a pill. Woman takes pill. Loses weight. Woman stops taking pill. Woman puts weight back on. Cycle starts all over again. Dr doesn’t ask the tough questions. Dr doesn’t suggest mindset support or counselling. Dr does...Continue reading

20.01.2022 Morning! How every morning starts, abckids Anxiety level down a few notches. She slept in the portacot for the first time! We had a few wake ups but given it’s a new place that’s to be expected. Now to pack up and head home, which I’m a bit sad about actually! So peaceful here!... Ps. Thankyou to all for the comments and messages yesterday. While I’m sad that so many of us face anxiety on the daily, I certainly feel less alone.

19.01.2022 http:// BUSINESS... Worthiness // Are you someone that has done a lot of self work only for things to come up again and you’re like, ‘really?? This old chestnut??’. That is me this week. ... Last week I was on a huge high. The SA Woman Awards have surpassed any expectations I had (I was keeping it small this year... ). It has attracted a whole number of amazing new women to the community. Some finding out about it for the first time, others been sitting watching for a while. This week the success has continued. And I have noticed I feel sick. I feel uneasy. I feel anxious. Why? Because success. Because money. Because worthiness. Because that fave imposter syndrome. All things I thought I had worked through before. But here they are surfacing again as I hit a new business level. What will people think with all these new members? Will they judge me because more members obviously means more $$s? Will someone try and cut me down? But it feels easy. I come from a line of Aussie battlers. It shouldn’t be easy. You don’t earn money from something that is easy and that you enjoy to do. Am I worthy of such success? I’m just little ol me. I’m not anyone special! Do I even really know what I’m doing? I feel so lucky for all of this. But Our family is not ‘lucky’, it’s going to be taken from me. Can you see what I mean? It doesn’t matter how much self work you have done these thoughts can creep up again! The things that keep popping up are often our life lessons, and I know for me it’s also about halting them with me so they don’t continue to flow on through my kids too. I’ve been here before. I know what I need to do. I’ve got the tool belt. I’ve got the people to talk to. So while the above may sound overwhelming, I know I will push through it! Just One of those tools is walking, it’s a way to make sense of my thoughts, to step away from the computer and lose myself in nature and music. So I took E out for a walk and I thought I missed the rain, but albeit, nope! We got wet! But I wasn’t annoyed, I felt like it was a way of cleansing of washing away those old crappy self beliefs (my husband thinks I’m crazy. He’s like, ‘it just rained’ . Totally misses the symbolism!! ). Washing away Those old mindsets I have been taught, so I can instill new ones. I don’t have the solutions nor am I going to tell you to go do ‘xyz’ - because what is needed is different for everyone. But what I will say is it doesn’t matter how confident and together someone may look, they are probably battling a lot of the same things you are! 10 years into business and I still wonder if I even know what I’m doing! We are constantly doing the self-work, it’s all part of the human journey.

19.01.2022 Getting our purple lipstick on! she looovved it! Did you know your kids watch everything you do? And soak it up and will often copy too! Yep, cheeky monkeys!! Even Miss E is already doing it lots! I’m so conscious of how they view our relationship with food, their bodies and movement. ... I want them to see movement as fun and joyful. Having fun while exercising. Encouraging them to go outdoors and play. Making movement fun or a game. Sending them to ‘work’ with dad also sees them be around positive influences who are having fun (most of the time!) while exercising. Eating foods that make us feel good and nourish our bodies (the boys have still gone through fussy stages! Nothing perfect here!) and eating variety and in moderation. If I notice lots of visits to the cupboard I ask them if they are hungry or are they bored. We talk about choices of different foods and don’t deny them less nourishing foods when out - but we don’t buy them for the house ourself (because if they are there we will all eat it!!). Not seeing me pick my body apart or hear me call myself fat. We also have discussions with them about different body types and that health isn’t about size, if we ever hear them speaking about others (kids can be so damn blunt!! A asked me why I still had a fat tummy recently ). I do fail at not swearing in front of them though It’s not easy that’s for sure, but I am hopeful it will see them grow up to have a healthy relationship with food, exercise and their bodies.

18.01.2022 THIS. Today I Ran. I mean really ran. Sprinted. A number of reps of them. And god it felt good. My body felt good. My shins finally played the game. My post-baby body felt supported and strong. My lungs felt open. ... Afterwards? My mood all afternoon was awesome! More relaxed, more patient. Anxiety down. I exercise for how it makes me feel. What it does to the ‘look’ of my body is a side factor. I want to be able to move, to feel strong, to do up my shoes easily, to run around with the kids, to lift the shopping. It’s about quality of life, not just a dress size. We are in a society that too often sees exercise as punishment. Sees it as a means to an end to lose weight. But why if we saw it as a way to nurture ourselves? To support our mental health as much as our physical health? Movement comes in so many forms. I have felt joy from Barre, from Pilates, from running, from walking... others I know find it lifting weights, or dancing or doing yoga. The key to embracing movement is finding something you love. And today I definitely found that!

17.01.2022 http:// BODY... movement... Weight loss is seriously not easy when you want to do it the sustainable way. Ie. no shakes or serious calorie deficits. . Simply eating as healthy as possible and moving my body. It’s slow going. I’m not even a kg down on the scales BUT I am a heap of cms down off my waist and hips! this is One of the reasons I tell some women I have trained in the past to get rid of scales - the don’t accurately show what your body is doing! ... Being conscious about food and movement is one key. Focusing on how you feel as well as a more important marker is another one. Today We had a family lunch. Roast pork and veg and my sisters famous lemon cheesecake... It was delicious!! I ate it all! But I planned for it. I had breakfast and only a small snack. And then afterwards we went for a walk / ride. It wasn’t fast, but it was movement. We are always in such a rush to do things. And weight loss definitely falls on that category. Dont we all want it to happen yesterday? It will be interesting to see how this goes long term! I’ll keep you posted! Xx

16.01.2022 I was in the city today. And I wanted to cry. In a store was a mum with a baby similar to E’s age and she was losing it in the pram. Now, I’m actually not a huge fan of other people’s kids. Sorry, but it’s true, I’m not the mum who will do babysitting regularly or play with other kids on the playground. And so I can usually block out the sound of other peoples kids. But since E us been born I find it so much harder, and today I was hopeless. . Every mum fibre in my body wante...d me to bolt out that store and speed all the way home to cuddle this little face. It was bazaar. I struggled to focus on what I was looking for because I just wanted to get in and out and home to mine or give that baby a hug (I think the mum was trying to get it to sleep). Each child changes you. In the most profound and unexpected of ways. I feel more of a ‘mum’ now I have my 3 cherubs, than I ever did before - despite the fact I’ve been a number for over 9 years, I think it’s taken me this long to figure out who I am as a mum and as Carly. E being born has also given me some strange permission to wear dresses and feminine clothes again, like I’m now just a mum - not just a boy mum! I’ve never been so happy to get home and we’ve had cuddles and games on the couch. And it’s just the best! Fellow mummas have you noticed changes in yourself? Xx

16.01.2022 http:// BODY... hello my friend... // Thursday is for head wraps, snuggles and honouring self. This week has been a biggy. It was a good thing I felt like my spark was back because it’s SA Woman Awards time! The days have been jam packed trying to get it all ready to launch yesterday. And by some miracle (and a very helpful husband!) I managed to do it!... And on the same day I launched, my menstrual cycle decided to start too after its 17-ish month holiday! The symbolism is not lost on me - as I felt like I had returned and was coming out of the fog, so was my body. I’m lucky I don’t suffer from period pain (and so far it’s return while depleting me energetically, hasn’t been painful). So I see my period as an honour in many ways. It gives me a cycle of self too, forces me to slow for a few days and go inward, before blooming back out into the world again. Prior to getting pregnant I had a session with Jess from Earthshine Village, it again reminded me of the innate feminine power I hold within. A recent SA Woman member meetup had some great conversations with Em from FEM Wellness on how we can further embrace this part of our being. We don’t need to hide it or pretend it doesn’t exist. And rather than dread its return, our conversation had me look forward to returning to this cyclical part of me so I can use it to my advantage. So today I’m laying low, resting and soaking up Miss E cuddles. Kinda fits well with this Adelaide Weather too! Xx Ps. Head to SA Woman Australia for details on how to nominate a woman in business you may know!

13.01.2022 Black Friday... Anyone else overwhelmed with all the emails and ads from pages?? Omg as someone trying not to buy unnecessarily, yet also enjoys shopping, all strength to hold back is being tested! ... How are you going up against it? Xx

13.01.2022 Step 1 of the recovery... Movement.

11.01.2022 Parenting with 3 kids.... is getting your first date lunch in 10 months and you both say all you really want is a nap Both us were also feeling a bit socially anxious to do lunch anywhere surrounded by people (we are in the west and there has been a few covid cases around!), so it was sushi under a tree by the beach. And it was perfect! Sometimes you don’t need to do anything fancy, or dress up, to just soak up some couple time! ... Xx Ps. Cheers to my legend of a mum who came and babysat

10.01.2022 The cards never lie

10.01.2022 Anxiety Girl got me good last night. Couldn’t sleep. Breathing shallow.... Unable to eat. Unable to focus. On the positive the house was tidy, anxiety can make me go into ‘keep doing’ mode. It’s such a hard thing to explain to a non-anxiety sufferer. To the outside world, it’s like ‘just stop worrying’ or ‘just switch off’. But the thing is it can be very hard to, it’s just not that simple. There are times that all the tools in the toolbox of support I have don’t cut it, I just have to ride the wave. As some insight into what triggered her to show up. Firstly I had 2 nights of minimal sleep, exhaustion is not helpful for anxiety, it breaks down one of my defences. Last night was then triggered by one of my boys not seeming to be 100%, then a new Covid case released on our side of town and add in a business concern this week and it was all the perfect ingredients for Anxiety Girl to stop by. Every time I tried to change my train of thought my brain would go back. I can try a meditation track, breathing, oils, but my thoughts are stronger. Then I sleep, and I’m dreaming about things related to it. Movement is one of the best things I can do to help my mental health. So as soon as hubby got home from his session this morning I got dressed and out the door. Music, walking, deep breathing and fresh air. And home I am feeling calmer, breathing better and ready to take on the day. Anxiety Girl may have won last night, but not today! Xx Ps. This is not a post asking for advice or tips. Just a post to share what it can be like for an anxiety sufferer and to help others out there feel less alone.

09.01.2022 So much yes to this!!!

09.01.2022 My latest REAL business journey...

07.01.2022 As we head into a new week, stand tall

07.01.2022 Step 2 of recovery... take a nap. This afternoon I did just this - a horizontal life pause. I put Miss E down, hubby was taking the boys for a bike ride and I sent myself to bed. I slept so deeply, I woke up groggy 2 hours later!! ... However, I woke up with an ‘epiphany’ and my gut told me a decision I needed to make. I don’t know if I dreamt it (I’m a big dreamer!), but it was a deep knowing like I had it all planned. My intuition knew. Told my team, and they were all on board and backed it too. And with that decision made I feel like I can make the next steps forward. Phew. And today while on my walk I had two other realisations too. I went back to my personal and business ‘why’. So I decided, One, to make my fitness a priority over the next month. And two, that I don’t need a business coach like I thought I did, I have all I need within me and in my biz village (my team and hubby). It’s time to align, not hustle. Tonight my breathing has returned to normal. Tonight I’m calmer. Tonight I’m in a better mindset, a better mood. Tonight I’m not exhausted. So often I need to have the breakdown for the breakthrough. Wish I could do it slightly more glamorously but it is what it is. It’s still one step at a time, so much still to ‘sort’ in my head. So if you are feeling the same, please stop. Stop trying to force it. Stop trying to push through. Stop trying to keep it all together - be ok with crying. Take a walk, take a nap, get support. This has been my reminder to do it sooner next time. Xx

05.01.2022 http:// BUSINESS... Getting the spark back It’s back. The passion. The fire in my heart. I have been worried it wouldn’t return fully again. That I would just go along doing what I do, because I’m good at it and I enjoy it, but not with that ‘lit up’ feeling.... When you let yourself go slow and be guided innately, not by society, not by others ideals or rules, but by soul, you do things differently. Motherhood has been my focus (and rightly so!) for the last 7 months. While I have been back from maternity leave since June, I’ve felt like I’ve been going with the motions. Still in baby fog. Still just wanting to hibernate with my babe. And that was ok, it was what soul was telling me to do. But the last few weeks I’ve felt that spark again. I’ve wanted to go out (spring probably helps!!). I’ve wanted to get on the computer. I’ve wanted to plan for next year. The ideas are flowing again! And gosh it is such a relief!! I am definitely one to admit I am lucky. 10 years of hard work has us a flexible lifestyle now that is most definitely true. But I am lucky to have a awesome husband, a wonderful mum and super in laws that can help with Miss E so I can work. Today my sons teacher asked if I miss bubs while working. And honestly? Not really! why? Because: - I am able to do work that I love. - She gets to spend time with her Dad or her Nans and Pa. and I believe that is so so important. - My work is flexible so I’m only gone for a few hours at a time. It’s those things that make me lucky. So now I’m in the next phase of this first year of birthing E and me as a mum of three. It’s figuring out the new work/life flow and how much I can and can’t do. Prepare for more sharing as I go! Some days with tears, some days with sparkly highs! But for now it’s just nice to feel like me again. Xx

05.01.2022 Took the new bike for a WALK today.... was a lovely day for it... kids loved their RIDE too. Guess I should thank covid for my enhanced ability to accept change and just deal with what’s here and now... hubby said i was just multi tasking - got both a ride and my daily walk in one! #gotaflatty #familymovement

02.01.2022 7:15am.... is it bedtime yet?? Oh the destruction of someone so small... Is your house looking the same?

01.01.2022 Friday, 6pm. Multi-tasking Mumma... Working on the SA Woman Australia Awards to get them out by next week (branding , nomination template , now just a gazillion other things to do!! Haha!). Ordered dinner.... Thankyou Thai takeaway for a healthier option!... Load of washing in the dryer. Another load in the machine. With Coco, the Kippins flamingo, Miss E’s new sleep buddy trying to get her to ‘smell’ like me ASAP! In the hope it helps with E settling House is a disaster, husband sent to look after E and boys playing xbox... but oh well. Can’t be rocking all the things So yeah... work/life flow is going well #keepingitreal #howshitgetsdone