Marc de Bruin in Sunshine Coast, Queensland | Mental health service

Marc de Bruin

Locality: Sunshine Coast, Queensland

Phone: +61 417 062 506

Address: 13 Eaton Street, Sippy Downs 4556 Sunshine Coast, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.simplifyinglife.com.au

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25.01.2022 The past is history. The future is a mystery. Today is the gift; that's why we call it the present.... #Today #ThePresent

24.01.2022 Treat others the way you would like to be treated. It is so simple... (not talking about the easy bit). #Compassion #Kindness #Counselling #SimplifyingLife

23.01.2022 Psychotherapy: an undefined technique applied to unspecified problems with unpredictable outcomes (Raimy, 1950). Haha. Lots has changed, since, luckily. Raimy, V. C. (1950). Training in clinical psychology (Boulder Conference). New York, NY: Prentice Hall.

21.01.2022 And this is hopefully what the end of COVID will bring. More community feel; more checking in; more caring; more connection; more "not looking away"; less "not my business, let's keep moving"; more compassion. We are a herd species. We need each other to survive.... #mentalhealthawarenessmonth

19.01.2022 I'm currently in a 3-day lockdown period. Which is not a lot, in the grand scheme of things. Some people asked me: don't you have a problem with that? This question made me think about something I've heard so often, and feel to be quite true: things are only problems when we make them problems. Otherwise, they're just 'situations'. This is not meant as disrespect towards people who are going through a tough time! Please understand me correctly. There are obviously situations ...that most of us can agree on are pretty horrible, and there are many subtleties to the approach I am discussing. It's not as black and white as it sounds; the underlying principle is sound, I feel: if we have the capacity to accept "what is", it is no longer a "problem". What many of us tend to do, though, is resist an unwanted situation; fight it; kick at it; try and kill it; or run away from it; hide from it. This becomes an additional issue; so now you have TWO: the original one, PLUS the resistance you created against it. If we can learn to work on accepting our current situation "as it is", then we can also learn to let go of the "problematic" nature of it. That allows us to work towards either an acceptance of "what is" (perhaps because it cannot be changed right now), or a resolution to the issue (which is highly effective), rather than adding another layer of misery on top (our resistance against "what is"). Mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are all about FIRST "leaning towards" what is (rather than away from) the current situation, and SECOND finding the most effective attitude or behaviour in relation to that situation. Viktor Frankl, and so many others, are prime examples of that approach. Things can be pretty dire, but with the right attitude we at least can work on NOT making it worse, and potentially on making it better. So, no, I don't see my 3 days in my cabin as problematic. They're not my preferred way of spending 72 hours, but if that's my current situation, so be it. https://youtu.be/HiuIutWadyY

18.01.2022 My Christmas thought for you. Be kind to each other. We could be wrong in our assumptions. The Cookie Thief by Valerie Cox... A woman was waiting at an airport one night, with several long hours before her flight. She hunted for a book in the airport shops, bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop. She was engrossed in her book but happened to see, that the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be. . .grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between, which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene. So she munched the cookies and watched the clock, as the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock. She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by, thinking, If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye. With each cookie she took, he took one too, when only one was left, she wondered what he would do. With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh, he took the last cookie and broke it in half. He offered her half, as he ate the other, she snatched it from him and thought oooh, brother. This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude, why he didn’t even show any gratitude! She had never known when she had been so galled, and sighed with relief when her flight was called. She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate, refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate. She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat, then she sought her book, which was almost complete. As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise, there was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes. If mine are here, she moaned in despair, the others were his, and he tried to share. Too late to apologize, she realized with grief, that she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief. #BeKind #Chrismas

18.01.2022 Every time I ask myself: "Does it ever stop?", I remind myself of something like the below statement, and then I realise: I wouldn't have it any other way. Always moving and shaking. #EvolveOrStayTheSame #ChooseLove

16.01.2022 Following up on my Youtube video below, here's a TED Talk that gives a broader explanation of emotions and feelings and their differences. Thanks to Clare Edwards for pointing this one out! It had slipped to the bottom of my memory pile! #LisaFeldmanBarrett ... https://www.ted.com//lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_th

16.01.2022 Perspective. It's a make or break. #Perspective

16.01.2022 Always. #BeKind #BeCompassionate

15.01.2022 When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it.... -Rumi #Rumi #JustRelax #TrustTheProcess

12.01.2022 Great day, yesterday! Delivered two "Introduction to Mindfulness" -Marc style- training courses for about 45 staff of a Southeast QLD State Primary School on their pupil-free day. I'm thinking of running this course (about 3 hours) for the general public, either face-to-face, or online. ... If anyone is interested already, let me know, and I'll put you on the list. I may run this sooner than you think! I would say this course is a must-do if you want to get a grip on stress, anxiety, overwhelm, insecurity and other 'negative' emotions. And, obviously, if you want to know a bit more about mindfulness from a slightly different point of view (i.e. mine). #Mindfulness #SimplifyingLife #Counsellor

10.01.2022 In this short video, Marc goes philosophical on what the differences are between trust and hope. Hope can sometimes disappoint (even though it's good to have ho...pe in general!), whereas trust is a "foundational" state of being, regardless of outcome. Becoming more present, and looking for evidence of what you are putting your trust in, will ultimately make you feel better than holding out to hope often can. Trust can grow, and will, if you focus on growing it, and on being present with what is happening right now.

08.01.2022 #SpiritHive #LiveHive #EmotionalIntelligence #Counselling

07.01.2022 Many books have been written about communication strategies. Being a good communicator will allow you to "Win Friends And Influence People" (to paraphrase Dale Carnegie's classic). Two rules have -in my experience- stood the test of time in a massive way. There are more rules, but these two are simple and powerful. This video discusses these two rules, so you can start practicing them. Practice will allow you to start building bigger personal and professional networks of peo...ple, who all think you're awesome (this will open doors for you; I promise!). Well, most of them will think that, anyway! https://youtu.be/AL3o59l6Sd0 #Counsellor #SimplifyingLife #Communication

05.01.2022 Read this. It's as true for kids (neuro-divergent or not) as it is for adults (neuro-divergent or not). Marital conflict can often be easily explained, this way. Shake the bottle... and the pressure builds.... #CokeBottle #PressureBuilds

02.01.2022 How to Minimise Suffering by Re-assigning Meaning | Simplifying Life. ----------- Lesson 2 of A Course in Miracles states: "I have given everything I see ... all the meaning that it has for me". (Post-)modern psychology agrees that we are meaning-making machines. We assign meaning to everything and everyone. ... This is great when we assign positive meaning to things and people; it leads to suffering when we assign negative meaning to them, and feel 'bad' about what has happened. If WE are the ones who assign meaning to everything and everyone, we can then also re-assign meaning to the events and people in our lives if our current meaning creates suffering in us. This video talks about this process: re-assigning meaning to minimise (or even eliminate) suffering. #Suffering #Meaning #SimplifyingLife #Counsellor https://youtu.be/VEKDF5p5OOc

01.01.2022 We all feel emotions and we all give them names. I am angry; I am excited; I am anxious; I am happy, etc. Many schools of thought on emotions and feelings exist. The school of thought I adhere to was pioneered by neurologist and neuroscientist Antonio Damasio. Damasio makes a sharp distinction between emotions and feelings. The one is a body response; the other a mental and behavioural response. This distinction can be very useful when dealing with -what we would call- neg...ative feelings. This video gives a brief overview of the difference between emotions and feelings, and some first steps on how we can use the distinction to ultimately feel better, and deal with life more effectively. I did a video on this previously, but the topic keeps coming up; this prompted another visit to it. https://youtu.be/SgzvB_V9px4 #Counselling #SimplifyingLife

01.01.2022 One would think I am ready for some additional couples' counselling sessions. I've been getting a few, recently. Thought it better to stock up on some wisdom. #CouplesCounselling #Counselling