The Counselling Room in Rochedale South | Marriage therapist

The Counselling Room

Locality: Rochedale South

Address: Suite 8, 6 - 8 Vanessa Boulevard 4127 Rochedale South, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.thecounsellingroom.com.au

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25.01.2022 Are you living with intention?

24.01.2022 Its a bad day, not a bad life.

23.01.2022 #repost @ourmamavillage This week on OMV our theme is Responding. Were going to share some common situations that come up when parenting littles &... give some ideas on ways to respond. You can take these ideas & decide how they fit into your home.We hope they will be practical & helpful for you! Todays topic: Hitting, Biting, Kicking! A few things to consider when your child tries to hit/bite/kick. (This is not for every situation but can be some helpful tools to keep handy!) 1. Take a breath. It can be shocking when they do this & can trigger us. Remember that their behaviour isnt about you its about them trying to express a need with you.Try to calm your nervous system first! 2. Connect with their feeling - not the behaviour. You are feeling really mad right now, you really wanted to play!! 3. Calmly set a loving limit. Start with a verbal: I cant let you hit/bite/kick. If they continue trying to hit set a physical limit by gently blocking their hands. If they still try, gently hold down their hands to keep them safe. 4. Practice being calm while they are upset.This helps teach them new ways of coping with their own big feelings through the process of co-regulation. 5. Put on your investigator hat & get curious about whats going on behind the behaviour! Think about what was happening before the behaviour happened. Are they hungry, tired, needing connection, trying to remove themselves from a tough situation, do they want to engage in an activity? 6. If this happens on the random occasion, trust that your child will learn new ways of coping through watching you. Be mindful of not giving the behaviour too much power. Try to move forward without dwelling on the behaviour. 7. If the behaviour continues to happen on multiple occasions once your child is calm collaborate together & think about new ways to help them get the same need met! For example: Practice thinking about appropriate ways to get out physical aggression like hitting a pillow instead. Practice asking for a break if hitting helps them escape a situation... ex! Leave a below if this was helpful OR drop your questions youd like to see us cover. Jess has created a wonderful course called RAISING HUMAN BEINGS : how to parent little kids with big feelings, its been helping me get the tools to manage the challenges I face with myself and my toddler. . . You can access it via this #affiliate link https://learn.ourmamavillage.com//raising-human-beings-how

22.01.2022 https://www.healthcentral.com//things-i-do-every-day-to-be

22.01.2022 Take what you need.

21.01.2022 Im going to just leave this here!!!! #somethingtothinkabout. #timing

21.01.2022 #repost @ourmamavillage This week on OMV our theme is Responding. We're going to share some common situations that come up when parenting littles &... give some ideas on ways to respond. You can take these ideas & decide how they fit into your home.We hope they wi'll be practical & helpful for you! Todays topic: Hitting, Biting, Kicking! A few things to consider when your child tries to hit/bite/kick. (This is not for every situation but can be some helpful tools to keep handy!) 1. Take a breath. It can be shocking when they do this & can trigger us. Remember that their behaviour isnt about you its about them trying to express a need with you.Try to calm your nervous system first! 2. Connect with their feeling - not the behaviour. You are feeling really mad right now, you really wanted to play!! 3. Calmly set a loving limit. Start with a verbal: I cant let you hit/bite/kick. If they continue trying to hit set a physical limit by gently blocking their hands. If they still try, gently hold down their hands to keep them safe. 4. Practice being calm while they are upset.This helps teach them new ways of coping with their own big feelings through the process of co-regulation. 5. Put on your investigator hat & get curious about whats going on behind the behaviour! Think about what was happening before the behaviour happened. Are they hungry, tired, needing connection, trying to remove themselves from a tough situation, do they want to engage in an activity? 6. If this happens on the random occasion, trust that your child will learn new ways of coping through watching you. Be mindful of not giving the behaviour too much power. Try to move forward without dwelling on the behaviour. 7. If the behaviour continues to happen on multiple occasions once your child is calm collaborate together & think about new ways to help them get the same need met! For example: Practice thinking about appropriate ways to get out physical aggression like hitting a pillow instead. Practice asking for a break if hitting helps them escape a situation... ex! Leave a below if this was helpful OR drop your questions youd like to see us cover. Jess has created a wonderful course called RAISING HUMAN BEINGS : how to parent little kids with big feelings, it's been helping me get the tools to manage the challenges I face with myself and my toddler. . . You can access it via this #affiliate link https://learn.ourmamavillage.com//raising-human-beings-how

21.01.2022 That dream was planted in your heart for a reason.

21.01.2022 You are allowed to have mixed feelings about people you love.

17.01.2022 There's something I have started to notice more and more often during couple counselling. Frequently, at least one person in the couple has trouble processing big stuff. Either they have difficulty processing large emotions that the other one is experiencing/expressing, or they feel they can't fix or solve a situation, and that becomes overwhelming to them. Two big things happen next.... 1. The overwhelmed person shuts down or withdraws. They don't do it on purpose- it is their body's way of dealing with overwhelm. 2. The other person goes into panic mode- they SEE the shutdown, and erroneously interpret the shutdown as meaning that the other person doesn't love them, isn't there for them, or is wanting to leave the relationship. There are so many things that can happen from there, none of them are pretty, and over the long term, this leads to the constant feeling that the relationship will be ending any time soon. I've seen this so often now, that I am becoming able to track the very moment when it is happening in session. It becomes vital for the person in overwhelm to know that overwhelm is what is happening for them- they often don't recognise it themselves. And they have generally been accused so often of being distant/absent/not caring, that they have moved into permanent defensive mode, and can't engage any more. Once they know that they are just in overwhelm, and there are ways to help with that, they start to be able to engage. It is always awesome to see them skill up, and start to feel successful in the relationship again. It also is vital that the other person comes to know that what they are seeing/sensing, is overwhelm, and not, in fact, a desire in the other person to abandon the relationship. This decreases their feelings of terror, reduces the panic, and helps them see that the other person is actually wanting to be part of the relationship, but doesn't know what to do when things get big. That's when the magic begins :)

16.01.2022 It's a bad day, not a bad life.

16.01.2022 Life is way too short to spend another day at war with yourself.

15.01.2022 What does it mean?

14.01.2022 Russ Harris, the wonderful trainer of mindfulness and ACT, has made some resources available for free. Check them out here: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/product-category/mp3s/

14.01.2022 Via Positive Parenting Connection

13.01.2022 https://m.facebook.com/markianb/posts/2381799545278659?d=m&vh=e

11.01.2022 PREbiotics and different from PRObiotics. Prebotics are non-digestible carbohydrates that are a source of food for the good bacteria in your gut. It is import...ant to eat a range of prebiotic foods to increase the diversity of bacteria in your gut. Just like people different bacteria have different food preferences and will need different foods to survive. The greater the diversity of good bacteria in our gut the healthier it is. Probiotics are species of bacteria which have been found to be helpful for the gut. Good gut health means better immunity, better mental health and even better memory! Prebiotic foods can be found in many different foods including: Fruit: including apples, bananas, berries Vegetables: onions, leeks, spinach Grains: oats, wheat, barley Legumes: lentils, chickpeas, soybeans Seeds: Linseed, sunflower seeds #foodismedicine #naturaltherapy #anxietyrelief #guthealth #healyourgut #gutmicrobiome #brisbanedietitian #guthealing #ibs #anxietynutrition #anxietydietitian #foodformood #goodbacteria #pcos #eattherainbow #bloated #pcosdiet #eattherainbow #mediteraneandiet #eliminationdiet #beyondblue #prebiotic #probiotic #anxietynutritionist #guthealthmatters #guthealing #ibsfriendly #guthealthyfood #depressionsupport #depressionrelief

09.01.2022 Image text: "Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory. -Bessel Van Der Kolk" Graphic credit: The Family of 5

09.01.2022 So many of these say they are for children, but the techniques work for adults too, for sure.

08.01.2022 New comic! Downhill! www.lunarbaboon.com

08.01.2022 Emotions aren't "good" or "bad"

06.01.2022 If my mouth doesnt get me in trouble, my face definitely will!!

06.01.2022 Are you thriving or just surviving? The COVID pandemic has created a concurrent crisis around mental health. We all need to be taking care of each other, but th...at includes ourselves. This is especially true for healthcare workers. This site from the Colorado Healthcare Ethics Resource Group offers information and resources to help address the anxiety and stress that can, if left unaddressed, deteriorate into crisis. https://cohcwcovidsupport.org/ See more

03.01.2022 Be kind to yourself all of the time.

03.01.2022 Couples at the beginning of their relationship are inundated with messages about how it "should" be. Some common beliefs or myths shared by family, friends, and... in the media can be toxic. These myths lead couples down the wrong path or can convince them that their relationship is hopelessly doomed. Learn about these four debunked relationship myths on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://fal.cn/3aeOR

03.01.2022 Thick eyebrows linked to narcissism. Hmmm. https://www.abc.net.au//ig-nobel-prize-celebrates/12669606

02.01.2022 The move towards brave doesnt have to be a leap. It can be a shuffle - lots of brave tiny steps, each one more brave than before. Whats important isnt the size of the step but the direction.

02.01.2022 https://www.psychologytoday.com//together-in-trauma-and-in

02.01.2022 Some really important principles of resilience in this article https://www.abc.net.au//the-pandemic-is-testing-a/12645906

02.01.2022 Dear Grownups who care about us, Were pretty sure that when you say no to something its because you dont understand why its so important to us. Of course y...oull need to say 'no' sometimes, and if you do, let us know that you understand the importance of whatever it is were asking for. It will make your no much easier to accept. We need to know that you get it. Listen to what we have to say and ask questions to understand, not to prove us wrong. Were not trying to control you or manipulate you. Some things might not seem important to you but if were asking, theyre really important to us." If we can be curious about why they need what they are asking for, it opens the way for them to feel heard and understood. It also opens the way for them to buy in to our no, or explore an alternative. For young kids this might look like, You would love ice cream for breakfast wouldnt you. I would too! We love ice cream dont we. Its so hard to wait for delicious things sometimes. I get it. Heres what were going to do. Tonight after dinner, Im going to put extra ice cream in your bowl. For breakfast though, you can choose. Would you like cereal or eggs? For teens it might look like, I can hear how important it is for you to go to the party. I know you want to do fun things with your friends and I dont want to get in the way of that. I love that you were honest with me about there being alcohol there. When you trust me, it makes it easy for me to trust you. I dont want you drinking and I know you will make good decisions around that. You want spend time with your friends, I want you to be safe - so lets talk about how we can both get what we need. Whats the plan if people keep asking you to drink? It can be really hard to keep saying no if everyone keeps pressuring you, so you might need a backup plan. Lets talk about how you might deal with that in a way that feels okay for you. I have some ideas but Id really like to hear yours first. Nothing you say will be the wrong thing to say.