Positive Future Self in Port Lincoln, South Australia | Occupational therapist

Positive Future Self

Locality: Port Lincoln, South Australia

Address: 2/138 Mortlock Terrace 5606 Port Lincoln, SA, Australia

Website: https://www.positivefutureself.com.au

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24.01.2022 Tip #29 - Think of three people you are thankful for - and tell them. #lookafteryourmentalhealthaustralia #mentalhealthpromise

23.01.2022 Make a list of the things you enjoyed doing this month - and do them again next month. Thank you to Mental Health Australia for some great tips during mental health month. Look after your mental health Australia.

22.01.2022 Get dressed today in something that you love and makes you feel good!

22.01.2022 Clean up your bedroom, light some candles and read a good book.

21.01.2022 Call a trusted friend and tell them how you've been doing, and invite them to do the same.

20.01.2022 Make the effort to compliment/thank the people you interact with today.

19.01.2022 Write down 5 things that you are grateful for.. then 5 more.. then 5 more.

19.01.2022 Take a photo of something beautiful and send it to a friend with a kind message.

17.01.2022 Yesterday, I marked the fifth anniversary of my decision to quit drinking alcohol. It was the most consequential choice I have ever made in my life, and I am ab...le to stand before you today only because I made it. I was slowly and steadily killing myself with booze. I was getting drunk every night, because I couldn't face the incredible pain and PTSD I had from my childhood, at the hands of my abusive father and manipulative mother. It was unsustainable, and I knew it was unsustainable, but when you're an addict, knowing something is unhealthy and choosing to do something about it are two very different things. On January 8, 2016, I was out in the game room, watching TV and getting drunk as usual. I was trying to numb and soothe the pain I felt, while also deliberately hurting myself because at a fundamental level, I believed the lies the man who was my father told me about myself: I was worthless. I was unworthy of love. I was stupid. The things I loved and cared about were stupid. It did not matter if I lived or died. Nobody cared about me, anyway. I knocked a bottle into the trash, realized I had to pee, and -- so I wouldn't disturb Anne -- did not go into the bathroom, but instead walked out into the middle of my backyard and peed on the grass. I turned around, and there was Anne. I will never forget the look on her face, this mixture of sadness and real fear. "I am so worried about you," was all she had to say. I'd been feeling it for a long time, and I faced a stark choice that I had known I was going to face sooner or later. "So am I." Roughly 12 hours later, I woke up with the headache (hangover) I always had. For the first time in years, I accepted that I brought it on myself, instead of blaming it on allergies or the wind. I picked up my phone, and I called Chris Hardwick, my best friend, who had been sober for over a decade at that point. "I need help," I said. "I don't think going to AA is for me, but I absolutely have a problem with alcohol and I need to stop drinking." He told me a lot of things, and we stayed on the call for hours. I realized that that it was as simple and complicated as making a choice not to drink, one day or even one hour at a time. So I made the choice. HOLY SHIT was it hard. The first 45 days were a real struggle, but with the love and support of my wife and best friend, I got through it. 2016 ... remember that year? Remember how bad things got? I was constantly making the joke about how I picked the wrong year to quit drinking, while I continued to make the choice to not drink. Getting sober allowed (and forced) me to confront *why* I drank to excess so much. It turns out that being emotionally abused and neglected by both parents, then gaslit by my mother for my entire life had consequences for my emotional development and mental health. I take responsibility for my choices. I made the choice to become a drunk. I own that. But I know that, had the man who was my father loved me the way he loves my siblings, had my mother just once put my needs ahead of her own, the overwhelming pain and the black hole where paternal love should be would not have existed in my life. I made a choice to fill that black hole with booze and self-destructive behavior. That sort of put a weak bandage over the psychic wound, but it never lasted more than a few hours or days before I was right back to believing all the lies that man planted in my head about myself, and feeling like I deserved all of it. If he wasn't right, I thought, why didn't my mother ever stand up for me? If he wasn't right, how come nothing I ever did was good enough for him? I must be as worthless and contemptible as he made me believe I was. Anyone who says otherwise is just being fooled by me. I don't really deserve any happiness, because I haven't earned it. Anne's just settling. She probably feels sorry for me. All of that was just so much. It was so hard. It hurt, all the time. Because my mother made my success as an actor the most important thing in her life, I grew up believing that being the most successful actor in the world was the only way she'd be happy. And if that would make her happy, maybe it would prove to the man who was my father that I was worthy of his love. When I didn't book jobs, I took it SO PERSONALLY. Didn't those casting people know how important this was? This wasn't just an acting role. This was the only chance I have to make my parents love me! The thing is, I didn't like it. I didn't love acting and auditioning and attention like my mother did. It was never my dream. It was hers, and she sacrificed my childhood, and ultimately my relationship with her and her husband, in pursuit of it. I didn't jump straight to "get drunk all the time" as a coping mechanism. For *years* I tried to have conversations with my parents about how I felt, and every single time, I was dismissed for being ungrateful, overly dramatic, or just making things up. When the man who was my father didn't blow me off, he got mad at me, mocked me, humiliated me, made me afraid of him. I began to hope that he'd just blow me off, because it wasn't as bad as the alternative. It was so painful, and so frustrating, I just gave up and dove into as many bottles as I could find. But then in 2016 I quit, and as my body began to heal from how much I'd abused it, my spirit began to heal, too. I found a room in my heart, and in that room was a small child, terrified and abused and unloved, and I opened my arms to him. I held him the way he should have been held by our parents, and I loved him the way he deserved to be loved: unconditionally. I promised him that I would protect him from them. They could never hurt him again. I realized I had walked up to that door countless times over the years, and I had always chosen to walk right past it and into a bar, instead. But because I had made the choice to stop drinking, to stop hiding from my pain, to stop self-medicating, I could see that door clearly now. I could hear that little boy weeping in there, as quietly as possible, because he was so afraid that someone was going to come in and hurt him. Sobriety let me see that my mother had been lying to me, and maybe to herself, about who that man was to me. I realized that the man who was my father had been a bully to me my whole life. I accepted and fucking OWNED that it wasn't my fault. It was a choice he made, and while I will never know why, I knew what had happened to me. I knew my memories were real, and I hoped that, armed with this new certainty and confidence, I could have a heart-to-heart with my parents, and begin to heal these wounds. So I wrote to my parents, shared a lot of my feelings and fears, and finally told them, "I feel like my dad doesn't love me." I know some of you are parents. What do you do when your child says that to you? What is your first instinct? Pick up the phone right away? Send a text right away? Somehow communicate to your child immediately that, no, they are wrong and they are not unloved, right? Well, if you're my parents, you ignore me and go radio silent (for two months if you're my mother, four months if you're my father.) And then when you finally do acknowledge the email, you are incensed and offended. How dare I be so hateful and cruel and ungrateful! Nothing is more important than family! How could I say such hurtful things?! Why would I make all that up? I had changed. They had not. They will not. Ever. So, I want to be clear: I take responsibility for the choice I made to become a full-time drunk. But I also hold my parents accountable for the choices they made, including this one. Their silence during those long weeks told me everything I needed to know, and my sobriety was severely tested for the first time. Everything I had always feared, everything I had been drinking to avoid, was right there, in my face. When they finally acknowledged me, and made it all about their feelings, I knew: this was never going to change. I mean, I'd known that for years, maybe for my whole life, but I still held out hope that, somehow, something would be different. During those weeks, I spent a lot of time on the phone with Chris, spent a lot of time with Anne, and filled a bunch of journals. But I didn't make the choice to pick up a drink. I'd committed to taking better care of myself, so I could be the husband and father my family deserved. So I could find the happiness that *I* deserve. Once I was sober, I had clarity, and so much time to do activities! I was able to clearly and honestly assess who I was, and *why*. I was able to love myself and care for myself in ways that I hadn't before, because I sincerely believed I didn't deserve it. I will never forget this epiphany I had one day, while walking through our kitchen: If I was the person the man who was my father made me believe I was, there is no way a woman as amazing and special as Anne would choose to spend her life with me. Why this never occurred to me up to that point can be found under a pile of bottles. Not having parents sucks. It hurts all the time. But it hurts less than what I had with those people, so I continue to make the choice to keep them out of my life. After five years, I don't miss being drunk at all. It is not a coincidence that the last five years have been the best five years of my life, personally and professionally. In spite of everything 2020 took from us (and I know it's taken far more from others than it took from me), I had the best year I've ever had in my career -- and this is *my* career, being a host and a writer and audiobook narrator. This is what *I* want to do, and I still feel giddy when I take time to really own that I am finally following *MY* dream. It's a shame I don't have parents to share it with, but I have a pretty epic TNG family who celebrate everything I do with me. I wondered how I would feel, crossing five years without a drink off the calendar. I thought I'd feel celebratory, but honestly the thing I feel the most is gratitude and resolve. I am grateful that I have the love and support of my wife and children. I am grateful that I have so much privilege, this wasn't as hard for me as it could have been. I am grateful that, every day, I can make a choice to not drink, and it's entirely MY CHOICE. Because I quit drinking, I had the clarity I needed to see WHY I was drinking, and I had the strength to confront it. It didn't go the way I wanted or hoped, but instead of numbing that pain with booze, I have come to accept it, as painful as it is. And even with that pain, my life is immeasurably better than it was, and for that I am immeasurably grateful. Hi. I'm Wil, and it's been five years and one day since my last drink. Happy birthday to me.

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15.01.2022 COVID 19 POLICY ANNOUNCEMENT- LOCKDOWN As per the public announcement on 18 November 2020, we would like to take this opportunity to inform our clients of the processes and safety precautions we have implemented to support the safety of our clients, staff, and the community. As per the announcement, Mental Health facilities are still open for the 6-day shutdown for emergencies only. However, if you have any COVID-19 symptoms, have been in contact with a known or suspected cas...e, or have a temperature we ask you to please arrange for a phone or video consult. All clients have the option of having a phone or video consult instead of their face to face appointment. All Neurofeedback therapy appointments over the 6 day closure will be cancelled. For those with a face to face appointment, the team at Positive Future Self will do everything we can to create a safe environment with regular hand washing, cleaning of surfaces, etc. We will ensure your clinician is wearing a facemask to ensure your comfort and safety. We ask that only the client and/or carer attend the appointment if a face to face appointment is provided. We ask that you wait in your car until called into your appointment. We have the policy to turn away any client or employee who is sick or who has traveled or been in contact with a suspected or known case as per government policy. We look forward to working with you to ensure the safety of our community. Regards the PFS Team https://www.positivefutureself.com.au/covid-19.html

14.01.2022 Do something creative, like drawing, colouring or writing a story - just for you!

12.01.2022 Donate some clothes and/or items from around your house that could benefit others - Spring clean!

12.01.2022 POSITION VACANT! Are you interested in becoming a Neuro-Feedback Therapy Technician? Do you like working with people and have an interest in continuous professional development?... Are you interested in how the brain works, and how to get the most out of life? Are you interested in working with clients in a therapeutic space? Are you interested in working with a passionate group of professionals? If so, Positive Future Self are looking for expressions of interest for the role of Neuro-Feedback Technician. This will initially be a casual role with hours and conditions to be negotiated. To express your interest please follow the link. https://www.positivefutureself.com.au/positions-vacant.html

10.01.2022 Go for a walk and listen to a podcast you like, or try a new one. A tip a day for Mental Health Awareness Month.

10.01.2022 Video chat a friend or family member, or have a cuppa in person if you can.

07.01.2022 How trauma can affect our relationships as adults.

07.01.2022 The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

06.01.2022 Great people to work with too..

05.01.2022 Organise a family movie night..

04.01.2022 At Mentally Fit EP we understand Mental Health Services are not always accessible. This is something we are constantly trying to find new ways to advocate for, ...as a voice that represents you and our communities. Sadly we have many townships on the EP who do not have access to local counselling services, therapy or psychologists. There are many reasons people who desperately need help with their mental wellness cannot access even the services that ARE available if they happen to have one; whether that's because of the cost associated, long waiting lists (GP or Counselling) circumstances, availability or because of location and isolation. That is why it is SO important that in our communities we learn how to support each other. We offer programs and deliver services in many area's across the region to help educate and up skill people to better support one another. If you would like info on any of these services just ask us. We have a list of MFEP recommended 'All Hours Tele-helps' attached that we have tried, tested and they have our tick of approval. 'Take Charge of Your Life' is one of the foundations in which Mentally Fit EP was built upon. It's a FREE community program we run to help equip you to live your best life, realise what drives your behavior and why you do what you do, use skill to stop relationship breakdowns and that you may have more choices than you think. When YOU are well, YOU can also equip others with tools you have learned to BE well. How empowering is that!? At the end of the day we are here to provide you with helps and resources to assist the wellness in our communities, raise awareness and educate but ultimately YOU are the solution your community is looking for. QPR and LivingWorks are FREE online training's that could literally help you save someones life from suicide. Things like kindness and a listening ear are SO SIMPLE but POWERFUL and are the things we need now, more than ever. #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #selfcare #selflove #love #anxiety #motivation #depression #health #mentalhealthmatters #mindfulness #life #wellness #loveyourself #fitness #inspiration #healing #happiness #positivity #positivevibes #covid #quotes #therapy #mindset #meditation #mentalillness #mentalwellness #happy #psychology #mentallyfitep #WellnessWednesday #MentalHealthPromise

02.01.2022 October is Mental Health Awareness Month. Check in with a friend. Invite them over for a meal or video chat with them over a meal.

01.01.2022 Festival of Now 2020 - Supporting Mental Health & Wellbeing in South Australia. Watch Live.