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The Secret Burden

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23.01.2022 Don’t let ANOREXIA take your voice Your voice is your SUPERPOWER She will silence it Fight for your voice In the end. You may love the scales but you will have lost who you are and the one thing that makes you unique... Don’t let ANYONE take your voice They will not hesitate to silence you Fight for your voice Trust me. It’s more scary being silenced in your own body then being a number on a scale Use your voice because I HEAR YOU And one day. YOU WILL HEAR YOU #power #strength #bodyimage #selflove #selfrespect #eatingdisorderawareness #love #mentalhealth #kindness #conversation

22.01.2022 It’s not hard to fake it... I had 5 minutes and in that time I changed my hip shape, my breast shape, my arm length, my leg size, and my stomach look. I am not a PROFESSIONAL. I am just like you, and I changed my look to please you in minutes. So don’t believe EVERYBODY you see on Instagram. Don’t COMPARE yourself to EVERYBODY you see on TikTok. And don’t be JEALOUS of EVERYBODY you see on social media. Because the reality is...it is probably not a real body. In an instan...t I redefined myself and recreated my body to look like what it is expected to look like on social media, yet IT IS FAKE. The me in every photo is BEAUTIFUL, yet social media tells me that is not the case. Photoshop apps tell me I need to change. And all of a sudden the person standing next to the ARTIFICIAL ME is ugly and not enough! You would of probably liked and commented on the women on the left. But she isn’t real. She isn’t me. Yet her body perfection inspires you... The real me. My real body, will remain on the right and that may put you off, but that’s what you get. I cannot give you the left of me when she is artificially made... So remember this: a photo can be distorted in an instant to make you believe one thing. And a body can be changed even faster online if you want it to. So don’t aspire to be an artificial body because we all know it’s not achievable, and I still see the right side of me as the MOST BEAUTIFUL!! See more

22.01.2022 For all the Mums, Dads, Family members and Careers out there in the world of eating disorders, I hope this talk helps you. It was a light bulb moment for me even after 4 years and seventy-three days. Any knowledge is valuable. https://youtu.be/UEysOExcwrE

21.01.2022 LIVE: THE SECRET SUNDAY SESSION with Sarah King

20.01.2022 WE ARE OFFICIALLY A BUSINESS!! First business step: our monthly newsletter!! Comment your email below or send us your email to get our FREE MONTHLY NEWSLETTER!! Subscribe for free TODAY!... Our September newsletter comes out tomorrow so don’t miss out

19.01.2022 What you say matters ! You have the power to change the way someone feels You have the power to knock down someone’s confidence You have the power to change someone’s life ... just by something you say We judge, comment, argue, tweet, like, post and share how we see people and what we think of people. Yet we forget how we can hurt them! WORDS ARE POWERFUL WORDS ARE DANGEROUS So use yours wisely!! Because a judgment or comment you make can change a persons life forever, and can change the way they see themselves forever! Words are triggering and emotionally draining. So next time you call someone thick, fat, ugly, annoying or too much to handle remember how these words could be received by them! Because you may joke with your friends, but the other person may be starving, may be crying, may be self-harming, and may be wanting to end it all. REMEMBER THAT... So be kind! Be kind to yourself and be kind to the people who are just trying to SURVIVE! #inspire #body #wordsmatter #lifeisbeautiful #bodyimage #confidence #powerful #love

19.01.2022 Sunday, October 25 2020, 4:00 PM NSW TIME The Secret Sunday Session with LAUREN CADILLAC brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... Proudly supported by: MULTICOOL AIRCONDITIONING THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its SIXTH virtual interview. The event is an interview with dietician, eating disorder survivor, and intuitive councillor LAUREN CADILLAC!! TOPIC: Dealing with food guilt / food rules / intuitive eating / diet culture The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN

18.01.2022 Sunday, December 6 2020, 4:00 PM NSW TIME The Secret Sunday Session with Libby Babet! brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... Proudly supported by: MULTICOOL AIRCONDITIONING THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its ninth virtual interview and this December I am bringing you MY RESOURCES. People who have guided and supported me through my journey. So my first resource this December is an interview with owner of the Upbeat studio in Bondi and motivational speaker, Libby Babet! TOPIC: Nutrition / Movement / The power of language The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN #theupbeat #bondibeach #conversations #mentalhealth #health #fitness #movement #nutrition #zoom #power #love #bodypositivity #body #valueyourself

18.01.2022 Sunday, September 13th 2020, 4:00 PM AEST The Secret Sunday Sessions with OLIVIA VIVIAN brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its THIRD virtual interview. The event is a ZOOM interview with Ninja Warrior champion and Australian Olympian, Olivia Vivian! TOPIC: Olivia’s story of ... STRENGTH / RESILIENCE / MENTAL HEALTH / SUPPORT / FEMALE POWER The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in LIVE ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN #mentalhealth #support #resilience #strength #conversations #live #interviewsthatmatter #warrior #zoom

18.01.2022 Saturday August 2nd, 2020 @ 04:00 PM AEST The Secret Sunday Session with SHANE ROBERTS brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on virtual events every month and this SUNDAY we are kicking it off! The event is a ZOOM interview with PBC teacher Shane Roberts. The interview will go for an hour and anyone is free to join. The interview is discussing all things MENS MENTAL HEALTH and sharing a TEACHERS PERSPECTIVE on mental health issues. The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, we do not have all the necessary qualifications, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and hep us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. PLEASE SEE THE ZOOM INFO BELOW: - On Sunday click on the link below or download the ZOOM web app - Once have the app, enter the MEETING ID and PASSCODE below - THEN YOU WILL BE LET IN BY MEETING HOST (ME) - If you have any questions please ask and send your interest to us Zoom Meeting Link: https://us04web.zoom.us/j/7304952713 Meeting ID: 730 495 2713 Passcode: 7qUiNi

14.01.2022 Thank you @jessvanzeil for making me feel part of something special. #womensupportingwomen is more than getting the top role and being equal. I think it’s also about women looking after one another. We need to stop bitching behind our friends backs, judging women before we know them, and bullying them because they are different. WE ARE ALL ONE AND WE NEED TO LIFT EACH OTHER UP - NOT TEAR EACH OTHER DOWN!! We are friends, sisters, mothers, and WE NEED EACH OTHER! ... So be there for each other. No more bullying our best friend and competing with their social status. We are all beautiful. We are all enough. And we are WOMEN! Start sharing that blessing... #womensupportingwomen #challengeaccepted #womenempowerment #women #love See more

14.01.2022 If you want to be part of our SECRET SANTA MESSAGE US YOUR INTEREST TODAY!! Bring some joy this Christmas with an exciting game of Secret Santa. ... WE WANT TO GIVE AND WE WANT YOU TO SHARE THE LOVE OF CHRISTMAS TOO 6 rules: 1. Must remain anonymous 2. $10 maximum spend 3. Send a one page letter to your person 4. Must be posted or sent by 20th Dec 2020 5. Must open on Christmas Day 6. Must post in mail or deliver to person

13.01.2022 Today we speak with Ariana from EMBODY HEALTH LONDON or known as one of the DANCING DIETICIANS! We talk about all things body image, break down diet culture, and discuss food rules. Make sure you tune in for this Secret Sunday Session!

13.01.2022 How are we ever going to accept ourselves when we are compared to this? I can’t accept myself when I am compared to the Victoria secrets, the famous actresses, the world wide models and the poster girls. How am I supposed to love myself when I see these images of women? ... We are exposed to picture perfect people that are supposed to be just like us but they are far from it. They are who we want to be...and when we realise we are not them...we punish ourselves. We punish ourselves through mental judgement, physical punishment, and the worst of all ... we punish ourselves by hating who we are. We become disgusted in ourselves because we are someone other than the photos we see. And I’m not saying this happens once a month, we are exposed to this EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY! So how are we supposed to accept ourselves?? When instead of the whole world telling us to love ourselves and the body we have, they tell us to love someone else’s body and aspire to have the body they have...? #body #bodyimageissues #selflove #empoweringwomen #empowerment #strong #love #loveyourbody #loveyourself

13.01.2022 Sunday, November 8 2020, 4:00 PM NSW TIME The Secret Sunday Session with THE MAN CAVE brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... Proudly supported by: MULTICOOL AIRCONDITIONING THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its seventh virtual interview. The event is an interview with programs coordinator at The Man Cave, Matt Defina! TOPIC: Men’s mental health and the pressures young boys face The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN

10.01.2022 THE SECRET SUNDAY SESSION with Shane Roberts brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN

09.01.2022 SAVE THE DATES: Our September calendar is here and it is a big one for THE SECRET BURDEN. We have 2 big interviews this month as part of our Secret Sunday Sessions so make sure you save our dates!!!... Sunday Sept 13th: Olivia Vivian (Australian Olympian and Ninja Warrior Powerhouse) Talking all things resilience, strength, and mental health! Sunday Sept 27th: Sam Bloom (World Para Surfing Champion and motivational speaker) Talking all things strength, motivation, and inspiration! Save our calendar: you DO NOT want to miss this month... We will keep you posted

09.01.2022 NEW ZOOM LINK FOR - THE SECRET SUNDAY SESSION WITH SHANE ROBERTS Sunday 2 nd August @ 4 pm AEST https://us02web.zoom.us/j/86531455007... You must use the above link to be in on the chat on SUNDAY: do not use OLD link!! THE EVENT WILL ALSO BE LIVE ON FACEBOOK!! Cannot wait to see you there! (Watch video for meeting ID and password)

08.01.2022 Happy Fathers Day: The Secret Burden’s gift to all the brave dads out there... Even though we don’t always show we love you...we do!!

08.01.2022 Sunday, September 27th 2020, 4:00 PM AEST The Secret Sunday Session with SAM BLOOM brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its FOURTH virtual interview. The event is an interview with World Para Surfing Champion and motivational speaker, Sam Bloom! TOPIC: Sam’s story of SURVIVAL / STRENGTH / RESILIENCE / MOTIVATION The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in LIVE ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN #support #resilience #strength #motivation #conversations #live #interviewsthatmatter #warrior #zoom #power

05.01.2022 It’s hard to ignore the mirror, so change your mindset when looking at it. Language is everything... The way you speak to yourself in the mirror will determine how you see yourself! ... So when you look in the mirror: Call yourself BEAUTIFUL SMILE at your stomach ADMIRE your legs APPRECIATE your arms SWING those hips BE HAPPY with what you have The more you tell the mirror, the more you will accept it. We all already have conversations with our mirrors, but we often have negative ones instead of the positive ones we should have. Most of us want to be that PERFECT figure they call beautiful, but YOU DEFINE THE BEAUTY IN YOUR LIFE! And you can achieve this THOUGHT OF BEAUTIFUL by changing your relationship with the mirror, changing your language around it, and changing the conversations you have with it. Then, the reflection you see, may just be the BEAUTY you were looking for... #beautiful #selfrespect #kindness #strong #you

05.01.2022 Why is it that we are only significant when someone with significance acknowledges us? We are more than a status. We are more than our followers. We are more than our likes. Yet somehow that is how we are defined. ... We are rated and judged by how we are liked online. Status does not make you a beautiful person or a kind human being. It may get you some recognition, but is that how you want to be remembered? DON’T BE PART OF THE CULTURE THAT JUDGES YOU DON’T ACCEPT THE POPULARITY HIERARCHY AS NORMAL AND REMEMBER YOU ARE MORE THAN A FOLLOWER!! I got lost in the high school culture to try and fit in with the people that everybody ‘obsessed’ over, but in doing that, I lost myself trying to impress them and almost lost my life trying to become popular. YOU DO NOT NEED THE STATUS SO LET GO life is too dam short to waste another moment worrying about your instagram account and your status at school!!! BE FREE ... See more

04.01.2022 How do you support someone in the middle of their eating disorder? It’s starts by forgetting about trying to fix the person and just being there for the person. Whether they are your sister, your brother, your child, your friend, or your parent, they just need to know you are there for them!!... When you have an eating disorder you have so many people focusing on your disorder that you don’t know who you are without it. The person you once were, the name you once had disappears and the disorder becomes who you are identified as. So when you have an eating disorder you just need your friends, your siblings, and your family to support, care, and love without judgment, without fear, and without awkwardness. All I wanted going through my illness was a friend to ask me how my day was, not encourage me to eat. All I needed was my family to love me, not persuade me to change. And all I desired was normality from my peers, not inspiration and judgment. Telling someone to just eat just stop it’s not that hard you don’t need to lose weight if you eat I will give you this how is being sick I understand the feeing I don’t like to eat either and are you eating now are not helpful conversations to have with a person in the middle of their eating disorder. They may be sick, but in the middle of the disorder, LANGUAGE IS CRITICAL. So stop focusing on what to say and just be there: - Don’t judge their treatment or decisions, leave that conversation to their team - Don’t force the conversation about the illness - Don’t give advice - Don’t persuade change - PLEASE smile to brighten their day - Comfort them - Don’t treat them differently - Don’t change who you are to make them feel comfortable - BE YOU because that’s all we ALL desire - AND remember they still exist (please don’t ghost them because they actually need you more than ever) !!

04.01.2022 The Secret Burden Pty Ltd is operating, Ashlee and I are jumping in headfirst to make a difference in our community. Our Business plan is simple; to create better resources and facilities for mental illness in our area, to host events that educate the individual and their families on the crisis at hand and to start conversations about mental health. Our ultimate goal is to create spaces that nurture and heal you professionally and holistically. We have to start creating a bet...ter culture when it comes to acceptance, treatment and recovery of mental issues. We have started The Secret Sunday Sessions * Our first newsletter will out at the end of September * our website will be up and running soon * plus we are planning more personal events when COVID allows. We are about community issues as a whole, yes we have experience with eating disorders however we have so much more to give, share and learn from each other. We truly believe this is needed more than ever. So to all our followers, supporters, families, friends, businesses and groups, we need your help. We are asking you, what would like to see more of? and what would you like to learn about? If you don't want to reply below, please send us an email at [email protected] Also if you would like to help us achieve this goal, don't be a stranger, contact us today. See more

04.01.2022 My message to Anorexia: Why is it that sometimes you love me and sometimes you hate me? How can you go from making me smile to making me cry? What do I need to do to shut you up? ... Who else do I need to shut out to impress you? When will you love me for me? Can’t you just be happy for me? Will you ever be my friend? Is there room in your heart to love me? And will I ever be enough for you? We can ask the questions over and over again, but we know the answers. Anorexia will not be your friend, she will not love you, and you will never be enough for her. So as you continue to shut others out and cry about the food in front of you, may I remind you of the toxic relationships we have with others and choose to end. Anorexia is another toxic relationship you need to end, before she ends you!!!

04.01.2022 The Secret Sunday Session with special guest Libby Babet This December I am bringing you MY RESOURCES! This week we speak of all things movement, nutrition, and langugage. We talk about mending your relationship with food and exercise.

04.01.2022 With every illness, with every experience, and with every human, you need A TEAM of people to have a VICTORIOUS OUTCOME!! I had a team of medical professionals to help my medical diagnosis I had a family team who supported me during my recovery I had a networking team that helped me get back into society... I had a community team that lifted up my spirits during recovery I had a team of motivators who inspired me to make change And I had my feel good starlight team who made me see the light in all the darkness I had ongoing teams of therapists, motivators, nurses, carers, friends, networks, communities, and my family. In order to recover, and I mean get through this illness - I had to have a TEAM! People who where there for me even when I pushed them away. People who smiled even when I never smiled back. People who believed in me even when I didn’t believe in myself. You need a team to win a war! You need more than one solider to fight a battle! If you are struggling with your own war - build your own team and find your soldiers. Soldiers that will keep on fighting even when you’ve decided you don’t want to. You need a team that you trust and that you can depend on. And everyone who is on your team needs to want the same goal: VICTORY! So seek your captain America’s, your Batman’s, your Captain Starlights, and your Robin Hoods because all battles are tough, and you need to recruit your best team to fight it!! Because I can say from experience, I wouldn’t of survived ANOREXIA without my family, my medical team, my mental health nurses, my therapists, my role models, my friends, and my community. I may have got through this, but I didn’t do it alone. Everyone on my team helped me become the warrior I am today ... EVERYONE ... including the starlight carers who made me smile in a time when I saw no hope! So my current success is a reflection of my entire team - my entire team of soldiers!! #team #help #mentalhealth #superhero #starlightfoundation #eatingdisorderawareness #victory #success #power #soliders #teamwork #create

03.01.2022 THE SECRET SUNDAY SESSION with Olivia Vivian

02.01.2022 Sunday August 30th, 2020 @ 04:00 PM AEST The Secret Sunday Sessions with SARAH KING brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its second virtual! The event is a ZOOM interview with Exercise Physiologist and Eating Disorder Coach Sarah King. TOPIC: all things EATING DISORDERS, from diagnosis, to menstrual cycles, to recovery, and loads more The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. PLEASE SEE THE ZOOM INFO BELOW: - On Sunday click on the link below or download the ZOOM web app - Once have the app, enter the MEETING ID and PASSCODE below - THEN YOU WILL BE LET IN BY MEETING HOST Join Zoom Meeting (link in bio too) https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87877643647 Meeting ID: 878 7764 3647 Passcode: 659811 ALTERNATELY: Tune in LIVE ON FACEBOOK @ The Secret Burden

02.01.2022 Check Lauren out at the links below: Website: http://www.laurencadillac.com/feelgoodnutrition Instagram: @feelgooddietician Facebook: Lauren Cadillac, RD, CPT

02.01.2022 Sunday, November 22 2020, 4:00 PM NSW TIME The Secret Sunday Session with The Dancing Dieticians brought to you by THE SECRET BURDEN... Proudly supported by: MULTICOOL AIRCONDITIONING THE SECRET BURDEN is putting on its eighth virtual interview. The event is an interview with social media’s Dancing Dieticians and owners of Embody Health London, Ariana and Cassie! TOPIC: Diet Culture / Body Image / The thin ideal The idea of THE SECRET SESSIONS is to start conversations. We do not have all the answers, but we are starting conversations that need to be had. Please join in and help us make the uncomfortable a little more comfortable. Tune in ON FACEBOOK: @ THE SECRET BURDEN #conversation #bodypositivity #bodyimage #eatingdisorderrecovery #selfrespect #dietculture #love #confidence #empower

01.01.2022 #mensmentalhealth This week we start the conversation about men's mental health with The Man Cave and head of programs Matt Defina.