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25.01.2022 Here are some simple prompts to help you set your September intentions! Each month inside my online coaching membership, The Truest You Collective we do a Power Start and an end of month Reflection and Celebration. Why?... Well if you're not sure of what you're going to be doing and why you're going to do it not much will change and you’ll keep going through the motions. You’ll also have wins that you might not pause and appreciate because you keep looking to the next thing that needs to be done. So take a moment to get yourself set up for September and then at the end of the month, check in and see where you did well, shifts in how you felt and what still needs a little more time and energy. This month I believe I deserve... Three things I'm going to commit to NOT doing this month are... Something I'm going to make more time for is... This month I'm giving myself permission to... At the end of September I'd love to say that I... I’d love to know one of the things you’re committing to not doing this month. Share it with me below P.S. Want to learn what you need to have in place to stick at intentions like these? I break it all down into 5 steps in my FREE online mini-masterclass. Join me here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy See more
25.01.2022 So often we show compassion for others with ease but aren’t as gentle on ourselves. We all go through phases where we’re a little too hard on ourselves so I’ve teamed up with Alex from Saint Belford to share some simple ways you can be a little kinder to yourself. Have a read through these tips and save them to come back to often.... Which one are you going to get started with? Let Alex and I know below x
22.01.2022 Do you have anchors? Anchors are things you can call on in times where your anxiety is getting the better of you, you have lots happening, you feel like things are getting on top of you and want to feel a little bit more in control and at ease. They help you maintain perspective and stop things snowballing to the point where you feel like you’re completely swept up in them.... Anchors can be anything from breathing techniques to gentle reminders, noticing the good to affirmations, meditation to moving your body, routines that you have in place to slow you down throughout the day or even catch-ups with people who you can be yourself around. You could listen to music, sit down with a cuppa or even call on all your senses to bring you back into the moment. Your anchors don’t have to be complicated to have a big impact. It’s often the small things that make a big difference and the more you build up your go-to anchors, the more you’ll be able to call on them when you need to. So what are some of your go-to anchors? A couple of mine are noticing the good even when it can seem hard, tuning into my breath and extending my exhale and reframing when my inner-critic starts getting a little too loud! P.S. If you’d love to build a go-to toolbox of anchors that support you and start working through some of your limiting beliefs, triggers and fears so they no longer hold you back, jump onto my FREE mini-masterclass where I’ll show you 5 steps you can take! Save your spot via the link in my bio @thetruestyou @saxonkent See more
21.01.2022 Given that today is the last day of Women's Health Week, I wanted to let you you know that I've had some special women in the health and wellness field share some helpful tips and advice for you. Their short videos are on my IGTV (https://www.instagram.com/thetruestyou/channel/?hl=enif) you'd like to see their faces, hear how they support women's health, what they do for themselves each day, when they feel their best and a key piece of advice they have for you. If you'd pref...er to have a read, I've popped what they've said in a blog for you https://thetruestyou.com.au/blog/womens-health-week It's also a great time to ask yourself some of the same questions. What are 3 things you do to support your health and wellbeing each day? When do you feel your best? What's been one of the best pieces of health advice you’ve received? I've love to know one thing you do for yourself each day. Share it with me below x
21.01.2022 Over the past week or so I had to put a lot of things on the backburner because I was unwell. It was a lot easier to do than it was for me in the past. Pre CFS, I pushed myself to keep showing up because I didn’t want to let people down, lose opportunities or fall behind. I wasn’t one of those people who chucked fake sickies- I’m still not! I’ve actually never done that from my very first job in the deli at the local supermarket! But when I was actually really sick, I’d... ‘push through’ and make things worse. This time I knew that I needed to step back and that I’d be a hypocrite if I didn’t as this is something I speak to women about often! I reached out to clients to re-schedule, didn’t open my laptop for days, slept in, rested on the couch, zoned out and did a lot less than what I normally would. The best part? I’m feeling SO much better than I was and I know that if I kept going despite feeling like crap, I would have still been feeling that way (or worse). So next time you notice you’re not feeling great, don’t ignore it and just hope it’ll go away. Give yourself time and space where you can and keep asking yourself ‘what’s more important?’ to guide you. Have you ever pushed yourself to keep going when you’ve been unwell? Why do you think you did it? Let me know below x P.S. if you want to learn 5-steps you can take to avoid burning out, join my free mini-masterclass. Hit the link in my bio to save your spot! See more
20.01.2022 When we live on autopilot and lose touch with our values and priorities, we start to move further and further away from what we truly want and the truest version of ourselves. We wear facades just to get through the day, spend huge amounts of time on things that aren’t important to us and as a result feel uneasy, anxious and ‘off’. Life definitely isn’t linear and I haven’t come across one person who has got a perfect balance (myself included). There’ll be days where you’r...e up and down, weeks that feel full on and months that just seem to fly on by with little recollection of what you spent your time doing. That’s why it’s so important to check-in and make small changes as much as possible. Start by getting clear on your values. It can be hard to list them and narrow them down but it’s well worth doing. Then start making choices based on these values. By doing so, you’ll be choosing things that align with you and what you’re trying to create. This is one of the very first places we begin when working through my 5-step framework inside The Truest You Collective. We build a strong foundation so everything is easier including making decisions, setting boundaries, managing stress and anxiety, being able to enjoy the moment you’re in and also quieten your inner-critic. Let me know one of your core values below! One of mine is connection. See more
20.01.2022 8 reasons why you procrastinate. How many can you relate to? I can’t tell you how many conversations I have with people who keep putting things off. They can’t gain momentum, never seem to get things done and feel like they’re fluffing around doing bits and pieces but not the things they need (or actually really want) to be doing.... They feel stressed, unsatisfied, unproductive and like they’re going nowhere fast. Procrastination is a habit- a form of self-sabotage that essentially distracts us from what we really want (or should) be doing. Here are some reasons why you might procrastinate: 1. You have so much to do that you don’t even know where to start, so you don’t (hello overwhelm!). 2. The things you put off don’t excite you, or even fulfil you when you do eventually get them done because they’re not aligned with your values and priorities. 3. Your expectations are way too high and you ask too much of yourself. 4. You worry that unless the conditions are perfect (e.g. no distractions, lots of time, you feel great etc.) you won’t be able to do a good enough job so you keep waiting, and waiting and waiting for that ‘perfect’ time but it never seems to come around. 5. You don’t actually want to do what you’re avoiding (sometimes you can let it slip, other times you’ll just have to get it done). 6. You might not have the energy to do something complex that requires problem solving and nutting things out so you don’t even try. 7. You don’t do something to protect yourself. You don’t want to let yourself down if you don’t get it finished or done well. 8. You find that what you have to do is draining you (physically, mentally and/or emotionally). It might be as simple as not calling someone back. What’s one thing you’ve been putting off the most lately? Do you know why? Share it with us below. https://thetruestyou.com.au//the-real-reasons-why-you-proc @work.life.mama
20.01.2022 NEW WORKSHOP ’Managing Negative Self-Talk’ Monday July 13th 6:30-8:30pm... Mirosuna, South Melbourne (a brand new, amazing space!) Sally of Mirosuna and I welcome you to our workshop focusing on managing negative self-talk. You’ll have many opportunities to reflect on, and discuss what stories and limiting beliefs your inner-critic tells you on repeat and be supported with tools that’ll help you to confidently and consistently manage your self-talk. The workshop will be closed with a sound meditation by Sally played to you live using her Alchemy Crystal Singing Bowls to help you deeply relax and unwind. We cannot wait for this and look forward to seeing you! TO BOOK click here https://www.mirosuna.com/events/selftalk Tickets are $65 per person and there are only 10 available. Let me know if you’re coming or what events you’d love me to host below! X See more
19.01.2022 THE TRUEST YOU COLLECTIVE FLASH OFFER We all need a little bit of extra support in some way shape or form at the moment and I wanted to offer you something special if you choose to join my online coaching membership, The Truest You Collective! If you join us for a year before Tuesday August 4 (next week!), you’ll get a free 45-minute Kickstart Call with me so you can get super clear on how to create change before you even begin to dive into all that’s on offer inside TTYC!... What is TTYC? It’s my self-paced online coaching community that helps women to create healthier habits so they can manage their stress and anxiety, reduce their overwhelm and avoid burning out. It’s a go-to if you want everything laid out for you in easy to follow steps alongside unlimited coaching from me, chats with experts in the health and wellness field, a community of people who get where you’re at and all of my top tips, tools and strategies! You can join for just over $1 a day and have access to all of this in your pocket as we have an app! So if you’d love to stop going around in circles, want help creating change that you’ll be able to stick at and are ready to start feeling the best you’ve felt in a while then this is for you! JOIN US HERE: https://bridgetmurphy.mykajabi.com/offers/J7Ccq6Lb/checkout
19.01.2022 Three things to try when you’re feeling overwhelmed! We all know that feeling. When our head feels like it’s full to the brim and everything we have to do is racing around in our mind at full speed. Our logical and rational thinking goes out the window and we can’t work out where to start, let alone what to do next.... Some of us feel this way occasionally, others a few times a week, daily or almost all of the time. It can be exhausting, frustrating and stressful. It can feed anxiety, keep us awake and affect us on a physical, mental and emotional level. These three things might sound simple and obvious but we often forget about them in the moment! Hit ‘save’ so you’ve got them on hand next time you’re feeling overwhelmed. 1. Focus on what’s most important and needs your time and energy in the moment. You can ask yourself ‘what’s most important right now?’. By concentrating on the moment you’re in, and not tomorrow, next week or next month, you’ll be able to narrow your focus and work out what to do next. No more going around in circles or putting things off. 2. Start and end your days a little slower. You can do so many things to ease into the day and night. You might give yourself more time in the morning so you’re not rushing to get everything done, have breaky ready to go or do some stretching when you get up. At night you might go to bed 10 minutes earlier, hop off your phone an hour before bed, eat earlier, read or do something like journaling when you hop into bed or even watch a movie after tea/dinner. 3. Ask for help. This is a hard one for a lot of women I work with and something I’ve had to get better at over the years. I know you can probably get everything done yourself, but what cost will it come at? Will you be up too late, push yourself to the limit or force yourself to make it through the days? Commit to asking for help and remember to accept it when people say yes! Which one are you going to try? P.S. If you often feel overwhelmed, come along to my FREE ONLINE MINI-MASTERCLASS. I’ll take you through the 5 steps you can implement to reduce your stress and anxiety and stop you from falling back into old patterns. Save your spot here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy Boutierre Girls
17.01.2022 FREE ONLINE MINI MASTERCLASS! I’ll guide you through: my step-by-step process to create and stick at healthy habits... HOW you can crowd out unhealthy habits without adding stress HOW to better manage your time and energy so you don’t burnout HOW you can start weaving in small changes straight away! Multiple times are available. Save your spot here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy
14.01.2022 Ready to stop procrastinating? Here’s how Use the Pomodoro Technique. You break tasks down into 25 minute blocks and then have a 5 minute break. Once you’ve done 4 of them, you take a longer break (approx. 30 minutes) and then you can keep going. This techniques helps you to see a start and end point. During these blocks, pop your phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’, don’t open emails or check social media, or do anything that’ll take your focus away from what you’re doing. Plan.... Map out your month, week and then days to begin with. You don’t have to do this forever but begin with some structure and predictability. By doing this you’ll have a clearer picture of what actually needs your time and attention. Allocate blocks of time to do certain things. Then break these things down into smaller, more achievable steps rather than setting aside an hour to do 17 steps that make up one task on your list. You might do the same thing at certain times each day (hello routine!) or on the same day each week. Keep your priorities front and centre in any given moment by asking yourself ‘what’s most important right now?’. Don’t try and multi-task. Have a single focus and work on it until it’s complete. If something takes less than 5 minutes, do it on the spot. Otherwise you’ll spend so much time trying to remember to do it later on. When it’s all a bit overwhelming, focus on the next obvious step and resist the urge to jump ahead to the end goal straight away. Little by little a little becomes a lot! Once you get something done that you’ve been wanting (or needing) to do, give yourself some credit. Too often we don’t celebrate! Which one are you going to try? Let me know below P.S. Want more tips like these and a hand staying accountable? Join us inside The Truest You Collective where you’ll have all you need to stay on track, feel more fulfilled and keep moving forward without constantly feeling overwhelmed.You’ll also have unlimited coaching from me so if you get stuck, I’ll be right there to help you out! x
12.01.2022 Here’s one way I used to explain how my anxiety felt in my mind... I know many of you know what it feels like to be anxious. Your anxiety might pop up every now and then, feel like it’s always in the background or be a constant, debilitating daily struggle.... It can feel like your mind is having an argument with itself. One side is the rational voice that tells you things will be ok, that it’ll pass, that things aren’t as big as your anxiety is making them and things will get better. The other side, well that’s the noisy one and the one that butts in and takes over wayyyyyyy more than we’d like it to. It’s the irrational, inner chatter that can make you feel like your thoughts are racing and going around and around in circles (rumination). It can make a mountain out of a molehill very fast. This voice loves catastrophising and entertaining the ‘what-ifs’- things that could happen, things that could go wrong and things you could have done or said differently. Think of having a chat with someone who cuts in, disagrees with every single thing you say, always points out the worst case scenario and leaves you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, unsure and like you have no idea how to get through to them. That’s what anxiety can feel like. Add to that physical and emotional symptoms and it can feel like a lot to handle. Can you relate to this feeling? If it sounds familiar, remember that while it feels consuming you’re not your anxiety. Yes you have it or experience it, but it doesn’t define you? How would you describe your anxiety or how you perceive it to feel for others? Let me know below in words and/or emojis x P.S. If you'd love to learn more about how you can manage your anxiety, make a time to chat with me over the phone. It’ll only take 15-minutes and it’s FREE! Link in bio or DM me to organise a time x See more
12.01.2022 I’m so excited to be able to share The Pledge to Stay Well Journal with you! When Alex and Tom from Saint Belford asked me if I’d like to be on board and contribute I said ‘yes’ without hesitation as it’s so aligned with my work and what I believe in. It’s a go-to if you’d like a beautifully designed journal that’ll help you to dive a little deeper with your reflections and have them all in one place.... Here’s what’s inside... Almost 100 inspiring prompts to help you with everything from intention and goal setting to reducing stress and anxiety. Gratitude prompts Mindful breathing techniques for reducing stress Personalised checklists to help you manage difficult emotions A guide on how to reframe your self-talk Space to bring all of your favourite quotes, affirmations and mantras together A space to document you ‘aha!’ moments Plenty of room to freely journal (175 pages!) Hand up if you’d love a copy Would you choose the Royal Blue or Summer Sand? Head to the link in my bio to grab a copy your copy here https://thetruestyou.com.au/jou/pledge-to-stay-well-journal
12.01.2022 8 ways to weave mindful moments (and some new healthy habits) into your days! Mindfulness doesn’t mean that you have to ‘make’ time to do something, it’s HOW you do the things you already do. These tips are like anchors to help you notice, appreciate and be present in the moment you’re in.... Just because they seem basic, doesn’t mean they won’t have a big impact! 1. Each time you pick up your phone take a deep breath. 2. When you brush your teeth every morning and night, say something you’re grateful for. 3. As you leave home (remember those days?!) ask yourself 'what's one thing I'm going to take with me?' and when you come back, ask 'what's one thing I'm going to leave behind?'. Think of things you're carrying mentally and emotionally. You want to be taking thoughts and feelings that energise and uplift you and leaving behind those that are draining you and wearing you down. 4. Before you get out of bed say one thing you’re looking forward to the most each day. 5. Choose one meal a day that you sit down to without a screen in front of you 6. When you go outside use the 5-4-3-2-1 method to engage your senses and help you to take in all that’s around you. 7. When you go to bed, do a body scan from head to toe. Where is there tension? Where does your body feel open and free? Breathe into areas that are tense and stagnant. 8. Each time you do something for yourself, say ‘thank you’ or ‘well done’. Make yourself a nice meal? Thanks (your name) Drink enough water? Well done ... Go to bed a bit earlier? Well done ... Respond rather than react? You get the gist. There are SO many things you could do! Which one are you going to try? Let me know below. If you'd love to learn how to bring pockets of calm into your day and switch off living on autopilot, come along to my free online mini-masterclass and I’ll show you how. Save your spot here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy x See more
12.01.2022 We get scared of doing things differently but fear staying the same. We deafen ourselves with the ‘what-ifs’ and talk ourselves out of things we really want. The thing is, if we try something new, even just take the first step, we’ll remember how we used to do things.... Remember those new habits you tried to stick at but fell back into old patterns? That just proves it! When we look at it like this, making a change seems like a win-win. It’s worth a shot! What’s one small thing you’d love to change? What’s stopping you? Let me know below! P.S. if you’d love to learn how to create habits that you’ll want AND be able to stick at over time, you can learn my 5-step process in my free mini-masterclass! No more setting habits and falling off the bandwagon a week or two into trying! Click here to save your spot https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy See more
10.01.2022 Just over one week to go until my online women’s circle! Click below for all the details and please share with anyone who could do with some time to themselves to connect with others, reflect and bring a sense of calm to their days x
09.01.2022 8 things to know about my online coaching membership, The Truest You Collective! 1. You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO ME via our private Facebook group every single weekday. It’s like having me on call and means you don’t have to wait weeks to have your questions answered! 2. It’s just over ONE DOLLAR A DAY for everything. Think of the difference it would make and decide if it’s worth spending that amount on yourself. You can join on a monthly ($38) or annual ($380) basis ...and the only thing that’s locked in is the price- it’ll NEVER go up once you join and you can cancel any time! 3. You get full access to my very own STEP-BY-STEP ‘Autopilot to Aligned FRAMEWORK’ to help you manage your stress and anxiety, start (and stick at!) healthy habits, spend your time on what’s most important and ultimately prevent burnout. 4. You can learn from GUEST EXPERTS each month and ask them questions too! So far a couple of guests we’ve had are Clinical Psychologist, @haywardcarrie who spoke about self-talk, fear and resilience and Nutritionist, @melfinlaynutritionist who shared all about stress, anxiety and gut-health. 5. You can work through the framework IN YOUR OWN TIME so you can do bits and pieces when you can and easily pick up where you left off. 6. You can access it all via your computer, iPad and/or our APP! This means you can listen to parts of it like a podcast. Everything has been thought of so it’s as easy as possible for you! 7. You get a whole ‘BONUS GO-TOS’ section that includes everything from Yoga Nidra to meditations, Pilates to lists of things like gratitude prompts and other helpful resources and practical tips so you don’t have to trawl the internet anymore! 8. You can be part of a COMMUNITY of women who you can chat to, celebrate with and learn from. If you’d love to join us, pop a ‘YES’ below and get started here https://bridgetmurphy.mykajabi.com/joinTTYC I can’t wait to see you inside TTYC x See more
09.01.2022 THE 3 STAGES OF STRESS Alarm, resistance and exhaustion. We all go through phases of feeling stressed. Some of us can switch back to a stable or ‘normal’ state once the stress passes but some live in a constant state of stress and reach the point of burnout.... So, let’s see where you’re spending most of your time. 1. ALARM When your body goes into panic mode or you perceive something as stressful your sympathetic nervous system activates to protect you. Your brain triggers your adrenal glands to release hormones like cortisol and adrenaline and the rest of your body is alerted so it has the energy to react to the stress. Everything starts speeding up like your heart rate, blood pressure and breathing. 2. THE RESISTANCE STAGE After the first stress response your body tries to return to a more stable state (homeostasis). But if your stress responses are really strong and/or triggered too often, your body will stay on high alert with no reprieve. This constant stress means that stress hormones keep being released and you may notice changes in your mood, lower energy levels, sleep issues, digestive issues, muscle aches and pains and increased fat stores. This is not a stage to push through, it’s a time to recover and listen to your body. 3. EXHAUSTION STAGE When your body is pushed to function in this tired and wired state without a break from the initial alarm stage, your energy stores become depleted and your body can’t cope with stress. This is where people burnout and trust me, it isn’t pleasant. The good news? You can avoid getting to the exhaustion stage! Just don’t wait to see how far you can push yourself before you start doing something about it. If you’d like some uncomplicated, step-by-step support that’ll help you to reduce and manage your stress (not add to it!) then my online coaching membership could be for you! Inside The Truest You Collective you get access to my 5-step ‘Autopilot to Aligned Framework’, unlimited coaching from me, access to live guest experts and SO much more. It’s just over $1 a day to have all of this at your fingertips. If you’d love to join or know more head here https://bridgetmurphy.mykajabi.com/joinTTYC and feel free to pop any questions below x See more
08.01.2022 We all know that we need to take care of ourselves but how well do we actually DO it? We hear ‘self-care’ and jump to glamourised ideas of what taking care of ourselves and our wellbeing ‘should’ look like, and then feel like we’re not doing a good enough job. The thing is, self-care looks different for everyone and it can be different for each of us daily.... It can be getting up when your alarm goes off or letting yourself have a sleep-in when you need it. Crossing things off your to-do list so you don’t have to keep stressing about getting them done or being ok with doing less. Chatting to friends and family on the phone or popping your phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’. Cooking yourself a healthy meal or grabbing takeaway so you can have a night off cooking and cleaning up. Trusting yourself when you make a decision or seeking advice and reassurance from others. Putting your favourite clothes on and doing your make up or wearing your trackies and going make-up free. Going to bed to read or staying up to watch a movie. Taking care of yourself can be anything that brings a sense of calm, ease, happiness and breathing space. It can be dedicated time that you carve out, or things that you do for yourself on the go. There really aren’t any rules and while I’m all for healthy habits and routines, not being rigid in them is also self-care. It can be a fine line! So there you go. You don’t have to overcomplicate things, just enjoy them and know that you’re worth focusing on- not just fitting in amongst everything else you’re rushing through. Tell me, what’s one of your favourite things to do for yourself? P.S. Stay tuned for a special offer announced right here next week! It involves the Truest You Collective... See more
08.01.2022 This is your reminder to focus on the here and now, on what’s in your control and what helps you feel your best. Tag someone who might appreciate this reminder too x
08.01.2022 What’s your word for the week? Think about how you can take this word and make it your theme for the week. Let it be a reminder, something to ground you when you’re going a million miles an hour, feeling flat or a bit overwhelmed with all that’s happening.... Share you word with us below x
05.01.2022 Upcoming Online Women’s Circle: Align Saturday August 29th 10-11:30am... This is an opportunity for you to take some time out to nurture yourself, connect with others and reflect on where you’re at. It will help you to see where you are and aren’t living in alignment with your values and priorities and guide you to come back into alignment during this complex time of challenge and change. This women's circle will take place via Zoom so you can join us from home, in your comfy clothes and with a cuppa or your drink of choice. Only 7 spots left! Grab your ticket here https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/online-womens-circle-align-
03.01.2022 Bridget is the Lady Startup behind @thetruestyou and she is a health coach. Her goal is to help women create healthier habits and reduce stress, manage anxiety,... and avoid burnout. We asked her for her top tips to manage stress when you own your own business. "Running your own business is no mean feat. I know you know that. It can energise us but also physically, mentally and emotionally drain us if we don’t have things in place to make sure we don’t push ourselves to the limit. The possibilities and opportunities that come with running our own business can be exciting and overwhelming, often at the same time. There is always something else that we can be doing, growing and sharing. Often we play the roles of business owner, admin, marketing coordinator, graphic designer, accountant, IT, customer/client support and more, all in one day. We ride the highs and lows multiple times a day. We can have fast and slow weeks. We can have productive days and ones where we fluff around. One minute we can love our ideas and the next be doubting them. A couple of things I do to make sure I don’t burn myself out (again!) are: Setting boundaries so I don’t feel like I have to be ‘on’ all the time. For me, it’s things like not working with clients at night time or on Sundays, trying not to be on social media on weekends and making sure I take a lunch break. Looking to others to learn from and for inspiration but not to compare myself to. This can be tricky! Always checking in to make sure that what I’m focusing on is aligned with my values, what I’m wanting to create and the impact I’m wanting to have. Getting clear on my priorities each day. I have SO many ideas and can get stressed trying to action everything at once. Writing a ‘now, next, later’ list helps me to organise everything swirling around in my mind. Celebrating my wins often, no matter how small they are so I’m not always focusing on what’s next."
02.01.2022 If someone asked you ‘what’s challenging you the most or being your biggest struggle at the moment?’ and you answered with no filter, fear of judgement or coping facade on, what would you say? Whatever just popped into your mind when you read that is most likely what it would be. Have you told anyone about this yet?... Chances are you haven’t entirely. We hold back in so many ways. We all have challenges but don’t share them for so many reasons. Here are some of them: We fear that the person we tell will think less of us. We don’t want to look like we’re not coping. We don’t want it to be the focus of every conversation, so we avoid it. We think what we’re finding hard will sound trivial when we say it to someone else. We don’t want advice or pity, just someone to listen. We know we’ll be able to work it out or get through it eventually so we keep pushing through on our own and put on a facade so no-one catches on. We want time and space to work through things without any pressure. We don’t want to dump our problems onto someone else. We don’t want our struggles to be dismissed or blown out of proportion. We worry we’ll get upset when we talk about it. These are just a few of the reasons why we bottle things up, internalise everything that’s happening and struggle a lot behind the scenes. There are a few messages I want you to take from this: Trust yourself and what you need. You don’t have to share everything but find someone who’ll be there through the ups and downs. What’s a big challenge for you might not be for someone else, but their challenges might not be yours either. Try not to compare. There’ll always be someone out there who’s not struggling as much as you and who appears to have it 100 times harder, don’t dismiss your struggles based on that. Pushing things down will often make them even harder. Finally, know I’m always here for you. As those who work with me know, you can say things how they are, laugh and cry (even at the same time), say things how they are, be yourself and know you won’t be judged. Do you hold back from chatting about your challenges or share them? x See more
02.01.2022 Are these 3 self-sabotaging habits getting the better of you? Self-sabotage happens when our conscious, logical mind gets overridden by our sub-conscious mind. Our logical mind tells us to start and continue healthy habits- to eat healthy, save money, accept support, do more exercise, spend less time on our phones and go to bed earlier (just to name a few!).... As soon as this happens our subconscious mind has a field day and starts taking over. It pulls us back, talks us out of things, places doubt in our minds and tries to keep us comfortable and safe. HABIT 1. You procrastinate You put things off because you don’t want to do them, can’t be bothered, don’t think you’ll do a good enough job (perfectionism!), find them challenging or see that what’s waiting to be done is too overwhelming. By procrastinating you’re adding stress and letting your negative self-talk rule you (you’re lazy, you’ve got no willpower, you always do this, you’re hopeless!). You do the easy, fluffy jobs first and get them crossed off but let the big things keep adding up. HABIT 2. You set unrealistic expectations You expect yourself to do so much to such a high standard that it’s too much before you’ve even begun. You might not have the time to fit everything in or the skills or resources to do something on your own. As a result, you feel like you’re scraping the surface of so many things and not doing anything properly. HABIT 3. You have an ‘all or nothing mindset’ You either commit to doing something 100% and doing it properly (high expectations) and if you can’t do that, you don’t even bother getting started (procrastination). This can work in your favour or work against you. It can move you forward but lead to burn out, or it can hold you back but give you more time and energy to focus on other things. Which self-sabotaging habit is getting the better of you? 1, 2 or 3? Let me know below! If you’d like to know HOW to stop automatically defaulting to these self-sabotaging habits, come along to my FREE online mini-masterclass where I’ll walk you through 5 STEPS you can take to see change sooner and actually stick at it! Save your spot here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/2z8wvcy
01.01.2022 5 signs you link your self-worth to your productivity (and how you can stop doing it!) 1. You feel better when you have lots on and thrive on being ‘busy’. 2. You compare how much you get done to how much others are able to do in a day and strive for that, or focus on where you’re falling short. 3. You feel guilty for resting or having ‘you time’ and find yourself thinking of everything else you should be doing.... 4. You feel like each day is a bit monotonous but can’t see where or how you can make changes while still fitting everything in. 5. You hang out for downtime but don’t make the most of it when you’re able to. There are always going to be things that have to be done and need your time and energy, but if you’re loading yourself up to the point where you’re going beyond your limit, feeling constantly stressed and exhausted and are living on autopilot (or in survival mode) then try these things: Ask yourself ‘what am I trying to prove and why?’. Narrow down what you really want, and have to get done and focus on the top 3 things. Break your days into chunks of time and allocate tasks etc. to each chunk. That way you’ll be more realistic with what you can actually get done and not finish the day with loads of things still glaring at you on your to-do list. Give yourself permission to step back and have a slower day before the time rolls around e.g. next Monday morning I’m going to that way you know it’s coming and will be more likely to stick to it. Focus on your strengths outside of how much you can get done in a day and celebrate those. Let me know if you link your self-worth to your productivity and one thing you’re going to do to break this way of thinking x @krystleknightjewellery
