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25.01.2022 " Beware the barrenness of a busy life"......Socrates Nature provides a wonderful forum to practice Mindfulness. Stop....Breathe...& Look. No dialogue required.

24.01.2022 YAY!!! NEW TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS WEBSITE NEAR COMPLETION!!! Not long now until its up & operational :)

23.01.2022 5 Minute Forgiveness Meditation: A guided meditation where you are able to release past hurts caused by another - enabling you to free yourself from that situation. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

23.01.2022 MINDFUL MONDAY.....WEEK 3 " Happiness is when what you think, what you say & what you do are in harmony"......Ghandi You have now had 2 weeks of mindful breathing practice; noticing your breath consciously throughout the day.... To bring Mindfulness in to your daily life you have: 30% Awareness on your breath 70% Awareness on your task Mindfulness is the energy that helps us recognize & accept unconditionally the conditions that are present in our lives - without judgement. PRACTICE 3 Morning Routine 1. Pick an activity that constitutes part of your daily morning routine, such as brushing your teeth or having a shower 2. When you do it..have 30% awareness on your breathing & 70% awareness on what you are doing. 3. Totally focus on what you are doing, body movements, taste, the touch, the smell etc. No dialogue required, such as " oh that smells like lemons" or " that tastes so good". You are just breathing & doing, immersing yourself with all senses in the activity. 4. Again & again your attention will wander. As soon as you realize this, gently acknowledge it and bring your attention back to your current activity. 30% Breath & 70% task Practice being Mindful of a specific task regularly throughout the day. ALSO...continue to be mindful of your breathing throughout the day - continuing with either practice from Week 1 or Week 2 for maximum gain

22.01.2022 MINDFUL MONDAY....Week 6 MINDFUL WALKING " Walk as if you are kissing the Earth with your feet." Thich Nhat Hahn....Buddhist Monk, Author & Teacher... PRACTICE 6....MINDFUL WALKING How often do you walk somewhere & not notice your surroundings or the people you walk by. This weeks practice is to be Mindful of the steps you take , to notice where you are walking & to walk with a sense of gratitude that you can indeed walk. Walking consciously with each & every step. You can even say something in your mind such as: " I am walking" " I am aware I am walking" " I know that I am walking" If we don't have a simple "mantra" to encourage our Mindful Walking Practice very soon you will be walking in an unconscious way, planning your dinner menu, maybe stressing about an over due bill or ruminating about an event from your past....but very soon you will be lost in thought of the zillions of things you should, must, need to do.......thinking...thinking...over & over - & very unaware of your walking. Walking with Mindful Awareness. Walking with Mindful Awareness. That's it........a simple, gentle practice. Practice often throughout your day...no matter where you are walking to. You will soon discover that you notice more things,that you are less inclined to trip or injure yourself & you will soon develop a sincere deep gratitude towards the gift of walking. Enjoy................

20.01.2022 RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: PART 4 TRYING TO " REMAKE" YOUR PARTNER Often in intimate relationships one or the other is trying to make their partners in to a second edition of themselves.... This attempt to change them is a statement that you do not feel they are " good enough" or that your way is better. Attempting to alter someone destroys their pride and self esteem, resentment may then arise that can prove fatal in a relationship. 1. Cease trying to change your partner - project love, peace and harmony instead....your relationship will grow more beautiful through the years. 2. Radiate love, kindness and good will to each other. Your subconscious mind will pick up on this resulting in mutual trust, affection and respect. 3. Partners who love each other do not do anything unloving, or unkind in word, manner or action. Love is what love does. 4. Express gratitude that they are your partner - warts and all...after all...if we really studied our own minds/ thoughts & behaviors, we would find enough shortcomings in ourselves to keep us busy for a very long time. 5. And remember - There is no one to change but yourself. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

19.01.2022 New, refreshed Tranquil Mind Solutions Website. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

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17.01.2022 HOW THOUGHTS IMPACT ON HOW WE FEEL. You have a thought that generates a feeling. That feeling eventually makes you act (positively or negatively) Which gives you an end result.... CHANGE your thoughts & your feelings change. Your action then changes & your end result will be different.

15.01.2022 THERAPY THURSDAY......Week 2 THE INNER CRITIC - Part 1 " That voice inside your head is not the voice of God. It just sounds like it thinks it is"......Cheri Huber... The worst critic you will ever encounter is the one who lives in your own mind. The way you talk to yourself has a profound impact on your emotional state - and with 5,000 - 60,000 thoughts daily it is important to monitor your inner dialogue. Many people think just because there's a voice inside their head they have to listen to it - and believe what it is saying. We have unconsciously trained our minds to be fault finding mechanisms - and readily find fault in ourselves, others & in life. INNER CRITIC - Practice 1 Remember a time when you made a big mistake and recall how you spoke to yourself. What does it sound like? Is it critical, is it angry, or maybe resigned? 1. Close your eyes and talk to yourself in your critical voice. 2. Now notice where you make that voice - Is it from inside or outside? Is it at the front, the sides or back? 3. Extend your arm & stick out your thumb 4. Wherever the critical voice was, move it out of your head, down your arm to the tip of your thumb - so now it is speaking from there. 5. Next, change the tone of it...speed it up really fast so it sounds like Mickey Mouse or some other funny cartoon character you like. Add some silly light music to it like the carnival tune or any music that has always made you smile or laugh 6. So now you have a funny sounding voice & funny sounding music saying the words from your thumb 7. It sounds much less threatening now doesn't it? It doesn't quite have the heavy emotional impact as when it was in your head & sounding serious, true and critical Practice this anytime your Inner Critic arises. Remember: They are your thoughts & your thoughts impact on how you feel....why not play with them a little so you feel lighter & more inspired to enjoy this valuable day!

14.01.2022 THERAPY THURSDAY.... " How to quiet down the critical Voice" NLP Technique

14.01.2022 Forgiveness is the key to living a more mindful, healthier, kinder, freer life. Forgiveness towards ourselves, forgiveness of others & even forgiveness of life's circumstance may seem a difficult practice to implement but it is a path to emotional freedom. How strong will you be today? www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

14.01.2022 Read MINDFUL MONDAY WEEK 4 post on TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS FB PAGE to learn more on how to practice Mindful Listening...MINDFUL LISTENING is a wonderful gift to give someone - allowing that person to truly express themselves without interruption. Next week's MINDFUL MONDAY post will be on MINDFUL SPEECH -they go hand in hand!!!

14.01.2022 Keep this in mind when Practicing MINDFUL MONDAY...Week 5 MINDFUL SPEECH.

13.01.2022 THERAPY THURSDAY....WEEK 4 CONFIDENCE BOOSTER....Part 1 " I will remember today that when I smile & listen, change occurs...A Course in Miracles... How wonderful to be able to consistently feel confident in those situations that demand your best. This week & next week I will take you through 2 simple exercises to boost your self confidence in any situation. The more you practice these exercises, the more certain it is you will become confident at a rate that is comfortable for you. CONFIDENCE BOOSTER...Part 1 Read through the instructions first. 1. Stand upright in a relaxed yet comfortable position, a natural position of confidence & close your eyes. 2. Now remember a time you felt totally confident. Return fully to that time now - that younger you who was confident. See what you saw, hear what you heard & feel how good you felt. ( If you can't remember a specific time, just imagine how much better your life will be if you were totally confident & secure) 3. Now you have that memory, make the colors brighter & richer, the sounds at that time louder & allow your feelings of confidence to intensify. 4. Notice where that feeling of confidence is strongest in your body. Give this feeling of confidence a color & move that color up to the top of your head to the tip of your toes - filling your entire body with the color. Double the brightness....Double it again... Repeat steps 2 - 4 at least five more times. Vividly imagine that event where you are confident again in detail. You can also add other times you felt confident or use the same experience. The more you practice the sooner your confidence will grow!! This is a classic NLP Technique....I highly suggest you practice this often for maximum results!

12.01.2022 New Focus Health & Wellbeing Workshop. Designed for individuals diagnosed with cancer or life limiting illness and their support person. Next Full Day Program begins Tuesday March 1st. Registration is required. Email [email protected] for more details. TESTIMONIALS from past New Focus attendees:... Very constructive course mind expanding! Really glad we did this. Each week we attended gave us a good feeling and to be optimistic with all treatments. Lisa was fantastic It has been very worthwhile and I have learned a lot. Lisa has been wonderful Well presented excellent guest speakers Such a valuable, instructive and constructive series by people who knew what they spoke about. Lisa is a wonderful leader. It was good to cover many different areas. Loved the variety of stuff talked about and the ability to be hands on and try stuff out. For more Testimonials visit : www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

12.01.2022 A Feel Good Technique: The Inner Smile 1. Sit comfortably 2. Allow a smile to dance in your eyes - smile a Mona Lisa smile, like someone who knows a really fun secret but isn't going to tell... 3. Smile into any part of your body that feels tight or uncomfortable until you feel it begin to ease or relax 4. Smile to any part of your body that feels especially good. You can increase the smile by expressing gratitude to that part of your body for helping to keep you healthy & strong 5. Allow the inner smile to reach every part of your body...from the tip of your head to the tip of your toes 6. Now, think of something you are a little unhappy about...keeping your full body inner smile, send your smile to the situation you have been thinking about, smile warmly to it and to the associated feelings. 7. Send your warm, nurturing smile to this situation in your mind....and feel how that " situation" feels a little better, a little less BIG, a little less daunting. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

11.01.2022 RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL... Love, such a wonderfully powerful emotion. We meet someone we like, we make sure we always look fabulous ,are on our very best behavior as we date and if all goes well we eventually make the decision to live together or to marry. ... We are in love so cohabiting seems like a natural progression. As time goes by...and life and it's complexities set in...we no longer put on our best behavior, we no longer ensure we look our best, we no longer have wonderful spontaneous sex. In fact, it is never too long before that familiarity that comes with living together begins to build contempt. You know exactly what I am talking about. The little habits you once forgave your partner for (leaving the cap off the toothpaste or the toilet seat up for example) you now find unforgivable, you now believe your partner is either ignorant or doing those things intentionally or worse still, disrespecting you as you have asked them time and time again not to do that particular thing that drives you crazy!! Over time, this contempt starts to chink away at the love, starts to chink away at the union you have both hoped to create...and it can quickly go down hill from here. RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL PRACTICE: Over the next week Practice: HONORED GUEST: In Vietnamese Tradition couples are expected to treat each other like a guest. They also authentically respect each other and respect each others individuality. If respect for each other is not there...love cannot survive for long. If respect is not there, judgement, anger, frustration & righteousness can set in to the relationship. Respecting each other, treating each other as an honored guest is a wonderful practice for couples in healing complacency or contempt in a relationship. Firstly, gain agreement from your partner that you will both practice this for the betterment of your relationship. 1. Treat each other as you would a valued guest - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week 2. Honor the other with kind speech, loving thoughts and gratitude that they are in your life 3. Be mindful of your body language, facial expressions...be mindful of your tone of voice (internal & external dialogue) 4. Be very kind...kind of thought and kind of action. Kind in speech. Really practice together valuing and appreciating each other. Let me know how your practice goes...feel free to post a comment. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

10.01.2022 HOW THOUGHTS IMPACT ON HOW WE FEEL. " My life has been full of terrible misfortunes. Most of which never happened" .......Michel De Montaigne 5,000 - 60,000 Thoughts each day.... It is your thoughts that drive your emotions, your thoughts that affect your mood & not the other way around. So, how do you control your thinking - especially when feeling stressed or anxious?? First, place your awareness on the thought - just notice it. Don't indulge the thought with further dialogue - as in - " I'm stressed because this happened etc etc" or " I'm angry because..." Just notice what you are saying to yourself calmly. Then ask yourself " Is this thought of value to me?" " Is this thought helpful to me?" If the answer is NO then take back control of your thinking. How?? You accept the thought is there - saying " I accept that stressful thought is there" " I know that angry thought is there" " I accept that". Then...let the thought go, just drop the thought and let it land wherever it falls. Then choose something more uplifting to say to yourself. " I choose to feel ok today" " I choose to feel happier" " I choose to feel more motivated now" etc etc By choosing what to think - you can choose healthier, happier thoughts - thoughts that serve you better. " WHY DO THIS??" Because life is as difficult & complex as we make it in our minds. YOUR thoughts....YOU get to choose what you think. That is quite liberating!! You will need to practice this over & over again...so have fun with it...eventually you will update your way of thinking - so that YOU are the one in control of the thoughts you allow yourself to engage with.

10.01.2022 FORGIVENESS: Part 3 " Let us forgive each other only then will we live in peace." ....Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy... Forgiving the Unforgivable Forgiveness practice can help you find meaning in life's worst events and free you from further pain & anguish. 1. Think of an instance when you have been pleased that you were able to forgive someone. Upon reflecting on that time, how did the forgiveness come about? How did you feel once forgiveness had arisen? By exploring when you have forgiven someone you gain valuable insight into what you had to do to truly forgive the other person. You gain insight in to how you were able to forgive with authenticity. This is your personal forgiveness blueprint - you can then apply this to other people or life events where you know you are still harboring a grudge, where you know you are still "stuck" . Start to examine the subtle expectations that exist in your mind around forgiveness. Do you feel as though some people treat you as though you’re obligated to forgive them? Is there a hidden assumption that if you forgive them that you’re supposed to let them back into your life? Or maybe you assume that if you forgive, you lose the right to say no to someone. Likewise, when you’re asking for forgiveness, is there a hidden demand? Read FORGIVENESS PARTS 1 & 2 below for further exploration - it is comforting to know that as we release ourselves from past hurts we free ourselves - in freeing ourselves we feel less burdened & more at peace. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

09.01.2022 THERAPY THURSDAY......WEEK 3 INNER CRITIC.....Part 2 " Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're probably right"....Henry Ford... It's very important to remember that the intention of your Inner Critic is positive - to help stop you making mistakes and help you do things better. However, if you use an encouraging tone of voice while pointing out what to watch out for or maybe a better way to do things, you will create an entirely different result. PRACTICE 2. Inner Critic 1. Remember a time when you made a mistake & you harshly criticized yourself. Recall exactly what you said. 2. Now, ask yourself " How could I say the same message in an encouraging way?" 3. Step back in to yourself at that time you made the mistake. This time, give yourself the constructive criticism/ feedback instead. Over the next few days, pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Play with your tone of voice & the content of the message until you feel better in yourself. The point is this!! You do have a choice & you are the one in control

09.01.2022 Sunset last night. Nature in all its magnificence.

07.01.2022 RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: Which side of the line are you currently standing in regarding your partner? A Relationship enhancing practice can certainly keep you standing more often on the love side...it may not seem easy but today is a very good day to give it a go.... Show the one you love, the one you have chosen to spend your days with, that you love them...simple! Loving looks, loving words, loving thoughts about them...touch them with a deep loving touch...who knows - they may even respond to you in kind!! www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

07.01.2022 MINDFUL MONDAY....WEEK 7. COUNTING WITH MINDFUL BREATHING " You don't have to see the whole staircase - just take the first step"...Martin Luther King, Jnr Focusing on each & every breath is an excellent way of beginning to increase your awareness of the present moment.... This simple mindfulness exercise is useful to help you control the myriad of thoughts you have that can interrupt a mindfulness practice. COUNTING WITH MINDFUL BREATHING... 1. Make yourself comfortable in a sitting position. Posture upright & dignified, feet flat on the floor 2. Begin to focus on your inhale & exhale 3. Then in your mind - on the inhale - say the word AND 4. As you exhale - say the number 1 5. Inhaling, say the word AND 6. Exhaling - say the number 2 7. Inhaling - AND 8. Exhaling - say the number 3 9. Continue this sequence until you reach number 7 - then go back to number 1 10. Focus on your breathing and just say the AND 1....AND 2 etc softly in your mind Use 100% focus on this exercise & every time you reach number 7 you then go back to number 1. Relax into this exercise...relax your mind & body & repeat this process for 5 - 10 minutes throughout the day. Focus, breathing, counting....that is all that is required for this exercise. Visit www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

06.01.2022 Cultivating a Mindfulness Practice allows us to embrace each & every day - it helps us to let go of the past & to not fear the future...Mindfulness paves the way for us to live this day wisely, earnestly, moment by moment & with a deep gratitude that we have this day.

06.01.2022 TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS. MINDFULNESS FOR HEALTH & WELLBEING WORKSHOP- Byron Shire TUTOR: Lisa Keeley... FULL DAY COURSE: Saturday June 4th 9.30 am - 3.30 pm Byron Community College Mullumbimbi Campus. NSW Mindfulness is the energy that helps us recognize and accept unconditionally the conditions that are present in our lives. Mindfulness helps us to live in the present moment and not ruminate about the past or worry about the future. Mindfulness is a learned experience and does require practice. In this interactive and experiential workshop you will discover how to bring Mindful Awareness to your every day. To register go to: www.byroncollege.org.au and find the workshop details under COURSES - WELLBEING heading. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

05.01.2022 THERAPY THURSDAY.....WEEK 5 THE CONFIDENCE SWITCH - Part 2 of Confidence Booster " If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living".......Anotole France, French Poet... Now that you know how to boost your confidence ( Part 1 last Thursday) I am going to share how you can create a "switch" that allows you to fire off the confident feeling whenever you need it. NLP calls this "switch" ANCHORING. The technique involves accessing a strong, positive state. Each time you experience a peak of the good feeling you will press your thumb & middle finger together, of either hand. Over time, this gesture will become your Confidence "switch" - enabling you to access your most confident states at will. Read through the technique first. 1. Close your eyes & remember a time when you felt really confident - fully return to it now. See what you saw, hear what you heard & feel how good you felt. (If you can't remember just imagine how much better your life would be if you were totally confident - if you could have all the inner strength & self belief you could ever need!) 2. As you go through this memory, make the colors brighter and richer, the sounds louder and the good feelings even stronger. 3. As you feel those good feelings, squeeze the thumb & middle finger together of either hand. Don't release the fingers - after you have squeezed them keep them touching lightly. 4. Now squeeze the thumb & finger together & relive that good feeling. 5. Repeat steps 1 - 4 several times with different positive memories, stacking all those times on your "switch" (the thumb & the middle finger)...repeat until just squeezing your fingers together begins to bring back those good feelings. 6. Still holding your thumb & finger together, think about a situation where you want to feel more confident. Imagine things going perfectly, exactly the way you want them to go. See, hear & feel how good that feels. Practice this everyday - it only takes 5 minutes. Whenever you feel challenged simply turn on your confidence switch by squeezing your thumb & middle finger together - concentrate for a few moments & access your inner state of confidence.

04.01.2022 FORGIVENESS: When we practice forgiveness we free ourselves of our anger, judgements, grievances & resentments. By withholding forgiveness we think we are punishing the other person for what they did but the fact is we are just punishing ourselves in the process.... When we refuse to forgive others we're essentially keeping ourselves locked in an emotional prison that is now of our own making - relegating ourselves to live in the past. Practicing forgiveness decreases anger, stress, depression & anxiety. We sleep better, we relate to others better -our general attitude is more positive & optimistic. Consequently, it is in our best interests to forgive. That does mean, to forgive everyone - without exception. More on how to practice forgiveness coming soon...but for now, think of someone who you know you have not forgiven, someone you hold a grudge towards.......notice how that feels in your body - notice your inner dialogue when you think of that person & situation - observe if there are images that come to mind when you think of this person......it probably feels quite awful!! That is the mental prison Lewis B Smede quoted below.

03.01.2022 MINDFUL MONDAY....MINDFUL LISTENING Week 4 " Welcome whatever is in each moment, harmonize with it & become curious as to how it will continue to unfold - allow it to unfold with least resistance" ... Buddhist Psychology You have now had 3 weeks of mindful breathing practice; noticing your breath consciously throughout the day and 1 week of practicing being Mindful doing a morning routine/ activity.... REMEMBER: To bring Mindfulness in to your daily life you have: 30% Awareness on your breath 70% Awareness on your task PRACTICE 4 Mindful Listening 1. Practice being very present when someone is speaking to you 2. When you do ...have 30% awareness on your breathing & 70% awareness on what you hearing, what the other person is saying. 3. Truly listen to the person speaking with you, this means you breathe & eliminate your inner dialogue- you really BE with the person talking to you. 4. Again & again your inner dialogue will want to interrupt the other person... it seems we often believe we have the answers, or we know best...but this weeks practice is just to authentically listen to someone. Listening with full awareness - allowing the person speaking to be 100% heard. Also continue to practice being Mindful of a specific task regularly throughout the day - pick a new one for this week. And, continue to be mindful of your breathing throughout the day - the more you practice the easier it all becomes. Enjoy this weeks practice!!

02.01.2022 TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS. Most clients I see say they want more peace in their lives. They also say they want to feel happier.... These two wonderful, feel good states are attainable - when we feel more at peace, when we feel happier in ourselves, the love for those around us grows, the love for ourselves and our environment grows. We just need to know how to access these states more regularly. Private 1.5 hour Consultations available: Learn > How to reduce stress levels > How to access a happier state > How to harness a more peaceful mindset > How to let go of past hurts > How to live life with a Happily Mindful attitude Limited Consults available next week: Monday 20th June Tuesday 21st June Wednesday 22nd June Thursday 23rd June Please use the contact page on www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au for any queries or to book in for a consult. Happiness is indeed a choice....choose to feel a little happier today - if not today, when??

02.01.2022 TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS. Private Consultations available: Gold Coast & Northern NSW Discover ... > How to reduce stress levels & anxiety > How to access a happier state > How to harness a more peaceful mindset > How to let go of past hurts > How to enrich your relationships > How to forgive others Free your beautiful mind...it is easier than you may think!! Please use the contact page on our website...www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au for any queries or to book in for a consult.

02.01.2022 TRANQUIL MIND SOLUTIONS. Gold Coast Cancer Care Community Health & Wellbeing Centre I am exploring the viability of creating a central " hub" for people currently experiencing cancer & undergoing treatment & also for those who have survived cancer.... The center would provide Counseling, Psychological support and a whole host of Complimentary Therapies such as: Resilience Building, Stress Management, Relaxation, Meditation, Mindfulness, Qigong, Tai chi, Gentle Yoga, Oncology Massage, Oncology Acupuncture, Healthy Nutrition Classes, Art Therapy,Oncology Pharmacy and other evidenced based Mind/ Body Therapies. My vision is to create a center that is open 5 days per week...with free or low cost activities to support current or past patients & their families. A feel good, educational & supportive "drop in" community place, staffed by experienced professionals in holistic cancer care. I need, however, to gather Community feedback to see whether this type of " community center" is viable and is needed by the community- and so I have designed 2 surveys - one for individuals currently going through cancer treatment and one also for those who have survived cancer and have completed their treatment. These surveys are to explore specifically what is best for you and the needs you may have. To obtain a survey, please go to: www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au ....go to the contact page and send through your email address, letting me know also which survey pertains to you & I shall then on send the survey specific to your needs. Survey 1: Current Patient Survey Survey2: Survivorship Survey PLEASE SHARE THIS POST with anyone you know could benefit from a holistic Community Cancer Care Health & Wellbeing Center here on the Gold Coast. Thank you!!!

02.01.2022 RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: Part 2 Last week the practice was to treat each other as honored guests...please post comments on how you went, how long did you practice, how successful were you in treating your partner/spouse in an honorable way?? All day, every day?? It is not an easy task, our thoughts & life get in the way...yet it is absolutely achievable for those with the discipline and desire to reignite the love, fun & respect towards their significant other.... It is the nature of the HUMAN BEAST to re-partner after a failed relationship...so why not make the effort with your current partner and reignite the friendship, the passion, the joy you both experienced together in those earlier times (NOTE: excluding abusive relationships of course). These posts are for the relationships that have become...well,humdrum... relationships that are lacking in laughter, lacking in trust, lacking in intimate joy and lacking in the deep friendship you once shared. RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: Part 2 1. Continue to practice together treating each other as honored guests. Re reread my last post on how to do this effectively. 2. Throughout this next week, begin to remember, to relive all the good times you had as a new couple. 3. Really go back to what attracted you to your partner initially, the traits of that person that left you wanting more. 4. Magnify these wonderful memories, make them bigger, brighter and bolder in your mind. 5. Really relish those memories, relish this person that you fell in love with. That person is still there!! 6. Go back and revisit who you were during the dating stage. Magnify those memories, making them bigger, brighter & bolder in your mind. 7. Relish those memories, remind yourself of the person you were back then, the person you truly are and begin being that person again with your partner. THEY will love it!!! Enjoy the joy of reigniting happiness, love, care and intimacy with your partner. It may very well be that you are both craving the same thing...but life and it's complexities have just got in the way.For the moment only!! Positive changes could be just around the corner for your relationship - it just takes a little dedication and a little fun!! www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au r

02.01.2022 FORGIVENESS: Part 2 Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; & yet finding you are the one who gets burned......Buddha Most of us equate this burn to psychological distress; after all, holding a grudge causes you more mental pain than the person who did you wrong.... It can also cause you physical pain. Some confuse forgiving with just verbally accepting an apology, but that’s not true. Although saying it’s okay often goes hand in hand with forgiveness, these things are not one in the same. In order to forgive you must let go of your anger and negative thoughts and forgive the person deep within yourself as well as outwardly. You can even do this without a true apology even if the person doesn’t feel they are wrong or has too much pride. Forgiveness is not just a formality, but a state of mind. And that loving, accepting state of mind can lift you from a lot of burdensmentally and physically. A Forgiveness practice: 1. Think of a situation in your life when someone has forgiven you when you were really at fault. 2. Do you remember how you felt? Relieved? Grateful that they were able to forgive you? 3. Wouldn't that be wonderful to give this gift to yourself & others Please Note: Forgiveness doesn't mean you are pardoning or excusing the other person's actions. Forgiveness doesn't mean you need to tell the person that he or she is forgiven. Forgiveness doesn't mean you should forget the incident ever happened. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to continue to include the person in your life. ... and forgiveness isn't something you do for the other person. By forgiving, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. This can be a gradual processand it doesn't necessarily have to include the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness isn't something you do for the person who you feel has wronged you; it's something you do for your wellbeing ; for your future life and for your own peace of mind. More on Forgiveness in up coming posts. www.tranquilmindsolutions.com.au

01.01.2022 MINDFUL MONDAY....MINDFUL SPEECH Week 5 " Kind words can be short & easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless"...Mother Theresa You have now had 4 weeks of mindful breathing practice of practicing being Mindful during a daily activity &1 week of practicing Mindful Listening. This week we are adding Mindful Speech to your practice - not only being mindful of the words you say to others but also to the words you say to yourself.... REMEMBER: 30% Awareness on your breath 70% Awareness on your speech PRACTICE 5 MINDFUL SPEECH. 1. Practice being very present when you are speaking to someone including when you speak to yourself. 2. When you do ...have 30% awareness on your breath & 70% awareness specifically on what you are saying. Notice your tone of voice, notice your posture as you speak, notice your breathing - is your breath shallow & rapid or perhaps easy & comfortable. Just notice. 3. As you are speaking be 100% aware of the words you are saying and of your delivery. Observe the other persons reaction to what you are saying. 4. Again & again you will slip back to speaking unconsciously ...but this weeks practice is to truly speak with full awareness - knowing and being very Mindful of what you are saying to another. NLP Practitioners would say - Your communication is only as good as the response you receive"...well worth consideration. Keep up the practice of Mindful Listening from last week also. Enjoy this weeks practice