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25.01.2022 In the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, he states that he has discovered five ways that people demonstrate that they love someone, which is usually demonstrated the same as how they would like to have love demonstrated to them. The five ways are; WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: This is hearing words that affirm how you are loved. This could be compliments, statements or phrases. QUALITY TIME: This is spending time being with a partner doing activities, work around the ho...use, going on a date or just being in the same space with them. RECEIVING GIFTS: Being given a small gift means that you partner was thinking about you at some point during the day, showing that they think about you when they arent with you. ACTS OF SERVICE: This is having your partner make a coffee for you or doing the dishes, or some other activity that is doing something for you. PHYSICAL TOUCH: This is holding your hand, receiving cuddles, or any form of physical contact. Knowing how you receive love is important and even more important is knowing how your partner receives love. If you dont know theirs you could be doing acts of service which is yours only to find they feel unloved, because their love language is words of affirmation and you are well off target. Learn yours, learn theirs and deliver accordingly. See more
25.01.2022 Whenever we have conflict or challenges that throw us for a loop, it is easy to blame others, be blamed and to argue over who did what. This is not healthy. It is also disempowering. If you can instead look at the situation with an analytical eye and remove the emotions, you can get clarity. Own what you have contributed to the situation because that is the only thing that you have control over whether or not it happens again. You cant control what another does. Take respons...ibility, which is an empowering thing to do and then change the behaviour, habit, belief, attitude if you want to. That is truly a great thing then, taking responsibility. Learn the difference and watch your life improve. See more
24.01.2022 When you normally ask people who they are, they start using labels like their job, their role when they are at home, what they do on the weekend or some other label that does not define who they actually are. Try and describe yourself without using those labels. See how well and accurately you can do it.
24.01.2022 Imagine if you can a scene. You are laying in bed with a partner. YOu have something that is weighing on your mind. It is causing you distress and you need support, encouragement and guidance. You turn to your partner and you ... Most people would struggle to say something because they are scared of being judged, ridiculed, minimised, rejected or embarrassed. This is not good. If you have a high-quality relationship you can talk about anything. Instead, you turn to your part...ner, and they see that you are worried. They pause what they are doing and you now have their total attention. You tell them everything and they listen with the occasional nod and a gentle touch on your arm. You feel lighter because you have unburdened yourself. You discuss what to do and you feel connected to this person who genuinely cares about you. Your heart fills and grows larger. You feel lucky and loved. You have been vulnerable and you now have deeper intimacy. If you want to know more about how to achieve this, click on the message button and we can chat. See more
24.01.2022 We all have moments where we get annoyed, frustrated and feel like we are not being heard. If you are in conflict with someone, they will be feeling the same way. We all want to be heard and acknowledged. The challenge is that there are things that we want to say and are scared to say because they could make the situation worse, we could be shot down, or rejected and we are scared. The other person is the same. A lot of the time, if you take the time to listen to their tone..., where the emphasis is on certain words, where they pause for breath. These sorts of things can tell you how they are feeling far more than the words they are speaking. Learn to notice these things and your conflict becomes a moment of real discovery of who your partner (or anyone else for that matter) is. Try it. If you need help, contact us and well show you how to do it. See more
23.01.2022 Many years ago, when my first wife left me, took my sons and destroyed our marriage. I could have given up. When I was in a lot of pain emotionally, financially, mentally and physically, I could have given up. When I met my second wife and she seemed to be the angriest, most insecure and jealous woman on Earth, I could have given up. When I was struggling with my emotions and seemed to only have angry or numb, I could have given up. When I had daily thoughts of killing myself... because of the emotional pain I was in, I could have followed through. If I had given up, then my wife now, would not have such a strong, dedicated, loving, encouraging partner and husband. If I had given up, my sons would not have a father who stands by them, supports them and encourages them as he loves them. If I had given up, my clients would not have a coach who understands and fights for their results. If I had given up, then I would not have the joy that I have now. I still have challenges and now I welcome them as I know it helps me to be better. I could have given up, however, I didnt. Dont you ever give up! When you feel its too much, know that I (and others) have made it. Dont you ever, ever, ever give up! If you want help and guidance, feel free to reach out. I believe in you. See more
23.01.2022 The right mentality for a high-quality relationship is understanding that it is a partnership where both are contributing, involved, encouraging, supporting and holding the other accountable. If one person is dominant within the relationship, then they miss out on all the good stuff that the other person brings to the table. Be the smart one who has all of their partner turn up and be present. Then you can get all the good stuff.
22.01.2022 Everyone has moments where things are overwhelming. Everyone has moments where we want to give up because its too hard. Ive certainly had them. For months on end I was on the edge of depression, suicidal thoughts (hundreds of times), wanting to run away, wanting to lash out, all sorts of things because I felt the darkness would never end. Im glad I persisted. Im now in a life that is pretty damn cool. I had to persist and wait for that sun to rise though. If you are going through challenges, remember that the sun will come up. Sometimes, it may take a while, however, it WILL come up. If you need help, feel free to reach out and ask for a chat.
22.01.2022 A relationship has to have a balance between every facet of a relationship. You cant have just the good stuff, because then there is no growth You cant have just the bad stuff because that is damaging. A balance between all of it is a healthy mix of growth and enjoyment.
22.01.2022 People regularly use the phrase "Ill do it when I get more confidence" People think that confidence is something that you find, something that is suddenly bestowed upon you by the clouds parting and angels singing. WRONG! Do you remember that first time you did your job? You would have been crap. You would have made many mistakes, you would have been slow, you would have felt awkward and wondered if youd get the hang of it. Then as you practised it again and again and again..., you became better and your confidence went up. It is the same for anything. When I wanted to get more confident approaching women, I started approaching women. My first attempt I was terrified and not confident. As I forced myself to practise, I became more and more confident. I had successes, I enjoyed the conversations, I brought more and more of my authentic self to each interaction, until after approaching over one hundred and seventy women in seven weeks, I found my wife. By then, I was very confident and could comfortably approach any woman. I had to build my confidence, I had to develop my confidence. If you want to get confident in something, just start doing it. The more you do it, the better and more confident you will become. See more
20.01.2022 Studies have shown that if you write down or think about three things that you are grateful for, just once per week, that 94% of people will feel happier. Imagine if you did this a few times a week or even every day, how much happier would you be? Think about it. It would only take less than five minutes per day, a mere 35 minutes per week to be happier. Thats only 0.3% of your week to feel better. Start the habit and start feeling happier. You can do it!
20.01.2022 I remember being rejected by women when I approached them. There were so many fears running through my head as well as doubts, hesitations, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage patterns and the rest, I had no room in my head to think about what they may be thinking. Once I created my system and looked at how they saw me, I realised there was so many mixed signals that I was sending them. For instance, my body language was crap and they wouldnt have seen me as confident. Im pret...ty sure I wasnt smiling (because I was that terrified) and also my hands werent always clearly visible and considering that there are some genuine weirdos out there, they probably thought I was carrying chloroform in a rag. Im so glad I figured out how to approach far more effectively. It also helped me go from being a complete klutz when approaching to having confidence, approaching over one hundred and seventy women in seven weeks and only getting rejected twice. The good thing about being rejected was that I knew exactly why, instead of being totally clueless. If you would like some help with being able to build your confidence and be able to approach ANY woman, then click the link below for a quick ten-minute chat to see what we can do together. See more
20.01.2022 When you are approaching someone new their brain is analysing you and making a decision on whether you are safe within tenths of a second. This is because our primitive brain which is connected to our fight/flight response wants us to know what to do as quickly as possible. If you approach someone and this is more important for guys than the ladies, if your hands are in your pockets, behind your back or otherwise hidden, they will unconsciously suspect you are carrying a weapon and be far more likely to reject you because their primitive brain has seen you as unsafe and a threat. When approaching someone make sure that they can see your hands. Of course, dont walk forward holding them above your head because they will just see you as some kind of weirdo, just have your hands naturally by your side and clearly visible.
19.01.2022 Relationships had never been a strong point with myself and they were usually filled with all sorts of conflict and challenge. The one thing that I never realised that I did was to not be fully present in my relationships. This meant that I never brought all my talents, abilities, skills, attitudes, beliefs and attributes to the relationship. This meant that not only did I miss out on getting what I wanted and needed from the relationship, my partner also missed out on all th...at goodness. Youre probably wondering what I am talking about here. It means I never brought all my emotions to a relationship. Sure, I could bring the frustrated part, because anger is easy to do. The challenge was bringing the nurturing side of myself, and unfortunately, I had not rediscovered that part yet. I didnt bring my excitement and passion to the fore because I still didnt know what made me passionate, what got me excited. I didnt bring my curiosity, my humour, my sense of fun, my focus, my encouragement, my support. I didnt bring it for them and I also, more importantly, I didnt bring it for myself. Now I can bring all of me to a relationship, my wife wins and I win. Are you bringing all of you to your relationship? See more
19.01.2022 If you need something to focus on to create your best life, then focus on you. Its the only thing that you have control over anyway. Focus on being a good communicator so people know exactly what you mean when you speak. Focus on being a better partner so that your partner never doubts your love for them Focus on becoming the best parent that you can be so your children know they can rely on you Focus on being as healthy as you can be so you can have a good quality of life... Focus on being a good friend to those that you love to know you have their back and love them just the way they are Focus on becoming a good employee, increasing your value so you can be valued and appreciated. Become the best version of you, not a different version. Become the best version of who you naturally are. You know... awesome! See more
19.01.2022 People tend to focus on looking for the right partner. The key is actually to become someone who increases their value and worth to attract someone that they deserve to have. Become that amazing partner and the right one will find you.
19.01.2022 One of the most empowering things that I have learnt in my journey and has helped me to love and accept myself the most is this. If you took a dictionary and looked through and took a note of every characteristic that a person could be, and if you were totally honest you would find that you have been every single one of them. Regardless of what the characteristic is and how you view yourself, you will have been all of them. There would be times that you have been dishonest, where you have been manipulative, nasty, jealous, vindictive, as well as loving, accepting, supportive, and nurturing. The moment that you can honestly say that you are all of it, and can really accept that, that is the day you can love yourself and by extension, others.
18.01.2022 When a relationship dies, one of the major contributors is over money. Knowing your money type so you are aware of potential conflict can go a long way toward protecting your relationship. The four money types are; SAVER: This person is someone who enjoys saving money. There is a spectrum here from people who look for bargains when out shopping to save a few dollars here and there, through to people who are terrified of spending any money to the point of actually needing some... sort of therapy to help them. SPENDER: These people love spending money and are also on a spectrum of living from paycheck to paycheck with a little wriggle room through to people who max out a credit card just to get another to max out and are oblivious to the impending crash that is coming. MONK: These people say that they dont need money to be happy. This is usually so they dont have to acknowledge that they are broke. They are inclined to have an "Im better than you" attitude toward money. DENIER: These people are constantly borrowing money to put out financial fires and have multiple credit cards and as the impending financial disaster looms, they are confident they can get on top of it all and wave away your concerns with a wave of their hand. They can also be problem gamblers. Knowing your money type and that of your partner means that you can allow for any mismatch and also potentially use it to your advantage. For example, a spender can show someone how to enjoy their money while the saver shows them the benefit of saving for something or the security of investing and growing wealth. See more
18.01.2022 There are people who believe that a relationship just works itself out WRONG! There are people who believe if a relationship is meant to be, it's meant to be WRONG! There are people who believe that if you meet 'the one' that everything will magically be okay... DOUBLE WRONG! A great relationship takes regular attention and effort. It takes prioritising each other, yourself, and the relationship. It takes dealing with stuff that needs to be dealt with regardless of how uncomfortable it may be. If you want to have a high-quality relationship, it takes work. It should never be hard work, however, it does take work. Then you get to enjoy all the yummy goodness of a great relationship. See more
16.01.2022 WHenever my two boys would come over to my house, we would sometimes watch television together and they would often lay on the sofa, draped across my lap. I remember one day, when I looked down and noticed that my eldest boy suddenly had hairy legs. I realised that he was now a teenager. There are times with children where they wear you down and the day seems like it will never end and you are waiting for bedtime so you can sleep and rest. Before you know it, they are grown up. Days will seem long, however, before you know it they will be grown and the years will have flown past. Enjoy the days before the years have slipped away.
15.01.2022 A book that I read about love that I felt was really good is "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. He explains that we receive and give love in five ways; Physical affection, Gift giving, Quality time, Words of affirmation and Acts of service. If your partner has one love language and you are using another to demonstrate your love for them, they will actually feel unloved. Find out what their love language is and give them love in the form that they recognise and your relationship will bloom.
13.01.2022 If you are on a date and you get curious about a person, they feel valued and worthy. If you are spending time with a child and you get curious about them, they feel significant. If you are having conflict with someone and you are curious about why they are upset, they feel listened to and worthy. Being curious is a great attribute to develop. Get curious about everything. The world and everyone in it are interesting, so get curious.
13.01.2022 When someone shakes your hand, it is a tradition going back centuries. It was originally to show that we are unarmed and therefore safe. It is an unnecessary gesture these days as we carry no weapons. Regardless, it is something that we still do. The bonus of this is that the handshake can reveal a lot about a person. From the strength of the handshake, and yes, no-one likes the dead fish! through to how they position their hand and themselves.... A very simple one is how they hold their hand. If they offer their hand with the palm facing the ceiling, this means that they view themselves to be lower than yourself and could be seen as subservient. If their hand if presented with their palm facing down they see themselves as superior to you and want to dominate you. Of course, the more their hands are rotated, the stronger the belief. There are other signs that tell you many things and there are ways to counteract their physicality so you can neutralise them. Pay attention to the handshake See more
13.01.2022 Before I met my wife and I was out talking to a lot of women each week, I started to notice something interesting. A vast majority of the women that I approached and spoke to were obviously not my type and I could discount them. There was also a selection who looked like my type but they werent. These women accounted for approximately 65% of the women I spoke to. Around 30% of the women that I spoke to, I got on really well with. Our conversation was easy and I could find s...tuff in common. I realised that these women could have become friends as we had quite a bit of stuff in common. About 5% of the women that I spoke to, I felt that I could have had a relationship with them as we had quite a bit of common ground. I was looking for a particular type of woman and I did find her. I had to keep working the numbers until I found her. I had to speak to over 170 women to find her and some clients have done it in less and some a little longer. The clients who worked the numbers found their partner pretty quickly. If youd like to know how to find your partner using our system, then send us a message and well let you have access to a free 7 day dating course that we have. It gives you an outline of our system and you can use this to get a result. Just message for the link. See more
13.01.2022 People, especially in the early days of a relationship are inclined to confuse love and like. Sadly, there are people who have been together for a long time that also confuse like with love. What I have found is that when you first meet someone you can like them, however, you cant love them, just yet. Love is made up of a number of emotions that take time to develop and build. Things like trust, admiration, support, (the right sort of) challenge, respect, and much more. Thes...e all take time to establish, develop and build. Because they take time to develop, they take time to erode and diminish. This means that it takes time to get to the level of loving someone. When someone doesnt love someone anymore, it isnt that the love has suddenly changed, it has been allowed to wither. As you allow respect, admiration, support, connection and the rest to decrease, you have allowed the love to erode. This means that at some point you acknowledge or notice that the love has died and you then end it or move on. Of course, love can be reinvigorated and rebuilt. It takes time and effort, however, it can be done. Liking someone is a singular emotion. You either like someone or you dont. This means that you can like someone one minute, then not like them the next, then like them again two minutes later. Like is a very mercurial emotion. The challenge is when people confuse the two and think that because they dont like someone for a period of time, that they dont love them. This couldnt be further from the truth. Everyone, no matter how much you love them, will at some point cause you to be frustrated or disappointed or some other such emotion. This doesnt mean that you dont love them, it just means you dont like them at that moment. This is perfectly normal. Make sure you know the difference and your relationships will be a lot easier to navigate. See more
10.01.2022 For people who have been doing work on themselves, they would probably know that other people are a mirror of ourselves. If you see people as untrustworthy, lazy, shifty, conniving, and dishonest, then this could be how you see yourself. When we can see the better side of other people we are able to see our own good side easier. Learn to be gentle to others and by association, gentler on yourself. We are all on a journey and if you can be gentle as we each make our best efforts, then we are more likely to get there. This doesnt mean that we dont hold each other accountable, it just means that we dont beat ourselves and others up.
09.01.2022 Im working with some clients at the moment who are really going through some challenges. I have to keep reminding them that the journey will get easier. The pressure will subside. The stress will reduce. How do I know this? Because I have been in similar situations, where it all seemed too much and I couldnt see the end. Where the stress both mentally and emotionally was overwhelming and suicide felt like a genuine option. Anything you are going through becomes easier as yo...u deal with a small aspect at a time, like the old saying of "How do you eat an elephant?" "One bite at a time" Also, you will learn skills along the way to deal with the challenges and each time you come across them again, and you will, they become a little easier, you get a little better and more skilled. If you are going through a challenge, keep going, ask for help, seek tools to use, keep pushing because there is someone on the other side waiting for you to succeed and cheering you on. If you cant think of anyone, then remember that Im cheering you on. You can do this, you got it. See more
09.01.2022 Just about anyone on this planet can put in the two minutes it takes to conceive a child. Thats easy. What is a challenge is putting in the years of effort to raise that child. What is an even bigger challenge is putting in the effort to raise a child who becomes someone of substance. Someone with good morals, strong character, someone who can be a leader, someone who is articulate, who is friendly, compassionate, engaging, and who is a clear demonstrator of the time and eff...ort you have put into them. That is the real challenge of parenting
08.01.2022 Wow! Where does the time go? I havent posted in ages I need to get back into the habit. Keep an eye open for posts coming your way with some good information that you will want to know about.
08.01.2022 This is one that I got really wrong many years ago. I tried to manipulate and change and coerce my partner, making her responsible for my problems. What a goof I was. Once I realised what the gift was that she bought to the relationship and more importantly, what she bought for me, then I realised she wasnt the angry, nasty, manipulative person I believed her to be. She was the best thing to happen to me and was the catalyst for me becoming who I am these days. So grateful to that woman and all the others who contributed with the gifts to mould me into who I am today.
07.01.2022 When you look at someone it is impossible to know what they are facing, what experiences they have had, what challenges they currently face and how they are dealing with it all. Regardless of what these things are, we are all doing the best we can with the tools that we currently have. I know that I can look back on my life and recognise that I did the best I could at the time with the tools, processes and knowledge that I then had. I now have better tools and processes and c...ould get a better result. You are no different. We are all doing the best we can with what we currently have in our toolbox. Be gentle with yourself and others knowing that we are all doing the best we can. The biggest challenge is when you encounter someone who is getting a truly shitty result, and being patient enough knowing that they must have some truly shitty tools. Be gentle! See more
06.01.2022 I am hosting a half-day workshop in Perth this Sunday for anyone that wants to know the eight stages of effective dating all the way through to a high-quality relationship. I will be guiding you through preparing to date so you can date the 'right' person for you and then move to the relationship you've always wanted with everything that you need to know in between. If you want to attend and learn the eight stages, then click the link and register. I'll see you there. https://lifebackontrack.kartra.com//DatingToRelationshipHa
06.01.2022 I remember arguing with my (then) wife and trying to out yell her, waiting for her to change, struggling with conflict. I remember struggling with my parenting, with both my own sons and my (then) step-son. I argued, cajoled, negotiated and struggled. I remember having challenges when it came to engaging in quality conversations, approaching women, connecting with people. I was living the definition of insanity according to Albert Einstein. Doing the same thing over and over ...again and expecting a different result. Once I started doing things differently, then I started getting a different and better result. Any conflict that I had dropped to mere minutes, instead of hours and hours. I started to change instead of waiting for others. I got on top with my parenting and started connecting, receiving respect, and had improved communication. I built my confidence in approaching women, my conversations became a lot more engaging and interesting, my friendships deepened, and life improved. If you want things to get better, you have to do something about it. You cant wait for others because you will be waiting for a very long time. If you would like help in dealing with your challenges, click the link below https://buff.ly/3bLxnRs and book a time to have a quick fifteen-minute chat and see what we can achieve together. See more
06.01.2022 The human mind receives 3.4 million pieces of information every single second. From this information, it has to whittle it down to just seven pieces of information, plus or minus 2. How does it do this? First of all, it deletes information that it does not need to know. For example, the sound of the car you can hear at a distance is not a threat so therefore it does not need to pay attention and therefore deletes it. The same with a lot of bodily functions unless it is painf...ul. Second of all, it has to generalise information. For example, if you come across a door, your mind knows from accessing previous interactions with doors that this is a door. It is a large panel with a handle and hinges, so it has to be a door. It then knows what to do. Why does it do this? Because if you had to figure out everything you come across as if it was the first time youd ever seen one, you would be forever figuring things out and overwhelming yourself. Lastly, from the remaining information, it distorts the information to fit your beliefs, opinions and experiences. This means if you have an experience with a person that you think highly of and are inclined to ignore any negative views, you will distort any new information to support that view. This is how some people get away with things for a long time without any consequences. For example, you might have someone who has a son that has bullied someone, who when told states "My son would never do that" as they distort that information to fit into their skewed view. From the remaining small amount of information is where we have our conscious reality created from. This means that what you see and hear is not always what is true. See more
05.01.2022 When people walk up to someone knew they are very much inclined to go with a safe, dependable conversation. Sure, it has very little risk of upsetting or offending someone. Unfortunately, it does nothing to separate you from every other person that has walked up to them. If you want to stand out from the crowd, you need to have a conversation that singles you out as interesting, different, intriguing. How do you do that? Use questions that are different, and could surprise so...meone but not offend them. Questions that I have used for years are; If you were having a dinner for six people, with yourself being one person, who are the other five, living, dead, real, fictional that you would invite? When you go to sleep tonight, imagine that you lay your head down on a magical pillow and in the morning you would wake up anywhere in the world that you want. Where would you wake up? These are two good questions to not only get a good discussion happening, but you can also find out a lot about a person. I have a book with over 600 questions that all my clients receive with a spectrum of questions ranging from relatively easy to very much in the exploratory range. This can trigger some very interesting and memorable conversations that will set you apart from the crowd and make them want to talk to you more. See more
05.01.2022 To make your life better, you have to stop lying to yourself, admit the truth about your situation, then, and only then can you change it and make it better. This video is one that I loved the moment I saw it. It comes from the TV series, "Newsroom" and shows beautifully how you can start to make things better. If we could all be this honest about our situation, our community, our nation, our world, we could really get some awesome change happening.
03.01.2022 Wow! Where does the time go? I haven't posted in ages I need to get back into the habit. Keep an eye open for posts coming your way with some good information that you will want to know about.
03.01.2022 There is one person and one person only who will be able to achieve our results for you. Do you know who that person is? Its you. Only you can achieve your results, so the results are what you settle for. If you dont put in the effort, you will have to settle for results less than what you want. If you put in the effort, you wont have to settle because you determine the results.... If you want things to be different than they are now, dont settle. Put in the effort and reap the rewards.
02.01.2022 Children have moments when they can really get on our nerves. They test our patience, they push our buttons and if we were honest, we would give them away if someone asked for them. (We wouldnt actually do that, however, we can feel that way sometimes) The challenge when this happens is remembering that the behaviour is just that, the behaviour that they are choosing. When a child misbehaves they are not a naughty child, they are choosing to be naughty at that time. The rea...son this is so important is that if you keep saying to a child that they are naughty they will start to believe that they are that label. If you instead say that they are behaving naughty or choosing to be naughty they learn that they have a choice when it comes to naughtiness. Remember that they are not the label. See more
