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Woman Kind

Locality: Erina, New South Wales, Australia

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25.01.2022 And they may not like it. In fact they may feel so challenged by your choice to no longer numb your feelings that they engage in a number of behaviours to get you to continue to suppress your emotions. When we start to observe, listen to, and honour our feelings instead of numbing, suppressing, denying, or reacting to them this has an effect on those around us. People may see us no longer tolerating harmful behaviour, settling healthier boundaries, expressing our opinions an...d needs, or generally allowing our feelings to be seen. This creates both conscious and unconscious reflections in others that raise inner questions like: If she can be comfortable with that why can’t I? If she is no longer willing to accept that behaviour why am I? If her childhood has caused her pain and mine was similar do I feel that too? I don’t want you to put yourself first I’m used to you meeting my needs. These may not be questions others are willing to explore yet. They may feel too close to the bone and highly triggering. The easiest way to reduce other’s emotional discomfort? Get you to stop honouring yourself and your feelings by attempting to get you to return to numbing yourself too. The push back during this time can be really difficult but doesn’t have to destroy relationships if you have someone to guide you through the phase of adjustment. You can create big change without leaving everyone in your life behind. Your relationships can grow and stretch and renew. And all of this can happen gently without huge conflict.

25.01.2022 It’s hard to put into words the kind of silent and unseen, but no less powerful, sense of disconnection a woman can feel when her baby passes away inside her body. It’s hard to adequately convey the depth and multi layered nature of these feelings but it’s often an element of loss that’s not spoken about, so I’ll try. Women will say to me:... I feel my body has betrayed me I’m so angry that my body did this to my baby I’m so ashamed that my body wasn’t able to keep my baby alive I just feel disgust, I can’t look at myself Every time my body gets closer to being back to normal it breaks my heart Most women can relate to feeling as though their body is a source of difficult feelings. We carry big collective shame about our bodies and their uniqueness, which has been sold to us as unworthy imperfection. But when our body feels like the source of our deepest pain, of failure, of shame, of other people’s emotional discomfort these already exisiting difficulties, with how we relate to our body, can become overwhelming. It’s an important part of healing to be able to explore this aspect of loss and to find a safe space where they can be released. Ideally it’s also important that women are supported to unpack the layers of these emotions so that they can unburden themselves of the over sense of responsibility they are attributing to their body, for the death of their baby. It’s important that they hear messages which challenge: Women’s sense of self worth being linked to the functions of their body Women’s contribution to the world being aligned with their role as a mother Compassion for the depth of their grief Empowerment for all that her body has endured Education and understanding that the death of her baby was not the fault of her body And lastly encouragement to begin to show her body nurturing; whether it’s in the form of exercise, a massage, or having her hair done. Whatever works for her. This is important because its time dedicated to rest and recovery but more importantly it sends a subconscious message of worthiness; a quiet whisper of forgiveness to her body.

24.01.2022 Let this be the season you decide to outgrow all other seasons in your life where shame has held you and your body captive. Let this be the day you start lovingly changing the narrative of I hate this about my body to I wholeheartedly embrace myself. Let this be the moment you allow your inner beauty shine through every pore in your skin; wrapping your body in love.... You only get one chance at this beautiful life and the body that carries your beautiful soul was made just for you. All her peaks and valleys, lumps, bumps, colours, missing bits, extra bits are all what makes you wonderfully unique. Let’s not spend another minute telling ourselves anything less.

24.01.2022 October 15th is International Pregnancy & Infant Loss Day, where bereaved parents from Australia and around the world pause to remember their babies who’ve died in pregnancy or shortly after birth. By lighting a candle at 7pm in your local time zone you are helping to create a progressive and continuous wave of light across the world, in memory of babies that only knew the comfort and love of their mother’s tummy.

24.01.2022 The death of a baby stirs deep emotions in all of us. So deep, our reaction can be to retreat to the safety and comfort of our own world and say nothing. But we must not let these powerful feelings overwhelm us and prevent grieving families from receiving the comfort they need.

20.01.2022 When your body becomes the home of your trauma, instead of your baby, there is so much pain that the world never sees. Women’s bodies are ever fluctuating creations, depending on where in our monthly hormone cycle we may be. This is ordinarily something we adapt to but when we are anxiously seeking signs of pregnancy this lack of certainty can be torture. Tiny micro interactions with our bodies, that are usually nothing more than a passing thought, become evidence for analys...is. Evidence that either support signs of pregnancy or confirms further trauma. Your arm brushes past your breast: wait, was that nipple just a bit sore? (Will keep monitoring that) You’re exercising and get really sweaty: wait, is that my period? Please don’t let it be. (rushes to the toilet) Every time you need to wee: please don’t let there be blood (anxiety triggered by simply needing to wee) And the list goes on: Sore back Tummy pains Bloating Feeling hot Headaches Period beginning vs spotting vs implantation Constant motoring of vaginal discharge Constant checking of nipples and breasts Bowel movements And many more For women that have experienced the loss of their babies in pregnancy there are many mixed reactions even when pregnancy is confirmed. Fear of loss happening again then triggers the constant monitoring for signs of miscarriage. It’s so important when living this trauma to have people around you that understand how deeply impactful your experience is. Seek out these safe spaces and make your emotional well-being your biggest priority, to help you survive this time.

19.01.2022 And it can feel like to a lot of internalised pressure. When the expectations we set for of ourselves and others are underpinned by the need for perfection exhaustion easily creeps in. The first signs will come from your body. She will start communicating with you to help you ease your foot off the accelerator and start nourishing instead of pushing. You might experience: Headaches & migraines... Stomach pain & digestive issues Sore back, neck & shoulders Trouble sleeping Loss of appetite or eating to sooth stress Short temper Increasing anxiety & panic attacks Poor concentration Decreased immunity and frequent illnesses We like to think that we are rational creatures in control of life at all times. We often think that our feelings and the bodily discomforts we experience are inconveniences to our productivity. When in reality we are highly emotional creatures perfectly designed from nature. No mistakes, coincidences, or inconveniences just purpose and function. The fix? Start thinking about what motivates you to keep pushing despite exhaustion. Are there feelings of not being enough outside what you do for others? Does imperfection create big discomfort? If this resonates with you some support to further explore and move beyond these feelings may benefit too.

19.01.2022 In whatever way brings your soul joy, comfort, kindness, fulfilment, peace, and wild untamed authenticity Some useful questions to think about when considering what stands in your way of doing this: Do I give myself permission to nourish my soul?... If I struggle with this, why is that? And do I need support to address these things? Do I sabotage opportunities for self love because it feels uncomfortable to me? If I sabotage chances to take care of myself do I then typically make others responsible for me missing out? When in reality I need to hold myself accountable too. Do I battle with feelings of guilt, greed, lack of entitlement and selfishness? Most women have been conditioned to view their own self love as the pinnacle of selfish behaviour, so that the needs of others can be met first. But every human being, regardless of gender, has the right to take care of them selves physically, emotionally, Psychologically and spiritually.

16.01.2022 How can anything still exist when my baby is gone? How can the world keep turning? I’ve held the weight of this questions with so many mothers, in so many different ways, and still there’s no answer that can meet the magnitude of emotion it’s asked with. Time is both the torturer and the healer in grief. Something you can’t outrun, change, control, manipulate, influence, or soften even on hardest days. And yet with time (and a whole heap of good support) healing often begin...s. Usually we can’t pinpoint exactly when but somewhere along the way surviving each day started to become a little less harsh. In the meantime it’s okay to allow your world to stop. To be still and sink into the hard feelings. To give yourself permission to feel. To be selective about who gets to join you in this space. To determine what re-emerging into the world will look like for you. To take your time in re-emerging. To press pause on the world again whenever you need to, as you learn to manage your grief. The world at large will always keep spinning but you get to decide whether you want to join in or retreat into the safety of your own little island.

16.01.2022 This is the time. Prepare yourself. Those words struck me. What they said to me was you have outrun the odds of rape and sexual violence in your life until today, but now it’s your turn, it’s your time. This statement echoes the anxiety that many women tell me they have felt. The fear many women carry about wondering when it will be their time. When they walk to the car late at night.... When they pass that man on their own walking down a secluded street. When that group of men called out horrible words to them at the club. It’s not shocking or hard to imagine that @kimkardashian felt immense fear for her physical, sexual, & psychological safety during the traumatic events that unfolded during the Paris robbery. Anyone can imagine fear in those circumstances but the reality is women fear the threat of sexual violence very regularly in much more ordinary circumstances than this. And Kim’s words suggest she has too. To all the good and safe men that may read this, please know that it is your job to make us feel safe. You hold the privileged place of being able to put the women you come into contact with at ease. Please be conscious of the potential for women to feel threatened by nothing other than your presence on the street. Please call other men out when they make jokes or tell stories about women being degraded, devalued, or treated as sexual objects. This is where the seeds of sexual violence begin. Encourage the women in your life to voice their feelings, assert themselves when they feel uncomfortable, and challenge others who discourage them to do so. This is how the seeds of empowerment grow. If this post was triggering to you please see the next slide for sexual assault support services available.

16.01.2022 The unwanted passing comments of family and friends can create an undercurrent of stress and pressure for many parents. Expecting children to be calm, contained, and emotionally regulated at all times sets everyone up for failure. Christmas is a time of wildest dreams, pure joy, and unmeasured excitement for many children. ... Such heightened emotions are difficult for adults to manage on their best days, let alone little people who are still leaning about their feelings. So what can we do as parents to guard against this unsolicited commentary? Set yourself realistic expectations for your kids behaviour. They will likely find it hard to settle, but does it matter for one day? Trust yourself. You know what your children need, how to parent them best, and whether intervention is required. Stay true to the parent you are. Allow yourself permission to respectfully challenge unhelpful statements. You don’t have to swallow down the frustration. Accept genuine offers of support and help, this will help recharge your batteries and leave you in a better head space to manage unhelpful interactions. Allow yourself permission to enjoy the day, to lower your expectations of yourself and let some things go. This will help you find joy too, rather than always having to stay in control and manage everything.

16.01.2022 So that’s what we all fear, but how do you tackle that? 1. First we need to change the way we view the therapeutic process. It’s important to remember that you are a paying customer and have the right to ask for what you need, from the outset. The power imbalance between the helper and the person being helped often stops us from valuing our own voice as of equal value and expertise. 2. Call before you make an initial appointment. Get a feel for the personality of the thera...pist and whether they feel like the right fit for you. If you feel uncomfortable or have an instinct from the very beginning, think about honouring that and trying someone else.The quality of the therapeutic relationship is a key aspect to therapy being effective, so it’s important to feel that it’s right. 3. When engaged in therapy voice your worries, concerns and fears from the beginning so that your therapist can be mindful of guiding the process to minimise triggers. This will help you feel safe. 4. If you feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, distressed or rattled as a session unfolds say something. You should NEVER leave therapy feeling traumatised, overwhelmed, or unable to process the session. This will help you maintain a sense of safety. 5. Know that your therapist has heard it all and likely seen almost every display of emotion possible. We don’t carry the same judgement about feelings that lives in the broader community. Tears are celebrated, expressing anger is valid, and no emotion is too hard to tackle. Give yourself permission to to trust your therapist when you’re ready. See more

15.01.2022 Imagine a world where mothers were treated with the sacredness that bringing and sustaining new life deserves. Imagine how nurtured, supported, validated, and encouraged mothers would feel. Sadly, mothers rarely tell me this is their reality. They often talk with me about wanting their partner, children, parents, and friends to see their struggles and help them more. ... Sometimes they tell me how clearly they have articulated what they need with no change and other times they are waiting for their loved ones to suddenly realise what has been in front of them all along. But like all change the only person we can control is ourselves. The best thing about that is we can begin to give ourselves this kind of deep appreciation and love today. We don’t need to wait for anyone else, it’s a gift we can give ourselves. We can choose to: -Stop self criticism and judgement. -Begin to talk to ourselves with love and kindness. -Recognise our achievements and wins. -Ask for what we need with the expectation that it will be supported. -Make our needs a priority even if this is difficult for others to accept. -Allow ourselves time for rest without having to earn it through exhaustion. -Begin to challenge thoughts about our bodies being worthless after creating the magic of life. -Remove toxic influences starting with what we consume on social media. If every mother loved herself, and the women around her, this radically and unwaveringly our collective reality would change. As always it starts with you and you can do this mumma.

14.01.2022 Welcome to Woman Kind, Specialist Women’s Therapy. Here’s a little information about me and the counselling I provide.

12.01.2022 That moment when someone you care about tells you something heavy or you see them for the first time after they’ve lived through hard times. Anxiety peaking, frantically searching for the perfect right thing to say. Panic because you’ve got nothing. ... Retreating to silence as it feels safer. But those important moments for connection and chances to really show up slip away. Instead take a deep breath, call on your courage and have a go. Your genuine intention will shine through and the person you care about will likely appreciate you leaving your own comfort zone to support them when they need it most. These are the small, and yet significant, moments in our relationships where trusts is won and lost. They are deeply impactful to the foundation of how valued, seen, and heard we feel. Silence can be the silent assassin that degrades the quality of connection between us and the people we love.

10.01.2022 The most wonderful time of the year is also the most triggering for many of us. We are reminded of the loved ones that no longer sit at our Christmas table and the sharper edges of grief creep in. We have the presence of those we usually protect ourselves from, with strong boundaries, thrust into our safe spaces. ... We feel the pressure of financial strain as we spend more to feel enough. We take on more than we can manage and battle exhaustion that takes months to recover from. We are exposed to the most bright and shiny highlight reels of others and compare ourselves, stealing joy from precious moments. We may long to be like everyone else and embrace this time but feel overwhelmed with the anxiety and depression that has hunted for us all year. Know that these feelings are not only normal, but very common. You are not alone. You are enough. You can manage this season.

09.01.2022 Gentle Sunday morning reminder: how you talk to yourself becomes how you feel about yourself. If you can give the women around you love, kindness, compassion and a break when needed but struggle to do this for yourself, it might be time to have your own self worth supported. Working on increasing your sense of self worth and capacity to enact self love will change your life more beautifully than you can imagine. ... You are worth the time, energy, money, and resources it will take to get there.

09.01.2022 So often these things are said with love and good intent. What they are saying is come join me where I am, in this space of hope for your future. It will be alright in the long run, don’t stay in the hardship of how things are now. But the unintended message that families, struggling with grief and loss, can hear is this isn’t something that you need to feel deeply about. Take a moment to acknowledge that it’s hard, but then get back to coping and being okay. When we ar...e in deep pain and struggle there is nothing more powerful than someone sitting beside us, allowing us to take off the mask of coping, and simply feel the hard things but not have to feel them alone. When we acknowledge emotional pain and join people in their hard spaces it can be uncomfortable for us. We can want them to feel hopeful about the future because that’s an easier form of support to provide. Instead of offering an olive branch of hope ask grieving parents how they are really doing and hold them with love right there. Because those powerful moments of connection, where we feel truly seen without judgement, are what give us real hope that this hard and horrible time will one day feel okay.

08.01.2022 Sometimes our deepest pain can be a catalyst for our deepest reflection. In order to survive we must go within and gather all our emotional resources. We must find the courage to endure the vulnerability. We must learn how to receive love and support. This often inadvertently causes significant growth and change. When we have been forced to stop and feel, by the all consuming weight of grief, we become no longer numb. Things we have long buried can rise to the surface and ...compound our grief. To keep living and breathing we often have to start processing all of this at once. And it’s hard, so hard. Adapting, letting go, being still, learning new coping strategies, setting new boundaries, actually feeling it all. In the beginning it is all in the name of surviving the grief but how can all that emotional growth not create lasting change in us too. So when people say you’ve changed, let it be a reflection of your strength and capacity to burn through the flames and then grow anew.

07.01.2022 Ask any woman to recall for you her most recent experience of body shame and she’ll give you much more than one isolated moment. She’ll likely be able to describe for you a lifetime of body struggle. Women of colour, those that have disabilities, those that embrace an appearance which dares to stray from feminine norms, those who may wear clothes that symbolise their belief system, and may other diverse groups of women are forced to defend their bodies regularly. Apologising... for and being ashamed of our bodies is programmed into the hearts and minds of almost all women, often silently soaking into us in ways we aren’t even conscious of. @sonyareneetaylor educates us on the broader social structures that have created a hierarchy of worthiness for all bodies and teaches us how to break free from this. Her ideas about radical self love are thought provoking, challenging, empowering, freeing and motivating for change. How have you apologised for your body in the past? Do you continue to do that now? Do you conceal, minimise and shrink your body to avoid her shining into the world and being vulnerable to judgement (which you may then feel compelled to apologise for)? Do you want to keep living this way? Link in the comments to a fantastic podcast with Sonya.

07.01.2022 Today marks the beginning of Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Week. For the next week my posts will be dedicated to raising awareness in memory of all the precious angel babies I have known, in my life and work, and in recognition of the immeasurable strength of their parents. Please join me in doing the same by sharing posts related to this issue, donating to organisations in this space, and most importantly remembering the babies parents will never forget.

06.01.2022 And if these things were your role as a child you might find that you struggle with some of these things as an adult: -Letting go of control for fear that something bad will happen -Feeling overly responsible for the happiness of others -Wanting to please others at the cost of your own health... -Difficulty trusting people -Anxiety related to change or unplanned events -Anger that seems to rise up within you unpredictability -Difficulty understanding how you feel or what you need in order to be at peace -Discomfort with relaxation, play, and rest. Getting some therapeutic support to process your childhood experiences in ways that create meaningful understanding and practical healing can be of great benefit. Often the thought of this work is much more overwhelming and scary than actually doing it. Remember therapy should always be at your pace and level of comfort. You get to decide what aspects of your past you’re prepared to reflect on. You are the expert of you life and in control of the change you want to create. Your therapist should help you maintain a sense of safety and pace the manner in which they help you grow.

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04.01.2022 This process often begins with difficult feelings that won’t go away, rather than women having an awareness of the transformation that is calling them from within. Women will say to me: There is this anxiety that never leaves me now. It used to be manageable but it’s not anymore I’m just so angry all the time... I don’t know what’s wrong with me I feel like I’m going crazy Everything is overwhelming me, even things I’ve always coped with well When we unpack these statements we often find that: She has spent many years giving to others at the cost of her own goals She works so hard to create joy for others but not herself She no longer knows what brings her fulfilment She wants to say yes to herself and no to others, but is buried in guilt She wants to take back ownership of her body and start loving herself She wants to only make time for people that nourish her but struggles with feeling like a ‘bad person’ for having boundaries. She is SO TIRED. She is SO BURNT OUT. She longs for a life more peaceful and beautiful than the one she has. But she feels trapped under the weight of her own and everyone else’s expectations to just keep maintaining the life that everyone is used to. But something within her just won’t stop nudging her to change and this is how inner conflict creates difficult feelings that persistently rise up. The best news? There is a life more peaceful and beautiful than you can imagine waiting on the other side and all you may need to get there is the right kind of a support.

03.01.2022 We’ve all had that feeling where we look back on a situation and think what happened there? How did things gets so out of control for me? Or why on earth did all those feelings rise up in a way that I couldn’t manage? ... In all likelihood something in your environment or the people you were with created an emotional trigger for you. We feel triggered when our present experience mirrors in some way past trauma, emotional difficulty, harmful relationships, stress etc. Essentially what we are feeling transports us back in time, disconnects us from our present, and often leads us to respond to those around us as if they are the cause of the emotional pain. It’s helpful to learn about what triggers you so that you can: -Develop skills in learning how to identify when you are being triggered -Create ways to manage triggering moments so that they impact your life less -Explore the root cause of the emotional sensitivity so that this can be relieved.

03.01.2022 When we look back at old photos and think god I wish I looked like that now but remember how unkind we were to ourselves and how much we struggled to love our body at the time, we know that our body was perfect just as she was. It was our mind, powerfully conditioned to devalue the body we saw, that was the problem. So instead of thinking I’ll feel better about myself when.... l’ll like my body more if I can just....... I’d be able to love myself I wasn’t... Think about how you can start respecting, caring for, and loving the body you are in right now. She is worthy; whatever her shape, whatever her level of function, whatever her rainbow of colours, regardless of how you or others have treated her in the past. No matter what. #bodylovesquad #iamenough #iamworthy #iamwhoiam #iamwellandgood #mybody #beautifulgirls #beautyfromwithin #strength #selflove #selfworth #selfbelief #selfcare #selftalk #youmatter #bodylove #bodypositivity #therapy #counseling #counselingworks #centralcoastnsw #centralcoast #centralcoastmums #strengthquotes #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #woman #womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment #womanpower

01.01.2022 The more we dare to show our true and authentic selves the more joy, love, and connection we create space for in our lives. The more we open ourselves up to being valued for who we truly are, and not the perfect version of ourselves we think people want to see, we will find deep and meaningful connections in all the relationships around us. When we are focused (consciously and unconsciously) on showing the world a perfect person, we miss the opportunity to take chances, live... spontaneously, try new things even though they may not work out, and experience the safety of unconditional love. We can become trapped in circumstances that erode our well-being and mental health to keep up appearances. We can settle for things looking great on the outside that may feel horrible on the inside and wearing that mask is so draining. We can lose all the things that make us genuine and create emotional distance between us and the people we love. It the best thing is this can all change whenever you feel courageous enough to allow it to. Being comfortable with vulnerability and the parts of us that may fail, look less than perfect and require help takes practice. But like all things with time it will get easier and we will see the positive results; a more joyful life filled with people that know us deeply and care for the things we value.