Complete Men in Gold Coast, Queensland | Non-profit organisation

Complete Men

Locality: Gold Coast, Queensland

Phone: +61 422 508 533

Address: Post Office Box 5412, Q Supercentre 4218 Gold Coast, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.completemen.org/

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25.01.2022 CHANGING THE WORLD, ONE MAN AT A TIME.

25.01.2022 I sometimes find it easier to point out someone else’s shortcomings, flaws, and wrong doings. I realise when I do this I am blaming others for my own hurts and disappointments. I am a victim. When I point my finger at someone, three of my fingers are pointing right back at me. This reminds me that I am responsible for my own feelings, situations and actions. I begin to own my stuff. Now I can start to self-reflect and recognize and accept my own imperfections and shortcomings... instead of pointing them out in others. When I am aware, I recognise I have the power within to create positive change and love in my life.

24.01.2022 MEN SUPPORTING MEN. It's great to see the growth in services and groups encouraging men to be the best they can. We're proud to be included in this list. https://mrperfect.org.au/pages/mens-health-directory

24.01.2022 THE DARKNESS - Instead of 25 pushups for mental health, this courageous man shares his poem on Depression - it's called the Darkness. It offers support way beyond fixing it, counseling or well meant advice - it offers love and belonging. Let's do this together.

23.01.2022 CHANGING PERCEPTIONS OF MASCULINITY. What most influences my perceptions of what it means to be a man comes from other men. This is why I find authentic men's groups so useful, because I can see what's behind others masks is similar to what's behind mine. https://theconversation.com/inside-the-man-box-how-rigid-id

23.01.2022 TO START OFF THE WEEK, here's some gender based comedy - I got a laugh from it. Enjoy!

23.01.2022 BUILDING BETTER FATHERS - Just as my kids grow, so can I as a father. This little sticker for Dads was sent to me by a man from our Building Better Fathers program (the next one is 2021). This is where Dads form a group to explore new tools and support each other through this discomfort of changing old patterns. Many of these men then join our men's groups for ongoing inspiration, belonging and accountability. And now that we have online groups, they are open to men anywhere in Australia. Check them out at https://www.completemen.org/online-mens-group.html

23.01.2022 TAMING MY DAD ANGER. Here's an ABC article with Fathers sharing what works for them in controlling their anger. I'm grateful that I've been able to learn this from other men and become a better father. Our Building Better Fathers course starts in less than two weeks and is filling fast. https://completemen.org.au/building-better-fathers https://www.abc.net.au//how-im-taming-my-dad-anger/12665954

22.01.2022 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY - One of our men posted this on our internal group page. A lot of our guys relate. On this day I'm grateful to all the men who helped me heal and rebuild - I'm also grateful that I'm now able to help others heal and rebuild.

22.01.2022 MEN ON A MISSION - Many Men report that having a mission or purpose leads to a more fulfilling life, and helps them be better fathers, lovers, partners, mates and contributors to their communities. Quite a few men find some of this mission/purpose in their work. And that may soon change - either in a small or a big way. Fortunately our online and in-person groups can help men adjust to change and find new purpose or new meaning. It's also really awesome to see how many more... groups and organisations have started up where men support other men. https://www.amhf.org.au/mp_predicts_tsunami_of_hardship_for

21.01.2022 My goal is to trust my wings and not the branch...

18.01.2022 MY FATHER'S NO LONGER ALIVE, but there's plenty of good men who inspire and support me to be a better man and give me what my father once did. These men belong to men's groups. From the article, fathers of boys: 1. Shape their identity. 2. Help them belong. 3. Influence their values. ... 4. Demonstrate character. 5. Teach respect. 6. Fill the void. 7. Balance ideas about sex. 8. Give them love. Our online men's groups are open to all men in Australia. More info at https://www.completemen.org/online-mens-group.html http://fathers.com/s7-hot-topi//8-ways-dads-benefit-boys/

18.01.2022 This artwork by "Sako-Asko - I transformed myself, not the obstacle" reminds me of another story - The Hole in the Sidewalk that is sometimes read out in our group meetings. I often think I should go straight from Chapter 1 to Chapter 5, but I often find myself back at Chapter 3. The more aware I become of which chapter I'm in at any given situation, only then it allows me to have some ownership of the situation and how to get out a lot more quickly. Here it is again.......... There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk - by Portia Nelson Chapter One: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost . . . I am helpless. It isn’t my fault . . . It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter Two: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in this same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter Three: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall . . . it’s a habit . . . but, My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter Four: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter Five: I walk down another street.

18.01.2022 This passage was read at my very first Complete Men meeting. Still just as powerful now and a reason why I continue to sit in a circle with other good Men. AHO https://www.completemen.org/online-mens-group1.html The Boy Who Had Feelings ...Continue reading

14.01.2022 A MEN'S GROUP AT THE GYM for guys on the Gold Coast. There are many different ways for men to connect authentically. Here's a group that's more about co-operation than competition. Enjoy!

13.01.2022 BUILDING BETTER FATHERS. Our 9 week course on the Gold Coast starts up in a couple of weeks and is filling fast. You can register on our website at https://completemen.org.au/building-better-fathers In the meantime, here's some pointers on how to help children express and process their emotions. https://dadsrights.org/are-moms-more-likely-to-promote-tox/

13.01.2022 TELLING IT LIKE IT IS. Our groups provide a safe place for men to explore and accept what are often considered to be negative emotions. This article from the Washington Post confirms that this contributes to mental health and wellbeing. From the article.... We judge ourselves for feeling pain, sadness, fear, which then produces feelings of things like shame and guilt. We end up just feeling bad about feeling bad. It actually stalls out any healing or progress or problem sol...ving. Research has shown that accepting negative emotions, rather than avoiding or dismissing them, may actually be more beneficial for a person’s mental health in the long run. One 2018 study tested the link between emotional acceptance and psychological health in more than 1,300 adults and found that people who habitually avoid acknowledging challenging emotions can end up feeling worse. https://www.washingtonpost.com//5dff8d16-e0c8-11ea-8181-60

11.01.2022 AN ARTICLE WRITTEN FOR YOUNGER MEN I found very relevant for an older man...myself. It expands on our recent post about leaning on men women for support - the article starts with "One year ago, I separated from my wife and now I have no friends" , which can be the case for a lot of blokes. And some Aussie men are expanding their networks and horizons by participating in our safe and supportive online groups for old blokes, young blokes and evrything in between. More details... at https://www.completemen.org/online-mens-group.html https://www.abc.net.au//habits-to-help-you-avoid-/10554144

10.01.2022 LARGE EMPLOYERS URGED TO SUPPORT MEN. Interesting article from a magazine for Australian HR professionals, suggesting peer support is a great way to help men through challenging times. From the article "Some men who suffer with mental health problems feel societal stigma is often what prevents them from opening up as they believe this makes them vulnerable and may impact on their careers and relationships. They do not want to be perceived as not coping or as weak. This bottl...ing up of emotions can lead to increased use of drugs and alcohol, risk taking behaviour and social isolation. Over time, these activities negatively influence self-esteem and confidence and under certain conditions can lead to suicide." https://www.hcamag.com//how-has-covid-19-impacted-/224329

10.01.2022 This is certainly me at times. The fact I’ve worked out I need a cart to help carry the load is the support I get from sitting in a circle at my men’s group with other fine men. https://www.completemen.org/join-a-group.html

10.01.2022 A POWERFUL IF HIDDEN MESSAGE. There's a clever hidden message in this simple 1 minute video. I tried posting the video as an autoplay attachment, but it seems it only works on Youtube, so you'll need to click on it to start. This was sent to me by one of our facilitators for our Building Better Fathers workshop. Did you see it? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2k6QjtKgA8

08.01.2022 SUPPORT FOR MEN GOING THROUGH A RELATIONSHIP SEPARATION. One of our men just emailed this booklet to me - he found it useful. I wish It had been available to me on three of the numerous times I’ve found myself in this really uncomfortable situation. Some of you may also find it useful either for yourself, or to help out a man going through a challenging and often solitary time. Here’s a link to the booklet on the Relationships Australia Website.... https://www.relationships.org.au//men-and-separation-navig https://www.relationships.org.au//copy_of_men_and_separati

08.01.2022 When I’m struggling with days that feels like things aren’t going my way this poem of hope reminds me that sometimes i need to change my perspective... Worst Day Ever poem written by a 14 year old girl. Today was the absolute worst day ever... And don't try to convince me that There's something good in every day Because, when you take a closer look, This world is a pretty evil place. Even if Some goodness does shine through once in a while Satisfaction and happiness don't last. And it's not true that It's all in the mind and heart Because True happiness can be attained Only if one's surroundings are good It's not true that good exists I'm sure you can agree that The reality Creates My attitude It's all beyond my control And you'll never in a million years hear me say Today was a very good day NOW read it from bottom to top, to see what she really felt about her day.

03.01.2022 When I read this story it reminds me that I am free to choose my experiences and emotions. In doing so, it allows me to own them regardless of which wolf I’m feeding at the time. My wolves serve me now. An old Cherokee Indian chief was teaching his grandson about life. A fight is going on inside me, he told the young boy, a fight between two wolves.... One is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, greed, self-pity and false pride. The other is good, full of joy, peace, love, humility, kindness and faith. This same fight is going on inside of you, grandsonand inside of every other person on the face of this earth. The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, Grandfather, which wolf will win? The old man smiled and simply said, The one you feed. See more

01.01.2022 Awesome work Hamish! I really resonate with all the feelings and emotions involved in trying to navigate the high school environment. I remember constantly redefining myself in order to fit in or in some cases the need to be invisible.

01.01.2022 This post has helped me shelf my procrastination guilt I was feeling and now I can acknowledge I am just practicing self care and love today