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Consentability

Locality: Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

Phone: +61 406 001 166

Address: Suite 10, Dutton Park Suites, 163 Annerley Road 4102 Brisbane, QLD, Australia

Website: http://www.consentability.com

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25.01.2022 Language is a hell of a thing. You can tell so much about a person, their actions, & what they stand for...based on the language they use. You can gauge their m...ovements & ascertain their intentions from the words they choose to use to describe their movements & who they intend to help with their work. If you’re an advocate, then you know language matters in these movements. I can tell who includes me in their work & who only pretends to. I can tell which ones believe they help me, but their advocacy follows the will of the majority because that’s where the language takes them. When you’re a member of a marginalized group, language matters because these by the book definitions of these movements & activism favors the majority, driving their response which often dismisses the experiences of those belonging to marginalized groups. Disability Rights favor those who look nothing like me. Experiences not like mine. I won’t know true liberation operating within a structure whose operational definitions favor whiteness. Disability is understood through a lens of whiteness. Always has been. It overlooks my experiences as a Black disable woman. It overlooks the experiences of those that are members of the LGBTQ community as well. Other BIPOC? Lower socioeconomic status? Lower educational levels? Yep, overlooked. And on & on. Justice. Disability justice. If you are anti-racist, you are fighting for disabled persons. Disability justice..yeah, y’all are Black Lives Matter too. Disability justice forces you to look deeply at disability & ableism & how it interacts with other forms of oppression. Disability rights, aren't intersectional. Oh, but know, just because you change your language doesn’t mean you're doing the work. Using current & more accurate terminology can serve as a framework for your advocacy. But you need to put in some work. [Image: black text on pale pink box with light gray background. Text says, disability rights aren’t intersectional.]

25.01.2022 TW: domestic abuse and gendered language that refers to the abuser as ‘he’ and the victim/survivor as ‘she’

24.01.2022 Recent conversation in my home. 10 year old son: I REALLY want a little brother... 4 year old daughter: I REALLY want a little sister...... Both look at me. Me: I do my best ‘I’m really busy and not listening’ impression Both look at each other. Hushed voices. Hatching a plan for operation siblings... Me: ‘I’m too old to have more babies.’ 10 year old son: in his most supportive and understanding tone of voice - ‘you’re not too old! You’re not old!’ 4 year old daughter: impatiently - ‘Mummy has a BAR in her arm to stop her having babies! Both: continue to discuss operation siblings. It seems too difficult. Decide to make a smoothie instead.

23.01.2022 Anyone else? P.S My shop is going on a short break as of Monday at 9am (UK time). Please place any orders before then!

23.01.2022 Relationships Australia offering some great support for women

23.01.2022 Listen to the full episode on The "Stay Calm, Mom!" Podcast "How To Protect Your Children From Sexual Abuse" featuring Holly-Ann Martin Episode 2 #staycalmm...ompodcast About the Episode & Guest: We are talking about protecting your children from sexual abuse and opening the communication lines with Holly-ann Martin. Holly-ann is the founder and Managing Director of Safe4Kids, with over 35 years' experience in teaching child abuse prevention education specialising in Abuse Prevention Education training including children’s books, designed to help parents and teachers have difficult conversations with children. With a passion for education and child abuse prevention, Holly-ann has empowered children throughout the world, and has equipped parents and teachers with the tools to help prevent abuse against children, whether this abuse is through physical harm, cyber bullying or inappropriate content available through the Internet. She has created an easy-to-follow, comprehensive protective education program which is one of the best ways to provide safe, successful, empowering training to all the members of your childcare community. Child abuse prevention education such as that provided by Safe4Kids provides these critical services to communities, parents, schools and childcare centres. Here is the link to Holly-ann’s YouTube Channel including six songs written by herself and children in Aboriginal communities. https://www.youtube.com/c/Safe4KidsChannel/videos Safe4Kids Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/Safe4KidsAbusePreventionProgram/ The "Stay Calm, Mom!" Podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and all your favorite podcast platforms. Show links - Listen Now: https://open.spotify.com/show/3uAHQeW3qOo6RFc54MH8jD https://podcasts.apple.com/.../the-stay-calm.../id1533924984

23.01.2022 "This year does not have to be an empty, misshapen place or a hole to fill. It can be the year you find and perfect a recipe you really love, or order takeout f...rom a new place and treat yourself to a favorite meal you almost never eat, instead of making a complicated meal. You can pause and reflect." <3 https://buff.ly/355EFOg See more

20.01.2022 https://captainawkward.com//1292-my-creep-sister-is-scree/

20.01.2022 @empowered_gal #sexism

20.01.2022 The other day I was teaching my youngest how to do a cartwheel... and I wet myself while doing so. I told them what they had happened... ‘poor mummy’ they said. #shameless ... I already know not to jump on trampolines, but a cartwheel???!!! Need to do my pelvic floor exercises more regularly I think...

18.01.2022 When you hide your child's diagnosis you are doing them zero favours. You're not saving them from bullying, or isolation. Those things will still happen, but yo...ur child won't know why. They'll think there's something wrong with them, and blame themselves. When you're open about their diagnosis not only will they know why they behave the way they do, but they'll also be able to find coping mechanisms, new ways to get around difficult situations, and most importantly, be more accepting of who they are. Check out my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/autiebiographical [Image description: A four panel comic of Honeydew talking to a mother of an autistic child. The comic is titled Hiding The Evidence, and is made by Theresa Scovil. Panel 1: A mother says to Honeydew "My child got diagnosed as autistic. Should I tell them?" Honeydew replies "Absolutely!" Panel 2: The mother responds. "But I'm worried that if they know they're autistic they'll know that they're different." Panel 3: Honeydew answers with "Trust me, they'll know that they're different." Panel 4: Honeydew continues. "All you'll be doing is removing the why." The mother looks shocked, and simply responds with "Oh."]

17.01.2022 Start teaching consent early. It is one way to help protect kids from sexual abuse. #childsexualabuse #endchildsexualabuse #endchildabuse #supportchildren #pr...eventioneducation #prevention #consent #consentmatters #boundaries #nomeansno #listen #startthemyoung #changetheculture #usetheanatomicalnames #nosecrets #Repost @ourmamavillage Helping kids understand consent starts with us! I’ve been teaching consent for years and have studied the importance of teaching consent to our kids early on. Teaching our kids these things helps reduce their vulnerability to abuse. This is a topic I’m very passionate about and so excited to partner with @curious_neuron to share more about this! These are some of the key themes that often come up in my work. I’ve summarized what is not helpful and what you can do instead below. Not helpful: Give nana a hug! We don’t want to make them go against and not trust their internal instincts in terms of touching others. Helpful: Would you like to give grandma a hug? Respecting their answer if they say no. Not helpful: Tickling after they say stop. Helpful: Narrating out loud: You said stop! I hear you are done with tickling. We have a whole post coming out on tickling later this week (stay tuned) but if you do decide to tickle respect when your child says to stop. Not helpful: Telling them to keep secrets (even silly ones). Helpful: We don’t keep secrets in our family. If anyone tells you to keep a secret you let us know. We don’t want to normalize keeping secrets for our kids. We can have happy surprises like a surprise present or party, but we encourage kids that they don’t need to keep secrets and we are safe to share anything with. Not helpful: Making silly names for private parts. This is a tough one for many. Often we grew up with feeling shame for sharing the anatomically correct names of body parts and still feel this shame when talking with our kids. Helpful: Use anatomically correct names for body parts. Penis, vagina, vulva, breasts, nipples are not bad words. We don’t call our elbow our little bo-bo, and we don’t need to c

17.01.2022 What’s in your consent toolbox? Consent is an informed, explicit, and affirmative decision and involves communicating wants and boundaries, with the understand...ing that at any time, these boundaries can change, and that change needs to be respected. The problem with rape culture and a culture that sexualises women in particular, is that we can see the people we interact with more as objects for pleasure and use rather than full embodied people, which means we are ignoring large parts of their existence and experience. This creates emotional barriers that can result in dehumanisation and stop us from experiencing a deeper connection and intimacy. On the other hand, if we see our sexual partners as people with autonomy and rights to pleasure and safety we can easily understand that they have thoughts, feelings, and experiences that are just as real as our own. The understanding of sexual experiences as mutual and respectful makes everyone involved feel seen, their desires and boundaries are heard, and the whole thing can be a lot more pleasurable because everyone knows everyone is having a great time and feeling safe. Dismantling rape culture and building consent culture requires a range of tools. -Check in, Pleasure, and comfort questions to make sure everyone having fun and is feeling safe -Emergency and exploration language to remind us that consent is conditional and we can explore desires first with language then action -Affirmative consent given freely and enthusiastically to each other -Subject not object approach that brings emotion and intention to the table (or the bedroom!) #Affirmativeconsent #SpeakoutThursday #Startbybelieving

16.01.2022 The emergency contraceptive pill can be taken soon after sex when other contraception has not been used or may have failed. Emergency contraceptive pills are av...ailable at pharmacies over the counter without a prescription. If you would like more information about emergency contraception, head over to our information page https://shq.org.au//h/info-sheets/emergency-contraception/ See more

16.01.2022 https://www.vulvadialogues.com/

16.01.2022 Just like clothing, external condoms are not one size fits all. Wearing the wrong size condom can affect its performanceand yours. It may slip off, leak, or br...eak, and restrict sensation for both you and your partner. Size doesn't matter, but the right fit does! See more

15.01.2022 Contrary to common belief, people with borderline personality disorder can recover. Do any of these strategies work for you? ... This graphic was developed for ...our BPD Awareness Week campaign. We welcome your support this GivingTuesday, to help us change the narrative about borderline personality disorder. You can donate via Facebook or directly at our website: www.bpdfoundation.org.au/donate.php GivingTuesday Australia See more

15.01.2022 Interesting short documentary based in a UK sexual health clinic. I used to live in hackney - I miss those London accents... https://youtu.be/Ly1pPNoKGZU

14.01.2022 CELEBRATING A YOUNG AUTISTIC ABORIGINAL ARTIST Our Awetism 2020 Virtual Expo on Friday, 20th November celebrates the passions and talents of Autistic young peop...le like Narmi Collins-Widders (age 15), a proud Aboriginal artist from the Anaiwan Nation. Narmi has been creating art for as long as she can remember and believes that being Autistic allows her to see things through a unique lens that enhances her creativity. You can follow Narmi's work on Instagram (@deadly_gemiga). We invite you to learn more about Narmi's stunning art and enjoy watching dozens of Autistic young people across Australia share their respective passions as well. Our #AwetismExpo is free and open to the public worldwide. Anyone who registers by 20th November can enjoy the taped Expo content until 20th December. Register/learn more here: awetism.vfairs.com/

13.01.2022 Good sex is created by intention. Set an intention for how you want to feel rather than what you want to do. Positions and tricks alone don't make sex good. Int...ensity, presence and embodiment do. Then think about times you felt most turned on and what circumstances helped create that feeling. The best 'spontaneous' sex takes hours of preparation and anticipation, just like when you were dating. Mismatched desire is common. Don't freak out. The good news is you don't need desire for sex. It often appears once you start having sex worth wanting. Focus on the quality of sex you're having. Talk about what pleasure is for you. e.g. Don't assume oral = pleasure. Check things like speed, friction & pressure. Pleasure is subjective. Talk about sex when you're not horny. Get used to talking about sex at times when you're not in the middle of it, to take the pressure off. Nothing worse than having a complex, textured conversation with someone whose opinion matters, while nude, vulnerable, anxious and trying to impress. Talking about sex before you do it is the erotic trifecta: builds anticipation, gives you more leverage to know you're going to give, and maybe get, what you want, and makes talking about it in the moment a whole lot easier. #pleasure #pleasurematters #couplescoaching #intimacy #desire #mismatcheddesire #libido #relationships #changes #communication #priorities #boostyourlibido

12.01.2022 The emergency contraceptive pill can be taken soon after sex to reduce the risk of pregnancy when other contraception has not been used or may have failed. Emer...gency contraceptive pills are available at pharmacies over the counter without a prescription. If you would like more information about emergency contraception, head over to our information page https://shq.org.au//h/info-sheets/emergency-contraception/ See more

11.01.2022 Pride Palace #asexuality #terminologytuesday

10.01.2022 July 2020 announcement: Consentability is currently unable to accept new referrals. People making contact will be informed as follows: ... Our books are currently closed to new clients due to a long waiting list. At this time, we are unsure when they will open again, but we encourage you to make contact in 2021 if you are still seeking support. Dr Natasha

10.01.2022 Would you like to tell your story (anonymously) about your child’s Inclusive education experience in Qld? Positive or negative. Go here to read more: https://www.qcie.org/share-your-story.html

09.01.2022 Are you an adult with a disorder of the corpus callosum (DCC)? Would you like to chat with other adults with a DCC on Zoom? FOLLOW THIS LINK to register for the next chat with Steve and Margaret on Thursday Ocober 8 at 7.30pm AEDST (Melbourne time) Http://web.ausdocc.org.au/o40/

08.01.2022 Just because an autistic person doesn't display certain stereotypical symptoms of autism doesn't mean they're not autistic. In the past you would have to displa...y every single symptom of autism to be diagnosed as autistic, but that method was thrown out because of how incorrect it was. Not every autistic acts like the caricature of autism that you have in your head. #AutieBiographical #ActuallyAutistic #SliceOfLife

07.01.2022 I feel honoured to have been invited to be part of a panel discussion on the 8th October.

07.01.2022 What skills are important for disabled BIPOC to know and have when interacting with law enforcement to keep them safe? This question bothers me. And I’m asked ...this a lot. Because the burden is placed on us to prevent our own mistreatment. To prevent our own discrimination, abuse, & deaths. We hold no power here & yet complete & total responsibility for how we are treated is placed solely upon our shoulders. I could spend each day, all day teaching my children what to do when interacting with law enforcement, the same things I do. Always show your hands, don’t fidget, if you need your calming fidget, politely ask if you can get it from your pocket, stay in place, don’t touch the officer, don’t run, don’t try to hug the officer, don’t stand too close, describe your diagnosis. And then what? My husband & I have almost been shot & arrested. My (then) 9 year old son was almost arrested for a meltdown at school. To prep our children for supremacist systems is necessary but it’s also a large burden to place on our children. The onus should be on those with power within these systems. Our society is compliance based. I have a disorder that often means I don’t respond in a way that many expect or demand of me. And neither do my children. Even with all the strategies, tips, & scripts I have in place, I still won’t always comply...at least not in a way they find acceptable. We can sit here all day & brainstorm all the ways in which our children can make those with authority feel comfortable & safe enough to not harm them or we can start addressing those in power who mistreat, abuse, & kill us. Yes, give them the skills you think they need to minimize their risk of harm, but also fight against those systems that seek to harm them in the first place. Rethink public safety. Advocate for decreasing the amount of interactions disabled persons have with law enforcement. Push for funds to be directed to support services. Just for starters.

06.01.2022 Has anyone tried this? Is it any good? More info in comments

06.01.2022 O.M.G. http://archermagazine.com.au//parenting-and-sexuality-the/

05.01.2022 There are two kinds of social distancing ...

05.01.2022 Oh my gosh - this.... Some people I work with think that they need to ‘keep trying and don’t give up’. Yes - if we are talking about applying for a job, learning a new skill etc... This does NOT apply to asking people out on dates over and over again if they say no. Unfortunately we see this on tv shows and movies. It’s different in real life.

05.01.2022 https://link.medium.com/e8elzFdxgab

04.01.2022 I remember the first time someone sheepishly said, I didn’t even know what boundaries were. I smiled. Neither did I. Even as a practicing psychologist, I didn...’t fully understand how to set them. Or if I even could set them. Just the thought of them sent a chill down my codependent spine. Then, I started practicing. I began speaking my limits. I witnessed people close to me become reactive, or just completely ignore my boundaries. Just the process of setting boundaries can give you eye opening insights into the dynamics of your relationships. Healthy people set + hold boundaries. They demonstrate self love + self worth by compassionately + objectively speaking them. When someone sets a boundary with them, they honor the other persons limits. Boundaries are the foundation of healthy relationships. For many with unresolved trauma, boundaries feel like abandonment. It’s important to understand that you’re not responsible for the emotional state of others. How a person reacts to a boundary, is for them. How you respond to that reaction is for you. You always have choice. What is your BIGGEST struggle with boundaries? #selfhealers

04.01.2022 I’m not crying... I just have something in my eye...

04.01.2022 The 2020 National NAIDOC Week poster can be downloaded as a colouring-in sheet. Test your artistic side with this amazing colouring-in sheet. It could help you destress in the home or in the office or just bring out your creative side? Find the PDF here: https://buff.ly/3889uE5

04.01.2022 "Childhood anxiety is sneaky. It doesn't always look like worry." This valuable infographic from Katie Hurley, LCSW shows some of the many ways that anxiety mig...ht manifest itself in young people (some adults might relate to these as well!) For more information, please see this related article: https://health.usnews.com//sneaky-signs-of-childhood-anxie For a deeper dive from Autistic & other Neurodivergent professionals, please see: From Sarah Hendrickx, "Autism: How Anxiety Affects Everything" (youtu.be/rPD_yzMHJls) From Autistic Science Person, "Anxiety Looks Like Anger" (tinyurl.com/y6caolyu) From Judy Endow via Ollibean, "Fear, Anxiety and Autistic 'Behavior'" (tinyurl.com/y4gum7be) From Julia Hay via Inner West Mums- Sydney, "Supporting Anxious & Autistic Children During COVID-19" (tinyurl.com/yy4qbo8u)

03.01.2022 Tess’s videos are great.

02.01.2022 Are you a clinician looking for some listening? SHINE SA's Sexual Health Matters - Clinical Podcast is perfect for you! It covers a range of topics including IUDs, chlamydia and providing contraception during COVID-19. Listen now: www.shinesa.org.au/webinars-podcasts

02.01.2022 Grab life by the balls! Next time you touch your nuts, tell 'em you're just checking yourself for testicular cancer. Talk testicles in two tongues -- this chart is bilingual in English and Spanish.

01.01.2022 Happy BPD AWARENESS WEEK everyone. Let's FLIP THE SCRIPT and smash the stigma of BPD. Check out all the events and other info at bpdawareness.com.au

01.01.2022 #goals Have a good weekend.