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25.01.2022 Take ownership for your life, your decisions and your actions ... . . ' . \ . ' . . . . , \, , . . . . . . ? ?
25.01.2022 "Seeing fear as a challenge to overcome" Let me tell you why I look at my fears and see them as challenges. I remember when I was 22 and I was going to spend the weekend away for my birthday with my partner I had at the time. I was so excited as it was a birthday present and I was in a fabulous mood that day. It was a Saturday morning and I had arranged for a friend of mine who was a hairdresser to do my hair before I went away. ...Continue reading
25.01.2022 I AM A WOMAN BUT I AM NOT JUST ANY WOMAN I AM ME AND I LOVE BEING ME. I am loved, I love I am enough...Continue reading
24.01.2022 When you have a best friend that is true they will move heave and hell to make sure they deliver on their promise on time. They will not give you excuse after ...excuse after excuse and not deliver on the promise for over 6 months. A true best friend always has your back and will never bring the past up to hurt you. A true best friend is family to you. A true best friend will always believe in you and never doubt you or calm you a lier and a manipulator. A true best friend will not be jealous of you having other friends as they are secure within themselves and know that they will not be replaced by anyone else.
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23.01.2022 Here are the way you can tell of family and friends love you unconditionally
23.01.2022 Ok so five years ago the below happened to me when I lived in brisbane. It was a same sex friendship discrimination situation. I got a message from my neighb...or who was a largish lady in her early 40s who lived on her own with her cat. She sent me a text saying I cant be friends with you any more as you not the type of person I want to be friends with. I left it for a week then asked here what she meant by it and this was her response " your are fit, healthy, positive, active smart and you look great and I don't feel comfortable when I am around you because of these thing. You are a nice person I just cant be friends with you. Now this sort of thing shocked me as I didn't think this sort of thing actually existed. I then went away and let her know that if she feels that way then I wish her well for the future and I left it at that. If this had of happened toy you how would you have handled this situation? Can anyone else relate to this or has been in this sort of situation before? If so how did you handle it?
22.01.2022 "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" When I was in primary school, I use to get teased and bullied by the popular children. They used to call me fat, ugly and odd looking. This happened all through my primary school years. I didnt know whether I was actually those things or it was because I was different or because of the way my parents used to dress me and get my hair cut really short like I was a boy. To this day I still dont know but I remember and was scared by the...Continue reading
22.01.2022 "The 3 universal fears and our identities" Have you ever felt out of place as though you do not belong in the world? Have you had friends that exclude you from group outings and only contact you when their current plans fall through? Have you ever felt as though you do not want to burden anyone with your problems? Have you ever felt that there was something wrong with you because your friends are way to busy for you?...Continue reading
20.01.2022 Hi All here is anther article I wrote for all those who are feeling as though they are constantly being judged. It is called " You are limitless and amazing!"
19.01.2022 "Tips to stay focused and positive during a pandemic" Are you feeling anxious about how the world is right now? Are you anxious about how long the pandemic will be around for?...Continue reading
18.01.2022 Did you know we live in a quantum soup of pure potential with many options and possibilities existing and available to us? We may not be able to see all the opt...ions or possibilities on our own but they are there and we need only ask a coach how can ask us the questions to coax the options and possibilities out of us. Nothing is ever just: Good or bad Black or white Right or wrong Open or closed Beautiful or ugly Hard or soft There are many sides and possibilities to a story and at the moment in the very point in time there are billions of possibilities waiting for us in life. As of this moment in time we are writing our book and the pages for the future are blank waiting for us to write the best possible future through being the best and truest versions of ourselves we can possibly be. We’ve got this thing called life in the palms of our hands each and every day waiting for us to get out of our comfort zone and be daring. I Dare you To Be You, Outstanding in life and Unstoppable in Relationships!
17.01.2022 The possibilities after Quarantine is lifted
15.01.2022 Hi All here is an article I wrote on daring to be you. It is called: "Dare to be your truest self"
15.01.2022 My heart goes out today to all those people who have lost their loved ones from COVID 19 (Carona virus). I am deeply sorry for your loss. Please accept my con...dolences as no one should have to lose a loved one from something like this. I am deeply saddened today as I know thousands of Victorians yesterday either got told to go on unpaid leave for 6 weeks or got let go of. I am so sorry for what this Pandemic is doing to the lives of millions out there. I am deeply saddened to know that peoples mental illnesses have flared and also the rate of people reporting mental illnesses due to the pandemic has risen due to the pandemic causing people to stress and worry about their loved ones and themselves, and causing people to stress financially as this virus takes its toll around the world right now. I am sad to hear that there are many people who live alone in the world as I do that are not allowed to be around their family friends and the general population due to the threat of getting infected by the virus. Please know this when we get through this and we will get through this that we will be stronger for it. We all need to hold tight and pray for each other and our loved ones and stay as healthy and positive as possible. Right now we need to practice gratitude for the things and people we do have in our lives, we need to stay positive and calm, we need to rest as much as we can and exercise when we can. We need to stay connected and in contact with those friends, partners and family members we cant be around due to the pandemic right now, when ever out we need to wear masks and social distance as much as possible. We are stronger together as we are all in this together so it is time for the walls that divide us as a species to be broken down and for us all to come together as one because together we can beat this! Together we can work miracles! Together weve got this!
14.01.2022 Hi All everything in this page is completely original and is owned By Lynette Diehm Lynette Diehm and the Dare To Be You Trade Marked Brand. Welcome!
14.01.2022 "When being compared to others change your perspective" Yesterday I was told that someone else that is doing the same job as me in another state was made permanent. I got told that he would be setting up the processes, procedures, and templates for the projects. Keep in mind that this is something I did months ago for this company when I first started working for them. At first I couldnt understand why they would get him to do something I had done months ago for them. I...Continue reading
14.01.2022 "Keeping the world safe from the spread of illnesses." It is certainly turbulent times right now with people with regards to business and personally. Some countries are open, some are closed, and some are partially open. All are locked down to a certain extent....Continue reading
14.01.2022 "Reinventing yourself after being a people pleaser" I remember back many years ago being that person who let her fears over run her life. These were fears of not being enough, not being loved and not belonging. Although I practically raised myself from the age of 15 and was very independent, I still wanted to belong, loved and enough for others. Because of this I was quite the people pleaser, always doing everything others wanted me to do, always bending over backwards for ...Continue reading
13.01.2022 Me singing a piece of a song that inspired me and stuck with me for many years. I hope you enjoy it
13.01.2022 HI All this is the official Facebook page for my articles and my books. I am currently revamping my first book and you may get small snippets of the book on this page from time to time. All the articles etc on this Facebook page are 100% written by myself and copy write protected. I am happy for you to share them in their original form with others
12.01.2022 To everything in life there is a cause and an effect To every action there is a reaction To every ying there is a yang To light there is dark To white there is... black To silver there is gold To being healthy there is being unhealthy To inspire there is to uninspire To motivation there is laziness To smart and clever there is stupid To clever there is dumb To man there is woman To good there is evil There will always be a choice to make in life as we all have free will. No one can make you do what you dont want to do. You are always going to do what works for you whether it is good for you or not. Your past will never define what you do or who you become, only you can choose what you do and who you become and if you want to create that in your life. Even your map of the world can be changed if you choose to see things differently and to be something different. You are the creator of your own destiny. You just need to believe that you can do it and start doing the things to create it. #30daychallenge
12.01.2022 In this day and age personal growth is very important as the world and technology is constantly changing and you can never know everything about... everything. I used to be in a very dark place in my 20’s due to circumstances beyond my control I was depressed angry and withdrawn from the world. For me this was the worst possible place to be as I felt lost, alone and without direction. I struggled with being in this situation as I was a deep thinker and couldn’t recognise that there were other options and possibilities out there for me which kept me at a standstill in my life and constantly repeating the same choices which lead to the same patterns in my life happening over and over again. I was like this because of my childhood and having been raped by a stranger at the age of 22 in Queensland. At this point in time, I did not know what personal development was about or even that it existed. I was born into a strictly religious family of which I was an outcast and at school and at religious youth group functions I was bullied and treated as though there was something wrong with me. The religion and school always taught that to be successful in life you had to be married with children and possibly have a job by the age of 25. After my 10-year de-facto relationship split up I moved in to a place on my own and that was very scary for me having been through what I had already been through in my life, having sent a monster to prison for what he did to me as well as the fact I needed to reinvent myself as the old me was not working anymore as I had to leave my partner and my best friend behind me and start a new life. I was very closed off from the world around me and I had an invisible sign on my head saying don’t come near me. I was angry and bitter. So, I embarked on an adventure of trying to fix my life and myself up when I stumbled on the personal development and self-help industry where I proceeded to work on myself personally and professionally. Before I stumbled on the personal development industry, I hated reading as I was led to believe as a child that I was a slow reader and so for may years I believed it. I met my neighbour once when I first moved into the place I had moved in to after my 10-year relationship had ended and did not speak to her till 5 years later. She said she had seen me around the place many times but she could tell I was in a dark place and so she avoided me. Until 5 years later when she sensed that I had changed and then we became the best of friends. In one of our conversations, she told me how much she through I had grown and change and was more open to people and things and was no longer in that dark place. It was a very long and hard journey getting myself out of depression and off medication to love what some would say is a normal life. But to get to that point I had to completely change my lifestyle and develop my holistic system that supports me and moves me forward in my life when things go bad. My system took several years, and many bad things had happened to me along the way before I perfected the system. They system got me out of depression which I had been in and out of for many years and helped me manage the severe anxiety I had. I have now been out of depression for and managing my anxiety extremely well for over 14 years and have never slipped back into depression. My system also helps me face many of my fears head on and replace many of my limiting beliefs that I had from childhood. Reflecting back now, I have come an awful long way in my life as I now handle things much differently to what I did many years ago when I was in that very dark place full of depression, anxiety and fear. I am now able to reframe my thoughts and emotions, sit with them and work through them if need be and face my fears head on which moves me forward from things very quickly. I am also now able to see that there are many option/possibilities for me out there and not just one which has given me hope and belief that things can and do change for the better. People now call me resilient and my closest friends have told me at times that they hardly recognise me now as the way I was and who I was back when they first met me are completely different and they like the new me. If there is something you don’t like about yourself or your life you can change it, but you have to be willing to put in the hard work to change it for yourself as it is your life, and you need to take responsibility for it.
11.01.2022 This is an article for those that are lost and dont know who they are anymore and the possibilities of of being yourself without people pleasing and feeling trapped by it. The clown in the picture represents other people and the puppet is you.
10.01.2022 Ha all I wrote this article on being a coach and on what it means to be a Personal Transformational Success Coach
10.01.2022 "My journey through the darkness into a system that works" I spent many years as a child and as a young adult in and out of the depths of depression. The things that put me in to depression were the emotional\psychological abuse and emotional abandonment as a child from my parents, the restrictive religion I grew up in, being an out coast in that religion and at school because I stood out, being kept down in grade one and being bullied for half of my life because the other ...Continue reading
09.01.2022 HI All here is an article I just wrote on exercise. It is called: "The role of exercise in peoples lives"
08.01.2022 I would like to pay tribute to the photographers for their awesome photography for my articles Damian Smith, Rodney Cossor, Ross Barton, Brennan Finighan Stephen Baddeley
08.01.2022 A best friends betrayal and what I learned from it So here are some of the moments in my life that I was betrayed by my childhood best friend and what I learned from those betrayals. For you to understand the lessons you first have to know the story behind the lessons. That story is below. I was in year 9 when it happened. I had slaved for weeks and weeks over a drama assignment....Continue reading
08.01.2022 I love to coach people and help them break out of the encapsulated cocoon of society and how other people think they should be and in to a beautiful radiant but...terfly who shows their true colors to the world and is free of the modern-day imprisonment of the judgmental people pleasing society where putting your best interests and needs first doesnt matter. #30daychallenge
06.01.2022 "What being a project manager has taught me" As you all know by now, I am a very experienced project manager in the ICT and Business transformation area. Many years ago, I wasnt as organised or on top of things like I am now. I was a little scattered, but dint get me wrong I was very good at what I did just didnt have a plan on what I would be doing and when and that was frustrating....Continue reading
06.01.2022 There are many differences between giving advice and coaching people. The main differences are: ... Coaching is where you use coaching and questioning models to empower the client to shift their mindset by encouraging the client to see that there are other options that they have not yet thought of that they may want to consider that will help them achieve their outcome. These new options\possibilities help the client to improve the way they think (what they think, why they think it and how they get to thinking that way), develop better strategies that will work for them, and or learn new skills in their pursuit for an outcome. Through asking the questions in the coaching models and questioning frames the coach is able to quickly assess the gaps in thinking, the clients motives(the big why or the issue impeding progress) and where the client is at with regards to their thoughts, emotions, beliefs and actions to do with an outcome the client is after, but can’t seem to make the shift in mindset that is needed on their own to be able to get the outcome they desire with their current thought processes and strategies they have in place. Coaching is about listening to and empowering the client to embrace their personal power and resourcefulness to be able to acknowledge and see other options\possibilities the client has been having issues with see on their own. Coaching invites the client into think differently by elicitation of answers that will support his or her intentions to achieve the outcome or goal sought after. You need more time and skills to be able to coach someone than to merely advise someone on how to solve their problems. In coaching you begin with the assumption that the client can when given the chance tackle his/her gaps in thinking and performing on their own. Coaching empowers the client to take ownership for their thoughts feelings and action to improve their lives. Coaching is more about questioning than it is using statements to develop the client and solve their problems to transform the client future path and behavior. The coach will ask the client while standing next them where they want to go and will not give the client direction on or tell the client what direction they should go in or how to get there. You will need a coach if you are trying to decide between a few different options as a coach will help to draw out the answer that you already have in your head but is disguised in other noise like facts and choices. You will need a coach it you are trying to figure out what to do next as the coach will help you map out your course and work through barriers and enablers in your journey. If you are getting frustrated in dealing with difficult people, then you will need a coach to help you identify and appreciate your own styles which will then help you to understand others better. The definition of coaching as per the Institute of Leadership and Management is "to develop an individual's performance by unlocking their capabilities through guided conversation and questioning." Coaching helps the people to find their own answers that distinguishes it from people giving advice through the use of statements. Coaches see and acknowledge that everyone is unique and that the best solution for you is not necessarily the best solution for me or another person. Coaching ultimately helps people to achieve the highest degrees of success. Coaching unleashes the power to a person’s potential. This is achieved when a coach helps you to un-muddle and de-clutter your thoughts into a rational strategic action plan. It also will give you inspiration, motivation, and self-confidence to move forward and put into action that plan. ..................................................................................................................................... Advice is telling someone to take an action or to do it a certain way consistent with the advice-giver’s map of the world. Advice is a paradigm, opinion, interpretation, assessment, standards and so on and so fort and it delivered through statements that tell the client what to do. With people that give advice it is generally my way or the highway, right or wrong and this advice is generally given to everyone. If we are in a new situation that we have never encountered before we may need advice or mentoring. If you need help sorting through extremely technical issues that need specific areas of knowledge, then it is best to seek advice from someone in that industry on how to solve it. Advice is more one person offer suggestions, hints, tips and pointers what to do and how to do it. With advice you ask people for their opinions and they give them to you, based on their experience and history on the topic.
05.01.2022 HI All here is a little article I wrote on facing your biggest fears head on. It is called: "Facing your fears head on with no regrets!" Face your fears head on!... I had the biggest fear of heights but I still bought myself this for my birthday and it was the most amazing experience of my life. I remember sitting in the plane at a ridiculous height thinking what am I doing here let me out. Im so frightened. The door opened and I was a lot more frightened. There were people to go out of the plane before me and they just wouldnt. So I got up enough courage and did it. I was so frightened with the first 3 seconds of free fall it wasnt funny but then when the para-shoot came out it was amazing. It was a life changing experience for me and one that helped me reassess my entire map of the world and who I thought I was. Im sitting here at the moment smiling while Im writing this. I guess what Im getting at is if you let fear rule your life you will miss out on some truly amazing moments and some will be life changing. So why not just push through the fear and get out there and do things even if you are afraid as the fear is all in our heads and if you dont push through the fear you will never truly actually know what you are really capable off. Happy Wednesday all. https://youtu.be/I_OjXnxlBOk
04.01.2022 "The yearning for meaning and purpose!" I used to sit and often wonder what if I could do this, what if I could do that, and what if this happened and what if that happened. It used to make me sad as fear would get in the way of me doing what it takes to get out there and live and speak my truth. Yes, I was trapped in life as my mind was not open to the possibilities that I could actually be who I wanted to be and do what I wanted to do or even have the things I wanted to ...Continue reading
04.01.2022 "Breaking out of the fear of being judged" When I was younger I was raised in a strictly religious family. I was a shy little girl and fitting in and belonging was all I wanted to do. I was always the outcast in that religion as I was the only female of my age in that branch of the church that was born in a particular year and all the other children In that religion were either older or younger than me and the children there constantly let me know I was an outcast and odd. ...Continue reading
04.01.2022 Article: "Life isnt always easy" Life is bumpy There are speed bumps... There are often holes in the road Life often can be like a roller coaster ride Live can be life a hurricane always spinning, lifting smashing and moving things out of its way to get to its destination Life has rivers to cross, mountains to climb and bridges to build until you have learnt what life is trying to teach you If you dont learn the lesson then you will be caught in that never ending hurricane cycle destined to repeat things over and over again and never knowing when you when you may get to of the hurricane. Life is a journey where you have peaks and valleys and need to navigate those the best way you know how to with the tools, techniques, strategies, plans, processes and procedures you have as there are no books to tell you how to live a perfect life and how to navigate the rocky terrain you encounter. Life is all trial and error, using your gut instinct and intuition the best way you can to overcome the traumas and fears you have. With a carefully thought out system and plan you can overcome the fears and traumas you have quicker because you are not doing it alone nor should you have to. Life can be full of blessing, beautiful and like a summers dream with the right people around you to support you and be there for you when you hit the bumps in the road.
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03.01.2022 Everything we do in life is a choice either on a conscious or on an unconscious level. Thats a fact!. Its not negative its life. If you say you cant what you really mean is you are making the choice not to do it and so you wont do it. You are never really going to find what you are truly capable of if you dont do the things youve never done before.... Yes it may be scary but after youve done it a couple of times it wont be scary anymore. Youll be a lot more confident, competent and that much closer to your true potential. Instead of saying you cant how about exploring the different options on how you can do things. It doesnt matter if its not perfect at least you have given it a go and can learn from it.
03.01.2022 "Women, society and relationships" Lets talk about women and dating and what young girls are brought up to believe and want due to being female. From a very young age girls are raised to believe and have drummed in to our heads that to be successful in life you have to get married and have children and that if we are to have a career that it is to be second priority to getting married. If you dont get married in your early 20s that there is something wrong with you. Wome...Continue reading
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03.01.2022 Can you please stop being so damn hard on yourselves? I hear this time and time again from people "It is silly to cry get upset and be angry" STOP RIGHT THERE Y...OU ARE SERIOUSLY WRONG! Actually, my dear it is not at all silly or stupid. It is called being human. Humans have emotions The best thing we can possible do is to let our bodies process the emotions by letting the emotions out. The reason our bodies need to process our emotions is so that we can heal. It is healthy to have emotions and to let them out. It is healthy to be emotional at times it is called showing you are human! We are going through tough times be gentile on yourselves What matters is how we process and deal with not only the good but also the bad and rocky times. You dont have to be that person who is totally and completely 100% together all of the time. It is not human to keep your emotions in and push them deep down inside of you. If you do this you will one day explode. YOU CAN CRY YOU CAN SCREAM YOU CAN SHOUT YOU CAN GET ANGRY YOU CAN THROW A TANTRUM YOU CAN BE WILD YOU CAN LOVE YOU CAN LAUGH YOU CAN BE SILLY YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE FRUSTRATED YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE HOWEVER YOU WANT TO BE YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SHOW YOUR EMOTIONS YOU ARE ALLOWED TO TALK ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS YOU ARE ALLOWED TO LOVE AND BE LOVED YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE INDIVIDUALLY IMPERFECT YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE MESSY YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE AFRAID YOU ARE ALLOWED TO ME HAPPY YOU ARE ALLOWED TO JUST BE YOU ARE ALLOWED OT GIVE YOURSELF TIME OUT YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE SELFISH Just do me a favour and ease up on yourselves. Yes even men can do all of the above. It is only society which is prehistoric on some of its views that need to change not you. YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU ARE LOVED THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU DO BELONG IN THIS WORLD! AND YOU MY DEAR ARE DEFINITELY ENOUGH! Just know that you are amazing the way you are! Yes even men can do all of the above. It is only society which is prehistoric on some of its views that need to change not you. YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU ARE LOVED THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU DO BELONG IN THIS WORLD! AND YOU MY DEAR ARE DEFINITELY ENOUGH! Just know that you are amazing the way you are!
02.01.2022 I have been branding my business for a while now. I drew my logo months ago and sent it the designer to get it done up but i am thinking it may not be doing an...ything at all. Here are a few questions for you on branding: If I did not have the logo I have would you all be still be following me and friends on social media or is it the logo that drew you to me? Does my logo even catch your attention or is it more to do with me and my posts (Facebook lives, articles and my iterations with you all) that prompted you to join my Facebook community? If it wasn't my logo what was it specifically that caught your attention and made you decide to be in my community?
02.01.2022 "My journey from people pleaser to living a life where I now live and speak my truth" Why is it so important to me to help people who think they are no one and have no voice find themselves and know that they have a voice. Well the reason for this is that when I was younger no one ever listened to me and every time I tried to speak up and say what I want and need to say I would get shot down bullied and told that I didnt know what I was talking about and that I was supposed ...Continue reading
02.01.2022 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7lziPqBEbw The struggles of a butterfly I love to coach people and help them break out of the encapsulated cocoon of society and how other people think they should be and in to a beautiful radiant butterfly who shows their true colours to the world and is free of the modern-day imprisonment of the judgemental people pleasing society where putting your best interests and needs first doesnt matter.... Our struggles are like this butterflys struggles if we are helped too much we will not learn grow and change. Often we need to learn the lessons for ourselves so that we can grow change and become stronger. This is why coaches only ask questions, never share op pinons or views in a session and never give our clients advice. Sharing advice and opinions can be dangerous to the clients learning and growth cycle and can often cause more harm than good. Watch this video and you will see just who dangerous giving advice and sharing opinions in sessions can be.
01.01.2022 "Modern day life and feeling lost" In this day and age, it is so easy to lose ourselves and what we are all about. I mean there are so many more things to do and see these days. There is the theater for live plays and musicals, movies to go and see a movie up on the big screen, there so many hobby clubs and training organization that you can join and do things in and meet new people. There is the big family life and work life where we are all constantly try to do things tha...Continue reading
